What does it take for Cancers to grow up?

I mean no offense by this, it's something I read here that immature Cancer men will fuck up a relationship through manipulation and lack of self-awareness (I am however mess experienced in Cancer women so enlighten me if their behaviour is similar).
They're obviously not the devil in disguise and I believe their emotions is the main reason for their insecurity but I'm curious of what it takes for them to grow out of it?

What eventually made them confident enough not to retreat so often or manipulate others?

I believe they have the potential to be immensely good people, my favourite friends are/were Cancer suns or Cancer moons, but romantic interests are different, I must make them insecure somehow but never understood what it was that made them retreat after a while.

Lol that was no intention to troll and am not asking for relationship advice so quit it. That was not intended to be yet another cancer bashing thread or a crying post just curious of having little bit of insight from your part. I didn't invent that immature Cancer thing, I read it here from various Cancers. I was asking what separated a mature from an immature Cancer.


My situation has nothing to do with the making of this thread, I was just adding what I have personally experienced. I deal with relationships regardless of their sign, if my way doesn't work, we're not compatible, end of.

But okay yes sure dismiss this thread if you feel offended or trolled.

Grow up..? Develop, as I would put it is something that is applicable to all signs, and you learn best from your oppsosite type if you both are willing to learn, help and grow with eachother.

I have this exchange with my cancer bf. We both are stunned of all we have learned from eachother, we found it very valuable.

Posted by liya-b
but I'm curious of what it takes for them to grow out of it?

To grow out of it,it takes for them to grow a tough thick shell.

Hi there no offence taken as in my experience I still feel a child. It pisses me off that there's guys and girls who are going about their days like adults and earning and buying houses and getting married and there's me stuck in my she'll not knowing how to get out. I do have low confidence though and that could be a factor. My Leo partner really is my left arm, she is so supportive and she helps a lot. I act like a baby to her sometimes which I've never done before. I pull her pants down always I annoy her quite a lot nd struggle to make decisions but she knows me well and she loves it as I treat her well and when cancers find their gem they treat u like a princess. But the answer to ur question, in my opinion and my experience, we will never grow up and in a way it's a good thing as when I'm 75 I'm still gonna be pulling my baby's pants down nd spanking her ass ‚. I do understand how to be an adult when I need to be.

cancers retreat for different reason..cancers going in there shell isn't always bad thing. Sometimes they need to get themselves together then come back out . Sometimes they just need to be alone. I don't know what's happening in your situation that make those cancer retreat but I would love examples because it might not have anything to do with insecurities maybe it's something else.

Cancers that need to grow out of there insecurities that will be up to them ..it's all about confidences ..any habit that you had for long time take practice to get rid of. Insecurities come from some were...and whatever it is...a person made it a habit to feel that way around the time that insecurity come up. It take work. And everybody have insecurities..it just people react differently. .for example my scorp boyfriend when he get insecure he began listing all of his acomplishments. I guess he do that shit to boost his self up but to me I find it fuck irritating..it just make him look crazy because I know what's the real deal is.

I wish I knew the answer.....i hope.mine does soon. Cuz he's hiding now..and I don't know why.