Cancer Woman/Leo Man—

Hey everyone, I just realized that I have managed to break my Libra streak. After having to run in the opposite direction from them for a while. Which brings me to why I am here today; I have a Leo guy that I have known for over a decade. We met when we were both teenagers and then dated- he was more into me than I was into him but that was fine by him. We went on and off over the last 12 years, each dating other people until last year. Through this whole time he has ALWAYS been by my side when I was going through stuff, like the death of my dad- where he was with me night and day. Last year I had another crisis where he crawled out of the woodwork and was at my side. This time, maybe due to grief, we actually went a step further and slept together- we never had, he had never even seen me naked!

After this, we casually slept together pretty much every chance we got. I then realized that I was developing stronger feelings for him but did not say anything as he had just started going out with some else. We remained friends and I casually dated 2 other people between then and now. Fast forward late last year, he broke up with his girl and my connections fizzled... and for the first time we were both free. Trouble started at this point when I realized that one of the guys I had been 'casually dating' (read: sleeping with) was a close friend, not only that, there were going to spend a lot of time together. And the way I found out meant he (the other guy) also had to know. The next time I met Leo, i told him everything, and while he seemed a little spaced out for a bit, the rest of the evening went ok.

Fast forward to Jan, he recently invited me to his place for a party- where the other guy was there with his new gf. And Leo was EXTREMELY posessive. I am used to his posessiveness but this was more than usual. I am talking him wanting to kiss in front of anyone (I am not a PDA person and he knows it), openly telling me not to sit next to this other guy-because he doesn't trust him around me. We ended up going to my place where he slept till the next day. He openly claimed that he was 'peeing around me to mark his territory'. A couple of days that followed we talked regularly on the phone, sharing videos and links, talking about life partnerships and kids- all just casually.

Then out of nowhere a conversation we had been having- hinting at going exclusive, turned into him saying he now doesn't trust women because the last girlfriend he had cheated with a business partner. And that he wasn't looking to have a relationship.

This is not a problem for me, I am truly open to turning round and walking away- even thought that might be tough to do. My concern is whether this is a reaction to finding out about the friend thing, and/or whether this is something that he would ever get over? I am not beyond moving on, but with 13 years in, I would want to be sure. Anyone with suggestions on how I approach this (and him) I would appreciate it.

I don't want to come off as biased or jaded but after my 6 year relationship with a leo went south, idk if leos are the best match for cancers. My experience was this: promise the world and never deliver. I'm very easy going but don't feed me caviar dreams and deliver hotdogs,lol. We were both very loyal but he was very predictable and routine. Even though I'm a cancer, my moon is a gemini and other air influence so I get bored easily. I would say try to date the leo you are interested in but don't believe his charms.

Which one of you mentioned exclusvity? If it was him and he changed his mind...simply ask him if there is more then what he told you. If he has been honest in the past and doesn't lie to you then move on because he isn't interested now

Posted by GreyWiz
oh you are so bored of leo? good for you. go get some gemini guy who will ask you to be a swinger.

Nahh...I like being a lone crab with no strings attached 🙂

I am not clear on what you want.

He said he doesn't want a relationship. That sounds pretty clear to me.

If you are really into this guy you would NOT be okay with him walking away. You are way to cavalier about your feelings for him. You also seem to just go with the flow with guys not really staking a claim on anyone. Just having casual sex and no relationship goals. If Leo is the guy you want tell him. If he is not like minded, you are still free to date other guys.

Interesting that people can find other people boring. I don't get bored with people because I don't use them as a source of entertainment.

I was never bored with Leo males.

Thanks for the responses.

While I am a textbook Cancer in some regard, I am also quite (positively?) affected by my Sag rising when it comes to how I OUTWARDLY portray my feelings- the carefree, don't want to be strung along attitude. But I have been quite honest with him- about how I feel about him, especially in the last year.

I am very practical at how I approach everything in my life- including romantic relationships (at least now I am). After a few rounds of crazy whirlwind sweep-me-off-my-feet-then-knock-me-flat-on-my-face romances, I now safely exercise caution before I begin anything. So yes, I am prepared to walk away, which does not mean I do not love him, it just means my bullshit-tolerance quotient has been severely depleted by the last 2 relationships I had.

HE mentioned exclusivity, and babies and hints of 'settling down'. So, it would be weird that he changes his mind so abruptly.

Honestly, I am used to this passive aggressiveness from Libras.

But after reading posts here and some discussions on Youtube, I am starting to think it's a 'Dump Leos' month. And besides, could this just be a mercury retrograde thing, having sizzling-but-fizzling blasts from the past?

It would be a loss to end this, and gosh the sex is oh so good! You freaky Leos you!

Leo cancer are perfect 😘

As a leo, one of my best match ever was my ex cancer GF. It was almost perfect, same ideals and lots of stability. Sudently i didnt felt very confortable at her home city and i leave. It passed more than 10 years and she still has her space in my memory/heart.