@Re313
6 Years
Advice ... On a cancer male. Dont be rude
He told you that you weren’t meeting his mom. He mentioned a couple of reasons why. Obviously it has nothing to do with you.
You should leave it alone. He said she wasn’t a responsible person. She sounds like a crack head/ drug addict.m, which would be why he would hide her.
Work on trying to meet people in his family that he has a good relationship with. Then he will ease you into the bad parts. Have you met his brothers?
Let him do things on his own time and don’t take it personally, he is the one who could be trying to protect you from what you may find out.
he told you how he felt about her cause he trusted your dumb cow and and you said well let me go talk to her about it
have you ever thought he doesn't want the drama
I wouldn't bring you around my mother either
he vented and you took it as I should investigate
I Dont know why crabs date dumb cows but it is what it is
I'm recently crushing on a dumb cow
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@black-mamba stfu period
@Saggurl88 The best comment. I didnt think about it that way. Thank you.
@Saggurl88 The best comment. I didnt think about it that way. Thank you.
You’re welcome 🙂 Take care of yourself and the little one.
@Saggurl88 The best comment. I didnt think about it that way. Thank you.
how is it what she said different than what i said?
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Lol. Are you serious?
Why are you trying to mess with this girl. She was mad at you for a good 20 minutes practically!
@Saggurl88 The best comment. I didnt think about it that way. Thank you.
how is it what she said different than what i said?
Lol. Are you serious?
Why are you trying to mess with this girl. She was mad at you for a good 20 minutes practically!
I said the same exact thing as you. But in a more circular way.
sheez
can't ya'll read between the lines
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Crab playing the victim... nothing new.. he's probably just trying to keep you separated so his stories wont fall apart. I've never met an honest crab, they spin the truth so they become a victim.
Indeed they do this often!!
Crab playing the victim... nothing new.. he's probably just trying to keep you separated so his stories wont fall apart. I've never met an honest crab, they spin the truth so they become a victim.
So it’s not possible for cancer men to have either abusive or dysfunctional relationships with their families and want to exclude them in their lives?
You must be so privileged to think someone would make something up for fake sympathy.
And think it’s not a sincere truth.
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Why would a guy keep his pregnant girlfriend away from his mother entirely?
That doesn’t make sense. The guy talks of his mother often and probably spends time with her just as often and then won’t allow his pregnant gf to see or speak to her.
To me: I think he’s hiding something and maybe he said some things he flourished. It happens.
Ok first off yall are tripping i love tf outta my man and i respect him to the fullest. And we are BOTH happy about being pregnant. This isnt some ghetto ass situation. 2nd Our child will be loved and VERY well taken care of. So thanks trolls.. And anyway... he has always been secretive and sensitive about his family.
So stop it. Yall dont know me or him. I asked one lottle ass question and i said dont be rude. But look assholes always gotta be assholes ig
*butt holes will always be buttholes ig
To the ppl who commented with respect and not judgement. Thank you for your advice. To the others like Black Mamba., Its the way you say stuff. Grow up.
Furthermore we were talking about disciplining children he told me that im too nice to my 3 yr old son that i have from a previous relationship and that i need to be tougher when he cries "like a girl" he said his mom use to tell him to "stop crying like a little ass girl" thats when i said "imma ask her" because i didnt believe him. I thought he was just saying that just so i can be tougher on my son. Sooooo for all the dumb asses how yall feeling now? Yall good?
Furthermore we were talking about disciplining children he told me that im too nice to my 3 yr old son that i have from a previous relationship and that i need to be tougher when he cries "like a girl" he said his mom use to tell him to "stop crying like a little ass girl" thats when i said "imma ask her" because i didnt believe him. I thought he was just saying that just so i can be tougher on my son. Sooooo for all the dumb asses how yall feeling now? Yall good?
Couple days since this posted. But Cancers either have "she's my bestfriend" relationships with their moms, or completely dysfunctional, no contact, fuck 'em they dead to me relationships with their moms
If it is the latter, they will talk about that history but will never speak nor recognize that relationship ever again. That part of them is dead and they want nothing to do with them. Or even let them have the privilege of meeting anyone they love and care for because to them, they are amoebas or subhuman that they wouldn't even piss on if they are on fire. They aren't even viewed as actual family anymore, and never will be again.
Do not investigate. Do not reach out to those he told you, you won't meet. There is a reason for it. He wants nothing to do with them. If you don't listen, and do whatever you want based on what you want, it will not be good.
Your advice was great. And yeah i havent tried to do anything to contact her at all. I left it alone. I never brought it up again. I believe he os trying to protect us and he is probably embarrassed by her for the most part and probably think she would scare me off so i dont mention it. I just have been staying in my lane when it comes to his family issues now.
He resents his mom and his upbringing and most likely, his lost childhood.
He doesn’t see them as a part of who he is because he has evolved away from them.
He isn’t going to try and include them in his life until they earn his trust back.
You didn’t listen to his feelings about his past or family.
Instead you pushed and pushed to pressure more out, because to you, meeting his parents means he’s more committed to you.
You made his boundaries about you.
Back off because he will push you away too, since you aren’t showing him a level of respect and trust that he needs in a stable relationship.
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I agree with this. Completely.
Furthermore we were talking about disciplining children he told me that im too nice to my 3 yr old son that i have from a previous relationship and that i need to be tougher when he cries "like a girl" he said his mom use to tell him to "stop crying like a little ass girl" thats when i said "imma ask her" because i didnt believe him. I thought he was just saying that just so i can be tougher on my son. Sooooo for all the dumb asses how yall feeling now? Yall good?
Uh...I'm feeling now that you done fucked up. He wants you to raise your child the way his mom he hates raised him. Think on that.
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Now thats not happening. He already knows this. Im going to raise my kids the way that i want
And idc how ANYBODY feels about it. He knows im a good mother or else he wouldnt be having a baby with me. He just thinks i need to be tougher on my 3 yr old because he whines and cry alot when he cant get his way. Which is normal for any toddler. Thats what toddlers do. And wtf is "treetrunked"? 😂
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Been together for a year. Im a Taurus female he's a Cancer. Very quiet. Keeps to himself. Im in love with him and vice versa. Only met his cousin and grandmother. But by accident. Not his mom or dad or other relatives. He tells me about all of them but thats it.
Im pregnant. He said ill never meet his mom when we were talking the other day about some stuff. He likes to talk about his childhood and his mom and how it was just her him and his little brothers because his mom and dad didnt work out. And he complains about his mom alot. Like how she is grown but irresponsible and how everything falls on him because his dad wasnt around. So i was ."...like im going to ask your mom and blah blah blah." And he was like "no youre not." And i was like "yes i am" then he said "youre not going to meet my mom" i said other stuff but its irrelevant.
Point im trying to make is. He's being weird as hell about me meeting his family or his family meeting me , like whats really going on?
Why are Cancer males like this?
Im not mad just lost. I want our child to know who his or her other side of the family is.