Where the the line?

When it comes to emotional closeness and investment with Cancer's when it comes to friendship?

I assumed romantic partners or family would see the "clingy and vulnerable" parts on average, yet recently I've seen a pattern where things get taken to such an emotional level it makes me feel like I'm they're boyfriend.

I feel this way because there seems to be the expectation to mind read or that I'm always to approach them to start conversations and give attention towards them. This dynamic is far too one-sided for me and it can't simply be a matter of "comfort" since these friendships have at least 6 months to over a year of bonding behind them. I will also say that is pattern has been with female Cancers, as one male Cancer friend I have hasn't made me feel this way while dealing with emotional situations.

Can anyone walk me through the thought process on who the line is drawn for what it for only "lovers to see" verses others? Along with any other advice to help avoid messy situations or have my Neptune-influenced ass part of an emotional affair in the future?

Posted by Mesquite

You get to see this side of the ladies if you're 'in'.

obviously nurture comes into play with how they feel comfortable sharing their emotions.

Ah, I can understand somewhat but still find it perplexing on why they seem to be low-key waiting for me to talk to them daily. They haven't said for me to do that or anything, but that's the underline current over all so far.

Posted by Mesquite

It's a security blanket kind of thing, and besides you're supposed to 'know' these things, you too aloof SOB! 😄

I have far too much Cap energy in my chart for my own good.

I don't think I do myself favors by telling them they can vent and talk to me about whatever bothers them because we're friends. I must not be salty and mean enough to keep their hard crab shells from going soft on me.

Posted by SirHorns

Posted by Mesquite

You get to see this side of the ladies if you're 'in'.

obviously nurture comes into play with how they feel comfortable sharing their emotions.

Ah, I can understand somewhat but still find it perplexing on why they seem to be low-key waiting for me to talk to them daily. They haven't said for me to do that or anything, but that's the underline current over all so far.

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Who are ‘they’?

Are you having a harem?

Always wanted to know...is that affordable? 🤔

You need to set boundaries and explain to her your perspective. Use words like "it feels" and "uncomfortable" a lot.

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Posted by Mesquite

You get to see this side of the ladies if you're 'in'.

obviously nurture comes into play with how they feel comfortable sharing their emotions.

Ah, I can understand somewhat but still find it perplexing on why they seem to be low-key waiting for me to talk to them daily. They haven't said for me to do that or anything, but that's the underline current over all so far.

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You are too sensitive to "underlying currents", lol. If you are part of that current, then shape it to suit your needs as well.

"Where is the line?"

Wherever you are drawing it!!!

Posted by Undine

You are too sensitive to "underlying currents", lol. If you are part of that current, then shape it to suit your needs as well.

"Where is the line?"

Wherever you are drawing it!!!

My Moon-Saturn ass being called too sensitive...WOW. 2019 still has surprises.

Though you did give sound advice and saying to them what feels "uncomfortable" to me.

Posted by Gemitati

Who are ‘they’?

Are you having a harem?

Always wanted to know...is that affordable? 🤔

Friends.

Not one consisting of them cause they're both taken.

It can be depending on how you run your harem. I'm not an expert though, who is the current Harem King on this site?