A third party.

I thought Capricorns never cheat.
Me and my cap got back together, everything went well.
Until recently he has been acting wierd, like he is hiding something in his phone. I didn't want to invade his privacy, but I did ask him one time who texted him.
He admitted that he was having an affair with another girl.

I really can't believe my cap would do this. He told me it started when we broke up for a month, he needed to fill in the other half which I was replaced.
I tried and was very willing to forgive him, but I really do wanted to see the messages.
He never showed me the messages.

No matter how hard I try to beg him and even threatened that our relationship is over, he wouldn't show them.
He told me to trust him.
I tried walking out several time, he would always stop me.
He told me that I would just get hurt by reading the messages, and that he will fix this without me having to read the messages. (Is this his only reason?)

He embraced me tightly in his arms, just so I may not reach out for his phone nor the door.

He told me that he is "physically but not sexually attracted" to her, but not as a girlfriend since he has me.
My cap also told me that he doesn't talk much with her ever since we got back together, though HE DID ADMITTED that he met up with her to "study" in a cafe when he told me he was in school.

My cap says he still loves me SO much, and in the future, when something like this happens, I can just leave him.
My cap rejected my offer when I told him to pursure her if he was happy with her, he told me he was more happier with me and that he DOESN'T LOVE her.
I don't know anymore. I "knew" my cap. I never knew he would do something like this. This is my fist time getting cheated on.

I thought Capricorns are loyal? T_T
What should I do? Should I trust him? Are Capricorns true to their word? Are his words genuine?

What should I do fellow Caps? 😢

P.S. According to him, she was his rebound. Nothing was serious. Yet if there was nothing to be afraid of, why not show me his txts?
Is it true that Caps are considerate on other's feelings? That I may not get hurt reading those messages?

"I thought Capricorns never cheat."

What in the world made you think this? Yes, Cap males cheat. Not all but a good 90% . Keep it stuck in your head, and figure if its worth it.

Posted by lnana04
"I thought Capricorns never cheat."

What in the world made you think this? Yes, Cap males cheat. Not all but a good 90% . Keep it stuck in your head, and figure if its worth it.

Way too far? lol. Yeah, he is worth it. 🙂

Posted by M

Posted by lnana04
"I thought Capricorns never cheat."

What in the world made you think this? Yes, Cap males cheat. Not all but a good 90% . Keep it stuck in your head, and figure if its worth it.

Wouldn't go that far, but sign does not determine whether someone would cheat or not.

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Well every single Cap male Ive known has cheated. I wish I was lying....Im talking about 10-15 Cap males I know or know of.

Thats all my Cap friend talks about. I told him two days ago he needs a darn hobby.

This stupid phone, but I thought it was a bisexual relationship.

Im about to go a bit off topic, but does he let women know he is bisexual? Do you all think women and men should volunteer that information to those they are interested in? I personally think they should. Ive noticed that I attract men that I personally believe are either bisexual/bicurious.

YES, cheaters and when caught, manipulates the "why" making it your fault.

and yes LOYAL but to whomever he is with at the moment 🙂 gotta love Cap men

Posted by aquapiscescusp
YES, cheaters and when caught, manipulates the "why" making it your fault.

My sisters Leo friend caught her Cap. He told her dont be popping up on him like that and told her to take her @ss home.

Posted by msmarilynmanson
what! omg wow

LoL. That incident obviously wasnt a deal breaker. She stayed and later had a son with him. The Cap is in jail, been gone for about 2yrs now, and cheating aside, it appears he was the most stable thing in her life. She's done a 360 for the worst. :-/

Posted by Metoo
The best revenge is living well.
Look, things have gotten really messy and confusing.
He isnt treating you well, he is interested in other women, the list goes on and on from other posts.
I think your behaving desperately honestly.
And honey, you KNOW what those texts say and he isnt protecting you by not showing them to you
He is covering his tracks.
The second you break up he is in someone elses arms and sending sexy texts?
Guess he wasnt crying, why are you?
Starting today, tell him you need space. Ask him not to contact you or come over.
Then get yourself together, stop obsessing over this guy.
He is a cheater, he is not worth your tears.
Life is short, get on with school, friends, dating, new new new everything, this is a waste of time.
Every contact from you is an ego stroke to him. Move on.

