advice please

I'm a taurus woman and I was just dating a cap male. I broke it off a few days ago with him.I hadn't seen him in a month because I was very very sick for two and a half weeks and he was really busy working (complete opposite schedules). We got in a disagreement (the same one we have had twice before) about him not having time for me and me not thinking he cares because of it - which assures me he does. My way of thinking is "if you wanted to see me you would make time" - his is "you know how I feel about you and I'm working"
I just find him very cold sometimes but when I'm actually with him in his presence it's always warm. To add to all this, he has been really depressed and I can deal with that but it started to bring me down too because I wanted to see him happy and no matter what I did I couldn't do anything about that. So in the past few days all he has been doing is posting these amazing things on facebook - when he was just so depressed about work. Things actually do seem to be looking up for him but I can't help but think it's a mind game to mess with me, which it is messing with me. Or he is just totally fine with it all and is just living his life. It wasn't a messy ending tho. I honestly just don't want to lose him and its frustrating because there is no compromise just this is how I am. Do you think i Have lost him for good?

Alright, here is a typical Cap explanation to your questions:
1. The reason why he can be so warm with you is because he kept work and his personal life (you) separated
2. If we are working, we are working. If we are with you, we are with you. Don't mess with that schedule
3. Happy face/sad heart? = "celebrate your victories" Duty to his team or coworkers. It's an excellent way to stay sane for Caps
4. Caps will have times when they are just an unphantomable abyss of gloom. Don't try to fix them when that happens. Leave them alone to wallow in self-despair. They themselves are the only ones who can fix that.
5. You broke up with him and now he is throwing himself on his work and probably getting quite a bit of work done because of it.
6. He is not messing with you. He is trying to ignore that feeling after you broke up with him. Trying to forget you. Not doing "The best revenge is living well" game. Caps don't play games like that. Well some do, but most don't.

So here are my questions for you:
- Is he cold when he is with you, or just when you call him at work?
- Did you ever call him at work?
- What are you looking for with him? What part of the relationship are you trying to salvage?

Now don't go thinking I am trying to be mean to you. I drank too much coffee and I've been reading and writing a report all day. I'm a bit on edge. 😉

Look around the forum. Mercury went retrograde from the end of January until... well today. Most Caps have been complaining about not feeling great about anything and shit at work that whole time. I for one got more work done today than I did during the past month!
It might just be bad timing.
Perhaps other users can chime in. I'm getting some sleep now. 🙂

Yeah...if you broke it off, its done.
It seems odd to want to keep him despite of things being too unworkable to last.

Caps are cardinal signs and so we have the "get over it and move on" mentality.
So he'll work, grieve the relationship in the solitude of his mind and eventually move on when he has the time and energy for another relationship.

If you want him back, the problems are still there and now he'll see you as less safe and stable. So might be old man winter like for a bit .

@tigercap
He is not cold with me at all when I'm with him. But I haven't been with him that's the problem. & I don't call him at work ever I know better.
I just read alot about caps today that I new nothing about and now I feel like an asshole and that I messed up. The last thing we said to eachother was sorry and I know that anytime I've ever been like "this is a problem" it comes back as not an issue anymore except this 1 thing. So i want to save the relationship. I just don't know if he will ever talk to me again.
@sirhorns
I broke it off but I do believe it could get better. And we have never fought fought before.
😢

How long were you dating? If he cared about you then he still does. I was in a situation like that before and the Scorpio I was with didn't understand why I never had time for her like she wanted. I worked a lot because I had to and was just getting back on my feet. In my mind I had to do everything I could to get my finances right so I could make money for us both. I cared a lot about her and could see her in my future. I can't help but feel like the provider when I truly care about someone and I take work seriously.

The retrograde seriously had me acting crazy recently emotionally but now that it's over I think you should contact him. I'm currently crazy over a Taurus woman and the communication is not the best. Neither one of us is great at expressing ourselves. She knows I care about her without me saying and I know how she feels. I just wish she would truly talk to me. Contact him and tell him how you feel.

Posted by tauruskt
My way of thinking is "if you wanted to see me you would make time" - his is "you know how I feel about you and I'm working"

You are absolutely right. A cap WILL make time for someone we care about. It might not be much, but we make an effort. Now if you're wanting every evening every day, then we might not make that happen, but we DO make efforts to seem someone we care about. We can't wait to see someone we care about and even if we are working a lot, we'll schedule a lunch date. His excuse about working, though probably truthful, is an excuse unless he works ten hour days seven days a week.

Posted by noonie1801
She knows I care about her without me saying and I know how she feels. I just wish she would truly talk to me. Contact him and tell him how you feel.

Are you SURE she knows how you feel? You should tell her more often. If you open up to her and truly talk to her, she will open up and truly talk to you. Goes both ways, bro.