Sola
@Sola
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6 dates
Well, as you haven't made up your own mind yet, I'd say no.
+1 Beautiful
If you haven't made up your mind then there is no need to approach the "talk."
If he's online dating it's because he's not serious with you (yet) which is fine because as of now you're just dating and having fun thus him being on his online dating profile is reasonable.
If you haven't had sex yet then I suggest setting a boundary around sex---anywhere from 3 to 6 months is reasonable amount of time to wait for sex which will give him an opportunity to get to know you and vice versa therefore he'll get off the sight once he's put in some of his energy, time and effort getting to know you without you bringing it up.
If you haven't made up your mind then there is no need to approach the "talk."
If he's online dating it's because he's not serious with you (yet) which is fine because as of now you're just dating and having fun thus him being on his online dating profile is reasonable.
If you haven't had sex yet then I suggest setting a boundary around sex---anywhere from 3 to 6 months is reasonable amount of time to wait for sex which will give him an opportunity to get to know you and vice versa therefore he'll get off the sight once he's put in some of his energy, time and effort getting to know you without you bringing it up.
I agree with holding out on sex.....but 5 months is way too long. Maybe 2 months...max.
Lol, I'm seeing a Capricorn myself. Cappies are not hard to read, we just think they are because they don't express their feelings much, this takes time, a WHOLE lot of time before they open up and let you in. But action speaks louder than words. He spends time with you, he invited you to his place...this guy likes you, but yea Cappies in general are slow to commit, he's still testing the water. 6 dates is nothing!! You will need a lot more patience when it comes to dating Capricorn men. Don't worry about the dating website, and let him take the lead. However, set a time frame for yourself as to how long you're willing to just play the field til he brings up the talk, don't be that girl that dates him for 5 months or more without him calling you his gf. One thing with Cappies, they might act like they re your bf but if they haven't sat down and have "the talk" with you, you are not his gf. For now, just enjoy his company and get to know him.
Its not that im keen to rush in! I just feel like he isnt really trying to get to know me in ways im familiar with, ie i went to dinner but he didnt really ask me anything about myself. On previous dates its been the smalltalk, like work, friends, family and i felt that the whole going to his place meant maybe something a more personal things, like past relationships. Plus I make most of the conversation. Not like he acts disinterested in any way at all, its just his way I suppose. Oh, its been 4 dates ver a month so we already had sex, shiiiiitttttt hot sex too 🙂
*sorry, i meant to say 6 dates over a month*
Posted by Sola
Its not that im keen to rush in! I just feel like he isnt really trying to get to know me in ways im familiar with, ie i went to dinner but he didnt really ask me anything about myself. On previous dates its been the smalltalk, like work, friends, family and i felt that the whole going to his place meant maybe something a more personal things, like past relationships. Plus I make most of the conversation. Not like he acts disinterested in any way at all, its just his way I suppose. Oh, its been 4 dates ver a month so we already had sex, shiiiiitttttt hot sex too 🙂
It takes a while for a cap to relax and open up. I wouldn't sweat it. Give him time. He'll gradually open up little by little. He's got to be able to trust you first, so just let him get to know you. Even though he isn't asking, you're volunteering who you are through your conversation topics. Some people don't ask questions because they don't want to pry. It seems like he likes what he sees so far. Just continue being yourself.
Posted by evalani290
After 5 months you'll be back on the Capricorn board with a new thread "My Capricorn man left me,i'm confused"
Good luck though,you're gonna need it lol
LOL! Sorry but this did make me laugh 😄
Posted by evalani290
He's a Capricorn,he won't initiate nothing too soon.
Capricorn men are slow to commit but dead serious about it. Six dates it's nothing to him,he's putting you through "X-Rays".
What do you like,how you talk about other people,how you treat people,how important is your family for you,how loyal,ambitious,strong,genuine or intelligent are you.
I agree with this. We need time to observe and process whether you are a good fit for us.
Posted by evalani290
If you think he's hard to read,this man is not for you.
I tend to disagree with this. I have been told I'm hard to read. Generally, Caps are hard to read because we're guarded and don't express our true feelings until we're certain about you...we have to trust first. That takes time.
Posted by evalani290
if you have to decide between "fun or something more" after six dates with him,he'll decide that before you do.
This is a special man,from every point of view.
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Truth here. Six dates is too fast. If you push for more so soon, red flags will go off and he will leave. It takes time to develop feelings. Let them develop without pressure.
*and I shouldn't say "we" because I can't speak for every capricorn*
Posted by Sola
Its not that im keen to rush in! I just feel like he isnt really trying to get to know me in ways im familiar with, ie i went to dinner but he didnt really ask me anything about myself. On previous dates its been the smalltalk, like work, friends, family and i felt that the whole going to his place meant maybe something a more personal things, like past relationships. Plus I make most of the conversation. Not like he acts disinterested in any way at all, its just his way I suppose. Oh, its been 4 dates ver a month so we already had sex, shiiiiitttttt hot sex too 🙂
LOL! That's exactly how it was with me and my Cap when we first started getting to know each other. That is just the way he is!
I keep reading posts that says Caps have to trust first and that takes "time" for them.....key "subjective" word being "time"! Was with my Cap for 4yrs and after 6 weeks of dating and heavy escapades we were living together....I had just purchased a new home prior to meeting him and he thought it'd be a good idea for him to move in my place even though we spent alot of time at his place over mine. Now he could've very well kept his own place, he's a nuclear scientist engineer who has always done well financially, so us living together definitely was not primarily based on monetary reasons. We just truly enjoyed spending loads of time together....was always that way from the start. My best friend of 20+yrs is a Cap female and it always fascinated me on how they were similar yet very different in terms of dating.
