LadyCalamity
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Posted by Kodak375
What is your moon?
My moon is 1 degree in Leo.
Some people say that cusps in moons do not mean anything. But from what I see it's like a cancer/leo cusp, right? I have no idea how to interpret moons signs very well yet.
Posted by Kodak375
well if your moon is in cancer that could explain a bit of why it was so opposed. Cancer moon aries moon are difficult to pair
I definitely meet the cancer moon criteria for sure. I don't see Leo at all.
It's not about him being a Cancer. Any relationship that has you having anxiety, losing weight (or gaining) from stress, constant fighting, etc. is pure toxic. That would describe my ex husband, and he's a Taurus. Toxic people can be found in all signs.
As a Cancer, I adore mature Scorpios, for friends and more. The only ones who have been ick are the ones who are immature or seriously fucked up.
As a Cancer, I adore mature Scorpios, for friends and more. The only ones who have been ick are the ones who are immature or seriously fucked up.
Posted by MoonArtist
It's not about him being a Cancer. Any relationship that has you having anxiety, losing weight (or gaining) from stress, constant fighting, etc. is pure toxic. That would describe my ex husband, and he's a Taurus. Toxic people can be found in all signs.
As a Cancer, I adore mature Scorpios, for friends and more. The only ones who have been ick are the ones who are immature or seriously fucked up.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I tried to deny that it was a very toxic relationship over and over again in my head because it was so beautiful in the beginning. He truly did emulate the man I had always wanted. When I finally decided I could no longer do it-it was immediate relief. I didn't realize how much joy the relationship was sucking out of my life. I tried to hold on to all his wonderful qualities and making excuses for why I shouldn't leave. It still kind of stings a bit to think about it! I failed to realize just how selfish he was and I put up with way too much. I don't deserve that and it's almost embarrassing to think about how much of myself I gave to him.
But I know that I deserve the very best and I can make a man very happy. It's such a shame that people take advantage of that sometimes.
Posted by Cheeseburger
This thread is not as controversial as you think.
I'm not a fan of this combo, but I think its a different matter for the cancer ladies.
I really assumed that it would be great because I have heard that it's just a wonderful combination. When it didn't turn out that way, I kind of scratched my head and wondered if any one else felt that way too. Maybe it one was one bad apple and not the whole batch.
I have a feeling it is his Aries moon that is causing some of the problems. We need some straight answers out of you no one sided here.
Fights between Scorpio Cancer male can get ugly they are emotional fights they can be intense because feelings and emotions are involved. The reason why you never had fights with your other boyfriends is they didn't understand you on and emotional level a Cancer will not back off neither will you with your other BFs they probably just walked away to end the fight. You Scorpio's hold onto anger you stew on it with a Cancer we get over it not a Scorpio woman.
There is a power struggle in a Scorpio Cancer relationship, you can't tell me you don't like control, I have a Taurus moon I like control.
Silent treatment you probably do it just as much as he does, hmm getting offended in my experience Scorpio's get offended easier than a Cancer man. Push pull Scorpios and Cancers do it, yes I'm guilty of doing it. The Scorpio girl I know has anxiety problems she gets anxious I'm pretty sure its common in Scorpio women. Scorpios will use emotional manipulation I imagine you used it too.
Fights between Scorpio Cancer male can get ugly they are emotional fights they can be intense because feelings and emotions are involved. The reason why you never had fights with your other boyfriends is they didn't understand you on and emotional level a Cancer will not back off neither will you with your other BFs they probably just walked away to end the fight. You Scorpio's hold onto anger you stew on it with a Cancer we get over it not a Scorpio woman.
There is a power struggle in a Scorpio Cancer relationship, you can't tell me you don't like control, I have a Taurus moon I like control.
Silent treatment you probably do it just as much as he does, hmm getting offended in my experience Scorpio's get offended easier than a Cancer man. Push pull Scorpios and Cancers do it, yes I'm guilty of doing it. The Scorpio girl I know has anxiety problems she gets anxious I'm pretty sure its common in Scorpio women. Scorpios will use emotional manipulation I imagine you used it too.
Posted by Stihl46
I have a feeling it is his Aries moon that is causing some of the problems. We need some straight answers out of you no one sided here.
Fights between Scorpio Cancer male can get ugly they are emotional fights they can be intense because feelings and emotions are involved. The reason why you never had fights with your other boyfriends is they didn't understand you on and emotional level a Cancer will not back off neither will you with your other BFs they probably just walked away to end the fight. You Scorpio's hold onto anger you stew on it with a Cancer we get over it not a Scorpio woman.
There is a power struggle in a Scorpio Cancer relationship, you can't tell me you don't like control, I have a Taurus moon I like control.
