Angel81
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Tryin to moveon BUT something wrong wit cancer guy
Angel:
I have lost count as to how many damn times my Cancerian man lost his cell phone, and my number along with it, et cetera...
Trust, however, I refuse to be the pursuer in this relationship. Should he want me, he is the one who is going to initiate - period. I don't do the role reversal thing.
Here is the dilemma: In general, it seems, people are not able to be honest, for one reason or another, and this guy you speak of, sounds as though he is not providing a definitive answer so that he may resurface if necessary.
Xo.
I have lost count as to how many damn times my Cancerian man lost his cell phone, and my number along with it, et cetera...
Trust, however, I refuse to be the pursuer in this relationship. Should he want me, he is the one who is going to initiate - period. I don't do the role reversal thing.
Here is the dilemma: In general, it seems, people are not able to be honest, for one reason or another, and this guy you speak of, sounds as though he is not providing a definitive answer so that he may resurface if necessary.
Xo.
Wishbear,
I know that he isn't honest with me and he is a big liar but why is he staying and keeping telling me that he loves me ?? though he isn't getting any advantages from me because each one of us lives in another country !!!! so whats the use of staying with me — is it just to feel hes wanted or what ??
I am living my life without him already because he is not even close to me to be in contact with. I'm sure he is fooling around here and their 😢
I'm also the one that doesn't like to initiate the relationship, he must do the whole steps not me, and if he really loves me he should be the one who tries harder "which I'm not seeing any of his actions" , but guys every time I try to leave him, I see my self contacting him or sending him messages, I just want to end the whole thing but not this way.
I know something for sure about cancer guys; if you don't keep track on them and be clingy they will forget you and find another one that will be.
Cancer guys like women who are supportive and stay with them in good and bad even if he doesn't stay in contact with you, this guy I know is having bad conditions in his life which I'm sure of, he is JOBLESS ! I have read that if cancers don't feel stable in their life they can't settle down and commit to any women , is that true ??
We have a quote in our language I tried to translate in to English " walk with the liar till his door steps " and see what happens , this is what I'm doing now.
I know that he isn't honest with me and he is a big liar but why is he staying and keeping telling me that he loves me ?? though he isn't getting any advantages from me because each one of us lives in another country !!!! so whats the use of staying with me — is it just to feel hes wanted or what ??
I am living my life without him already because he is not even close to me to be in contact with. I'm sure he is fooling around here and their 😢
I'm also the one that doesn't like to initiate the relationship, he must do the whole steps not me, and if he really loves me he should be the one who tries harder "which I'm not seeing any of his actions" , but guys every time I try to leave him, I see my self contacting him or sending him messages, I just want to end the whole thing but not this way.
I know something for sure about cancer guys; if you don't keep track on them and be clingy they will forget you and find another one that will be.
Cancer guys like women who are supportive and stay with them in good and bad even if he doesn't stay in contact with you, this guy I know is having bad conditions in his life which I'm sure of, he is JOBLESS ! I have read that if cancers don't feel stable in their life they can't settle down and commit to any women , is that true ??
We have a quote in our language I tried to translate in to English " walk with the liar till his door steps " and see what happens , this is what I'm doing now.
Daball_isDashit,
What do you think I must do ?? I'm living my life already, but I don't want things to end in this way.
Should I confront him ? or should I wait till I get to his door steps ? the idea of moving on without knowing why he is doing that is killing me !!
we used to be in a relationship a year ago he truly loved me and it was soooo obvious from his actions but I left him because I wasn't able to stay in a long distance relationship not seeing even once !!! do U think he is trying to pay back what i have done ?? though I told him the truth of not able to stay together because of this fact and he didn't comment about it nor he tried to take me back.
What do you think I must do ?? I'm living my life already, but I don't want things to end in this way.
Should I confront him ? or should I wait till I get to his door steps ? the idea of moving on without knowing why he is doing that is killing me !!
we used to be in a relationship a year ago he truly loved me and it was soooo obvious from his actions but I left him because I wasn't able to stay in a long distance relationship not seeing even once !!! do U think he is trying to pay back what i have done ?? though I told him the truth of not able to stay together because of this fact and he didn't comment about it nor he tried to take me back.
Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
angel,
this guy clearly doesn't love you, mere words are not enough to tell that a person really loves you, they must be able to back it up with actions. any sane cancer man will not make his beloved feel like the way this cancer is making you feel. he is in and out with you and if he really loved you he would stay put instead of manipulating you everytime. wake up and smell the coffee, he does not love you, he is a player and loves to play with womens emotions, he probably gets kicks out of it- knowing all your weaknesses and using that to his advantage. stop falling for his words, if he loved you and wanted to be with you he would make it happen and you would not be feeling the way you are feeling right now.
