Advice about Leo Sun Cancer Moon

Hi, So I officially made an account, although i've been staling this messgae board site for months~

I need some advice about a Leo man.
Him
Leo Sun
Cancer Moon
Leo Mercury
Virgo Venus
Leo Mars

Anyways, I started talking to a Leo Man a few months back, we had a friendship a first. It was very casual and whatnot, then we started to hang out more and things got more serious. One night we casually messed around and then he started to change up. He wasn't the funny, laif back, and drama free Leo guy I THOUGHT I knew. So he'd start ignoring my texts, calls, etc. I called him out on it because I don't like playing the guessing game and he says this basically "Honestly, something inside of me is telling me not to get to attached to you. You're very pretty, you may be talking to more than one guy and that's fine because we aren't together but I have to kepe my distance" it's crazy cause a few days prior to that I casually asked him what he was looking for and he said he was "in no way looking to settle down" then he says that.

In response I tell him that I am faithful when committed and how it's weird he is acting this way because he told me the opposite.

Then after that, weirdly enough, the calls are frequent, the texts are frequent, we are talking a lot more. Also, I may have to move in a couple of months and he tells me I can move in with him and all that. I turn it down saying "who knows where we will stand by that time", days pass by and then he starts acting kind of perverted and kind of like an asshole.

I KNOW he isnt an asshole because of how he acts when he is in person with me is completely different. So, me being me, I called him out on it and told him "please stop pretending to be a jerk, contrary to popular belief, it isnt attractive" and then he basically gets mad and cuts me off saying I have an attitude problem and i'm moody when REALLY it's him thats nice guy one day, mean guy the next. I tried to apologize for he misunderstanding and asked him if we could be friends and he is being so stubborn and is all like "No I dont think so, no hard feelings"

Okay, that sums it up. What's going on? Is it his Cancer Moon? Am I too direct for him? I have no idea whats the issue. We've actually only hooked up once and gone out a few times...So I thought we were getting somewhere, but then he pulls that last line on me and i'm so confused. I already apologized and he wasn't having it...so any advice.

me:
Libra Sun
Taurus Moon

Hahahaha maybe he wasn't actually trying to be a jerk, maybe he thought you might like it and you just shot him down. He probably feels a little wounded.

Hmmm. Thanks for the feedback.

Then why would he ask me to move in with him?

Oh god sorry about all of the spelling mistakes. I wrote this real quick via text

Yeah I suppose that's all I can do. Thanks.

Yowza, sounds like a familiar pattern. (Leo sun, Virgo venus, Cancer moon here).
He's playing Cat and Mouse without realizing it, I think generally the rules are- YOU get to make the rules.
Then don't discuss the rules lol pretend the game never happened...
We're d*ckheads like that...

Anyway, he's testing boundaries, I don't think it's intentional jerkage, or no more then any other man on the field...
But basically he tests your boundaries, maybe expresses himself, shows a little of the dark side- and can you see who he REALLY is through that?
If you can, then he expects undying devotion and NO expression of doubts etc - ie. he offers you to move in, you (logically - I know) say who knows where we will be or what will happen... and he thinks- Snubbed!
He wants you to dive into Life with him, and anyone who has (reasonable- I know) doubt gets puts in a holding pattern until they can express more enthusiasm.
It's just asking for blind faith really, unfair? perhaps, but nothing you wouldn't get in return, trust me!
He has a high opinion of himself, and expects you to share that opinion. It's a catch twenty two.
My only aside is, he may take himself a little too seriously for your taste... If he lightened up a bit you would probably understand him a tad better, which may take time- more time then you've had together anyway- and if you get bored before he does... things could get messy...

WAGTAIL!!!!

THANK YOU!

Thank you so much for your perspective! You really gave me a lot to work with, seriously- I understand it all a little better now. As of now we aren't talking, and I am not going to reach-out to him anymore because I've already apologize and I don't want to seem stalker-ish.

