You wanna understand Cancer in Love?

Read this...

Initially, people in love tend to behave in similar ways. But if Cancer becomes truly involved, the myth of the mother is likely to begin to enter. This may mean needing to be mothered - and this can apply to women as well as men. Many Cancer women look for rather maternal men - men who will be kind and gentle with them. Equally often, it means Cancer wants to do the mothering. Show your pain, your helplessness, your weakness, your need, and you have won Cancer where your strengths might interest him much less. Remember that Cancer needs to be needed. And don't expect everything to be spoken. It's a rare Cancer who wears his or her heart in full view on the sleeve. You have to learn to read signals, if you're involved with Cancer. And become a gifted interpreter of moods. Sullen sulkiness means he feels rejected. Clinginess means he needs reassurance. Whining means he's feeling sorry for himself today. Crabbiness means he's feeling unappreciated. And so on. But try to confront the issue, and the Crab will slide away from you. Usually he doesn't understand himself what's going on. It's just a stray mood.

This is ESPECIALLY FOR YOU, TaurusGoddess...Learn the signs!

This came from the website: http://songsdomain.tripod.com/cancer/index.html<BR> THANKS TO KAFKA!

Cancers have to grow up, eventually.

Hey Mr. Crabby...

You are supposed to be on OUR side! The eternal child in us helps keep us young!

You can push crabs to grow up as much as you want and they'll remain kids, so i wouldn't worry about that.

My father 56 years old Crab and still a kid.

Haha, you guys are all so cute. 🙂

Thanks CL, and I have seen those things. Well most of them. More than clingy, he becomes distant. Everyone is still different even if they have a sign. That is a very close to good example for a guideline. One thing I hate is distance though, there is nothing in the world I can really do. Reaching out pushes away. We had a good time on saturday night though. I felt like he let me in a lot more. I guess some things take time. It builds trust, which I am huge on. I hardly give my heart earlier than later. I told him, if I say something I really mean it, but that I make sure that before I say it, I know it.

You crabs are such interesting creatures and I can appreciate that, for that inspires me, and makes me grow. I only hope I can do the same for you.

-TG

Me when i'm in love ,which i'm now am, i tend to make sure i listen alot. when i see someone try to move in i make sure dat she has my attention. Well as being a kid, we all have a kid in all of us..... but if u mean acting childish,temper tantrum das some cancers. Some do dat cause they don't get what they want. The being distance thing comes from hurt. And if the Cancer doesn't know how to handle it(hurt), then he/she internalises it and boy do we ever show it. It's jus dat we are emotional beings, sometimes we can be some mean ass cold m********ers. BUt once u show us u want us,need us respect us then u have us wholeheartedly.

thanx for the thread CL. This one makes so much more sense than many of hte other "assupmtions" on cancers. Yeah a lot of what ahs been said here matches. But age and experinces are deciding factor on how soon they grow up or do they grow up at all? even when being totaly matured..cancerians never let that child liek enthusiasm and always giving hteir heart another chance,the spirit of enquiry- to die down...that si the quality i would interprete as childliek in them.

Daemon's interpretation is also very realsitic.

Do any of you guys feel younger than you are, im a 29 year old male cancer, yet i dont feel 29, i thought i would feel a particular way at 29, or 28 or 27, i definately feel younger than i am, i also look younger than my age.

Ever noticed how us cancers will hold stuff in and bottle things up for a long time and then one day we let it all out and scare the living daylights outaa people, its like hell opening up, all that held in emotion pouring out in one go, i done it so many times over the years, i take all this stuff on board till one day all the pent up agression floods out and shocks the hell out of the people around at that time.

Yeah Moloko...

I have a BAAAD habit of holding things in until I do explode, then I bring up ALL the things that have ever bothered me and scare the daylights out of people...when I fly into a REAL rage...it is NOT pretty. Not at all.

I'm glad everyone appreciated this...I know reading the Pisces one helped me to understand more WHY they do what they do, so I thought I would help those in love with Cancers also understand WHY we act the way we do. Thanks to Kafka because that's who lead me to the site.

Oh yeah...I've never completely felt "grown" either...I guess it has to do with the consummate mother/child person within all of us. When we don't have to be the mother, we don't. Also I do tend to mother my boyfriends...Mr Pisces loves it though, he always says I treat him how he always wanted to be treated by a woman...(I can't tell by the way he treats ME sometimes, but WHATEVER). But we can be subtly domineering, but if you think about it...in most families the father thinks he's running things when really it is the mother "planting" the ideas in the father's head making him think it was his idea when really she runs things...We are the "mothers" of the zodiac...

You might hate him, but i couldn't be with someone who reacts like that. I HATE PEOPLE WHO LOSE CONTROL!!!!!

That being said, you really need to shut up for a while and play nice, because that was a very big mistake on your part. Keep telling yourself stillllllll, but it looks like you're trying to break things off.

Not very taurusy, though, wtf.

Tauruschic,

I think you should just give each other a little space,I'm sure things will be back to normal pretty soon.You've to understand cancer men have this thing about the past,he had feelings for this woman in the past...even though now he's with you,you cannot expect him to totally ignore her.

On the other hand, considering the story from your side...there must have been something in his or her behavior...something he said or did not say that made you feel
insecure in your relationship...you felt threatened by the presence of this woman...I think without bottling it all up inside...you should talk to him about this rationally when both of you are feeling a bit calmer.I'm sure he'll understand...it takes a lot of mental agony before a taurus acts the way you did.

I hope this helps...

take care.

Well Here's my two cents also...

I can tell you that if he didn't want you...he would have sided with the ex, right?
If he didn't want you...he wouldn't have bothered to explain himself to you about her.

Yeah he might not have been RUDE to her to make her leave, but I know I personally am only rude when a person PUSHES me to it. Remember we side-step confrontation most of the time.

He is a man...you chasing after the other woman only boosted his ego (two women should NEVER fight over a man in my opinion) then you going crazy depending on the severity...he might have actually enjoyed that too. We like a little bit of jealousy, but I wouldn't keep harassing him about his ex...that might push him away. I don't mind people being possesive of me, but they have to trust me or else I will run or cheat!

She is being a B**** because she OBVIOUSLY see's what she is missing out on, so by making you go crazy (placing you in a bad light in his eyes) it makes it easier for her to slip in. Women can be very vindictive and cunning at times, keep that in mind.

Sweetie, if he told you he was going hunting...do you REALLY think he is going to take a cell phone with him to the woods? Let's be realistic here.

Seems like from what you have written the majority of your problems stem from the ex...she is his ex for a reason and even if he left you, he probably wouldn't get back with her. Remember he was chasing after YOU, not her. And she showed up to HIS house UNANNOUNCED...what man in his right mind would invite another woman over when he has his girl over his house? Not a very smart one and you wouldn't want him if he did that anyway!

I say lay low for a couple days...apologize for your behavior...let him know how you feel in a calm manner...I think you will be okay!

CL/Cm2

Holy wow, crab23, never expected such a post from you to me. Ok well, thank you.

I think my best choice is to give lots of space & and take some steps back instead of crying about what I might not even have. His birthday is on July 18. (Mine is April 25) I don't think astrologically it looks too impressive, but besides that I see lots of stress with this one. Maybe I gotta just step away and if he cares he'll follow. I feel like I've been putting in way more than him & this to me is not a relationship.
It was; and it was good. But that is past tense.

No, it's not, move along.