Urgent help by 11.pm tonight about a cancer man.

I've been involved with a male cancer for 3 months. Stuff happened last year that I was involved in
that left a big mess of a 3 woman triangle with me included in that , all wanting to be with this guy.
I said my good byes after countlessly not answering or returning his calls after he betrayed my trust. Adn finally had to tell him point
blank on several occasions it's over. We didn't speak for 6 months. 6 months ago, he pops back up in my life begging to talk to me to get closure.
I grant it. I found myself in his spider web again. After him breaking me down for 2 months, I finally decided to give him another chance.
I'm a taurus I've never given anyone a second . But i did him. There's something about him, our soul connection that keeps drawing back to him.
We have many semantics to work out, distance, him still talking with one of the 3 girls...ect... After 3 months, found my self falling in love with him.
He lives 5 hours from me. I've never seen where he lives, I've never met his friends or family. I don't want the guy to promise to marriage to me.
I just want to feel apart of his life. I recently decided after he denied me the chance to come visit him claiming that he wasn't ready- that I couldn't take this
anymore and broke it off. Realizing he's losing me, he's coming to visit this weekend. Somehow he's still managed to work his way back into me thinking this could work.
My questions: Is this guy hiding something in his town from me? Could he really just be still trying to let go of his x. He's still talking with the 3rd girl that was involved
with the triangle last year-who I beleive loves him. Is he stringing me along because he's not ready or because he's still trying to figure out if I'm the one he really
wants to be with? I must mean something to him for him to drive 5 hours to see me.
Someone Help. I know cancers have a hard time letting go. But am I wasting my time.
I'm not getting any younger and don't have all that much time to waste to make my dreams come true.
Thanks.

I'm a Cancer female, but I can assure you that we Cancers are notorious for enjoying dramatic situations, and always wanting the one that wants to get away from us. However, when we have them, we are no longer sure that we do want them. Hence, we're always searching for the perfect relationship, which is just out of our grasp.
We don't mean to be such lunatics, but unfortunately it's in our nature. We're lovable, but also maddeningly unstable.
We are also notorious for wanting to be perceived as mysterious and having our little secrets. Which explains why you have never been to his place.
My suggestion would be to run, not walk, away from this guy...he'll always be just out of your reach, but oh so charming in hanging onto you so that no one else can have you.
I told you we were maddening.

Thank you. This does help, I do appreciate you help a great deal. And I do see all of what your saying. All of it. Right down to the when you have us you not really sure you want us, just that you don't want anyone else to want us. Hey one more question for you. I think it's sorta pointless,but should I tell him that I want to see other people, or is the result in his action still be the same. Will he just start showing me postivives of coming around emotionally but then take it away when he's not around. He has such a hold on me. Which is why he wanted to come up here, I know this. To try to change my mind. I'm so tired of the back and forthness. I'm going to think about everything you said.
kosmo

hey and how are ya?
I was haunted by a cancer male for three and a half years. One problem he always had someone else. And when he did'nt he had no interest. I was'nt interested in being in the middle or on one end of a monkey in the middle situation. I had to change my phone number and everything to keep this person from contacting me. His sister was my friend however so I wanted to keep in contact with her so I gave he my number after six months. When I heard from her camp it was mentioned that I was still thought of. When asked if they could release the number I said no. For two real reasons: I could never trust his sincerity about wanting a real relationship without all the ex dramas and the other reason is that he has little or no concept of fidelity. I am old enough to know that old dogs die old dogs and very few ever learn new tricks. PS, saw him without him seeing me made a post to his sister and discoved that he got married not more that two months after he wanted my number. Sometimes you have to learn the lessons you're been taught about people. I'm thankful that I learn mine.

Hi there,

I'm a cancerian male, I think that you should not let this man know that you are in love with him. Keep him guessing, don't always be available to see him (it will be hard but try it) I guarantee that he will come running.

LEE

For # 159. Are these immature childish games REALLY necessary for a relationship? Keep one guessing? Life is to short to play little FF games IMO!

This is kosmo, the orginator of this quest. Devasted by my decision, I've broken this relationship off. And because I heard the words- "I'm still in love with my x"- twice. I think the first time I was in denial. The second it hit me as the truth. I've broken up with the guy and have told him I will be moving on. That I will try to be his friend. As cancers forever will keep in touch with you. I can't take the head games. His x that he's so hung on, changed her number and blocked his e-mail. That should have been my first clue that I shouldn't let him contact me again. I didn't want to go to those extremes. I do love the guy, will he keep sucking me back in. As I've told him that I do, but that I must move on, that we have no future together as long as he loves another girl. He's my addiction someone help me let him go. I think it's best. I cry for his lose. Can anyone make me feel better... thanks. kosmo

Koz - Cancer male here. Quite frankly, when a cancer does truly love - he loves for life. I will always love my ex, whom I loved with my whole heart. He smashed it to pieces by games and such. Actually, he (virgo), wanted so desperately to keep me in his life, but I cut the whole relationship off, which for me was devastating to almost no repair, but I am incredibly strong that way. When those of any zodiac signs play head and heart games of any kind, it's time to set yourself free and move on. Good luck!

Thank you for your advice. I'm having a hard time breaking ties with this guy. I don't know how many believe in Physic ,but I sorta saw one. Actually a
spiritual healer who has intuitivness.
He said that he sees up together and things working out. I trust this guy as he's healed many of my friends , including myself from minor and some major medical problems and he does not take money ever. He does not charge for his services. So now I read all this advice and want to change my mind with him again. I'm just so confused and it's so damn hard to let go of him. We have a connection that he doesn't not fully see yet, as his feelings are blocked my his x feelings.
Thanks I guess it will all work out for the best.
Kosmo.

KOZ - THIS IS 166.77
I too sought out psychics during my healing from my boyfriend. Truly letting go of someone is devastating - oh my God! I know we do love each other, but can't be together. I feel, that sometimes seperation for growth's sake is necessary. I felt such a spiritual connection to him, that I've never had before in my life! This is killing me! I am just leaving it alone - and if our paths are meant to cross another time, so be it. Until then, hang in there - you never know what else may come along.

Thank you 166! I know in my heart that whatever happens
is meant to happen. IT's all for the best. And your right time can
help people grow.
Good luck to you- as well. thanks for the advice.
koz.