Thanks for your insights!
Perhaps leaving him is an option, but I still do love him. He did told me to trust him, and that he would do everything to gain my trust back.
Yes, he did not cry, but the way he acted when he got caught was heart breaking. He kept saying "please" and "sorry" that he couldn't show the text messages.
HE did show me a a couple of messages, and he did replied coldly to the girl. Except the fact that he had a "study session" withher behind my back. 😢

Posted by msmarilynmanson
it doesnt sound like he necessarily cheated. he got together with her when u guys split up so it sounds like they made a connection and is now having a hard time letting her go. now in another post you said you are both men and this other person in a woman is that correct?

Yes that is correct. Weird isn't it? The situation is sooo complicated. LOL!
Yeah, that's exactly what I'm confused about. They had a connection when we weren't together, so typically, I shouldn't feel bad.
I feel bad that he got another person so quickly after we broke up though..
When we talked, he stil chose me though. HE said all of those flowery words "Love you so much", "I don't wanna lose you" crap. I really don't know what to believe anymore. I'm afraid he might do it again.

Posted by msmarilynmanson
lol that what their other thread said. im confused lmao

What about it confused you? LOL

Posted by 88NPPISCES

Posted by msmarilynmanson
it doesnt sound like he necessarily cheated. he got together with her when u guys split up so it sounds like they made a connection and is now having a hard time letting her go. now in another post you said you are both men and this other person in a woman is that correct?

ooops, never mind. I have no idea about bisexual relationships. lol

I would imagine there is something very different that I quite not understand. so Im out of this thread.

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That's the reason why I don't know what to do, a different and complicated bisexual problem. LOL!
What was your advice though? 🙂

Posted by lnana04
This stupid phone, but I thought it was a bisexual relationship.

Im about to go a bit off topic, but does he let women know he is bisexual? Do you all think women and men should volunteer that information to those they are interested in? I personally think they should. Ive noticed that I attract men that I personally believe are either bisexual/bicurious.

No he didn't. My cap told me he would tell her but he just can't.
He said that the girl knew he was going through a break up. And that's how used her as rebound.
Yes, I agree with you. I think they should share that information, unless they are discreet, since A LOT of complications could happen.

For instance on our case, we are both discreet. Everyone thinks both of us are single, when in fact we are taken by each other bisexually, until a heterosexual comes around and got attracted to you.
God, I wish this wont happen. LOL!

Posted by QUlETstorm

Posted by lnana04
Do you all think women and men should volunteer that information to those they are interested in? I personally think they should.

Yes, they should. But do they? Obviously not, with the whole "down-low" trend. It's so scary, a lot of committed housewives end up with HIV and other STDs that way.

I think my Taurus ex had bisexual tendencies when he asked me to put my finger in his butt.

I was like .... o.O

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LMAO!!! Maybe it was plain curiosity. After all, there is something really pleasurable near the anus area. 😛

Posted by JTG
Tiger Woods ring a bell?

From what I read he didn't cheat. As for not sharing text messages it's a done deal so why cause anymore grief.

That's exactly what I've been thinking. It's not really cheating. .. Except he did lied to me, when he went and meet her behind my back when we were already together.
I still think it is considered cheating.
What makes me feel bad about it, is how he managed to get a new relationship right after a break up...
Are caps really like that?

Posted by msmarilynmanson
but i mean he hooked up with the girl when they were broken up. and do these 2 have a commitment?

Yes we do have commitment. And just to correct the issue, he didn't hook up with her.
They flirted and had a couple of dates though, at least that's what he told me...

Posted by QUlETstorm
Matter fact, I'm going to log off now. Lol

Must practice self discipline. Must practice self discipline. Must practice self discipline. !!!!!


Okay, bye.

Haha thanks for helping out with my problem QUIETstorm despite your exams. 🙂
Sorry if I've been replying late, I guess the timezone in my country is different.

Posted by LIBRA1234
U can't relate cheating to astrology. I have heard of cheaters of all signs. Can u forgive and forget? If you can, go for it and enjoy the good times with your cap.