I agree!
Guys,
How should I act with him ————?? I want him to feel sorry for losing me ! I want him to feel guilty of this .
I am a good heart girl but I don't want him to use me anymore, but in the same way I don't want to act cruel with him to make him think I'm a devil lol
How should I act with him ————?? I want him to feel sorry for losing me ! I want him to feel guilty of this .
I am a good heart girl but I don't want him to use me anymore, but in the same way I don't want to act cruel with him to make him think I'm a devil lol
Posted by Angel81
Wishbear,
I know that he isn't honest with me and he is a big liar but why is he staying and keeping telling me that he loves me ?? though he isn't getting any advantages from me because each one of us lives in another country !!!! so whats the use of staying with me — is it just to feel hes wanted or what ??
I am living my life without him already because he is not even close to me to be in contact with. I'm sure he is fooling around here and their 😢
I'm also the one that doesn't like to initiate the relationship, he must do the whole steps not me, and if he really loves me he should be the one who tries harder "which I'm not seeing any of his actions" , but guys every time I try to leave him, I see my self contacting him or sending him messages, I just want to end the whole thing but not this way.
I know something for sure about cancer guys; if you don't keep track on them and be clingy they will forget you and find another one that will be.
Cancer guys like women who are supportive and stay with them in good and bad even if he doesn't stay in contact with you, this guy I know is having bad conditions in his life which I'm sure of, he is JOBLESS ! I have read that if cancers don't feel stable in their life they can't settle down and commit to any women , is that true ??
We have a quote in our language I tried to translate in to English " walk with the liar till his door steps " and see what happens , this is what I'm doing now.
from what i gather he is not staying. ur keeping him there. let it go, woman.
Thanks guys for the comments, I didn't call him since last week and he didn't bother to ask. So here I am moving on in my life.
Apparently he's not worth to think about not even a minute.
Love is about mutual emotions expressed towards each other not one struggling and the other doesn't give a shit !!!
Apparently he's not worth to think about not even a minute.
Love is about mutual emotions expressed towards each other not one struggling and the other doesn't give a shit !!!
I'm glad you move on.
Angel:
Good luck to your Cancerian and all the rest of them, may they go lie and cheat elsewhere!!!
I would advise not to contact him - period. Make him work for your love. 🙂
What is your ethnic makeup?
I hope your day is going well. When all else fails, we have ourselves, in the final analysis.
Good luck to your Cancerian and all the rest of them, may they go lie and cheat elsewhere!!!
I would advise not to contact him - period. Make him work for your love. 🙂
What is your ethnic makeup?
I hope your day is going well. When all else fails, we have ourselves, in the final analysis.
Wishbear,
I want to thank you for your supportive words they really make me feel relieved. In fact, this is what I'm doing now , I'm trying not to count days missing him coz I have to live with the fact that he's not coming back, which I'm totally sure of !!!!!
Can you imagine that he has daily activities on facebook and I haven't been in contact with him more than two weeks nor I have opened my fb account which I found several comments from my friends on my fb wall asking where am I and why I'm not showing. He is the only one that doesn't give a damn !!!
Let me tell you something that made me go nuts, but somehow I managed to stay calm and buy it I don't know why LOL ; when I told him about my bday he said that something wrong is with his fb profile that he can't see others activities and status and he couldn't know when was my bday !!!!! funny lie huh
Wishbear, I didn't follow what you meant by "What is your ethnic makeup? " —? can you explain more ??
And tell me what about your case —? is he acting the same ?? are all cancer guys like that ?? I know that when they are in love they get gluey hehehe in our case its vise verse lol
I want to thank you for your supportive words they really make me feel relieved. In fact, this is what I'm doing now , I'm trying not to count days missing him coz I have to live with the fact that he's not coming back, which I'm totally sure of !!!!!
Can you imagine that he has daily activities on facebook and I haven't been in contact with him more than two weeks nor I have opened my fb account which I found several comments from my friends on my fb wall asking where am I and why I'm not showing. He is the only one that doesn't give a damn !!!
Let me tell you something that made me go nuts, but somehow I managed to stay calm and buy it I don't know why LOL ; when I told him about my bday he said that something wrong is with his fb profile that he can't see others activities and status and he couldn't know when was my bday !!!!! funny lie huh
Wishbear, I didn't follow what you meant by "What is your ethnic makeup? " —? can you explain more ??
