What the heck is up with these cancer men!

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piscestam
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omg..these cancer men! My cancer guy and I had a fight. We didnt talk for a few days and then I texted him and said I wanted to get everything straightened out. He called me. When I brought up the question I wanted to know the answer to he FREAKED out. He got really defensive and started cursing and saying my question was stupid and that it was "whack" and that I was just trying to get cool points and look good for other people...omg. It was horrible. I couldnt believe he would talk to me that way. It hurt so bad! It was so bad that I told him to forget the whole damn thing and hung up in his face. I then texted him and said I would never ever forgive him for talking to me like that, our relationship was over, that he was a liar from the beginning, that he was turning into a mean and bitter person and if he didnt get his life together he was gonna end up with no one because he keeps pushing away the people he loves. I told him to lose my number because I was erasing him from my life. He called me about an hour after that, and I ignored his call and texted him to leave me alone. I know he's been having some stresses lately, and I think that may have something to do with how he reacted to me because he has NEVER spoken to me like that before, but i feel that its no excuse for treating someone you say you love in that way. He was very disrespectful of my feelings. Very. I feel like I should keep him out of my life. At least until he apologizes and even then it will take a while for me to trust him again. I just dont want to talk to him and I think even if I dont, if he's sincere he'll find a way to apologize. I just dont know what to think anymore.
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scorpio740
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wow... you know what.. I had the same problem yesterday!!!! (btw... it's a common thing for cancers to push people away)

(the cancer recommended me a website where I can watch live streams tv on my pc)

me: can you tell me how can I watch this?

cancer: read the directions.

me: I did it's not working

cancer: OMFG. you're so stoopid.. of course you won't see anything they're not broadcasting

me: oi.. watch your language young man. I know they're not broadcasting right now it's just that this afternoon when i checked i couldn't watch it. I clicked HQ and it says i have to pay.

cancer: you're the infinity of dumbness! i can't believe i'm even talking to you. go LQ then.duh?!

me: can you stop insulting people?! what the hell is your problem!!!

cancer: you're an idiot that's why.

me: LQ is not working either it says it cannot be read

cancer: OMFG..YOU HAVE TO DOWNLOAD THE PLAYER. READ THE F****NG DIRECTIONS!! DO YOU EVEN KNOW ENGLISH?! YOU'RE A R*TARD!!!

me: I did that it still wont work!

cancer: OMFG..I'VE NEVER MET SUCH DUMB PERSON IN MY LIFE!! I SHOULD GET AWAY FROM YOU! I TOLD YOU THEY'RE NOT BROADCASTING AT THE MOMENT!!!!

me: i'm talking about this afternoon when i clicked the live button.. F YOU. don't you ever talk to me that way!!

cancer: say F you once more and YOu'll never hear from me ever again!!!

*you can prolly guess my retort*
me: F you F you F you F you F you F you!!! (like 10 times consecutively)

cancer: goodbye. clicked. *hungs up the phone*

(ok.. usually I would calm him down or tell him I'll ask him some other time when he's not grumpy. for some reason, i remembered something he did in the past that trigger a suppressed anger inside of me.. so yeah.. F him...dunno if he'll come back.. my intuition says he will.. just don't know when.. )

to answer OP's question: i guess something's wrong with the moon or whatever eclipse? making these cancer men ballistic out of the blue. (also maybe 'cos of this mercury retrograde causing communication problems in general)
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CancerianGoddess
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Okay here we go. YOU told him what he NEEDS to do, and than he calls and you tell him to stop calling? THERES your problem. You did it half ass. You talk to him in a firm but low tone, tell him how he is acting, than if he gets fired up, THAN and ONLY THAN when the meat is outta the crabby shell, you lay on the guilt. THAN pretend to cry and hang up. Wait an hour, he will call back and apologize.

