Why play mind games Cancer!! Leo woman here

Posted months ago about a gemini guy. Scratched that thought and moved on. Met this Cancer guy whom I thought can be different from all the other guys. First date was super good,then he just followed up for another date. Kept messaging me said he was thinking about me,he likes me blah blah and I wasn't buying it coz we just met. Then third date he invited me to his house and cooked for me and ofcourse we had sex afterwards. Then everything changed. He slowly pulled away,not too clingy or sweet in txting anymore and its only been a month. Well I kinda expected something else like he'll be more clingy like in the beginning,coz I thought he was different. Hard part was when he was txting me,I would reply in words! But when I txt him like chessy stuff,then he would reply with an emoticon. Like a smiley or a winky eye!! Like wth cancer!!!! You are soooooo fast in the beginning, I tried to catch up as a fast paced leo and then boom! You slow down,like wth just happened. Why Cancer?!? Just tell me what u want then I'll get on with my life!! Instead of playing mind games,cat mouse shit ugh 😢

@arielle83 yeah, I guess so. He just got out of an engagement 8months ago coz his ex gf was a psycho. Thought he would be different...

Empticons are strong points in communication for us cancers. Sad but true. We suck at communicating electronically. We like things to be more personal and intimate.

@access9 so emoticons are messages?!?! What?!? During the first few weeks he said that he sucked at these things and that he just really likes me,thinks of me and that I should also think of him. And now I am thinking of him,even messaged him last night that I miss him and he just "seen zoned" the message! He read it but never replied 😢 how come Cancers can be clingy but the other party can't 😢

@marissa12 why a sag?! I have a sag friend now but I don't like him that way...he bores me a lot


@leow31 yeah, I don't want to think of it that way but I just hate this push pull crap they do. Just tell me what's up and I'm out! I even put him off in the early days and told him,he can't say those things coz we only just met. But he was so persistent,and clingy. Even when I went to Thailand he was txting all the time,asked for a facetime like wth?!?

@arielle83 you can be right. Although he met the girl online and lasted 2.5yrs.. I just hate the mind games,going back into their shells and popping out when we don't feel anything for them anymore,or we have slightly moved on,then they come back.

@siopaowiks, @Arielle83 is totally correct. Be wary of any guy who quickly puts the "psycho" tag on an ex. Typically, when these guys show their true colors, it's not a pretty sight. Mature men, crab or non-crab will take accountability in their past relationships. Even if the ex truly is batshit, it doesn't say good things about him and the kind of woman he is drawn to. If you're level headed. He will quickly become bored of you.

There is still a Cancer issue here. It'd be easy for someone to confuse this thread with many others that are similar. Crab men are either too distant, or too clingy. No middle ground, and it switches on the fly. It's part of what drives their lovers apeshit. Hot/cold, fast/slow, it is a constant barrage of either side of the spectrum.

Now combine my two clauses, and I think you have the issue with your Cancer crush.

@arielle83 oh dear! That just woke me up from this insanity! I never thought of it in that sense..no wonder his reaction was somewhat angry and passive when he was telling the story of his ex.


@thinktoomuch oh dear,he turned you into a psycho? Lol I kid! What happened?


@crabra yeah,I am slowly getting @arielle83's point. I was just blinded coz he seemed so harmless,sweet and caring. Oh that's why he was so into me coz I was outgoing and very hyper. Although he is somewhat in the middle,at first he was sooooo clingy,to the extent of wanting to facetime or txt him when my plane lands etc. Now is like ok today and gone tomorrow and back again the next. Which as a leo I cannot handle this inconsistency. So if I combine what you said,so that means he's a psycho? Lol

Posted by Arielle83
He's unstable and annoying.

You'll be his scapegoat.

@arielle83 true..so you think he will change? Do I confront him or just disappear as well? Coz I'm hoping to find a serious relationship right now ,he pops along,thought he might be the one and then this rollercoaster hell of a ride :/

@siopaowiks

No it doesn't mean he's psycho. That's a label we use far too liberally. You just need to be wary of his type, which applies to everyone. If he's into girls that are bad news, then he is very likely the same. Most girls and guys get past the colossal douche, crazy girl phase eventually and desire someone that will provide some longevity and security.

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@arielle83 oh dear! That just woke me up from this insanity! I never thought of it in that sense..no wonder his reaction was somewhat angry and passive when he was telling the story of his ex.