And tell me what about your case —? is he acting the same ?? are all cancer guys like that ?? I know that when they are in love they get gluey hehehe in our case its vise verse lol
Angel:
I have heard it said, that when a Cancerian male is in love, he may get very clingy. —
Mine keeps complaining that I am difficult and cold, and do not need anybody, then tells me he thinks of me before going to sleep, and disappears only to resurface, as though nothing happened and if it has, I am at fault.
He is now ignoring me because I turned him away after not seeing one another for a while. In my heart, I always want to be with him, but my defenses keep me from falling...
Where are you from? What country?
I have heard it said, that when a Cancerian male is in love, he may get very clingy. —
Mine keeps complaining that I am difficult and cold, and do not need anybody, then tells me he thinks of me before going to sleep, and disappears only to resurface, as though nothing happened and if it has, I am at fault.
He is now ignoring me because I turned him away after not seeing one another for a while. In my heart, I always want to be with him, but my defenses keep me from falling...
Where are you from? What country?
Wishbear,
In my experience with the cancer guy that I know or "knew !!" is a lot, they always you to initiate with everything but that comes when they try to hook you up,
this was what happened with me, let me tell you some of my story with him coz I still blame myself of loosing him sometimes; we met on fb and actually he was the one who kept sending me emails and asking about me then he wanted my personal email so we could talk more and get to know each other more. So we kept every single night talking talking talking more than 3 to 5 hours at night on the messenger because he lived in another country, until someday he told me that he loved me and he wants to know where I live and that he will propose when he comes back.
In the first place I really liked him but when he got very clingy I tried to pull my self out of the whole relationship so I kept telling him that I can't stay like this and not meeting each other and not knowing you in real life. I think after several times he accepted this fact without any questions from him. I didn't hear from him for more than 5 months then I sent him a message on fb asking how he doing and why has he disappeared. He answered that he came back !!!!!!!!! he gave me his phone no. and I called him after several days wow I couldn't imagine that I might see him some day !!
Anyways, i met him 3 times only then I tried to get him back in my life, this is where the problem started with me, never calling, never asking, never caring, and he also told me that his heart is not ready for love and whatever, then he got out of the country again for good this time with no coming back and my problems kept going bigger. now he NEVER asks, not even on my BIRTHDAY imagine that !!
anyway, this is were my decision of not contacting him again ever !! I think Its to much what I have done, and I never done it before with anyone and he knows i haven't been in any previous relationships.
We need two claps to hand not one, so I'm moving on though I have something that is hurting me inside but every time I'm trying to remember what I have done and he hasn't done back, this is whats helping me to move on.
As for your question, I'm from Baghdad- Iraq, I'm sure you heard about that country, who doesn't lol
tell me more about you, I might probably help you in someway like I had a successful relationship 😄
It seems that you want to be with him but you have some reservations of not. Cancer guys love women who be on their com
In my experience with the cancer guy that I know or "knew !!" is a lot, they always you to initiate with everything but that comes when they try to hook you up,
this was what happened with me, let me tell you some of my story with him coz I still blame myself of loosing him sometimes; we met on fb and actually he was the one who kept sending me emails and asking about me then he wanted my personal email so we could talk more and get to know each other more. So we kept every single night talking talking talking more than 3 to 5 hours at night on the messenger because he lived in another country, until someday he told me that he loved me and he wants to know where I live and that he will propose when he comes back.
In the first place I really liked him but when he got very clingy I tried to pull my self out of the whole relationship so I kept telling him that I can't stay like this and not meeting each other and not knowing you in real life. I think after several times he accepted this fact without any questions from him. I didn't hear from him for more than 5 months then I sent him a message on fb asking how he doing and why has he disappeared. He answered that he came back !!!!!!!!! he gave me his phone no. and I called him after several days wow I couldn't imagine that I might see him some day !!
Anyways, i met him 3 times only then I tried to get him back in my life, this is where the problem started with me, never calling, never asking, never caring, and he also told me that his heart is not ready for love and whatever, then he got out of the country again for good this time with no coming back and my problems kept going bigger. now he NEVER asks, not even on my BIRTHDAY imagine that !!
anyway, this is were my decision of not contacting him again ever !! I think Its to much what I have done, and I never done it before with anyone and he knows i haven't been in any previous relationships.
We need two claps to hand not one, so I'm moving on though I have something that is hurting me inside but every time I'm trying to remember what I have done and he hasn't done back, this is whats helping me to move on.