Silent treatment you probably do it just as much as he does, hmm getting offended in my experience Scorpio's get offended easier than a Cancer man. Push pull Scorpios and Cancers do it, yes I'm guilty of doing it. The Scorpio girl I know has anxiety problems she gets anxious I'm pretty sure its common in Scorpio women. Scorpios will use emotional manipulation I imagine you used it too.
With all die respect Stihl,
I don't believe I am being one sided as I am being as honest as possible. I can't say I am like most Scorpios and I guess I have my moon to thank for that. I'm actually very compassionate and sometimes too submissive! Yes, if I get angry- cutting someone off is not a problem but I don't do that kind of thing on a whim.
My others Bfs actually never walked away during a fight...and he did, he hated resolving anything. He never wanted to resolve issues, he just wanted me to brush it under the rug and let him "cool off." And even when I did this, well he would still stay mad at me for at least two days when I was certainly over it and it was just so hurtful and confusing!
At least in other relationships, we communicated often and would resolve problems very quickly.
If he was in a bad mood, he would take it out on me often....it was just very selfish of him. There was actual no power struggle to be honest. He just had a volatile temper.
And no, I did not give the silent treatment because I'm not in the business of playing games. EVER. Period and point.
Also as far as him getting offended, it was for the littlest things. One time I scooped some ice cream into his cup from my ice cream cu
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Scorpio woman Cancer man rough pairing two emotional beings together pretty sure you have never had a man that could affect you emotionally as he could. As a Cancer guy we can understand a Scorpio woman pretty well I bet he knew what you were thinking without you saying anything. Scorpios feel vulnerable around Cancer's because we under stand you. Scorpios love keep things hidden, Cancer's can be the human lie detectors I imagine you had troubles hiding things from him. The mask you Scorpios wear is pretty invisible around a Cancer.
I have an idea how your relationship was its too hard to explain a Scorp Cancer pairing, its probably best you two walk away and have some separation. You will never forget him and he will never forget you. He might have been scared himself if he's never had a woman that understood him. Scorpio's do like to know about people's dirty little secrets. Scorpio women are pretty emotionally intense. The first start of the relationship you were not as intense then the intensity ramped up. Cancer men are no were near emotionally intense as a Scorpio woman.
The Scorpio woman I'm friends with has the same problems with me I don't think she's ever been with a guy that understands her so well. It scares her that she loses control around me, Scorpios hate feeling vulnerable you feel vulnerable around Cancer men.
I have an idea how your relationship was its too hard to explain a Scorp Cancer pairing, its probably best you two walk away and have some separation. You will never forget him and he will never forget you. He might have been scared himself if he's never had a woman that understood him. Scorpio's do like to know about people's dirty little secrets. Scorpio women are pretty emotionally intense. The first start of the relationship you were not as intense then the intensity ramped up. Cancer men are no were near emotionally intense as a Scorpio woman.
The Scorpio woman I'm friends with has the same problems with me I don't think she's ever been with a guy that understands her so well. It scares her that she loses control around me, Scorpios hate feeling vulnerable you feel vulnerable around Cancer men.
p and he got SO ANGRY! It was just a fun little/playful gesture and I meant no harm. He treated me poorly and that caused a fight because I didn't understand why he would get offended for everything and especially something like that.
So please, before you say all the things- please remember that your experiences with Scorpio women do not equate to the issues presented in the relationship discussed in this thread. I work with some Scorpio women and I actually can't get along with them because I'm just not like them at all. They are pretty vindictive and malicious ladies (not all but a lot are). I have many characteristics, YES for sure. But I am not as you described here. I walked away knowing I gave him the very best. I just knew that I could no longer be in a relationship that caused me so much hurt and ended up stealing my joy.
So I hope that gave you some "straight answers" I'm not flawless, of course. But I know I poured my heart out to this man and it still hurts to think about it sometimes honestly. I gave my 100%
So please, before you say all the things- please remember that your experiences with Scorpio women do not equate to the issues presented in the relationship discussed in this thread. I work with some Scorpio women and I actually can't get along with them because I'm just not like them at all. They are pretty vindictive and malicious ladies (not all but a lot are). I have many characteristics, YES for sure. But I am not as you described here. I walked away knowing I gave him the very best. I just knew that I could no longer be in a relationship that caused me so much hurt and ended up stealing my joy.
So I hope that gave you some "straight answers" I'm not flawless, of course. But I know I poured my heart out to this man and it still hurts to think about it sometimes honestly. I gave my 100%
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
I am still trying to figure out why any Cancer would believe that Scorpio is a healthy choice as a soul mate.
This story is proof positive about one bringing out the worst side of the other, and vice versa.
At least when Pisceans and Cancers disagree, the defensive behavior is hardly seen in BOTH parties simultaneously and for extended amounts of time.