@thinktoomuch oh dear,he turned you into a psycho? Lol I kid! What happened?


@crabra yeah,I am slowly getting @arielle83's point. I was just blinded coz he seemed so harmless,sweet and caring. Oh that's why he was so into me coz I was outgoing and very hyper. Although he is somewhat in the middle,at first he was sooooo clingy,to the extent of wanting to facetime or txt him when my plane lands etc. Now is like ok today and gone tomorrow and back again the next. Which as a leo I cannot handle this inconsistency. So if I combine what you said,so that means he's a psycho? Lol

😄 In his defense, I am sort of an extreme person with some things. And my comments are just meant to be funny 🙂 I´m actually happy that I met him, although I used to wish, that I never had. But it did not turn into anything beautiful. My story is the same as 90 % of the women here more or less, and like yours: he´s just not interested.

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Haha @thinktoomuch I guess you are right, wish I hadn't met him as well..but then again it's a lifes learning. Thought he will be a better person after knowing about their breakup,never thought he could have been the culprit hahaha how are you now?

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@siopaowiks

No it doesn't mean he's psycho. That's a label we use far too liberally. You just need to be wary of his type, which applies to everyone. If he's into girls that are bad news, then he is very likely the same. Most girls and guys get past the colossal douche, crazy girl phase eventually and desire someone that will provide some longevity and security.

@crabra yeah I get you. Just thought he might be diffetent after his breakup engagement. He proposedto the girl so if ever he'll have another offer to work overseas thenhe can bring the girl since they are legally married. So should I just ignore him and disappear as well when he comes back? Or do I confront him and tell him I'm looking for a serious relationship?

Posted by Arielle83
Ppl don't change.

You can only control your decisions. .

Wait longer to see who he really is.

That's how you know who you're sleeping with.

Then you won't be on here analyzing his "non chalant" behaviour.

I just don't think you should be available because he thinks he has the upper hand.

@arielle83 yeah he might think he has he upper hand and can just come back wheneverhe pleases..I was just thinking of ignoring him and disappear til I know what his intentions are. haha waiting is a very crucial practice for a leo but I will give it a try.

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@siopaowiks

No it doesn't mean he's psycho. That's a label we use far too liberally. You just need to be wary of his type, which applies to everyone. If he's into girls that are bad news, then he is very likely the same. Most girls and guys get past the colossal douche, crazy girl phase eventually and desire someone that will provide some longevity and security.

@crabra yeah I get you. Just thought he might be diffetent after his breakup engagement. He proposedto the girl so if ever he'll have another offer to work overseas thenhe can bring the girl since they are legally married. So should I just ignore him and disappear as well when he comes back? Or do I confront him and tell him I'm looking for a serious relationship?

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What, wha? He's married? Da fuq you doing girl?

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Ppl don't change.

You can only control your decisions. .

Wait longer to see who he really is.

That's how you know who you're sleeping with.

Then you won't be on here analyzing his "non chalant" behaviour.

I just don't think you should be available because he thinks he has the upper hand.

@arielle83 yeah he might think he has he upper hand and can just come back wheneverhe pleases..I was just thinking of ignoring him and disappear til I know what his intentions are. haha waiting is a very crucial practice for a leo but I will give it a try.

Can you not date more than one person at a time?

You don't need to sleep with.

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@arielle83 I am only seeing him atm..my last date was with another person november last year,didn't go well coz he had to move back to his country. Then came this cancer guy which is my first date for 2016..

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@siopaowiks

No it doesn't mean he's psycho. That's a label we use far too liberally. You just need to be wary of his type, which applies to everyone. If he's into girls that are bad news, then he is very likely the same. Most girls and guys get past the colossal douche, crazy girl phase eventually and desire someone that will provide some longevity and security.

@crabra yeah I get you. Just thought he might be diffetent after his breakup engagement. He proposedto the girl so if ever he'll have another offer to work overseas thenhe can bring the girl since they are legally married. So should I just ignore him and disappear as well when he comes back? Or do I confront him and tell him I'm looking for a serious relationship?

What, wha? He's married? Da fuq you doing girl?

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@crabra lol no they weren't married. They were just engaged. He called it off since the girl went all psycho suicidal just because the cancer guy went on a holiday with his family. She sent him photos of knives and shit,acting like she's gonna kill herself. The guy rushed from his holiday overseas and just saw, his then fiance,all psycho and suicidal. So he called things off and he was single since september last year. Then I met him March this year.