As for your question, I'm from Baghdad- Iraq, I'm sure you heard about that country, who doesn't lol
tell me more about you, I might probably help you in someway like I had a successful relationship 😄
It seems that you want to be with him but you have some reservations of not. Cancer guys love women who be on their com
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be by their command , in your case, a cancer guy also is passionate and thinks by emotions and heart, may be your cold with him by words ?? and don't express your self to him and tell him that you love him. you should have tried that.
be by their command , in your case, a cancer guy also is passionate and thinks by emotions and heart, may be your cold with him by words ?? and don't express your self to him and tell him that you love him. you should have tried that.
I asked where you are from because I knew the answer was going to be somewhere in the Middle East. 🙂 I am a mix of everything good in life. My mother' family is from the North of Africa originally.
Did you give yourself to this man on the most intimate level— Are you feeling regretful? 😢
Live and learn, no?
Did you give yourself to this man on the most intimate level— Are you feeling regretful? 😢
Live and learn, no?
LOL How did you know ?? I'm curious ??
and to answer you I'm not regretful for any thing because I NEVER EVER gave my self to him not even a kiss 🙂 I keep my self to whom deserve it in marriage. But I'm only regretful sometimes that I'm the one who lost him in the first place when he truly loved me.
By the way, cancer guys love traditions so much !!
I'm living and learning for sure.
and to answer you I'm not regretful for any thing because I NEVER EVER gave my self to him not even a kiss 🙂 I keep my self to whom deserve it in marriage. But I'm only regretful sometimes that I'm the one who lost him in the first place when he truly loved me.
By the way, cancer guys love traditions so much !!
I'm living and learning for sure.
Something new just popped up, the cancer guy sent me a message on fb saying that he loves me and misses me so much, he also added few comments on my old posts one on them was on the application " date of the day" expressing it in a way showing that he is "suppose" to be jealous lol bi deal.
I'm telling you guys this guy is crazy, totally nuts.. hes absent for 2 weeks and suddenly he sends me a message on fb that he loves me and misses me , what the heck !!!!!!!!
I didn't answer him yet, and I'm thinking of not answering him, any ideas ————
I'm telling you guys this guy is crazy, totally nuts.. hes absent for 2 weeks and suddenly he sends me a message on fb that he loves me and misses me , what the heck !!!!!!!!
I didn't answer him yet, and I'm thinking of not answering him, any ideas ————
Angel81.... for goodness sake do not answer him... see him as a passing tornado...... I you answer... he knows he has you.... which is what he is looking for...and you won't be his princess.
Let him time to stew... Take Krobe03 advise on my post...and wait him out.... If and when he tries to contact you 25 times in less than 2 hours.... you will have better success..with this guy.
As Krobe03 stated... he is looking to be fed... than he will take off onto some other planet.... Let him beg..for your attention.... but give him crumbs..only crumbs.... I surely would not give myself to such a man...just because he begs... he want sex..you want to get married..... Once he gives you what you want...you will give him what he wants... not a minute sooner.
Carry on with your life..as he does not matter... To get sex... he can pick up any bimbo at some bar... or get a hooker... non of which we should be.... He really wants a real women that has morals and standards.... So that they can truly trust... for a long term thingy... Don't fall into his trap so to speak... Take it slow... and behave like a women who doesn't need a man in her life... Don't lower yourself...just to be with him or any man for that matter.
If he really loves you...he needs to prove it with action... Right Krobe03—?? It's his move to make you believe.. or he will be off to some other great gal..with a skirt... that make him feel special at the moment.
Let him time to stew... Take Krobe03 advise on my post...and wait him out.... If and when he tries to contact you 25 times in less than 2 hours.... you will have better success..with this guy.
As Krobe03 stated... he is looking to be fed... than he will take off onto some other planet.... Let him beg..for your attention.... but give him crumbs..only crumbs.... I surely would not give myself to such a man...just because he begs... he want sex..you want to get married..... Once he gives you what you want...you will give him what he wants... not a minute sooner.
Carry on with your life..as he does not matter... To get sex... he can pick up any bimbo at some bar... or get a hooker... non of which we should be.... He really wants a real women that has morals and standards.... So that they can truly trust... for a long term thingy... Don't fall into his trap so to speak... Take it slow... and behave like a women who doesn't need a man in her life... Don't lower yourself...just to be with him or any man for that matter.
If he really loves you...he needs to prove it with action... Right Krobe03—?? It's his move to make you believe.. or he will be off to some other great gal..with a skirt... that make him feel special at the moment.
