the Cancerboy returns?

so my Cancerboy left for Toronto (1000's of miles away from me) for a month for work & he's coming back this saturday. I haven't seen him in 2 months when he left me, and I kissed another guy after I thot we were done out of rebound I guess. Anyways, he thot I was a big cheater & I thought he had broken my heart. So now he's been calling me and wants me to pick him up at the airport this saturday.

OK, I don't have problem meeting people, & 2 months of no boy to me means & am single. I've been on several dates, nothing serious though. I didn't do much with anyone and still miss the CB so much. BUT, I can totally see him coming back & questioning me & other people. I want to be honest, but for real, he will not see it the way I do. I would never disrespect him or cheat if we were truly a relationship. I don't know what to do!! If I tell him he will leave & I will lose this man for good. He acts childish when it comes to this, but yet he leaves me with no answers for months. 😢 what do i do? be honest, deny, give up? It's not like I slept with anyone or anything. This totally sucks!

OK that was kinda confusing. NOt sure how to word it. CL, you know about my situation kinda, what do you think?

I gotta go home, I'll answer tomorrow but I say LIE and DENY!

Sometimes what we don't know won't hurt us!

haha, thanks CL! 🙂

Taurusgoddess...I'm 110% with Cancerlady on this..........
Your in charge of what and how much you want to tell CB or anybody for that matter.
And yes, we all know it's great to be honest.....honest in expressing feelings etc. e.g. I have missed you, I love you or whatever feelings are in your heart.........
But you/I/he/anybody doesn't have to be "brutally honest"! about our behaviour esp. with the opposite sex-if you get my drift!!
If he aks a "penetrating" question, phrases like - come on mister, my solicitor wouldn't ask me that question!!! or Oh, I've just been social butterflying! while you were absent with all my pals.....nothing major!!!!! Or it's been one long orgy of sex, drugs, rock and roll while you were away:-)!!!!!! Be evasive, evasive about your behaviour.......if he asks you right out did you date.....you quip back - hey, only as much as you did while you were away!!!! He'll be all flummoxed and keep him that way - but my advice is - no need for him to know everything and no right for him to ask it and no good for you to respond dirctly......airy fairy, airy fairy answers......

Hey, I hope you have one hell of a weekend and enjoy that reunion!!!!!

Go goddess go:-)

A x

Evasive with a cancer, huh oh...
He probably will know what's up, ESP, girl, ESP.

That's what I'm scared of. I think he knows things before he asks them. But at the same time he seems almost paranoid too. Well, I'm going with CL & Alana's advise. If it fails it does. Then you guys better be here when I come crying!! lol

Well, i will often ask questions when i know the answer, just to know if the person in front of me is a liar, so don't push it.
Good luck, we do like the taurus chicks.

Well I am a Cancer too and I know that sometimes I would rather NOT hear the truth and I think this is one of those times. Why rock the boat over a kiss? I mean you already know he will flip out over it and it's really nothing to flip out over.

Like Alana says...Be Evasive or avoid the truth. Change the subject...ANYTHING just don't tell him.

Alana...how are you anyway? You been incognito!
CL/CM2

Well, when he took off for 2 weeks the first time, (i hadn't done anything wrong to deserve that) I didn't know what to do so I had gotten away for a party weekend & ended up kissing someone(who i haven't talked to since). So when my cancerboy asked me if I'd been with anyone in any way I was honest. I almost regret it now, knowing all the hell it caused. BUT, he said he couldn't believe I was honest with him and said that was good. He said that, YET he ignored me for another month. Like I want to be honest but he is so selfish when he needs to get away. He ignores calls, dissappears, questions me. Then he freaks if I F'in KISS someone after all that BS.

So, I would like to try, but Mr. Crabby, can't you see why I want to just start from scratch, without explaing a bunch of useless(to me) information.

Well you're getting the "other side" from me, i guess. I know i live in the past a lot, and something will not just magically stop bothering me if it's not settled, i need to "know" for it to be finalized. It would be sad if you got together and something like that came back later and made him crabby again.
A kiss probably doesn't mean the same to him than it does to you.
If you do tell him the truth, you have to be rock solid and not try to finesse things to make him accept it.
I just couldn't tell you to be sneaky with a crab, i know for a fact it can't work with me. But he might be different, i hope that you can tell.