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Posted by Arielle83
Ppl don't change.

You can only control your decisions. .

Wait longer to see who he really is.

That's how you know who you're sleeping with.

Then you won't be on here analyzing his "non chalant" behaviour.

I just don't think you should be available because he thinks he has the upper hand.

@arielle83 yeah he might think he has he upper hand and can just come back wheneverhe pleases..I was just thinking of ignoring him and disappear til I know what his intentions are. haha waiting is a very crucial practice for a leo but I will give it a try.

Can you not date more than one person at a time?

You don't need to sleep with.

@arielle83 I am only seeing him atm..my last date was with another person november last year,didn't go well coz he had to move back to his country. Then came this cancer guy which is my first date for 2016..

If you're only dating one person, then you're just going to focus on them while the ppl you're dating maybe dating other ppl.

I'm just saying don't limit yourself and don't give one guy all your energy.

Just don't sleep with everyone. I'd rather wait a bit to trust them.

This is what cancer does. However, he's a guy and prob has no qualms about having sex before knowing he wants you in his life.

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@arielle83 I get you. So if ever he suddenly messages me,should I ignore it or should I confront him that I'm looking for a serious relationship? I'm kinda confused right now,like all I'm doing is wrong :/

Posted by Arielle83
I'd tell him you're looking for a serious relationship because you'll fall into fwb and feel used.

That's if that is what he's doing. Everything might just be a misunderstanding that could be cleared up with communicating because right now we are only just making assumptions.

Can u continue sleeping with him while he disappears and leads you on and you're left with questions?

I think cancer hates confrontation, but if you're direct with them, they'll be clear.

We just avoid doing the confronting which is what it sounds like he's doing.

@arielle83 well I did ask him last time if he sees his ex in me and he said no and explained that I was totally different. Lol

Yeah,I get your point. Atm I really don't want to be involved with him coz of this disappearing act he likes to do. But if he suddenly pops in then I will confront him,may it be sms or a meetup, I'll tell him what I'm really looking for which is a serious relationship.

Yes we are making assumptions but it is all we/I can do atm and i doubt he will even start to talk about it. And its already unfair that I am giving this energy to him while he maybe doing something else..

Thank you sooo much guys for the reply and advice. Thank you @arielle83 @crabra for your insights,hopefully I get the upperhand this time.

Just an update,well he haven't gotten in touch yet for four days now. Oh well,good riddance I guess..

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How's the cancer guy now!?

@marissa12 he hasn't texted yet since thursday last week and its already wednesday. Saw on fb that he was out with friends on a rugby tournament. Maybe I should just give up. Well,my Sag friend is now back in finland so there haha how are things on your end?

Posted by marissa12
Leo and Sagittarius are supposed to be a really good match. My ex was a Leo and really insensitive. I've seen a few good relationships from Sagittarius and Leo. Think maybe because you two understand one another and don't get your feelings hurt easily.

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@marissa12 why a sag?! I have a sag friend now but I don't like him that way...he bores me a lot


@leow31 yeah, I don't want to think of it that way but I just hate this push pull crap they do. Just tell me what's up and I'm out! I even put him off in the early days and told him,he can't say those things coz we only just met. But he was so persistent,and clingy. Even when I went to Thailand he was txting all the time,asked for a facetime like wth?!?

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@marissa12 I had a Sag ex before back in college, I really didn't quite like it. Haha

One week has passed since the last message. Guess he is not coming back..

Posted by siopaowiks
Posted months ago about a gemini guy. Scratched that thought and moved on. Met this Cancer guy whom I thought can be different from all the other guys. First date was super good,then he just followed up for another date. Kept messaging me said he was thinking about me,he likes me blah blah and I wasn't buying it coz we just met. Then third date he invited me to his house and cooked for me and ofcourse we had sex afterwards. Then everything changed. He slowly pulled away,not too clingy or sweet in txting anymore and its only been a month. Well I kinda expected something else like he'll be more clingy like in the beginning,coz I thought he was different. Hard part was when he was txting me,I would reply in words! But when I txt him like chessy stuff,then he would reply with an emoticon. Like a smiley or a winky eye!! Like wth cancer!!!! You are soooooo fast in the beginning, I tried to catch up as a fast paced leo and then boom! You slow down,like wth just happened. Why Cancer?!? Just tell me what u want then I'll get on with my life!! Instead of playing mind games,cat mouse shit ugh 😢