Catin,
I know that he is waiting for my answer which he is deadly sure I will answer him, but enough is enough for me. I'm not even thinking of replying. In fact, I'm disappearing a week or two from fb so to test him and see if he really cares, even if he sends me a message on my cell phone I won't reply. I just want to make him taste what he had done to me of several days of not replying and weeks of not knowing anything about him.
As for the sex matter, I have to disagree with you because he lives in another country and is not going back, neither I'm going to see him, and even in the time that he was near me he couldn't dare to come close to me though he wanted it so much .
Do you think he will call me 25 times in two hours !!!!!! duhhhhhh then that will be an imposable dream come true LOL
I know that he is waiting for my answer which he is deadly sure I will answer him, but enough is enough for me. I'm not even thinking of replying. In fact, I'm disappearing a week or two from fb so to test him and see if he really cares, even if he sends me a message on my cell phone I won't reply. I just want to make him taste what he had done to me of several days of not replying and weeks of not knowing anything about him.
As for the sex matter, I have to disagree with you because he lives in another country and is not going back, neither I'm going to see him, and even in the time that he was near me he couldn't dare to come close to me though he wanted it so much .
Do you think he will call me 25 times in two hours !!!!!! duhhhhhh then that will be an imposable dream come true LOL
Angel:
How did I know you are from the Middle East? Well, when translated, the Arabic language sounds very poetic. 😉
Now, as to your situation with this Cancerian boy... What is the point in rehashing matters? He resides in another country, correct? How would a long-distance relationship work?
How did I know you are from the Middle East? Well, when translated, the Arabic language sounds very poetic. 😉
Now, as to your situation with this Cancerian boy... What is the point in rehashing matters? He resides in another country, correct? How would a long-distance relationship work?
Wishbear,
I know that long distance relationships rarely works that is if NEVER !! and that is why i left him in the first place but when he came back to visit his parents i was surprised coz i only sent him a message by coincidence and that is how i knew he was here .. i tried to give it another chance but he left again coz he couldn't live here anymore .....
anyways, now i haven't talked to him more than a month and i posted the reasons on a the board with the name : "its to be or not to be with him that is the Q. "
things came up today .. i haven't contacted him the past few weeks though he send me a message on fb but i didn't reply.. today he sent me a message on my cell phone saying " where are you, why are u absent and whats going on and that he misses me so much more than i can imagine "" still i didn't reply ... I am trying to move on but why is he acting like that if he doesn't want me ——————
I know that long distance relationships rarely works that is if NEVER !! and that is why i left him in the first place but when he came back to visit his parents i was surprised coz i only sent him a message by coincidence and that is how i knew he was here .. i tried to give it another chance but he left again coz he couldn't live here anymore .....
anyways, now i haven't talked to him more than a month and i posted the reasons on a the board with the name : "its to be or not to be with him that is the Q. "
things came up today .. i haven't contacted him the past few weeks though he send me a message on fb but i didn't reply.. today he sent me a message on my cell phone saying " where are you, why are u absent and whats going on and that he misses me so much more than i can imagine "" still i didn't reply ... I am trying to move on but why is he acting like that if he doesn't want me ——————
I am trying to move on but why is he acting like that if he doesn't want me ——————
Because he can. LOL! It is not funny but he can act like that because you have allowed it to happen before at some point. This is your pattern with him. Talk and no talk. Talk again, take a break, talk again later. He is acting like this because he wants to keep you on a string. Just stringing you along for the ride. He doesn't want to lose you but he doesn't want to be with you when he captures your heart either. A typical Cancerian man trait. You have to just tell him, you are not going to continue to give your heart away to a man who is uncertain about you. If he wants you, he is going to have to be consistent with his actions and SHOW you that he wants you in his life. Still be mysterious and alluring after that because once he catches you, he will be out again.
Have you ever heard of unavailabe? Just be slightly out of reach at all times.
Because he can. LOL! It is not funny but he can act like that because you have allowed it to happen before at some point. This is your pattern with him. Talk and no talk. Talk again, take a break, talk again later. He is acting like this because he wants to keep you on a string. Just stringing you along for the ride. He doesn't want to lose you but he doesn't want to be with you when he captures your heart either. A typical Cancerian man trait. You have to just tell him, you are not going to continue to give your heart away to a man who is uncertain about you. If he wants you, he is going to have to be consistent with his actions and SHOW you that he wants you in his life. Still be mysterious and alluring after that because once he catches you, he will be out again.
Have you ever heard of unavailabe? Just be slightly out of reach at all times.
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