CAP men are you happy?

Are CAPPY fellows ever happy? My Cap complains about work; complains about family; complains about relationship. I use my words to encourage him. I offer practical, witty advice. On occasion I make him food. I surprise him with gifts and we are physical. And although, I am considerably younger than him, I am strict and extremely mature. But he never seems satisfied. What is the best way to handle him?

In general I am happy most of the time, when I rarely hit rock bottom I do it with a bang, but mostly I am positive, happy and fun to be around.
Though I am happy I am never totally satisfied and I don't think I will ever be, I will never stop thinking that I could do better, maybe there are a couple of exceptions but in general I'm not satisfied, I think there are alot of caps who feel that way.

Posted by Langvad
In general I am happy most of the time, when I rarely hit rock bottom I do it with a bang, but mostly I am positive, happy and fun to be around.
Though I am happy I am never totally satisfied and I don't think I will ever be, I will never stop thinking that I could do better, maybe there are a couple of exceptions but in general I'm not satisfied, I think there are alot of caps who feel that way.

I can relate to this. Imo, its the root of the capricorns insecurity.

Sometimes we just don't realize we're actually happy. We're the pessimists of the zodiac. The depressive ones. Always seeking a goal, then a better goal, then a larger goal. Achieve, achieve. achieve. We're never satisfied. There's always bigger and better out there - and we want it! Good golly, we want to be on TOP of that mountain! Once we get there, we'll place our cappy flag on it to claim it and proceed on to conquer the next mountain. Then the next and so on.

What you can do is bring fun and laughter to his life. That will loosen him up. If you can make him laugh, he will relax and be the man he is supposed to be.

But don't ever nag him about it and don't keep asking him if he's happy. That will be a turn off to him. You can tell him he makes YOU happy, though. That will make him smile.

We don't want people to fix us, we want people to listen and understand our thoughts. We want you to hear what we're saying and aknowledge our point of view. We might or might not want suggestions on how to resolve our complaints. We know what needs to be done, but sometimes we just need to vent or whine about them and have someone hear us. In other words, complaining allows us to get it out there, hear our thoughts out loud and helps us analyze the problem and come to a solution. Other times we just want to bitch. lol!

Gem/Cap is a tough combo, though. Takes a LOT of understanding and compromise, but it can work.

They are a gloomy bunch but what is nice is when you know how to make them smile 🙂

Posted by aquapiscescusp
They are a gloomy bunch but what is nice is when you know how to make them smile 🙂

+1

Posted by aquapiscescusp
They are a gloomy bunch but what is nice is when you know how to make them smile 🙂

🙂

Complaining calms the nerves.

I WILL NEVER BE HAPPY
ONCE I GET WHAT I WANT IT IS SELDOM ENOUGH
I DO NOT COMPLAIN

ITS THE CHASE NOT THE PRIZE.