Will probably get a lot of backlash for this.... (Page 2)

Posted by pinklibra
SPACE? In a relationship with a Cancer? Yours must be one of a kind. Lol. That must be that Aries moon kicking in.

We both need space. To process our feelings.

Shell,
I'm not here to get you to "buy" my story. It was hot and cold all the time. He took his moodiness that WASN'T caused by me, and took it out on me. Just to clarify. And sometimes he would just be moody and would turn into something I did. Misery enjoyed company.

I didn't complain, I accepted him and that was part of my problem. I put up with the horrible treatment. My anxiety and stress was caused by the constant silent treatments he gave me. And it was so hard not to offend him. I mean, very very difficult. Please don't assume you know about me and exactly what happened in the
relationship- you know absolutely nothing about me. He would constantly acknowledge that he didn't know how I even tolerated his moods lol. No, I did not get pissed because he didn't act the way I wanted him to because I'm not into controlling my men lol. All I wanted was a little respect. I gave him too much.

Posted by joon
My boyfriend is a cancer sun aries moon. And I am a cancer myself. Well he went from a "moody, selfish,lash out in a few days" to a "nice, sweet funny, slightly reserved crab" luckily it was bad to very,very good. Now I can confidently say he is the best. I love every part of him even his aries moon. Even though I highly doubted it would get along with my taurus moon. Cancerians usually mirror the actions of their partners.So if you are manipulative and controlling with them, they will give you a hard time.Most importantly a cancer needs space.

I don't agree they always mirror you. I think people assume all Scorpios are just manipulative and controlling. I'm sure even the cancer guy I was with would agree that I wasn't. We ended the relationship civilly in the end, but he was not ready for a relationship if he was treating me like that and he knew it.

I also forgot to mention he is a Marine. Lol

Posted by aquavita8
Being a fuck9ng fucked Marine is not a good job for a cancer.it contradicts his artistic nature. poor soul. U ought convince him to quit

Apart from the hardship the relationship went through, I'm so happy that he is getting out. I think it would of worked out better for us. He admits that the Marine Corp ruined the majority of his relationships. I wish him all the best and he knows that since that was what I said the last time we talked.

We are not in contact since the breakup and I prefer it that way and so does he. I can't really be friends with my exes lol.

Posted by LadyCalamity
I have no idea what he would say if someone else were to ask him about the relationship.

really? how can you be in a relationship with a person and have no idea how that person viewed you or the relationship? you see yourself as long suffering and too giving... but would he? maybe you don't see yourself as others see you

Posted by LadyCalamity
I think people assume all Scorpios are just manipulative and controlling

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No they don't and most people have a better understanding of astrology on here than to make that sweeping generalization, that you tend to do... then get upitty when generalizations or assumptions are made about you. Didn't you write somewhere that you have a hard time getting along with some because they're vindictive and mean? You put a lot of effort into separating yourself from your own negative statements about Scorpios.

I'm not basing my opinion on your sun sign, I'm basing it on what I read, how your story is very one sided and how you have an over inflated opinion of yourself.

Personally my experience with a Scorpio wasn't bad, he had some issues but who doesn't.

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Posted by LadyCalamity
I have no idea what he would say if someone else were to ask him about the relationship.

really? how can you be in a relationship with a person and have no idea how that person viewed you or the relationship? you see yourself as long suffering and too giving... but would he? maybe you don't see yourself as others see you

Posted by LadyCalamity
I think people assume all Scorpios are just manipulative and controlling

No they don't and most people have a better understanding of astrology on here than to make that sweeping generalization, that you tend to do... then get upitty when generalizations or assumptions are made about you. Didn't you write somewhere that you have a hard time getting along with some because they're vindictive and mean? You put a lot of effort into separating yourself from your own negative statements about Scorpios.

I'm not basing my opinion on your sun sign, I'm basing it on what I read, how your story is very one sided and how you have an over inflated opinion of yourself.

Personally my experience with a Scorpio wasn't bad, he had some issues but who doesn't.

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Well, I guess I don't know what else to say. I can say that I'm being as honest as possible and you guys still defend the fact that he was the one mistreating me. I hate that I give so much of my heart only to have it stepped on.

