Best Vs. Favourite ..XXX

My Cap guy is very* experienced with women. He often says I'm his favourite...but I want to be the best 😉
With my meager experience of TWO men (him being the second), I am definitely not as seasoned as him.

So Caps, what's better? Fav or Best? and if you feel like it, tell us about your Best 😉

FrenchKappy, he never did that. I being the curious Sag..probe him about it. Sorry for giving the wrong idea!

Just be yourself. The ”žbest“ mostly is the one you love so damn deeply. It’s not about fancy moves etc bluntly ask him about his preferences – but tell him that you don’t want to hear about any of his exs – let him tell u what he wants and then give it to him like he is a god lol men love to feel worshipped in bed. If he likes dominant girls then do so. As long as you feel comfortable doing that stuff it’s all fine. Over time your sxxlife will turn from favorite to best without trying. It’s the love that makes the difference.

I love lovemaking but sometimes I also love to be my cap’s little dirty slut hahaha

btw how do u know he fucked many girls? you should'nt ask about such stuff if you can't handle the truth and get insecure.

leave the past in the past 🙂 I always think of myself as the motherfucking best in bed lol it's all about love and attitude, don't be bothered by past girls

Thanks for the replies!

Aquanextdoor, I asked. He doesn't compare me, I guess my curiosity knows no bounds and I just ask for the sake of asking. Good point though, maybe it does subconsciously make me feel inexperienced compared to him. Yes, the focus will be more on us from now on 🙂

Posted by SunMoonStars
My Cap guy is very* experienced with women. He often says I'm his favourite...but I want to be the best 😉
With my meager experience of TWO men (him being the second), I am definitely not as seasoned as him.

So Caps, what's better? Fav or Best? and if you feel like it, tell us about your Best 😉

Sex shouldn't be the focus of a relationship.

-just sayin'.

Posted by SunMoonStars
FrenchKappy, he never did that. I being the curious Sag..probe him about it. Sorry for giving the wrong idea!

I don't like it when guys "probe" me about exes. That's the past, this is the here and now. What belongs in the past should stay in the past and not affect our current relationship. So, if a guy probes me, I'd probably either avoid the question or lie ("of course, you're the best, baby"). Either way, the question is inappropriate.

Just ask him what he likes, simple as that. You never know he may tell you that there are certain things you do that he likes. Communicate with him and tell him what you like. When it comes to the physical side of any relationship some fail to realize that even this needs some level of communication. Either during or before hand. This way you both know how to be attentive to each others needs. Being the best isn't important, but when you take that extra effort to know the little things they like. Your relationship can reach a higher level of understanding in and out of the bed. I urge you not to care what past partners were like with him. As he isn't focused on them(or thinking about them), he's looking at you. It's all about you and him nothing else matters hun.

His experience is making you insecure? He's with you for a reason, just be yourself, exactly who you were when you met.

The most experianced guy I ever slept with had slept with a huge amount of girls(200+), plus been in long term relationships, and I was(and still am) nowhere near that kind of experiance. With him I simply I told him straight up that I intended to become the best lover he ever had, so we'd better start working on that and then I suggested a "discover each other's bodies" long weekend as the beginning of that project. It turned out to be a great idea. Highly recommended!

Discover his body, let him discover yours, communicate needs and wants and traiiin a looot, and as aquapiscescusp said, don't forget that he's with you for a reason!

Imo. 🙂

(And also: I never slept with a guy that didn't like to have his limits nudged ever so slightly every once in a while...😉)

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Posted by SunMoonStars
FrenchKappy, he never did that. I being the curious Sag..probe him about it. Sorry for giving the wrong idea!

I don't like it when guys "probe" me about exes. That's the past, this is the here and now. What belongs in the past should stay in the past and not affect our current relationship. So, if a guy probes me, I'd probably either avoid the question or lie ("of course, you're the best, baby"). Either way, the question is inappropriate.

Bullocks! The past can say a lot about someone and give you greater insight into their psyche.

Not wanting to talk about the past, which has contributed towards the person you are today, smacks of either evasiveness or an indication that you've learnt NOTHING from your exes. A very unattractive attribute, from where I'm standing.

You think not talking about past exes will magically make you a virgin again? Fucking pull the other one...

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I just don't think it's relevant.

You meet someone as they are today, doesn't matter who they were yesterday. Just be thankful for those experiences that created the evolution of who they are today and appreciate them for who they are.

Sure, you can talk about exes and things you've learned. Really nothing wrong with that. However, asking "who was the best?" only sets one of you up for failure. If you're the best and they say you are would you believe it or think they're just telling you that? If you're not the best, would you begin to have insecurities? And what happens if you ever meet the ex that was the best? And if they're truthful or lying, you'd never know, so what's the point in asking?

Posted by HappyCapper
The most experianced guy I ever slept with had slept with a huge amount of girls(200+), plus been in long term relationships, and I was(and still am) nowhere near that kind of experiance. With him I simply I told him straight up that I intended to become the best lover he ever had, so we'd better start working on that and then I suggested a "discover each other's bodies" long weekend as the beginning of that project. It turned out to be a great idea. Highly recommended!

Discover his body, let him discover yours, communicate needs and wants and traiiin a looot, and as aquapiscescusp said, don't forget that he's with you for a reason!

Imo. 🙂

(And also: I never slept with a guy that didn't like to have his limits nudged ever so slightly every once in a while...😉)

I hope you made him get tested!!

Posted by HappyCapper
The most experianced guy I ever slept with had slept with a huge amount of girls(200+), plus been in long term relationships, and I was(and still am) nowhere near that kind of experiance. With him I simply I told him straight up that I intended to become the best lover he ever had, so we'd better start working on that and then I suggested a "discover each other's bodies" long weekend as the beginning of that project. It turned out to be a great idea. Highly recommended!

Discover his body, let him discover yours, communicate needs and wants and traiiin a looot, and as aquapiscescusp said, don't forget that he's with you for a reason!

Imo. 🙂

(And also: I never slept with a guy that didn't like to have his limits nudged ever so slightly every once in a while...😉)

I hope you made him get tested!!

Posted by truecap

Posted by HappyCapper
The most experianced guy I ever slept with had slept with a huge amount of girls(200+), plus been in long term relationships, and I was(and still am) nowhere near that kind of experiance. With him I simply I told him straight up that I intended to become the best lover he ever had, so we'd better start working on that and then I suggested a "discover each other's bodies" long weekend as the beginning of that project. It turned out to be a great idea. Highly recommended!

Discover his body, let him discover yours, communicate needs and wants and traiiin a looot, and as aquapiscescusp said, don't forget that he's with you for a reason!

Imo. 🙂

(And also: I never slept with a guy that didn't like to have his limits nudged ever so slightly every once in a while...😉)

I hope you made him get tested!!

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I did, actually. I refused to sleep with him until he got eeeverything tested. Boy, was he nervous. But he was clean. Condoms ftw. 🙂

Thank you all for your feedback and comments.

I didn't mean to come across so insecure...just see it as a fun challenge to be his "best" 🙂 maybe it's the Saggy in me but i find it a good thing, doesn't make me feel bad..hope that makes sense..

Sag problems....lol!

Haha, yeah..sorry 🙂 i have real problems too i promise!

Posted by truecap
Sag problems....lol!

I'm just teasing. Don't see other signs worrying about stuff like this.