If this is too complicated than maybe you shouldnt talk to him. The way you went about it, he may talk to you, but i doubt he will ever "truely" listen to you.
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Crabs can get aggressive and moody from time to time and say things they don't mean.
I had a situation some time ago when my Crab threatened to break up, and when I didnt react, came to my house, and though he didnt insult me, told me a lot of horrible things. I let him vent, said nothing..which made things worst. He went home and continued arguing through messenger. I then reacted and he came back to my house half an hour later. We made up and he apologized for being rude and angry.
I told him then I would not tolerate that behaviour again, and he said he would not treat me bad again.

He will come back to you, and let him know firmly but gently that you will not have him treat you like that.

In the event of another argument, try not to become fighty yourself, that will make things worse. Keep cool, let him vent, if you get involved in the argument it will get worst. Then talk about it and ask him why, try to communicate your feelings and share all.
YOu are a Fish after all, you will be tolerant and patient enough to know why he treated you like that. but dont allow it again...
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Cancer1986LeoCusp
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Posted by PiscesArgie



In the event of another argument, try not to become fighty yourself, that will make things worse. Keep cool, let him vent, if you get involved in the argument it will get worst. Then talk about it and ask him why, try to communicate your feelings and share all.
YOu are a Fish after all, you will be tolerant and patient enough to know why he treated you like that.



100% agreed
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piscestam
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its been three days so last night i sent him a text saying i didnt hate him, that i could never hate him (because i said i did when he cursed at me), and that i wanted to make sure he knew that because its been bothering me ever since i said it. he didnt respond so...we'll see what happens. im not gonna press the issue any further or reach out anymore. im gonna let him do it in his own time and if he doesnt then so be it.
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Posted by piscestam
its been three days so last night i sent him a text saying i didnt hate him, that i could never hate him (because i said i did when he cursed at me), and that i wanted to make sure he knew that because its been bothering me ever since i said it. he didnt respond so...we'll see what happens. im not gonna press the issue any further or reach out anymore. im gonna let him do it in his own time and if he doesnt then so be it.



Piscestam... I know you fish will put up with a lot but HOLY SHIT!!!! He only talks to you like this because you let him. You are being a doormat.

And the fact that you want to make it all good with him and have reached out to him is... well, a little unhealthy. If you're a true blue Pisces and are as stubborn as the rest of your kind, you'll do what you want to do... but it had to be said.

His actions are not cool... and if you keep letting him talk to you that way, you're going to start believing it. Abusive language is not a trait of ANY star sign...
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scorpio740
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Posted by scorpio740


me: F you F you F you F you F you F you!!! (like 10 times consecutively)





You know, i would do my B E S T not to call in this case 🙂
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@cancer1986leocusp: Nope. Never will I call that man.. He needs to apologize first..

@ let it be and shellshocker: yeah I agree.. actually back then, he would say "stfu" or "f off"..those things i let them slide.. But that convo i just shared with you guys, that was unacceptable. I don't know what has gotten into him. in 3 years I've known him, he never spoke to me that way before. this was too much (that's why im giving him the benefit of the doubt). In fact, he did that twice in 1 week.. First was couple of days before that conversation happened. I let that one go and just gave him a warning. BIG MISTAKE.




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scorpio740
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Posted by shellshocker
ohhhh... he's trying to get you to break up with him or preparing you for a 'separation' while he figures out what he wants.
It's going to get worse... My brother's a Cancer and he'd do this shit with girls.

when you do break up with him, mean it. Cold turkey...

if you try to 'work it out' he'll make your life a living hell and leave scars.



I actually got a feeling he wanted me out of his life... you must be right.

to OP: i think he's just angry. give him time. he'll be back.
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piscestam
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this is what started the whole thing in the first place:
he had posted the most touching status about me on his FB page. It was up there a few days and then he deleted it completely. He didnt delete anything else but that. So I asked him why. He called me back, I asked him the question and he flipped out and got all defensive. That makes me believe he didnt have a good reason to. His friends prob teased him about it and he got embarrassed and took it off which of course he cant tell me. It just doesnt make sense.