Yup, that's exactly what I'll be doing. Sorry for relating this with astrology, I just want some insights from caps.
After all, I've been reading a lot about caps and there are common traits among them. 🙂
He hasn't done anything for retribution yet, not that I'm expecting though. LOL
I'll just try to trust him for now.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
and yes LOYAL but to whomever he is with at the moment 🙂 gotta love Cap men

I hope that's true. After our 10 months together, this is the first time I saw this side of him. 😕

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Posted by LibraLove30

Posted by msmarilynmanson
but i mean he hooked up with the girl when they were broken up. and do these 2 have a commitment?

Yes we do have commitment. And just to correct the issue, he didn't hook up with her.
They flirted and had a couple of dates though, at least that's what he told me...

Libra your words --------->>>>>>I thought Capricorns never cheat. He admitted that he was having an affair with another girl.

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😕 Soo sorry guys for the confusion!
What I meant by "I thought capricorn never cheat."
^--- This is based on what I read in common astrological characteristics of caps, that they are loyal and they are very cautious and slow when getting into a relationship.
"He admitted that he was having an affair."
^--- When we were already together, he was still texting with her. He met with her, without telling me, even when we were already commited to each other.

So yes, he did cheat. And I caught him.

Posted by 88NPPISCES
ok, 🙂

listen, I hope everything gets better in the relationship. If you want to work things out with him and give him another chance and that brings you happines, go for it.

Thanks!!! :">
Actually, for now, everything is going well. Soo I guess the thread is over.
Unless someone wants to share their insights.
Or should I post more about the upcoming situations and events for others to get information? 🙂)

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Posted by QUlETstorm

Posted by lnana04
Do you all think women and men should volunteer that information to those they are interested in? I personally think they should.

Yes, they should. But do they? Obviously not, with the whole "down-low" trend. It's so scary, a lot of committed housewives end up with HIV and other STDs that way.

I think my Taurus ex had bisexual tendencies when he asked me to put my finger in his butt.

I was like .... o.O

LMAO!!! Maybe it was plain curiosity. After all, there is something really pleasurable near the anus area. 😛

ya its the prostate aka male g spot 😉

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Yup! It feels good. 😛
I know a straight guy who asks his girlfriend to play with his prostate.
I also heard from somewhere that there are straight guys who ask their girlfriends to use a dildo on them? 😕

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Posted by lnana04
"I thought Capricorns never cheat."

What in the world made you think this? Yes, Cap males cheat. Not all but a good 90% . Keep it stuck in your head, and figure if its worth it.

Wouldn't go that far, but sign does not determine whether someone would cheat or not.

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How about the females? I suspect one is, but cant be sure since they claim to be independent and all.

I'm not sure with females, but I do believe male and female caps have very common characteristics. So I still listen to advices from female caps.
They are independent and very career driven where they would seem like they don't need anyone in their lives.

BTW. Been reading threads about caps cheating, these are what I've discovered:
1.) Most caps cheat. (Tiger Woods)
2.) Caps cheat due to emotional issues. To not be dependent on their current partner.
3.) Caps need attention and affection all the time, which is the reason why they cheat when their partner doesn't fulfill this.
4.) They DON'T make up for their mistakes. (This includes cheating)
5.) "It is very hard to get a cap to commit... But once you do you will never have to worry about ANYTHING ever again."
6.) "Capricorns are the only people I have known to be perfectly happy in relationships and still cheat!"
7.) For caps, it's perfectly fine for them to cheat even though they are committed. They just don't want to get caught.

Which are true? And which are are myths? 😕

#1-7 is true from what Ive witnessed. I see no myths. Sorry.

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Posted by lnana04
"I thought Capricorns never cheat."

What in the world made you think this? Yes, Cap males cheat. Not all but a good 90% . Keep it stuck in your head, and figure if its worth it.

Wouldn't go that far, but sign does not determine whether someone would cheat or not.

How about the females? I suspect one is, but cant be sure since they claim to be independent and all.

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What exactly is your question? You suspect one Cap female is what? A cheater? How does being independent play into this?

Posted by lnana04
#1-7 is true from what Ive witnessed. I see no myths. Sorry.

How can all myths be true when #5 contradicts all of them?

Posted by lnana04
#1-7 is true from what Ive witnessed. I see no myths. Sorry.

True 🙂

They might commit to a certain extent but the minute life gets in the way and you don't give them attention, they feel it is their right to find it elsewhere. It's like air, they need it to survive. 😛

So Ellesque, you are saying that they wouldn't choose the one that had both?