He's not playing mind games. Cancerian not using mind, they but feelings. He's just a moody guy. Sometimes they want to pursue if he's in a good mood. But we can change mood every 5second I think. So yeah

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Posted months ago about a gemini guy. Scratched that thought and moved on. Met this Cancer guy whom I thought can be different from all the other guys. First date was super good,then he just followed up for another date. Kept messaging me said he was thinking about me,he likes me blah blah and I wasn't buying it coz we just met. Then third date he invited me to his house and cooked for me and ofcourse we had sex afterwards. Then everything changed. He slowly pulled away,not too clingy or sweet in txting anymore and its only been a month. Well I kinda expected something else like he'll be more clingy like in the beginning,coz I thought he was different. Hard part was when he was txting me,I would reply in words! But when I txt him like chessy stuff,then he would reply with an emoticon. Like a smiley or a winky eye!! Like wth cancer!!!! You are soooooo fast in the beginning, I tried to catch up as a fast paced leo and then boom! You slow down,like wth just happened. Why Cancer?!? Just tell me what u want then I'll get on with my life!! Instead of playing mind games,cat mouse shit ugh 😢

He's not playing mind games. Cancerian not using mind, they but feelings. He's just a moody guy. Sometimes they want to pursue if he's in a good mood. But we can change mood every 5second I think. So yeah

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@cancerwomen15 thank you for your reply. So do you think I should wait or just move on? I haven't texted him since and he hasn't communicated with me as well.

IF he still the one that contacting you first and care, you still have a chance. Cancerman is one of the most romantic guy. So they always treat every woman special. Bcoz it's just the way he is.
But if you have a feeling that he's not into you anymore, than just move on. Cancerman is a bit 'transparent' about their feelings.

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IF he still the one that contacting you first and care, you still have a chance. Cancerman is one of the most romantic guy. So they always treat every woman special. Bcoz it's just the way he is.
But if you have a feeling that he's not into you anymore, than just move on. Cancerman is a bit 'transparent' about their feelings.

@cancerwomen15 thanks for your reply. Actually I have no idea. Everything was really ok,we had pizza, watched a movie,cuddled. Then the next day I brought him food,watched a movie and cuddled again. Then we were both busy for the week,but then I texted him if he wants to watch a movie but he was out with friends and was really busy for the whole week til weekend. So I just messaged him that I miss him and enjoy the weekend. That was the last time we texted 😢(

Leo women dont truly want us at the end of the day. We are a pit stop before they can snag a sag or cap. We are thrown the the side when that happens so just accept we know that.

Listen i love leos but you know we are boring to you and your manic episodes being parents. I mean my god for as strong as you are why do kids being kids drive yall so nuts.

Posted by HighTide
Leo women dont truly want us at the end of the day. We are a pit stop before they can snag a sag or cap. We are thrown the the side when that happens so just accept we know that.

Listen i love leos but you know we are boring to you and your manic episodes being parents. I mean my god for as strong as you are why do kids being kids drive yall so nuts.

@HighTide thanks for your reply. I have no idea on what happened to you and your female leo (if you had a female leo) But I do like my Cancer guy and I didn't snag any sag or capricorn. I like him just the way he is and miss him dearly 😢 and I'm still waiting if he would come back 😢 I haven't heard from him since two weeks when I last texted him that I miss him and he didn't respond. He is everything I want in a person. I enjoyed being with him, I just don't know what happened and when he will be back 😢

I was just messing with the Leo ladies a little bit, but seriously its so funny how Leo's get overwelmed when they are taking care of kids lol. Ive noticed this as a side note, probably should have made another thread.

Well like I said in one other thread there is a possibility he doesn't want to hurt your feelings about something. I am usually fairly easy to reconnect with Leo's when I am ready to talk again. The key here is we don't know if this was serious for the Cancer as it was for you or if it was kinda a friendly fling for two lonely people.

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I was just messing with the Leo ladies a little bit, but seriously its so funny how Leo's get overwelmed when they are taking care of kids lol. Ive noticed this as a side note, probably should have made another thread.

Well like I said in one other thread there is a possibility he doesn't want to hurt your feelings about something. I am usually fairly easy to reconnect with Leo's when I am ready to talk again. The key here is we don't know if this was serious for the Cancer as it was for you or if it was kinda a friendly fling for two lonely people.

