Deal with negativity of a capricorn man

Im struggling now with myself, and try to be stronger, but is so hard to deal with him when he get into his bad or negative moods, he doesnt do it on purpose, but maybe that day im really positive and feeling great, when he suddenly make a negative or moody comment and it affect me (not a comment about me, just about random stuff). i guess i should leave him alone for a few hours until he change it.

suggestions—??

Do you respond by putting a more positive spin on what he says?

Just leave him be.

It really does come with the package though. If it affects you to where it sours you mood/day then I think you should either talk to him about it or rethink the relationship.

It affect me cause im a moody person too, and even the small incident can affect my mood. but at same time i try to stay positive even when im not feeling it, and dont try to make the other person to feel bad too.

and yeah, sometimes i try to respond with some positive comment, but it doesnt affect him.

When he get in THOSE moods i will think about the grumpy cat, and im sure it will make me smile!

and yes, definitely i found out that is something i have to learn to deal with, almost everyday at some point or leave him. there is not other way, he is not going to change.

i loved the suggestion about trying to focus in something else when he get in those moods, so i dont get stuck with it.

Posted by ellessque
I think you need to find a way to accept his moods for what they are. They are part of him, as yours are part of you.

You are feeding off of his energy too much, letting them dictate your feelings. He is certainly not doing this on purpose and your reaction to them is something you need to become aware of in yourself.

Perhaps distracting yourself with other thoughts or excusing yourself when they happen. Finding something that navigates your feelings to a better place until his pass.

Like your moodiness can be overwhelming, so can his. So, standing back and respecting those "moods" and understand you don't have to do absolutely anything but be supportive until he gets to the other side.

Being supportive means taking care of you too.

Elle is correct. Take care of yourself. Don't take it personal. Don't react. Those are his feelings. Wait it out and the mood will change. Remember it doesn't have anything to do with you.

I am one of the coolest MF's around, but when I am pissed, not even GOD can change my attitude. I must isolate myself from everyone. It is nothing personal to anyone. Just have to power off and reboot.

When I get into one of my grumpy moods I do like it if people ask me what's wrong. Even if I can't tell them yet. It shows they care. 🙂

But yeah, just leave me on my own. Chances are I don't want to burden you with my negative thoughts especially since I am just going over all the angles. No need to decide just yet.

When I get like that, I usually just withdraw and want to be by myself to think and analyze. I'll eventually come back around after I convince myself everything is okay. If you try to convince me before I'm ready I'll just withdraw more from you. However, it is still nice to be around happy people who are just going about their business. So if I'm in that mood and I still want you around that's a good sign. Quietly sitting and watching a movie, not talking, is nice sometimes too. Just the presence of someone else makes me feel comforted and not alone in my head (though you may not realize it). And sometimes I feel alone in a room full of people.

In other words, just be around and if he wants to be alone, let him. No pressure from you. Check on him time to time, just don't dote on him or baby him. And don't keep asking about it!!

Note: When we feel this way, it allows us to appreciate the good things better when things are good.

And remember, don't take it personally. If its about you, he will tell you. Sometimes I'm in a pissy mood and have no reason to be and have no idea why. It passes.

Oh, when I said don't keep asking about it, I don't mean not to ask.

Ask once every few days, but accept the answer you get and don't keep bugging him about it.

Like Tigercap said, it is nice to know someone cares enough to ask, but with me, I have to include that someone knows me well enough to know I'm in a mood (I try to hide it sometimes).

I appreciate being left alone during those grump times. But if you happen love grunting sounds thrown in with mumbling....sure, why not...let's talk.

My Cap does the same thing,I learned a long time ago to just leave him be, he will work it out his self. Thankful though his "bad moods" don't last to long! 😉