I agree it is not easy to be successfully evasive with a cancer. They are damn too intuitive for that. Their sensitivities run from surface level right to the depth of their heart and soul. Slightest ripple will nto go unnoticed. If he asks you the question directly, it shows he knows you are vulnearble. The only way would be to give an asca winnign pefomance in denying(being evasive). Or if you can see he wotn buy the performance..to tell him liek it is...because if you lie..it wont work in the long run anyway.

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asca winnign as oscar winning.

...brand new cute outfit, hair done-up, 1 long-stemmed rose in my hand, and he does not come off the plane. I call him, he says, i'm sorry baby, i'm not coming today. I hang up, I race home, i drink $ 50 bottle of red i picked up for us. I cry the whole way. After drinking away the sorrows, i go out with bestfriend, i dance, try to be happy, purse gets stolen. No wallet, no cell, no boyfriend. F'ing confused!!!

WOw, huh he really is a CANCERBOY, he playin head games almost on par with pisces,lol. Keep ur head up miss taurus. Do not let it eat u up.

Is that what a cancerboy will do? Headgames or just plain a-s-s-hole?!!!

"After drinking away the sorrows, i go out with bestfriend, i dance, try to be happy, purse gets stolen. No wallet, no cell, no boyfriend. F'ing confused!!!"

ROFL!

Haff!!! You're an A-hole!!! Ya, I guess it's time to start over. New wallet, new cell, new boy--- ahhhh F that part!!! lol

Damn, it's getting hard to stay positive. Not sure how to put closure on things.

It was funny to see how all the butter come together at once. Butter team work! LOL!

Okay. I will be quiet now.

Hi TaurusGoddess.....Just reading your episode or should I say non-epsiode! on Mr. Cancer - and then to lose your wallet and stuff at the end of the nite - what a shambles for you.
So sorry to hear the plan didn't go to plan and that you were so upset.
Certainly, he should of had the courtesy to ring you earlier to say he wasn't arriving that day.
But were you a tiny bit hasty to hang up immediately and not hear his explanation— Perhaps there was a very good reason - then again perhaps there wasn't— - just me a-wonderin'. Anyway, continue to keep us posted!!!

Now to answer my sweet Cancerlady Mama pal:-) Hoping you and those wonderful two cuties of yours are doing oh so well....with a mama like you....they are sure to be born both brainy and beutiful:-) - that's for sure......not too sure on how thins are with your pisces guy—— as I was away for three weeks hols and am only getting back into the swing of stuff here in the land of Duncan.
I am doing fine.....and funnily enough still with Mr. Virgo - 3 years and 4 months officially!!!!I think you might remember he had/has a major gambling addiction - it used drive me crazy all the money he would flit away in those silly casinos etc. Anyway, a few months ago he lost alot of money, got stroppy in the casino and ended up appearing in court!!! I think he got the fright of his life (he broke out in psoriasis in his head with the worry...(served him right!!!).....I accompanied him to the court and eventually he was fined.....since then no more gambling.....nobody can believe it but he seems determined.....I'm getting my daily "love you" phonecalls, am waited on hand and foot with fine food/wine etc. when I visit - get as much jiggy-jiggy as I can handle:-) - yes, he still criticizes, worries over his health, leaves the odd nasty voicemail if he thinks I am not ansering his phonecalls on purpose!!as if I would do that!!!:-) but overall it's all guns and roses:-) - oh my, things are going too well me fears.....I'll probably be crying tomoro!!!!!

A x

" do you have ANY ORIGINALITY in you at all??"

What do you mean?

Hey guys, Cancerboy just emailed me (can't call me cuz I lost my phone, right) and I maybe should have let him explain...

"Look i am very sorry, my plans for the flight got cancelled and i didnt even think to call and tell you cause i thought you would go until i called with all the flight info. Im sorry, i miss you more than you will ever know and the last thing i ever want to do is hurt you, You have to understand that i am working 80 hour weeks and at night so i dont even know my left from my right. Alot went wrong and it could be another week before i get back into your arms. All I ask is that you understand, nothing more, nothing less"

So I will still see what happens when he gets back. I told him he should think of me next time. We left it at that.

Hey, that was a so nice email to get wasn't it:-) TG:-)

It nearly brought a tear to my eye......and I'm not a weepy-woo person!!!