Posted by LibraLove30

Posted by lnana04
#1-7 is true from what Ive witnessed. I see no myths. Sorry.

How can all myths be true when #5 contradicts all of them?

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What makes #5 contradicts them all? Key word "commited." It takes more than a relationship or marriage for a Cap to be commited, unfortunately. Its something the Cap may realize after the fact.

ellesque got it.

I think its probably viewed like a jack of all trades, master of none. Maybe they compartmentalize because of that. Even a woman that can be both wont be as good as the women on either extreme....if ANY of this makes sense lol.

Im not sure if this was on the list, but another thing is variety. Caps get bored VERY easily. We can be boring. Once folks are figured out or familiar they become boring. Just bored, which maybe explains the the happy and still cheat option. A more confident Cap dont have to put in a ton of effort either, so to have the mindset you can get almost anyone you want is interesting, but Im sure even that becomes boring after a while lol.

there are plenty of faithful capricorn men out there, like Denzel Washington:

http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Denzel_Washington<BR>
Born: December 28, 1954, 12:09 AM
in: Mount Vernont (NY) (United States)
Sun: 5??56' Capricorn AS: 7??27' Libra
Moon: 9??02' Aquarius MC: 8??37' Cancer
Dominants: Capricorn, Cancer, Libra
Mercury, Sun, Venus
Houses 3, 2, 10 / Water, Earth / Cardinal
Chinese Astrology: Wood Horse

and I'm sure that David Bowie, Cap man, once he found his Leo Queen of the Jungle, settled down amicably.

and there's cray-cray Mel Gibson (Don't know what happened to the poor man) but his earlier days he shined very well.

Posted by ellessque
if you are the "good" girl....and your definition of cheating is him sexing up another woman, you are probably going to get hurt. You can stick around and try to work through those issues but there will never be any guarantees. If that is not for you, walk away for the sake of both of you.

if you are the "bad" girl....you aren't going to get a commitment. You can't be shown in public. Sorry.

if you want to be "both".....you will have two very confused people on your hand. Once feelings start to develop, you will be pigeonholed into one of the roles, you can't "be" both. One day, you'll wake up and wonder why the hell you can't use the ball gag anymore. 😛

LOL @ the ball gag thing!

I hear you, it's such a contradiction. They will more often than not settle down with someone "stable" and that always entails not so "bad". Maybe they fear that if you are "bad" you will be bad elsewhere. But boy oh boy, do they ever like to be bad and not questioned!!!! 😛

that is true, Elle. Similar to animals, (not that humans are animals) but the wolf for example is monogamous. Controlling your environment does take genius work. Not many can actually pull that off especially in a very fast-paced atmosphere like Hollywood, or high profile cities where so many influences can affect a person. Sometimes, the wealth and overpopularity can probably get to a person (Mel Gibson)

So all of you are suggesting all caps cheat? 😢
From what you all shared, I see caps as people whom I shall trust and avoid at all cost. Why degrade your own sign? LOL!
When I asked him why he still chose me, he said he feels settled with me, and that he loves me.

It's contradicting since what I understand from "It is very hard to get a cap to commit... But once you do you will never have to worry about ANYTHING ever again.", is that I will never have to worry about him cheating. What is that "thing" you never have to worry again then? :O

Posted by LibraLove30
So all of you are suggesting all caps cheat? 😢
From what you all shared, I see caps as people whom I shall trust and avoid at all cost. Why degrade your own sign? LOL!
When I asked him why he still chose me, he said he feels settled with me, and that he loves me.

It's contradicting since what I understand from "It is very hard to get a cap to commit... But once you do you will never have to worry about ANYTHING ever again.", is that I will never have to worry about him cheating. What is that "thing" you never have to worry again then? :O

I actually dont view it as degrading at all. Its my truth from what Ive seen. It just is what it is to me.

Were you the one that I told theres a difference between loving someone or saying "I love you" and saying "im in love with you?"

I personally think that if one can look you in the eye and say "im in love with you" then that means something. I dont see a lot of wandering involved if the is with "the one."

*they are with

So Caps cheat more than Gemini's then..and yet the poster image for cheaters is a Gemini.

I had a Cap girl tell me she was faithful in a passing conversation, dont know if she was being honest or trying to create an impression.