This crap about "I'm right, and you are wrong" being shouted by a Scorpio at a Cancer, and vice versa will only end in total destruction.
...Which is exactly why I scratch my head in wonder at the Cancers around here who tout this match so often.
Oh well, happiness is evidently not meant for everyone.
At least with our relationship, we never had that you're right and you're wrong mentality.The only experience I had of doing that is with my Aries father. But I love him to death so I just go along with his opinions and ideas lol.
Or relationship issues stemmed mostly from his attitude and me feeling like I was constantly walking on eggshells. Eventually he took my devotion for granted and just did the very minimal when I gave the most.
Posted by LadyCalamityPosted by MoonArtist
It's not about him being a Cancer. Any relationship that has you having anxiety, losing weight (or gaining) from stress, constant fighting, etc. is pure toxic. That would describe my ex husband, and he's a Taurus. Toxic people can be found in all signs.
As a Cancer, I adore mature Scorpios, for friends and more. The only ones who have been ick are the ones who are immature or seriously fucked up.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I tried to deny that it was a very toxic relationship over and over again in my head because it was so beautiful in the beginning. He truly did emulate the man I had always wanted. When I finally decided I could no longer do it-it was immediate relief. I didn't realize how much joy the relationship was sucking out of my life. I tried to hold on to all his wonderful qualities and making excuses for why I shouldn't leave. It still kind of stings a bit to think about it! I failed to realize just how selfish he was and I put up with way too much. I don't deserve that and it's almost embarrassing to think about how much of myself I gave to him.
But I know that I deserve the very best and I can make a man very happy. It's such a shame that people take advantage of that sometimes.click to expand
That sums up exactly what I did with my marriage. All the red flags and I let his words make me doubt my intuition. It took me 15 yrs to end it. Take a HUGE lesson from your relationship with that guy: NEVER doubt your intuition, NEVER let someone else repeatedly disrespect your boundaries, yourself, etc. Find out why you let that happen and you'll be better prepared to not repeat that type of a relationship again.
Posted by Stihl46
Scorpio woman Cancer man rough pairing two emotional beings together pretty sure you have never had a man that could affect you emotionally as he could. As a Cancer guy we can understand a Scorpio woman pretty well I bet he knew what you were thinking without you saying anything. Scorpios u feel vulnerable around Cancer's because we under stand you. Scorpios love keep things hidden, Cancer's can be the human lie detectors I imagine you had troubles hiding things from him. The mask you Scorpios wear is pretty invisible around a Cancer.
I have an idea how your relationship was its too hard to explain a Scorp Cancer pairing, its probably best you two walk away and have some separation. You will never forget him and he will never forget you. He might have been scared himself if he's never had a woman that understood him. Scorpio's do like to know about people's dirty little secrets. Scorpio women are pretty emotionally intense. The first start of the relationship you were not as intense then the intensity ramped up. Cancer men are no were near emotionally intense as a Scorpio woman.
The Scorpio woman I'm friends with has the same problems with me I don't think she's ever been with a guy that understands her so well. It scares her that she loses control around me, Scorpios hate feeling vulnerable you feel vulnerable around Cancer men.
Yes, about that you're certainly correct. Cancer men do understand us. At least he did. He did appreciate the fact that I "put up" with his moods and sometimes didn't understand why I even did put up with him. It's not like he didn't ever acknowledge his faults.
But what leaves me confused is although he knew what I desired and craved, he was selfish and made excuses or was so stuck on himself that he didn't do anything. When all I did was give because I cared so much about him. Always was thinking of ways to make him happy like any good woman would want to do! He did admit that he knew that I was acting out because he was being negligent and said he was just going through a lot. I understood and let him do him. But it got ridiculous and wasn't even a functional relationship anymore. He had lot of issues. It would be too much work to finally have something good come out of it. His temper, his silent treatments, his attacks... It was too much and I'm extremely patient and he knew that. But there is a limit.
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberPosted by LadyCalamityPosted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
I am still trying to figure out why any Cancer would believe that Scorpio is a healthy choice as a soul mate.
This story is proof positive about one bringing out the worst side of the other, and vice versa.
At least when Pisceans and Cancers disagree, the defensive behavior is hardly seen in BOTH parties simultaneously and for extended amounts of time.
This crap about "I'm right, and you are wrong" being shouted by a Scorpio at a Cancer, and vice versa will only end in total destruction.
...Which is exactly why I scratch my head in wonder at the Cancers around here who tout this match so often.
Oh well, happiness is evidently not meant for everyone.
At least with our relationship, we never had that you're right and you're wrong mentality.The only experience I had of doing that is with my Aries father. But I love him to death so I just go along with his opinions and ideas lol.
Or relationship issues stemmed mostly from his attitude and me feeling like I was constantly walking on eggshells. Eventually he took my devotion for granted and just did the very minimal when I gave the most.