@HighTide I like that my Cancer is just like a kid, he is just funny that way. If only he can just tell me if its over then I'll move on,instead of leaving me hanging like this. If he doesn't want to hurt my feelings then he should man up and just tell me,just like how he always said that he liked me and I just fit and he clings so much and keeps telling me that he wishes for me to always be with him 😢.
When do you feel you are ready to talk again if this kind of stuff happened to you? Do you think I should wait or just let go?

Well he got out of an engagement last year and has been single for 8months. I have been single for a year plus..when we first met,everything just clicked and went on fast..how long do you think before he comes back? Or will he ever come back? Should I txt him?

Just text him and ask if everything is ok. Make sure there isn't a genuine reason for his disappearance before you move on. That's all I can suggest really.Hope he gets back to you 👌

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Just text him and ask if everything is ok. Make sure there isn't a genuine reason for his disappearance before you move on. That's all I can suggest really.Hope he gets back to you 👌

@piscespoppy thanks for your advice dear. As a leo,we are scared of rejection and we seldom chase people or ask..that's why I am a bit hesitant in texting him. I was scared the moment he suddenly didn't reply when I said I missed him...😢 am I being clingy and he got scared of that? maybe because he wasn't used to me being the clingy one,it was always him who clings to me. I wish he just comes back and tell me what's wrong. 😢( thanks for your message 🙂

Stop referring to his ex as a psycho please

So anytime I men wants sex early on and I mean date 2,or 3 he's not serious about the women is he?

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Stop referring to his ex as a psycho please

@MahoganyLeo he was the one who said his ex was a psycho,not me. I was just listening all the time while he tells his story..

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Leo women dont truly want us at the end of the day. We are a pit stop before they can snag a sag or cap. We are thrown the the side when that happens so just accept we know that.

Listen i love leos but you know we are boring to you and your manic episodes being parents. I mean my god for as strong as you are why do kids being kids drive yall so nuts.

@HighTide thanks for your reply. I have no idea on what happened to you and your female leo (if you had a female leo) But I do like my Cancer guy and I didn't snag any sag or capricorn. I like him just the way he is and miss him dearly 😢 and I'm still waiting if he would come back 😢 I haven't heard from him since two weeks when I last texted him that I miss him and he didn't respond. He is everything I want in a person. I enjoyed being with him, I just don't know what happened and when he will be back 😢

Don't worry, he'll contact you when he is finished playing with his friends and wants more sex.

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@Goldigold that's kinda mean..

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So anytime I men wants sex early on and I mean date 2,or 3 he's not serious about the women is he?

@victoriagemini for me it is not a basis. If a guy wants you then they would still pursue you regardless if you had sex early on..but some guys get too overwhelmed when emotions kick in..

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Leo women dont truly want us at the end of the day. We are a pit stop before they can snag a sag or cap. We are thrown the the side when that happens so just accept we know that.

Listen i love leos but you know we are boring to you and your manic episodes being parents. I mean my god for as strong as you are why do kids being kids drive yall so nuts.

@HighTide thanks for your reply. I have no idea on what happened to you and your female leo (if you had a female leo) But I do like my Cancer guy and I didn't snag any sag or capricorn. I like him just the way he is and miss him dearly 😢 and I'm still waiting if he would come back 😢 I haven't heard from him since two weeks when I last texted him that I miss him and he didn't respond. He is everything I want in a person. I enjoyed being with him, I just don't know what happened and when he will be back 😢

Don't worry, he'll contact you when he is finished playing with his friends and wants more sex.

@Goldigold that's kinda mean..

I'm sorry, I'm having a lot of experience with these bad boys lately...they love to spend time with their friends, they come first until they find the one that want to settle down with. They will look at you differently if you have sex with them to fast. Has he contacted you? If so how did it go?

As someone mentioned on one of these threads. It's tough love.

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@Goldigold no worries. Thanks for your honest and straightforward opinion. How was your experience with them? This is my first time with a Cancer Guy that's why I'm acting like this. I didn't have sex with him until after the 3rd date wherein he cooked and took care of me at his house. He was engaged last year but something happened to them and he called the whole thing off. He was really nice,clingy and very caring. I have no clue why he disappeared,although I can see he is very active on facebook. I haven't messaged him and vice versa for like 3 weeks..should I move on?

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So anytime I men wants sex early on and I mean date 2,or 3 he's not serious about the women is he?