Posted by lnana04

Posted by LibraLove30
So all of you are suggesting all caps cheat? 😢
From what you all shared, I see caps as people whom I shall trust and avoid at all cost. Why degrade your own sign? LOL!
When I asked him why he still chose me, he said he feels settled with me, and that he loves me.

It's contradicting since what I understand from "It is very hard to get a cap to commit... But once you do you will never have to worry about ANYTHING ever again.", is that I will never have to worry about him cheating. What is that "thing" you never have to worry again then? :O

I actually dont view it as degrading at all. Its my truth from what Ive seen. It just is what it is to me.

Were you the one that I told theres a difference between loving someone or saying "I love you" and saying "im in love with you?"

I personally think that if one can look you in the eye and say "im in love with you" then that means something. I dont see a lot of wandering involved if the is with "the one."

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How can accepting you are a cheater not degrading? Being someone whom people can't trust isn't something to be proud of. -_-
But yeah, if it's hardwired then what to do but to accept the cap despite this characteristic.
Unless there is a way to get a cap to never cheat?
What qualities do you caps see as irresistible? What makes a person someone whom you can never replace or never attempt to cheat on?

^--- Now these are what I want to find out. 😛

Yes, I was the one whom you told. He does look me straight in the eye and tells me he loves me.

Posted by GemiGem
I had a Cap girl tell me she was faithful in a passing conversation, dont know if she was being honest or trying to create an impression.

My cap told me he never wants to lose me and that he will never let me go.
Sounds believable, but sometimes their actions never compliments what they say.

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Posted by LibraLove30
So all of you are suggesting all caps cheat? 😢
From what you all shared, I see caps as people whom I shall trust and avoid at all cost. Why degrade your own sign? LOL!
When I asked him why he still chose me, he said he feels settled with me, and that he loves me.

It's contradicting since what I understand from "It is very hard to get a cap to commit... But once you do you will never have to worry about ANYTHING ever again.", is that I will never have to worry about him cheating. What is that "thing" you never have to worry again then? :O

I think it's crazy to generalize. No, not everyone cheats! At least I hope not, but what do I know. A whole lot of nothing.

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I hope not, I still do believe there are caps who are very faithful and loyal. 🙂

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Posted by LibraLove30
So all of you are suggesting all caps cheat? 😢
From what you all shared, I see caps as people whom I shall trust and avoid at all cost. Why degrade your own sign? LOL!
When I asked him why he still chose me, he said he feels settled with me, and that he loves me.

It's contradicting since what I understand from "It is very hard to get a cap to commit... But once you do you will never have to worry about ANYTHING ever again.", is that I will never have to worry about him cheating. What is that "thing" you never have to worry again then? :O

I actually dont view it as degrading at all. Its my truth from what Ive seen. It just is what it is to me.

Were you the one that I told theres a difference between loving someone or saying "I love you" and saying "im in love with you?"

I personally think that if one can look you in the eye and say "im in love with you" then that means something. I dont see a lot of wandering involved if the is with "the one."

How can accepting you are a cheater not degrading? Being someone whom people can't trust isn't something to be proud of. -_-
But yeah, if it's hardwired then what to do but to accept the cap despite this characteristic.
Unless there is a way to get a cap to never cheat?
What qualities do you caps see as irresistible? What makes a person someone whom you can never replace or never attempt to cheat on?

^--- Now these are what I want to find out. 😛


Yes, I was the one whom you told. He does look me straight in the eye and tells me he loves me.

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I dont know about you, but I learned early in life to trust no one. I just see it as a flaw that many people in general have, and the things Ive witnessed with Capricorns are not worth hiding or lying about regardless if Im a Cap myself. Things like this do not make or break the sign ihmo, and even if it did I wont sit and lie about what Ive seen. Besides truth is, the average persons unfortunate experience of being cheated on wont always begin or end with a Capricorn, so these experiences of cheaters are within all signs if folks are honest. Of course certain signs wont admit to it and claim how their sign is loyal, faithful blahblahbl

Lenore, don't change a thing. He obviously keeps coming back, maybe he hasn't yet figured out which compartment you belong in. He might just have to add a new compartment 😛

Lenore, girl he likes you. Cap males seem to love Virgo women. Show him all of you and he'll accept it.

I agree Lenore that if men chose the WHOLE woman more often, they would cheat less. It takes a brave man to make that choice and you might have one of those on your hands.