And now I'm just really emotional and sad now lol. Yeah I'm really stupid. It's just a thread but for some reason I'm just emotional. I guess it just hurts that I give so much and I'm blamed that it's fault.

Like I said, I can't read his mind. At least he can never say I was psycho and crazy. He was the one throwing phones across the room and punching his truck.

And to answer your question, yes, he would. He told me so on several I occasions. We ended it on good terms and him not having me for anything. He told me he realized that he was neglecting me and he thought he was ready for a relationship but wasn't. Told me that was a great girl and he was really sad about how it all ended. So, I guess I would say his opinion is the only one that matters.

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Posted by pinklibra
I'd like to step out and say, there are two different types of crabs. You got the nice, sweet, funny, slightly reserved when sad or upset crab, and then you got the moody, selfish, funny, lash out when mad or sad crab.
Learn to spot which one you have and your good to go. The only thing they share is the fact that they are both very emotional and you can very easily hurt their feelings. They're reaction when hurt is the difference.

In this case, the nice, sweet funny, slightly reserved crab transformed into a moody, selfish, lash out crab in a matter of days and he never went back. It was such a let down.

It's because we can be both.

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I handled his moods. I just couldn't handle the emotional abuse, and him drinking his problems away and treating me disrespectfully.When he drinks he is 100xs worse. He is Russian so I guess I can't blame him lol.

I can't believe that I actually took the time out of my day to create a profile so I can jump on this thread but I couldn't resist. Perhaps I can offer you some expertise on the subject of astrology. I have been following these forums for a very long time and glad stumbled upon yours today. I get a kick out of people who say things and accuse you of making "sweeping generalizations" like Mr. whatever his name is up there, because it is in fact evident that he doesn't know...s- wait, can we curse on here? Well anyway, you don't strike me as a "stereotypical" Scorpio if what you're saying is honest and true and I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and conclude you are being honest. By any chance Lady, do you have a Cancer moon or close?

My mother is an astrologist. Yes, she does this for a living and she gets amazing money doing it. My father focus on different parts of astrology and it's more of a "side" thing for him. My mom however has coached relationships, lead on successful marriages, and does seminars and readings. She takes EVERYTHING into account and she is beyond accurate, unlike most people here. I have followed and am following after her footsteps (although I am not nearly as advanced as she is) and proud to be. Astrology is absolutely mind blowing.I've actually showed my mother some topics that have been started in this site and many times she gets a good laugh. Other times, she is astronished at how well people do their research. People need to do more research though 🙂. There is more that meets the stars.

Posted by shellshocker

I'm not basing my opinion on your sun sign, I'm basing it on what I read, how your story is very one sided and how you have an over inflated opinion of yourself.

Maybe she's, oh I don't know, actually telling the truth?

Posted by Arielle83
Are you advertising?

No. I was saying that to say that I have an extensive knowledge of astrology thanks to my mother. If I were advertising I'd be asking her to consult my mother. Which I didn't. Besides, she doesn't offer online services nor would she be interested. This is my welcome!!? 😉

I understand that I could of opened my statement more tactfully LOL. Sorry guys. I'm human, I promise.

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Posted by Arielle83
Are you advertising?

No. I was saying that to say that I have an extensive knowledge of astrology thanks to my mother. If I were advertising I'd be asking her to consult my mother. Which I didn't. Besides, she doesn't offer online services nor would she be interested. This is my welcome!!? 😉

Yes. Lol Welcome bud, can't wait to see the value you add to the community!

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Thanks! =D I wasn't exactly planning to but now I guess I can respond to conversations that I've been dying to have with some of you people! I come on here every other day to see what everyone is talking about and just have never taken the time to make an account. Relationship talk/compatibility comparisons seem to be the biggest things you all post about.

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Posted by Arielle83
Well since she came in claiming she knows more than most people here, due to her momma, she better add value.

The condescending attitude probably doesn't warrant a warm welcome though.

Read some Dale Carnegie.

Easy hun, don't go for the throat just yet. lol

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Yikers...

Also, I'm a man.

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Posted by Arielle83
Well since she came in claiming she knows more than most people here, due to her momma, she better add value.