Posted by Lovelyisis
I had just purchased a new home prior to meeting him and he thought it'd be a good idea for him to move in my place even though we spent alot of time at his place over mine.
You weren't suspicious of his motives at the time?
(my scorpio parts are showing!)
whats the alternative..awkward silence?!
p.s, Librans dont "do" silence..we are communicators, we need conversational diversity, challenge and inspiration.
Posted by Sola
whats the alternative..awkward silence?!
Lol, there will be silence, but it shouldn't be awkward. At least not with my Cap, there are plenty of silent moments but none of them are awkward.
I don't know about most Cappies, but the one I'm seeing definitely isn't the guy of many words, occasionally he would look at me, then I would ask him "What?", he would just smile and not say anything. He doesn't talk about emotional stuff either, unless he senses that something is bothering me, or if I bring something up. He appears cold to people that don't really know him, and it took me a while to get him to open up, I'm not quite there yet but I can see at the end, it will be very rewarding.
Posted by Sola
p.s, Librans dont "do" silence..we are communicators, we need conversational diversity, challenge and inspiration.
You need A LOT of patience! Cappies aren't like any other signs I've dated. They are simple, but yet very complex, they have so many layers that you just need to keep peeling to get to the last one. WIthout patience you're pretty much screwed. Plus cappies are very careful when it comes to choosing their partner, he will make the decision if you're the right one for him, there's nothing u can do about it except for being yourself and hope that he will see you as a match.
Posted by evalani290Posted by Sola
whats the alternative..awkward silence?!
How about something in between?
Capricorn don't talk if they don't have nothing to say,they don't blabber just to blab and not talking doesn't mean they don't have nothing to say but they prefer meaningful conversations.
They can be very funny too and goofy but only with someone they trust.
Loosen up and talk to him,listen to what he has to say,you really haven't figured out what he likes or dislikes in "6 dates"?
As a person,not as a "good lay".
It may sound funny this coming from a woman but being a woman doesn't mean you get the right to be put on a pedestal just because,show you worth it and act like a lady with interest in what he's all about,maybe then he'll consider opening up to you.
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This reply is ON POINT!
I don't know about everyone else, but to me comfortable silence is is a good thing. When you can be together and not have to say anything and just "be" together without having to talk is relaxing.
Posted by truecap
I don't know about everyone else, but to me comfortable silence is is a good thing. When you can be together and not have to say anything and just "be" together without having to talk is relaxing.
Every man's dream..........
Comfortable silence grows between people. When you're trying to get to know a new person, there should be too much to talk about!
What do you talk about when you're together? What subjects do you bring up?
Ask him if he had a whole day he could do anything he wanted to do, what would he do. That should get him to talking.
Remember, sometimes, capricorns are socially illiterate. Some caps are very shy or timid when it comes to social interaction so if you could get him to learn to be comfortable with you and relax, he'll talk more.
Or ply him with alcohol - I can't seem to shut up when I'm drinking. 🙂
Ask him if he had a whole day he could do anything he wanted to do, what would he do. That should get him to talking.
Remember, sometimes, capricorns are socially illiterate. Some caps are very shy or timid when it comes to social interaction so if you could get him to learn to be comfortable with you and relax, he'll talk more.
Or ply him with alcohol - I can't seem to shut up when I'm drinking. 🙂
Posted by Sola
Its not that im keen to rush in! I just feel like he isnt really trying to get to know me in ways im familiar with, ie i went to dinner but he didnt really ask me anything about myself. On previous dates its been the smalltalk, like work, friends, family and i felt that the whole going to his place meant maybe something a more personal things, like past relationships. Plus I make most of the conversation. Not like he acts disinterested in any way at all, its just his way I suppose. Oh, its been 4 dates ver a month so we already had sex, shiiiiitttttt hot sex too 🙂
Maybe you're just chattering away about anything and everything?
Ask thought provoking questions like the one I mentioned above. Ask something off the wall like if you had superhero powers what would you chose and why...
Plan an activity that doesn't involve much talking - an adventure or where you can talk about the activity itself or something that involves a little competition like bowling or putt putt golf or racketball.
Yeah i've actually been thining like it would be a good idea to maybe plan some kind of activity. He's really sporty and athletic (me, not so much but i do have a competitive side)! We chatter about how we would usually spend our free time, what we were like when we were younger/school/experiences with friends, and then the usual family/work. I know what kinds of films he likes. Actually now that I say it, we're not doing so bad 🙂 The rest just takes time. Thanks peeps!
You're doing fine, Sola!
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Posted by Sola
I kinda feel like we dont have long lasting potential
Everyone else miss this?
Stop toying with him then!
NO! It simply is not coming naturally. That is all there is too it. She feels it as does he!
Can't force something that is not there...
Caps are very slow in getting to know someone, silence and small talk are to be expected !!! It's like the first thing one learns about Cappy. But under that ice it's a hellfire...lol they're trustworthy, their attachment is real.
Plus you're a Libra, they generally admire Caps, and the Sagit moon brings you even closer, you're on the same wavelength.
And he invited you to his cave? /sanctuary/ appartment? You're the love of his life. lol (they're very careful whom they invite apparently.)
Plus you're a Libra, they generally admire Caps, and the Sagit moon brings you even closer, you're on the same wavelength.
And he invited you to his cave? /sanctuary/ appartment? You're the love of his life. lol (they're very careful whom they invite apparently.)
Not a huge fan of the cap/libra pairing. Dated a Libra once. Definitely fun and easy going. They are super conversationalists. always thought her was very smart and intellectual. But I had to think before I spoke around him. He could read into every word I said and that felt uncomfortable.
Not a good pairing because Caps take too long to open up and Libras are easily distracted "ooh something shiny and new!"
Not a good pairing because Caps take too long to open up and Libras are easily distracted "ooh something shiny and new!"
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