A x

Hey Sag, Ya I'm kinda wondering. I told him that a simple phone call was all it took. That he didn't even think of me. That's why I'm just going to have to wait & see what he's like when I see him face to face. Do Cancer guys cheat? I'm not sure what else to think. This is craziness.

Hey TG

Sorry I couldn't reply to these, but I was going to agree with Alana...to listen to the explanation...BUT it seems like he is telling the truth to me. Now you KNOW us Cancer's LOVE security so we do tend to be work-a-holics...I also believe him about the flight. The e-mail seemed to really express his feelings for you, so I hope you aren't going to give up on him! ALthough we do appreciate a bit of jealousy...don't nag him about it...UNLESS he has given you a reason NOT to trust him. We can also be sneaky & vindictive sometimes!

Cancerlady/CancerMamaDeuce

ALANA! You are back, and still the same sweet REAL person that you have always been. Glad to hear things are good with your Virgo. If you can get into their hearts (not easy though) they are very good to you usually. Thanks for the compliments.

The babies are GREAT! The doctor says they are growing perfectly and I as well as they are healthy. I posted the most recent ultrasound on the "Pictures of the Twins" cancer board if you wanna check it out. As far as Mr. Pisces...the latest )long story short) I asked him to come to the doctor with me to get the genetic testing done, He FREAKED out again...saying he never wanted anything to do with me & the babies, blah blah blah...Then I said I didn't call you for that...I just want my children to be as healthy as possible, but I definitely got your message.

He calls back that night saying he just can't let me go, he is so confused because he is being pulled in two directions (One wants to be with us, other wants to have total freedom) which I totally believe cause he is CRAZY. ANYWAY...I told him he was screwing with my head & that I can't have him with this back & forth crap. I said I can respect your decision either way, but pretending it doesn't exist isn't going to make them go away. But if he decides to have nothing to do with the babies, I am going to make him sign away ALL parental rights so he can't show up ten years later wanting to be SuperDad...Otherwise child support here we come! I haven't heard from him since then (Wed last week) but I am not pressed. I think I am starting to get over him. What he don't know is, when I am done...I am DONE & there is NO turning back.

Thank God every night if you have a good man ladies...even with their faults a man who holds you up is a precious thing to be cherished.

CL/CM2

TG

Perhaps he was a bit preoccupied? Cancer men do cheat, but not usually when they care deeply about you...

My sister had her twins by the way...I am going to post the picture in a minute. They are DARLING!!!!

Hey CL! Cuuuuuuuuuuute pic!!! Wow, congrats on being an auntie! My sis-in-law is trying to get pregnant. I can't wait to be an aunt again.

Ya, I will hope he really is sincere. I have been willing to take the chance of being heart-broken with this guy, so I might as well try to the end.

Thanks for the update cancerlady esp. on Pisces guy - I can't believe he's just so du-lally!!!! at the moment in his behaviour - we are talking about extreme immaturity here, he's not playing just with your heart, he's playing with three beautiful lives (and messing up his own in the process by the looks of things!!!) - you deserve better, remember you are second to nobody. I'm so glad that you are so strong and most of the time able to be so happy and positive and enthusiastic about life, love and babes:-)

P.S. had a look at your sister's babes......they are so delicious I could almost eat them:-)

Take care my beauty.

A x

Alana, that was ALMOST a scary comment! lol

Cannibalism, taurusgoddess, runs in the family.......:-)!!!

OK I over-exaggerate........but I'm a fantastic body licker:-)

A x

LOL, Well you can't! However tempting it may be...

hmmm...that went from savage to sexy. grrrrrr 😉

Actually if he's talking about the babies...That's kinda sick!

haha yes I think he was thinking of Alana. lol BTW, BIG Q: do you think M Jackson was guilty? I'm his #1 fan, so, haha, lets hear your comments.

I think he is just because this isn't the first time it has happened...AND he admitted to sleeping with children. But I blame the parents more. If my children came home & told me some grown man wanted them to sleep in his bed, I definitely wouldn't have let them return to his house, MJ or not!

BUT I am a huge fan of his music so I hope that it isn't true and since our great legal system found him innocent...

sooooo Cancerboy is back tommorow. eeeeek, I'm nervous, he's coming by for dinner. Wish me luck!

How are you guys doing? Miss the cancer stories.