The condescending attitude probably doesn't warrant a warm welcome though.

Read some Dale Carnegie.

Easy hun, don't go for the throat just yet. lol

Yikers...

Also, I'm a man.

Really? That's good.

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Yes. It's very good. I prefer it that way. lol

Foxyn..



Run!

(my way of saying hello)

Posted by LadyCalamity
I can say that I'm being as honest as possible and you guys still defend the fact that he was the one mistreating me.

defending him? I didn't know this was a you vs the absent him thread... or maybe I did.

Posted by Foxyn
I understand that I could of opened my statement more tactfully LOL. Sorry guys. I'm human, I promise.

awww, you're here armed with Mommy's guidance. cancer male?

Posted by shellshocker
I didn't know this was a you vs the absent him thread... or maybe I did.

In all honesty, all relationship topics are like that. Unless we get the full on drama from both sides.

Mellow down, Aries Moon. Venus is in Cancer..we should be more nurturing.

omg shell is going for the jugular.

see OP? cancer are ebil, more ebil, the ebilest. vicious creatures.

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Posted by Foxyn
I understand that I could of opened my statement more tactfully LOL. Sorry guys. I'm human, I promise.

awww, you're here armed with Mommy's guidance. cancer male?

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LOL. Can't love, be proud of, and respect my mom despite whatever my sign might be? Hmm, doesn't that sound like a "sweeping generalization" to you? Astrology is something I have been PERSONALLY doing for years, not through my mother. I credit her to my interest. I'm sorry you imagined me still living at home in her basement.

You know, you seem very attacking on this thread. It's not even helpful. Something tells me "helpful" wasn't what you were aiming for. All you've done is attack OP with various questions, tell her how she is wrong, and then proceed to tell her about herself via your point of view. It's kind of ironic.

Posted by Damnata
Foxyn..



Run!

(my way of saying hello)

I can tell LOL. This is why I spent ages never joining because what's the point in having intellectually mature conversations about astrology with people who just can't. I would love nothing more than to be helpful, but apparently that's not appropriate either.

Posted by Kodak375
And Virgos have cooties.

come for a hug. let me infect you.

Posted by KsamCancer
I have a couple marine friends, theyre free spirited people. Drinking is apart of their life. I dont think this guy was a bad guy, just probably less clingy than you expected. Could be some cultural differences too. Just don't come here bad mouthing the guy, if he caused you stress by being moody, im 99% sure that there was just miscommunication. I dont think this guy purposely went out of his way to make your life hell. You guys werent compatible simple as that,cut your loses and move on, dont bad mouth the guy

Yeah, I actually have no idea how it got to that point because the whole point of the thread was to point out that I had a horrible cancer/scorp experience and I just wanted to see what other opinions were on those that have dated in that combo. I don't think he is a bad guy, but I've never had a difficult relationship like that I guess my emotions got the best of me and I started VENTING about it all. It's still fresh of course, so moving on is a healing process. I know it is for him too. We were both super disappointed it didn't work out. He admitted he was neglecting me and he couldn't help it. He couldn't get a grasp on his emotions at that point in his life. He said he didn't know how to control his anger and moods and I felt bad that I couldn't help but I realized that even trying to the best woman I could be for him couldn't change his emotional issues, you know. Not that I was perfect at all, I have my rough patches for sure lol (TRUST MEHHHH). But I put forth the effort and gave my best even if I did fail sometimes. But yes, you're right, the intention was never to let out anger about this guy even though that's what I did here. I feel bad about it. He just really hurt me, is all. When I got out of the relationship I was first relieved, then sad, then angry because I felt taken for granted and I felt like I wasted my time. It's been really hard for me. SHARK WEEK GAAAAHH.

Posted by Kodak375
Nothing but... glitter and pain. lmao

Yeah man, Idk about glitter...

Posted by Kodak375
And Virgos have cooties.

My wife is a Virgo with a Capricorn moon. I'm not complaining...yet LOL.

This got interesting.

What are your placements Foxyn?

@OP. If everything else fails, consider yourself psychic for the intuition you displayed in picking the topic title 😆

OP, as far as experiences are concerned, most everyone will be different. Yes there is a "generalization" but like I already stated there is more to it than that.