Hmmm, sounds like you were with a Camp II Cancer.
They are the absolute worst to deal with during a squabble, second only to Leos.click to expand
Hahaha, I didn't even think that they fell into categories now! I'm too nervous about starting any relationship with cancers or water signs in general now!
My dad commented to me today, "I think you need to find yourself a good Pisces man. You would go very well with them." but I couldn't help but think, "oh no... not another water sign." lol
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
I am still trying to figure out why any Cancer would believe that Scorpio is a healthy choice as a soul mate.
This story is proof positive about one bringing out the worst side of the other, and vice versa.
At least when Pisceans and Cancers disagree, the defensive behavior is hardly seen in BOTH parties simultaneously and for extended amounts of time.
This crap about "I'm right, and you are wrong" being shouted by a Scorpio at a Cancer, and vice versa will only end in total destruction.
...Which is exactly why I scratch my head in wonder at the Cancers around here who tout this match so often.
Oh well, happiness is evidently not meant for everyone.
As long as both parties are mentally healthy and mature, why wouldn't it be a healthy pairing? Plus, water/water.
Her story is only proof positive that being in a relationship with a toxic person will end badly, not that Cancers/Scorpios don't make a good match, or that they bring out the worst in each other. I've found that my scorpio friends bring out the best in me, and vice versa, because we're honest with each other, and willing to say what needs to be said knowing it's coming with a big dose of love. They have helped me see myself in a way that helps me grow.
And Pisces/Cancer fights are just a huge bunch of passive aggressive stunts that dissolve into Pisces having grand emo drama and Cancer vindictively being mean, and rather enjoying it at that point.....but that's just based on an old school friend and I, and how I'm no longer going to even bother with his deadbeat, depressing self.
His quick temper anger comes from his Aries moon. When they say water with water equals deluge its true.
All you can do now it walk away and move forward, no not all Cancer guys are like the one you were seeing. Nobody is perfect we all have our flaws when you get in a relationship you have to accept the other persons flaws. I know Scorpios are passionate when it comes to doing things, the Scorpio girl that I'm close to puts her heart and soul into things. The one thing I have found is she doesn't dust herself off easy when she gets knocked down. I've seen her but all she's got into a project she's proud of what she's done then the boss says I don't like it we are not going to use what you did. That knocks her back its hard to explain it makes her feel deflated, I wouldn't say worthless.
I have found with the Scorpio I'm close to is she doesn't give up she's stubborn she doesn't know when to give up she keeps pushing it usually ends up with her getting hurt. She's with a guy now that she isn't totally happy with she's miserable but she just can't let go she takes it out on me.
I know you will be stewing on this break up for awhile the difference between Cancer and Scorpios is we can let go of things I think it has to do with us being a Cardinal sign.
All you can do now it walk away and move forward, no not all Cancer guys are like the one you were seeing. Nobody is perfect we all have our flaws when you get in a relationship you have to accept the other persons flaws. I know Scorpios are passionate when it comes to doing things, the Scorpio girl that I'm close to puts her heart and soul into things. The one thing I have found is she doesn't dust herself off easy when she gets knocked down. I've seen her but all she's got into a project she's proud of what she's done then the boss says I don't like it we are not going to use what you did. That knocks her back its hard to explain it makes her feel deflated, I wouldn't say worthless.
I have found with the Scorpio I'm close to is she doesn't give up she's stubborn she doesn't know when to give up she keeps pushing it usually ends up with her getting hurt. She's with a guy now that she isn't totally happy with she's miserable but she just can't let go she takes it out on me.
I know you will be stewing on this break up for awhile the difference between Cancer and Scorpios is we can let go of things I think it has to do with us being a Cardinal sign.
Stihl, don't give her any bullshit about Cancers letting go of stuff fast! This coming from the guy who still obsesses over the Scorpio gal who is dating a Gem? How long have you been posting about her? Besides, I can hold a grudge for years, and I have, so I know first hand that Cancers do NOT let things go easily.
Stihl, don't give her any bullshit about Cancers letting go of stuff fast! This coming from the guy who still obsesses over the Scorpio gal who is dating a Gem? How long have you been posting about her? Besides, I can hold a grudge for years, and I have, so I know first hand that Cancers do NOT let things go easily.
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
And Pisces/Cancer fights are just a huge bunch of passive aggressive stunts that dissolve into Pisces having grand emo drama and Cancer vindictively being mean, and rather enjoying it at that point.....but that's just based on an old school friend and I, and how I'm no longer going to even bother with his deadbeat, depressing self.
Hehehe, it's funny how you apply grand generalized statements to certain signs, while making a ton of excuses for others.
Please, go on.click to expand
Like you were doing? Point made, or do I need to elaborate?