Untrue!

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All of my message didn't come through...

Anyway, they do the bait and switch to get what they want. My cancer boyfriend has done it over and over again.!they are so full of shit.

I have dealt with it a lot for some reason I have a lot of cancer men in my life right now. If they don't get what they want they will kick you to the curb. They are really trying to be men but fall short. Extremely insecure and need lots of female attention.

But no contact for 3 weeks, is that the kind of relationship you want? Put all of your efforts into the right relationship he'll never change. So if this is currently not working for you then yes, you should move on.

@Goldigold I think his birthday is July 10 or 14, I'm not sure..lol. Well he is my first cancer and I didn't know about their bait and switch tendency. I thought after his experience with his ex he will be looking for someone to settle down,somebody serious. But the extremely insecure and wants female attention is quite true..what happened to yours? Are you still together? Some said just let them be and they will come back to you..yes,no contact for 3 weeks is really not good, as a leo I am a very loyal person and wants closure..

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So anytime I men wants sex early on and I mean date 2,or 3 he's not serious about the women is he?

Untrue!

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@Cancer061986 yeah,it is also not true for me. I think it depends on the guy and if you yourself is looking for a hookup or serious relationship..

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All of my message didn't come through...

Anyway, they do the bait and switch to get what they want. My cancer boyfriend has done it over and over again.!they are so full of shit.

I have dealt with it a lot for some reason I have a lot of cancer men in my life right now. If they don't get what they want they will kick you to the curb. They are really trying to be men but fall short. Extremely insecure and need lots of female attention.

But no contact for 3 weeks, is that the kind of relationship you want? Put all of your efforts into the right relationship he'll never change. So if this is currently not working for you then yes, you should move on.

@Goldigold I think his birthday is July 10 or 14, I'm not sure..lol. Well he is my first cancer and I didn't know about their bait and switch tendency. I thought after his experience with his ex he will be looking for someone to settle down,somebody serious. But the extremely insecure and wants female attention is quite true..what happened to yours? Are you still together? Some said just let them be and they will come back to you..yes,no contact for 3 weeks is really not good, as a leo I am a very loyal person and wants closure..

Sometimes you have to create the closure yourself. For me no contact in 3weeks? He'd be history! There will come point in your life when you get tired of this BS from men. Our moms did a misservice with accepting bullshit from men. Men don't deserve that anymore. You have to lay down the rules and let them know in the beginning you respect me or fuq off. I understand the let them be and they will come back. True. Is this how you want to live stressed out while you are waiting for him? You need to tell him this isn't going to work if you want to be with me.

We are still together, but not really sure if I want to be with him anymore.

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@Goldigold yeah,I understand your point. I am not going crazy though,its just that I cannot figure out what happened. You are right,I must do my own closure and not wait for him..3weeks is nearing to a month now,this is unfair. If ever he comes back I will be firm with my decision and that I want a relationship and not a fuck buddy. He should be happy I entertained his fat ass dad bod physique!! I think no one would haha I just wish he is also wondering what is happening to me and all. So what do you plan with yiur Cancer guy!?

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@arielle83 yeah, I guess so. He just got out of an engagement 8months ago coz his ex gf was a psycho. Thought he would be different...

When someone says thier ex is a psycho it probably because of them.

He has you mind fucked as you say.

Just red flag from now on.

"Are relationships always toxic in at least one way for women?"

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@arielle83 yeah, I guess so. He just got out of an engagement 8months ago coz his ex gf was a psycho. Thought he would be different...

When someone says thier ex is a psycho it probably because of them.

He has you mind fucked as you say.

Just red flag from now on.

"Are relationships always toxic in at least one way for women?"

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@Listenlearnteach yeah,that's what some of my friends said as well. And for a guy,I think its not nice to bad mouth an ex,shows immaturity and basing from his disappearing acts,anyone can reallt go mental with people like this,much more if you're in a relationship with them. Relationships shouldn't be toxic if they were honest with their intentions in the firstplace

Posted by Goldigold
My message keeps getting cut off, he told me he loved me and he would try harder. And he did. He spolied my daughter and I on Mother's Day. I honestly feel we are going to spend the rest of our lives together.

@Goldigold wow! Great to hear that! Atleast he is maning up and giving you the affection and assurance you and your daughter needs. Hopefully he will be consistent. 🙂 Me,I just don't want to think about my cancer guy anymore..its pointless