tips on showing appreciation to a Cancer

My CancerDude gets in his bouts where he says I don't show my appreciation for him and what not. I know part of this is just typical part of his down on himself moody swing. But I know we also think and show our emotions very differently.

Short of him telling me specific things that would make my acknowledgment of all he does for me super clear and shining, what would you guys suggest as Cancer folk? What works for you?

Cooking him food, go for walks, spend some quality time because we are very sensitive and emotional people we value emotional security above all...lots of tender loving care for your cancerian, perhaps check up on him during the day or wish him to have a good day, little sweet and thoughtful gestures such as goes a long way for us...we give 100 times more emotional security in return if we get it consistently

^^This.

I would add - occasionally, you might want to tell him the what and why the things he does makes you (happy, appreciative, etc.). Be honest.
Proviso - if you constantly tell him you like him in generalities, and often, that can start to ring a little hollow and he might start to question your sincerity. Say it, mean it, and emphasize it.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
^^This.

I would add - occasionally, you might want to tell him the what and why the things he does makes you (happy, appreciative, etc.). Be honest.
Proviso - if you constantly tell him you like him in generalities, and often, that can start to ring a little hollow and he might start to question your sincerity. Say it, mean it, and emphasize it.

Meant for Infinite8's post

I came in here to say basically what Infinte8 already said.

You're taking him for granted flat out.
I'm not here for you to tell me all that you actually do to show your affection but when it comes from a Cancer that's exactly what it means. I can't advise anything to you but I noticed all the passion Taurus has tend to come out when the guy they're with drifts away from her.
I would suggest him pulling back and maybe you would miraculously get the hint on know what to do and light a fire under you.

That "we show our emotions differently (& what have you)...." is just a cop out you're being lazy rn.

"I would suggest him pulling back and maybe you would miraculously get the hint on know what to do and light a fire under you."

While I respect your criticism, I have to politely disagree about me taking him for granted and being lazy. If those gtoss generalizations were remotely true (in this particular case), I wouldn't be here looking to get a general understanding of what to do better.

And all your comment above tells me is WHEN to do so, which I already get. I am looking for suggestions as to the WHAT. Because what works for me as a Taurus won't work for him, and being the kind, generous, selfless person he is, when he is happy and well, he will tell me everything is great. I want to alleviate the times where he feels I'm not by making sure I show appreciation in every way possible, perhaps in ways that don't naturally come to me. Or maybe him feeling that way is inevitable! I'll still give my all to reassure him anyway.

Thanks to everyone for the advice so far!

Posted by CluelessCancer
BJs

LOL... Leave it to cancer girl to say that... you just brought back a funny memory!

phEnyxBull876

I think you're too offended by what I said to take it in....
"And all your comment above tells me is WHEN to do so"
Because I'm not even saying that.

I didn't say those words to you, I'm telling you what it means.

Quality time is important
Say thank you after he goes out of his way to do something
Physical intimate affection - hugs, hold hands, gaze into his eyes, a kiss, as long as it's genuine.
Most of the time appreciation is just acknowledgement or even doing something simple for him he needs done that without being asked, etc. Just my own view as a Cancer woman.

Posted by CluelessCancer
BJs

BJs and flowers?