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
Like you were doing? Point made, or do I need to elaborate?
Nah, just admit you play favorites and make excuses for certain signs, and simultaneously admit you damn other signs and make no excuses for them.click to expand
But I don't do that. I've met a couple of Scorpios who were fucked up people. The assholes of the world are not sign specific, and I've always said that. Do I especially like and get along with Scorpios? Yes! They aren't the only signs I have for friends. I have friends and family in all the signs. Scorpio, Capricorn, Aqua, and Gemini are probably the signs that have the most concentration of people I'm friends with.
Posted by MoonArtist
It's not about him being a Cancer. Any relationship that has you having anxiety, losing weight (or gaining) from stress, constant fighting, etc. is pure toxic. That would describe my ex husband, and he's a Taurus. Toxic people can be found in all signs.
As a Cancer, I adore mature Scorpios, for friends and more. The only ones who have been ick are the ones who are immature or seriously fucked up.
Thank you 🙂 this is exactly how I feel about cancer's. The mature ones are really kind, just like the mature Scorpios. Gosh I'm a Scorpio who absolutely needs to apply every ounce of patience I've learned when dealing with immature Scorpios haha
In regards to experiences I do know what you mean. I used to sleep with a cancer who was used to getting what he wanted as he was very successful and sulky when he didn't get his way. I remember he keeps trying to make me his girlfriend which annoyed me because the life he lived was not for me at all and I found his emotions only extended to his conforts but he was not very empathetic towards others. All his money was funneled into his own life which revolted me, he wanted a big house and fancy cars and I could never understand being that self involved. I thought making money was to help others and to make something of yourself beyond materialism. Needless to say I told him I wouldn't date him because I found his vapid. He still talks to me from time to time but I keep it very light, he hasn't earned a place in my odd little brain. But I still like many cancers around me he and I just had very different lifestyle desires
Posted by MoonArtist
Stihl, don't give her any bullshit about Cancers letting go of stuff fast! This coming from the guy who still obsesses over the Scorpio gal who is dating a Gem? How long have you been posting about her? Besides, I can hold a grudge for years, and I have, so I know first hand that Cancers do NOT let things go easily.
+1
Posted by LadyCalamity
So many emotions, silent treatment,getting offended easily (HIM) pushing and pulling, neglect, lots of selfishness on his part-and it was taking a huge toll on me.
constant anxiety, felt emotionally manipulated and abused and I was on edge all the time about the relationship.I gave so much...only to gain nothing.
He was so wonderful in the beginning and all I could ever dream of. It is so disappointing that it turned out to be a total nightmare.
Any personal experiences?
Pretty much had the same experience, and we weren't even dating! He was sooo sweet when I first met him, offered to be my best friend, buy me a promise ring, etc. Then it changed. VERY Manipulative. I always felt angry/unworthy/sad. I'm currently in the middle of my third "silent treatment" from this guy. Usually last two months. It's definitely made me more wary of Cancers. But it's probably just the less evolved ones.
I'm a June Cancer my B-day is the 24th so I have Gemini traits I'm realizing it now spending time with my buddy who is a July 5th Cancer. He is different from being around him can be depressing at times the other day he was talking about people he hates. I rarely hate people I usually don't hold grudges I'm friendly with everybody.
I seen the Scorpio girl after quite a few weeks I never went up to talk to her just seen her from a distance she's putting on quite a bit of weight she isn't the petite girl when I first met. The stress from her being in an unhappy relationship is taking its toll on her.
I seen the Scorpio girl after quite a few weeks I never went up to talk to her just seen her from a distance she's putting on quite a bit of weight she isn't the petite girl when I first met. The stress from her being in an unhappy relationship is taking its toll on her.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by Kodak375
Shes sounds like shes very self aware with compassion, yeah you just got a bad apple. You'll see a lot of that, signs dont dictate mentality and actions. Just influences with certain patterns.
+1 on this and on MoonArtists comments.
OP: don't give up on water signs. Don't let one man represent all. That would be a big mistake on your part.
When I was single I attracted a lot of Cancer men and I would have to say that about 95% of them were massive red flags for me. Overly emotional (uncontrolled), whiny, overly dramatic and clingy. I've met a few Pisces like this as well. Anyway, I could have easily closed the door but didn't want to judge so harshly. And I'm so glad I didn't because my husband is a Cancer male and he is an absolute perfection of a man. Yes, we do have our occasional disagreements but, it would be ridiculous to even mention in comparison to how wonderful he is and how much of a dedicated and loyal husband he has been to me. No man compares to him in my eyes. He is always there for me, romantic, inspiring... The list goes on and on. I would have had NONE if this, had I made a decision long ago to close the door on ALL Cancer men.
Don't sell yourself short. Lose the fear.