You must look at the entire timed birthchart for both individuals, and also look for "synastry aspects" between any of one person's 10 planets and any of the other persons' 10 planets.

Signs do not indicate the quality of interaction or how you both will get along, in fact-it is the synastry aspects that show that.

And in order to find the synastry aspects we have to know what degree of the sign (each sign is 30 degrees wide) EACH of the 10 planets is in, and then measure the distances to the other person's 10 planets. Insight comes from the aspects.

To give a synastry reading, well let's just say it can take 1.5-2 hours of talking. NOW THAT, is a lot of insight, detail, and information about how the two people interact, and why they get along (or not) the way they do.

The whole idea of comparing signs for compatibility is by many true astrologers likened to "a money-making scam." It doesn't actually work. You have to look at the whole chart. That is why everyone experiences will be so dynamically different. Like yours compared to others. Obviously.

Thanks for Pming me back, btw. And so for anyone who wants to know If you are a Leo moon in 1 degree, you are STILL a Leo moon. But it is evident that other placements on your chart change the whole dynamic of a "typical leo moon" Don't use "cusps" there are NO cusps.

"Cusp" means where one thing ends and another starts. The change, Sun, the Moon, and all the planets can not and will not be in two places at once, they are either in one sign of the other and never in both. I might get a lot of hate for saying that, but in REAl astrology this is fact, trust me.

Which method does your mother favor?

Synastry vs Composite?

I keep reading about synastry being used to gauge attraction between people with composite describing the dynamic that plays in the long run.

Posted by Damnata
This got interesting.

What are your placements Foxyn?

@OP. If everything else fails, consider yourself psychic for the intuition you displayed in picking the topic title 😆

Damnata, I would love to share my placements...only, I notice you all use them against each other.


"ERMERGERD, you're a Virgo! Not wonder you're so damn finicky!"
"WOW SCORPIO,YOU manipulative lying hoodrat! . Stop obsessing over me!!"
"CANCERS, stop crying you moody jerk."
"Aries YOU SELFISH PRICKS"
"OMG Gemini, stop being an annoying attention whore!"

and the list goes on.

I'm not sure I'm up to someone analyzing me and chalking me down to one figure. I don't know, what do you think? 😉

Wow, this thing just fixed W. H. O. R. E.


Attention W...H...O...R...E

Fire placements.

But you are reactionary so there has to be water too.

My Mother actually likes to use both composite and synastry charts. She looks at them differently though.

In a composite chart basically you only have one chart to interpret. Its much more simple. And I myself have found them to be applicable for a relationship. When looking at a composite chart you can actually see conjunctions easily or any "red flags" immediately.

But sometimes you can see a composite chart of a 10, 15, 20 plus years or more relationship and can find what is called "T Squares" and many red flags (that leave you thinking that there is no way it would possibly work out lol) but because they had other good aspects, they were overcome them with persistence and compromise and patience. So when looking at a chart it can seem impossible sometimes....but can be overcome because aspects can't be compared to Life Lessons and free will.You can desire to get through the issues or walk away from the relationship..

And another thing I have noticed is that when there are issues in the composite chart that those same issues are prominent in the synastry chart. So they both yield similar results basically.

In Synastry you tend to look at the conjunctions. In Synastry is that you have more information regarding who is doing what to the other person" (many astrologers will tell you that too )

They are similar but yet different ways of interpreting the relationship. But if you just want to do a quick job, I do like the composite as it is obvious what the issues will be and the energy of the relationship itself.

Posted by Damnata
This got interesting.

What are your placements Foxyn?

@OP. If everything else fails, consider yourself psychic for the intuition you displayed in picking the topic title 😆

Hahah!!! I love your spirit!

Scop hug to sweet Virgo =)

Scorp* lol

lmao what a thread +10000

Posted by vattuman
lmao what a thread +10000

I'm sure by the end of it we will find where Waldo is hiding.

Also, I love Aquarius. +2 because 2 is always better than one. You're always welcome in this tiny little abode of a thread. Cookies located to the left. Bedroom to the right. Cookies in bedroom also to right.

Jokes though.