To Get My Cancer BACK! I LOVE HIME

So i meet my cancer male age 23 2 years ago on cruise ships. Im Libra 25 female.He is from scotland i am from New Zealand. We both worked on the same ship and had a lot of the same friends. Everyone loved us we loved us. He swept me away by taking me to paris for a week. and driving me north of scotland and then he asked me to be his g/f and if i would come back to the same ship as were were on as i was looking at going on another ship. so i did. So for the first year we lived on ship. I decided to leave ships to work on land he was going to change to off shore work. He came home to meet my family and explore nz then went back on ship i worked at home then flew to see him in scotland everything was wonderful we communicated and everything. so the plan was before i meet him was going to move to the uk and get a 2 year visa. so he came out to see me in australia as i was working there one last time before I moved to the uk with him to live in his house that he is building. Was in australia for 2 months i was working while he was here. he didn't really enjoy the heat so was pretty hard with us and we started to fight quite a bit. he then decided to fly home a week early as i was working he wanted to get home and sort his finances out for the house before getting back on ship as we would not see each other for 6 months the longest we have gone. as i was moving out to live with him. so was pretty gutted he wanted to go a week early but i delt with it. but me being libra i wanted to be reassured about things and brought up me not wanting babies in uk and eventually want to go back to new zealand as he did mention when we were in new zeland he could live there. so he was shocked and a lot of things was brought up and we were fighting about it. so he left promised he wouldn't not message and break up with me when he got home. he had great communication when he got home but slowly was being distant as his dad has not been very good either. So then he has just broke up with me on the 30th of dec. I was destrote as we both said its all going to change when i move to scotland for the good. he broke up with me over fb and said Well i`ve been thinking over the past few days since you`ve kinda made me start to think with the whole situation in Australia and afterwards. Should we actually do this. Starting to think maybe we (or just me) are a bit too young for this much seriousness. With the talks of kids etc in Australia and you saying about not ever having them in the

UK, as well as eventually wanting to go back to NZ at some point is probably not what I want. I dont see myself moving away, and as you said we would have to both be happy. Plus I mean NZ will probably still be too hot for me a lot of the time and I wouldn`t be able to stand that. So as you said maybe I just need to be on my own for a bit.I still do have feelings for you and we have fun together but if one or both of us is looking like we are gonna be unhappy and we just argue all the time then why continue.
I didnt expect this to happen but I mean even without the argueing in Australia something else wasn`t right with us.I called him straight after he sent that.
I was destrote and Love him very much i don't no why i was so needy . he sounded pretty up set on the phone. I messaged him striaht after the phone call saying lets for get the seriousness and just have fun to gether again. no answer. so then on the 1st I sent another messaged saying i love him and i want him to me happy. I havnt called or anything. i have been reading a lot on cancer males and they need there space. but what do i do i love him my family loves him. I love his family this is crazy what have i done HELP ME!!!

p.s and i would totally be happy settling down in the uk i don't no why i said those things so strongly to him i guess i wanted to no were i stand but I love him

he also we are still in a relationship on fb he hasn't changed that yet either i want to know if i still have a chance??_.

He got in contact with my sister b/f who i live with and asked how i was! thats a start right??

its over, theres nothing further that can be done

Why did he contact my sisters bf then

hahahahaaaaaaa xD

I want to help you but your post is just a wall of text with no order. I can't read that. Sorry. 😢

So i meet my cancer male age 23 2 years ago on cruise ships. Im Libra 25 female.He is from scotland i am from New Zealand. We both worked on the same ship and had a lot of the same friends. Everyone loved us we loved us. He swept me away by taking me to paris for a week. driving me north of scotland and then he asked me to be his g/f and if i would come back to the same ship as were were on as i was looking at going on another ship.

So i did. For the first year we lived on ship. I decided to leave ships to work on land he was going to change to off shore work. He came home to meet my family and explore nz then went back on ship. I worked at home then flew to see him in scotland everything was wonderful we communicated and everything while we were apart.

The plan was before I met him, was going to move to the uk and get a 2 year visa. He came out to see me in australia as I was working there one last time before I moved to the uk with him to live in his house that he is building. Was in australia for 2 months i was working while he was here. he didn't really enjoy the heat so was pretty hard with us and we started to fight quite a bit.

He then decided to fly home a week early as I was working he wanted to get home and sort his finances out for the house before getting back on ship as we would not see each other for 6 months the longest we have gone. as i was moving out to live with him. Was pretty gutted he wanted to go a week early but i delt with it.

but me being libra i wanted to be reassured about things and brought up me not wanting babies in uk and eventually want to go back to new zealand as he did mention when we were in new zeland he could live there. so he was shocked and a lot of things was brought up and we were fighting about it. He left promised me he would not message and break up with me when he got home. he had great communication when he got home but slowly was being distant as his dad has not been very good either.

He has just broke up with me on the 30th of dec. I was destrote as we both said its all going to change when i move to scotland for the good. he broke up with me over fb and said Well i`ve been thinking over the past few days since you`ve kinda made me start to think with the whole situation in Australia and afterwards. Should we actually do this. Starting to think maybe we (or just me) are a bit too young for this much seriousness.

With the talks of kids etc in Australia and you saying about not ever having them in the UK, as well as eventually wanting to go back to NZ at some point is probably not what I want. I dont see myself moving away, and as you said we would have to both be happy. Plus I mean NZ will probably still be too hot for me a lot of the time and I wouldn`t be able to stand that. So as you said maybe I just need to be on my own for a bit.I still do have feelings for you and we have fun together but if one or both of us is looking like we are gonna be unhappy and we just argue all the time then why continue.

I didnt expect this to happen but I mean even without the argueing in Australia something else wasn`t right with us.

I called him straight after he sent that. I was destrote and Love him very much i don't no why i was so needy . he sounded pretty up set on the phone. I messaged him striaht after the phone call saying lets for get the seriousness and just have fun to gether again. no answer. so then on the 1st I sent another messaged saying i love him and i want him to me happy. I havnt called or anything. i have been reading a lot on cancer males and they need there space. but what do i do i love him my family loves him. I love his family this is crazy what have i done HELP ME!!!

So I sent a message of the temp here in perth to show him I'm not bitter about the whole thing so we message back in forth about weather and him selling his car he asked how my flat was doing etc and left it at that. a few days later he has asked me if I'm going to a mutual friend wedding in the Uk in August which we have both been invited to so I replied as I'm am still going over the to uk as i planned before we meet. so we had another siverlised conversation. I am not going to start any more conversations unless he does but him contacting me and contacting my flat mate to see if I'm ok is that a good sign he just needs time??

help me?

that's alot to take in but ummmm, from a cancer/horse point of view he wants his house in order first. Did you have sex with him yet?he has alot on his mind and need some comfort and security before he settles. Talking alone aint going to cut it.

yes we have had sex lots! We have been together for two years.you think he still loves me i Had a physic reading done twice by two different ladies from good referrals and they both said I'm going to marry him he just needs some time to find him self on his own. So maybe you are right we have so much history together