Just make sure that you find someone that flows better with your energy. 🙂click to expand
What an encouraging story! =) Out of curiosity, how long have you two been married and what is his moon sign? I think for now because everything is so fresh, I just want to take a year (maybe a year and a half) to just be single and be content in ME! Being content without a man and reminding myself that my worth and value is not dictated by a man and I don't need one to complete me. When the time is right, everything will fall into place hopefully. Never without hicks, but at least WAY BETTER than what I've been through thus far. Hopefully anyway, lol.
Posted by mgmtlovePosted by LadyCalamity
So many emotions, silent treatment,getting offended easily (HIM) pushing and pulling, neglect, lots of selfishness on his part-and it was taking a huge toll on me.
constant anxiety, felt emotionally manipulated and abused and I was on edge all the time about the relationship.I gave so much...only to gain nothing.
He was so wonderful in the beginning and all I could ever dream of. It is so disappointing that it turned out to be a total nightmare.
Any personal experiences?
Pretty much had the same experience, and we weren't even dating! He was sooo sweet when I first met him, offered to be my best friend, buy me a promise ring, etc. Then it changed. VERY Manipulative. I always felt angry/unworthy/sad. I'm currently in the middle of my third "silent treatment" from this guy. Usually last two months. It's definitely made me more wary of Cancers. But it's probably just the less evolved ones.
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I'm so much happier being out of ALL of that. I say let him go!! You won't regret it, and if you do, well...you might have some deep rooted self esteem issues. You don't deserve silent treatments. That's so horrible and manipulative. At the very least, it would be nice to be offered an explanation.
Bravo for deciding to wait a year or so before you jump into a relationship. Focusing on YOU will be so healing after dealing with that kind of drama. 🙂
Posted by Infinite8Posted by Stihl46
I'm a June Cancer my B-day is the 24th so I have Gemini traits I'm realizing it now spending time with my buddy who is a July 5th Cancer. He is different from being around him can be depressing at times the other day he was talking about people he hates. I rarely hate people I usually don't hold grudges I'm friendly with everybody.
Perhaps that's just a coincidence? In the 12 yrs that I have been with my husband, I have NEVER seen him depressed! Sad - yes. Depressed - no.
He is a July 11, 2nd Decan Cancer as I also find SF's description of the 2nd Decan completely inaccurate when describing my husband.click to expand
I didn't say my friend was depressed, his negativity can be depressing I've been accused of being a negative person but I'm no where near as bad as my buddy. The only time I would get depressed when things started getting tough at work and I was frustrated.
A sun scorpio, moon leo is some intense energy. I do like Scorps but you cats can be harsh and vindictive. Nobody doubts my motives like a Scorpio woman does and more often than not it's "just her imagination, running away..." Well, I can annoying as fuck myself. I just gotta be honest. I've never known a Scorpio woman that didn't create drama and lots of it.
I think what it comes down to is control. I find Scorpios very controlling at their worst. Us Cancers at our worst are moody, contradictory, self-pitying and yes emotionally manipulating. But nobody "gets you back" like a Scorp.
I don't understand why people put all Scorpios in this category. I'm not controlling and none of my exes would ever say I liked drama or started it. As far as a leo moon.... I see zero of that. I would probably fit best in a cancer moon for sure. I don't know if it's because I'm right on the cusp or what. The Scorpio woman I work with is pretty vindictive and mean. She picks out things all the time it's like she's looking for something to create drama about. Everything is super blown out of proportion with her. My father's mom is is a Scorpio too and my dad said she's flat out malicious and hateful. I work with one cancer female and I love her. We get along very well ad she's says she's not a people person so it's funny. She gets really moody all the time though, but she's really just a big sweetheart and we have the greatest time together.
Posted by Este8
A sun scorpio, moon leo is some intense energy. I do like Scorps but you cats can be harsh and vindictive. Nobody doubts my motives like a Scorpio woman does and more often than not it's "just her imagination, running away..." Well, I can annoying as fuck myself. I just gotta be honest. I've never known a Scorpio woman that didn't create drama and lots of it.
Heard some interesting stuff about a Scorpio woman I know of but my friend knows her more than I do. What I was told confirms what I've experienced and yes it seems Scorpio women like drama, they like control. This might be a coincidence but it seems like Scorpio women like weak men ones that they can control. The one I'm close to her BF is weak the one my friend is telling about her BF is weak.
What I laughed about is the drama, the one in my life causes drama she causes drama in her BFs life, the other one I just mentioned she causes drama. I'm trying to currently figure out if another woman I know of is a Scorpio I know her to say hi and that's it so I don't know her B day. I had another friend tell me about her she has all the Scorpio traits and coincidently she loves drama too.
Posted by Este8
I think what it comes down to is control. I find Scorpios very controlling at their worst. Us Cancers at our worst are moody, contradictory, self-pitying and yes emotionally manipulating. But nobody "gets you back" like a Scorp.
