You like being fussed over hey?...

What is this?
You cancers like to be fussed over, taken care of... but why do you sometimes refuse what I'm offering?
He's hungry, he's hungry and has no time to go out to get something to eat... and i offered him something to eat, which i know he's eaten before, he likes it... but no! I'm ok he says! and i saw it coming, HE DID have some time to go out to get something, but i think he wanted me to fuss...
but why in the end you don't accept what I'm giving?!
Pride?
Please someone some CANCER out there explain that one to me?

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Ugh... all men like to be fussed over... they're all babies. Although I think some signs appreciate the fussing more than others.

A Cancer tends to appreciate the fussing and will notice something like your fluffing his pillow so he can see the TV better, while (for comparison's sake) a Sagittarius will barely even notice you've spent all day cooking his favorite meal. He'll just know he was fussed over (cuz he's a boy) and fussing=good.

Makes me want to spoil Cancers rotten (and Tauruses can do some major fussing) because they always shows how much they love, love, love it... and this may very well be what you've done!

so what you're saying even though he didn't take my offer, the food to eat, he STILL liked the fussing over? You think?
For a minute i almost thought he didn't care about my fussing over him getting somthing to eat!!
but you think he did like my fussing?

Cafrella, we can never give you an appropriate advice b/c we were not there, we didn't see his facial expression or know exactly what he said. Only you were there, you have to judge this for yourself. Sometimes, life is about trial and error, and you just have to have the guts to try something out. It seems like you really like this guy, and since you work together there's always the trade off between him saying yes or no. By that I mean, if he says yes then all your work has paid off, but if he says no then you have to see him everyday and the awkwardness can be tough. I know, I've been in this situation before. You just have to decide whether the cost is worth the benefit. In my situation, I did decide to ask the girl out (who worked in my division), and it didn't work out. But you know what? I'm glad I did b/c I've stopped thinking about her and there are no thoughts of what ifs and such.

I think this is one you really have to judge for youself. In life, you win some and you lose some, but you always have to try. I know i sound like i'm 100 years old right now 😛 you don't have to point it out... It seems like this is really tearing you up, I mean is all this confusion worth it? I wouldn't be able to take it, I would just go and find out the most direct way.

Good luck.

To add, I felt really terrible right after she said no, but remember that time erodes everything, and in the long term, I felt much better. Since I never have to wonder "what if". This is a much better feelling then always contemplating of whether she likes me or not, and what would happen.. blah blah blah

We care wbout others a lot, so we like to get some back once in a while. THAT is more important than a sandwich.

She never said it was a sandwich... Are you the one that Cafrella is fussing over mr.crabby 😉? Damn you get around.... It's that dog isn't it?

A chihuahua is such a great chick magnet.

YES CANCERS LOVE TO BE FUSSED OVER! They do they do and you be even a little inconsiderate and watch them pout and become quiet. You big babies! One time my guy got irritated because I didn't clean the passenger seat before he got in my car and he called me inconsiderate... ?? I was like this: ( —?? ) huh? just because there was a few peanut crumbs... isssh

But then ladies this whole being fussed over stuff is also not such a bad thing because if you can do a little fussing you will have their attention. And I love to fuss over my man, just not so openly ya know, I'm not going "u need this ? u need that ? u ok ?" I'll just notice something he might need or might want and I'll provide. That's also if I'm happy I'm not rewarding bad behavior hmph 😛

If i'm so cute, you should come over, OFA.

Can this be true also...
Like this is all new to me, so i've been trying or testing it... but if i fuss one day about something, like i did last week about making sure he gets lunch something to eat, well the very next day he repeated the same scenario, he ALWAYS goes out to eat, never brings food in, and the next day again he wasn't going out to eat (but my friend told me she saw him eating a pastry in his office which he had brought in) so i was wondering, is this his way of letting me know he "wants" me to fuss over him? Is he "hoping" for me to fuss?

Honestly, I don't even understand the issue. What are you questioning exactly? Does he get mad or something if you don't make sure he gets something to eat? I don't get it :\

Just one day i made a big fuss and told him you have to go out and get something (showing concern about him getting food in his tummy!). He didn't go he was too busy so i offered him something i had here to eat and made a big fuss, (which i think he enjoyed)but he said i appreciate the offer but I'll be ok.

THen the next day again he didn't go out to eat, sort of complained to me that he was starting to get hungry so again (and my friend saw him eating a pastry in his office)

so i was just wondering if he was actually trying to get me "to fuss" over him!?

Obviously he fully expects you to do the womanly thing once he has realised that you maybe good at it.

No no no it's all wrong! are we talking about being fussy? about fussing someone to eat in a fussy manner? One thing is to show concern, do the 'woman' thing that men like, but fussing? I don't know about that. I mean just even the word fuss sounds bothersome and annoying. Concern, yes, asking if he wants something, yes, insisting one more time, yes but NO MO'! I really doubt he likes that, I mean if he keeps refusing that's what it tells me. Otherwise why not just say 'ok, sure thanx' I mean it's not like if he accepts you'll stop fussing. Catering like that to a man is bound to make them take you for granted.
Take your cell phone for example, it's there, always useful but do you ever really stop to appreciate it? do you ever think about what you would do if it wasn't there if your car broke down in the middle of nowhere? no no no where's my cell phone? i'm gonna pet it lol something along those lines buh bye

Sorry tauruschic!
I meant "show concern", but i said fuss... but it is true that Cancers like it A LOT if you fuss, show concern over them, they like to be babied... No?

I just thought that he sort of liked the fact that i fussed or showed concern over him not getting lunch... and AS A MATTER OF FACT... yesterday he did it again... it was 3:30pm and then he comes to see me... "boy oh boy I better run out and get some lunch!" i looked at my watch... Yep! it's getting kind of late for lunch!
But you know, i just wonder if it's his way to see if i'll SHOW concern...because he enjoys it?
I'm starting to think that he does it on purpose now...he WANTS me to say oh isn't it time for you to get some lunch and so on...

I think so, my crab is such a baby. I know he got butthurt just because I was distant the day before. The only thing was that at the movies I put the armrest down and sat away from him, I ignored him a bit. Sometimes I just like to feel like I'm the only person in the world, content inside myself and I don't want to pay attention to you. Well the next day he was distant and when he's butthurt he likes to be sarcastic and can actually be hurtful sometimes. Ouch, ouch, crabby pinching me, naughty crab! lol oh I crack myself up 😛 Oh but he's butthurt, my cutezy lil' pinching crab, he needs a bear hug and a kiss on the cheek 🙂 I'm out, yup to help my moody crab with something.