What should I do after my Cancer bf is disappeared

Posted by ScorpioHarmony
He may be looking for the smallest excuse to break up with you, it sounds like he's playing games. Cancer men can be quite passive and therefore avoid confrontation. I think you should keep yourself busy with your own life and let him come to you when he's ready. If he comes back, set some boundries around 'dissapearing acts' make it clear what you are not willing to tolerate. If he doesn't come back then you know it wasn't meant to be. Best wishes 🙂

Scorp women really have that radar vision when it comes to love. You cats can smell bullshit a mile away. There's no good reason to blow you off on his birthday and not get over a minor frustration. I has only been 2 months and so we're not talking long term here. Him flaking out like this is seriously not a good sign. ScorpioHarmony has the right thinking. Let him come to you & if/when he does set some boundaries. As women, sometimes we're afraid to say "this is unacceptable" but actually making their lives easier by going along with bullshit like this actually has the reverse effect. The man respects you less because he know he can get away with treating you like a door mat. Bottom line. If a man is serious about you, he'll respect you more for not letting him treat you like crap. Either way, you should think more of yourself and not let a man treat you badly & play these bullshit passive aggressive games.

And she's also right about him not coming back. If he blows you off, he was looking for the cowardly way out. And you don't want a coward for your man. You deserve better than that.

And she's also right about him not coming back. If he blows you off, he was looking for the cowardly way out. And you don't want a coward for your man. You deserve better than that.

Better listen to Este8 & @ScorpioHarmony. Them ladies are smart lol 🙂.

Thank you so much, everyone. Your answers are helping me a lot. I have forgotten about me. If this relationship is not worth it, I shouldn't chase it. I'll just be patient and focus more on my life! If he doesn't want to come to me, I do not need him. 🙂

what if he comes to you after longer or shorter periods of disappearing——— what then?

I'm definitely opened to any conversations. With all of your suggestions, I should try to have a sincere conversation with him if he comes back. If this doesn't even work, I should move on, right? It's just sad that he doesn't want to put any efforts to understand me and the situation now. I do care about him, so I wanted to try hard to make him feel better. But, if my actions could keep him pushing and bring the opposite result, I should stop it, right?