Oh yes they like their control I found that out when I first met the Scorpio then I watched her around other people she wasn't just controlling around me. I have a Taurus moon so I like control myself I'm also stubborn. I'm I moody? I can be but I don't have mood swings, can I be contradictory yes, do I use emotional manipulating? yes I'm guilty of it.
Posted by LadyCalamity
I don't understand why people put all Scorpios in this category. I'm not controlling and none of my exes would ever say I liked drama or started it. As far as a leo moon.... I see zero of that. I would probably fit best in a cancer moon for sure. I don't know if it's because I'm right on the cusp or what. The Scorpio woman I work with is pretty vindictive and mean. She picks out things all the time it's like she's looking for something to create drama about. Everything is super blown out of proportion with her. My father's mom is is a Scorpio too and my dad said she's flat out malicious and hateful. I work with one cancer female and I love her. We get along very well ad she's says she's not a people person so it's funny. She gets really moody all the time though, but she's really just a big sweetheart and we have the greatest time together.
Are you a libra cusper or a Sag cusper? the way you are describing yourself you don't have the Scorpio traits. Scorpio women come across all sweet and innocent you don't know what is lurking behind the mask. You start building trust with them that is when its no turning back they start revealing who they are. That public side you see disappears it is like you have walked into another room you see the inner workings. Once you've walked into that room there is no walking back out I have found that out. Scorpio women don't do well when you try go back to being what it was before doesn't work. You will never see that public side of her again they will avoid you. I learned a lesson keep it light and easy don't get emotions involved if you only want to stay friends with a Scorpio. Once you trigger her emotions and she starts caring about you your f**ked.
When things start lacking in a Scorpio woman's life they cause drama I've figured that out if your happiness starts exceeding theirs it makes them angry. The one in my life hates it when I talk about my successes she hated seeing the fact I got recognition at work. I would steal her thunder just to see a reaction.
In my experience Scorpio women like to live in a perfect world I think it has something to do with the fact they are a fixed sign. They hate change they have everything planned ie have their ducks all lined up in a row. Start f**king with the ducks it causes them to get anxious, I found her to get really anxious. I could put her in a situation where she starts feeling anxious you can literally see the fear, a tough Scorpio turns chickens***.
What happened with me and the Scorp girl is I started to over power her she got scared she ramped up the drama. What happened between her and I was a total drama fest and she caused most of it.
Cancer men or myself don't like drama its un-necessary, drama in our lives causes stress. When I get stressed I can turn mean and say things I shouldn't. Start saying things you shouldn't to a Scorpio it turns into a big mess more drama gets created.
In my experience Scorpio women like to live in a perfect world I think it has something to do with the fact they are a fixed sign. They hate change they have everything planned ie have their ducks all lined up in a row. Start f**king with the ducks it causes them to get anxious, I found her to get really anxious. I could put her in a situation where she starts feeling anxious you can literally see the fear, a tough Scorpio turns chickens***.
What happened with me and the Scorp girl is I started to over power her she got scared she ramped up the drama. What happened between her and I was a total drama fest and she caused most of it.
Cancer men or myself don't like drama its un-necessary, drama in our lives causes stress. When I get stressed I can turn mean and say things I shouldn't. Start saying things you shouldn't to a Scorpio it turns into a big mess more drama gets created.
Posted by KoniuchaPosted by Stihl46Posted by Este8
A sun scorpio, moon leo is some intense energy. I do like Scorps but you cats can be harsh and vindictive. Nobody doubts my motives like a Scorpio woman does and more often than not it's "just her imagination, running away..." Well, I can annoying as fuck myself. I just gotta be honest. I've never known a Scorpio woman that didn't create drama and lots of it.
Heard some interesting stuff about a Scorpio woman I know of but my friend knows her more than I do. What I was told confirms what I've experienced and yes it seems Scorpio women like drama, they like control. This might be a coincidence but it seems like Scorpio women like weak men ones that they can control. The one I'm close to her BF is weak the one my friend is telling about her BF is weak.
What I laughed about is the drama, the one in my life causes drama she causes drama in her BFs life, the other one I just mentioned she causes drama. I'm trying to currently figure out if another woman I know of is a Scorpio I know her to say hi and that's it so I don't know her B day. I had another friend tell me about her she has all the Scorpio traits and coincidently she loves drama too.
Wrong. All Scorpio woman do not like drama and control. Same thing as saying all Cancers are big whiney babies. You don't like to hear that, do you?click to expand
Most of the ones I know like control the girls I know that I recently discovered they are Scorpio they like control. I'm realizing being a June cancer I have Gemini traits.
I don't have a cusp on my sun sign. Just my moon sign.