So if he does come back what is any advice that I should do differently? Should I try to be a little more sensitive with him?

ugh... See, that's the thing..I want to keep him around if we ever do make up again, but I DONT want to be a complete push over with him. I see he's trying to test his boundaries and whatever, maybe its a power control thing, he wants that security- but I am not one to bend over backwards for anyone. I hate hate hate the cat and mouse game and I did tell him that I didn't like not knowing whats going on and we are too old for this, that's when he admitted he doesn't want to get too attached, then he mentioned i may be talking to to other guys which is lame because he told me he didnt want a relationship so why does that even mater to him?

He often does joke with me and say things like "your boy toys" and all of that. For some one that was so interested in what I had going on over on this end, want me to move in with him, show his vulnerability to me.. it's crazy how quick he was to so call cut me off. Maybe he just needs to mature or something, or maybe I am just not the one for him because I don't like the mind games.Maybe he doesnt know what he wants?

I like security and predictability. Maybe it's my taurus moon. I would never want my logic to be mistaken as rejection...eh, this kind of sucks. I wasn't even thinking of it like that, I was just thinking reasonably. Maybe he is dealing with some hurt that makes him act like this, maybe he just needs to fix that before I have any role in his life. I would kind of be afraid to give him another chance if he came back and wanted to patch things up because he was so quick to flake away....decisions, decisions. Until then i'll just lay low and focus on me. I've never dealt with a guy this confusing -_____- It bothers me so much because I am not used to this personality type mainly.

Rule Number One- Do you.
Rule Number Two- Do you.
Rule Number Three- Refer rule One and Two...

You'll always come out a Winner that way =)

At the end of the day don't do head miles over something you cannot control, just stick to your guns, be sincere and respect yourself first and foremost, and the guy who can handle that will come along.

Everything wagtail said. 😄

Also... "boytoys" is just fishing to

be sure he's the only one.

The fact that he was So Interested is

why you were cut off SO quickly, when

you declined the offer to move in.

Makes perfect sense, really.

Don't be more sensitive... Lol

Don't let him pressure you into moving

in (he probably will).

Like wagtail said... do you.

thank you two!
I will and I am. lol
He texts me the other day telling me he had a dream of me. I ask him what it was about then he disappears again. He is too weird for my liking, I'm gonna have to cut this one off.

I was married to a Leo and had a Leo exboyfriend and have Leo male cousins who I have lived with. In my option this is not Leo behavior, none of the Leo men I knew have ever acted like this. But from what I read about cancer men, this seems to be typical Cancer behavior.

Posted by canerleo101
I was married to a Leo and had a Leo exboyfriend and have Leo male cousins who I have lived with. In my option this is not Leo behavior, none of the Leo men I knew have ever acted like this. But from what I read about cancer men, this seems to be typical Cancer behavior.

ohhh well look who's back

Posted by wagtail

Anyway, he's testing boundaries, I don't think it's intentional jerkage, or no more then any other man on the field...
But basically he tests your boundaries, maybe expresses himself, shows a little of the dark side- and can you see who he REALLY is through that?
If you can, then he expects undying devotion and NO expression of doubts etc - ie. he offers you to move in, you (logically - I know) say who knows where we will be or what will happen... and he thinks- Snubbed!
He wants you to dive into Life with him, and anyone who has (reasonable- I know) doubt gets puts in a holding pattern until they can express more enthusiasm.
It's just asking for blind faith really, unfair? perhaps, but nothing you wouldn't get in return, trust me!
He has a high opinion of himself, and expects you to share that opinion. It's a catch twenty two.
My only aside is, he may take himself a little too seriously for your taste... If he lightened up a bit you would probably understand him a tad better, which may take time- more time then you've had together anyway- and if you get bored before he does... things could get messy...

*co-signs*

So what's with everyone having problems with their lions this last month? So much action in here lately.