Mars is Scorpio
Venus is Libra
Moon: leo/cancer cusp
Mars is Scorpio
Venus is Libra
Moon: leo/cancer cusp
Posted by LadyCalamity
I don't understand why people put all Scorpios in this category....
And yet you state in the OP:
Posted by LadyCalamity
My cancer/ Scorpio experience was absolutely TERRIBLE and I don't think that I could ever bring myself to date a Cancer man ever again...
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Are you not, in a round about way, doing the same thing? You've basically declared that you may discount an entire group based on a negative experience with one. As Infinite 8 stated, be open to the possibility when you're in a good place again.
I never said all cancers are this way. I said my cancer experience was horrible. But that was only one experience nonetheless. I'm careful now.
I'd like to step out and say, there are two different types of crabs. You got the nice, sweet, funny, slightly reserved when sad or upset crab, and then you got the moody, selfish, funny, lash out when mad or sad crab.
Learn to spot which one you have and your good to go. The only thing they share is the fact that they are both very emotional and you can very easily hurt their feelings. They're reaction when hurt is the difference.
Learn to spot which one you have and your good to go. The only thing they share is the fact that they are both very emotional and you can very easily hurt their feelings. They're reaction when hurt is the difference.
Posted by pinklibra
I'd like to step out and say, there are two different types of crabs. You got the nice, sweet, funny, slightly reserved when sad or upset crab, and then you got the moody, selfish, funny, lash out when mad or sad crab.
Learn to spot which one you have and your good to go. The only thing they share is the fact that they are both very emotional and you can very easily hurt their feelings. They're reaction when hurt is the difference.
In this case, the nice, sweet funny, slightly reserved crab transformed into a moody, selfish, lash out crab in a matter of days and he never went back. It was such a let down.
Posted by KsamCancer
Id like to hear his perspective of things, if he was being unresponsive this is usually a sign of a disagreement that wasnt fully solved in the past. I didnt read every post on here, but Ive never met a cancer moody towards his partner for no reason. Not saying you were wrong, but usually people post their faults in the relationship too.
Well he would just tell me, "That's just the way I am, I can't change overnight."
I have no idea what he would say if someone else were to ask him about the relationship. It wasn't really that he was moody towards me per say, it was just a moodiness in general. Just whenever he was in the mood to be moody, lol.
buying your story at all. First you say...
Posted by LadyCalamity
My cancer/ Scorpio experience was absolutely TERRIBLE and I don't think that I could ever bring myself to date a Cancer man ever again
So many emotions, silent treatment,getting offended easily (HIM) pushing and pulling, neglect, lots of selfishness on his part-and it was taking a huge toll on me. I lost so much weight, had constant anxiety, felt emotionally manipulated and abused and I was on edge all the time about the relationship.I gave so much...only to gain nothing.
And then you say..
Posted by LadyCalamity
Well he would just tell me, "That's just the way I am, I can't change overnight."
I have no idea what he would say if someone else were to ask him about the relationship. It wasn't really that he was moody towards me per say, it was just a moodiness in general.click to expand
So which one was it? He was moody and horrible but not to you? I don't think you're fooling anyone with your "I'm so different, light and fun and all other Scorpios are dark and I can't relate to them at all."
It sounds like you didn't like the way your Cancer bf was and did a lot of complaining and trying to change him and when he resisted, it caused you anxiety and stress. I bet it pissed you off he wouldn't do and act the way you wanted him to. You're actually very typical.
I'm a Cancer w/Aries Moon btw
Posted by LadyCalamityPosted by KsamCancer
Id like to hear his perspective of things, if he was being unresponsive this is usually a sign of a disagreement that wasnt fully solved in the past. I didnt read every post on here, but Ive never met a cancer moody towards his partner for no reason. Not saying you were wrong, but usually people post their faults in the relationship too.
Well he would just tell me, "That's just the way I am, I can't change overnight."
I have no idea what he would say if someone else were to ask him about the relationship. It wasn't really that he was moody towards me per say, it was just a moodiness in general. Just whenever he was in the mood to be moody, lol.click to expand
I can tell you what he'll say and I dont even know him. He's going to paint himself as the victim and say you just dont understand him and wont compromise.lol
My boyfriend is a cancer sun aries moon. And I am a cancer myself. Well he went from a "moody, selfish,lash out in a few days" to a "nice, sweet funny, slightly reserved crab" luckily it was bad to very,very good. Now I can confidently say he is the best. I love every part of him even his aries moon. Even though I highly doubted it would get along with my taurus moon. Cancerians usually mirror the actions of their partners.So if you are manipulative and controlling with them, they will give you a hard time.Most importantly a cancer needs space.
SPACE? In a relationship with a Cancer? Yours must be one of a kind. Lol. That must be that Aries moon kicking in.
I NEED space.
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