People here say a Cap man mirrors your actions..

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by PuraLeo on Sunday, June 30, 2013 and has 25 replies.

If he bares his soul to you a little bit, tells you doesn't want to lose you, then retracts for 2 weeks.

Now he returns after his alone time.

Do you mirror his actions now instead? Or is he still reading my behavior? I'm not sure where to go here..

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Thanks for your input!

I don't want to play games, I want to know if I should pace things more slowly- i.e. respond to his text tomorrow instead of right now?

I will if that's what he needs, I do care about him. Just don't know how to act now?

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Posted by PuraLeo
Thanks for your input!

I don't want to play games, I want to know if I should pace things more slowly- i.e. respond to his text tomorrow instead of right now?

I will if that's what he needs, I do care about him. Just don't know how to act now?

Two weeks is hard though. what status are you guys? this should never happen in a solid committed relationship or if he is your fiance. Daily communication is vital. It doesnt have to be constant all day but it should be consistent.
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He's not asked to be exclusive. Dating for 2.5 months. He knows I'm dating a few people, last I checked he told me he wasn't dating other people but who knows. He travels for work 80% of the week. Doesn't bother me, but he's had issues because of that in his past long term relationship.

When he opened his heart to me, the last time I saw him, it was because he initiated the talk. He said he wouldn't blame me if I got tired of having so little time with him. I said I appreciated his thoughts, but I'm optimistic.

I really don't know what's going on, but when I talk about some event a few months out he acts like I should assume he'll be the one attending it with me.

I care for him a lot. A LOT. Just don't know what to do. So confused..

@PuraLeo

13 Years

I should say, I haven't seen him for 2 weeks. We communicated briefly almost a week ago because we were going to meet up but he had to cancel because of work.

I texted him a little hello a few days later, no response.

I texted another little hello yesterday and heard back today.

who said caps males mirror actions? idk, but that seems so foreign to me.

I dont get that. when it takes my friend hrs to text back I think about trying to mirror him but I cant do it. I just follow what I want to do.

imo, mirroring is not being true to yourself. its denying the person to see who you really are.

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Posted by lnana04
who said caps males mirror actions? idk, but that seems so foreign to me.

I dont get that. when it takes my friend hrs to text back I think about trying to mirror him but I cant do it. I just follow what I want to do.

imo, mirroring is not being true to yourself. its denying the person to see who you really are.

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Oops.. I meant to post-

The way people explained it was, because of a Cap's sense of security and apprehension about rejection, he'll reflect your behavior back to you. If you seem hesitant, he will pull back. If you show you're seriously invested in him he'll reflect the same (if he feels that way).

Something about being cautious enough to gauge your feelings then reflect the same back to you so they're never in a position of vulnerability..?

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Posted by PuraLeo
Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Posted by PuraLeo
Thanks for your input!

I don't want to play games, I want to know if I should pace things more slowly- i.e. respond to his text tomorrow instead of right now?

I will if that's what he needs, I do care about him. Just don't know how to act now?

Two weeks is hard though. what status are you guys? this should never happen in a solid committed relationship or if he is your fiance. Daily communication is vital. It doesnt have to be constant all day but it should be consistent.

He's not asked to be exclusive. Dating for 2.5 months. He knows I'm dating a few people, last I checked he told me he wasn't dating other people but who knows. He travels for work 80% of the week. Doesn't bother me, but he's had issues because of that in his past long term relationship.

When he opened his heart to me, the last time I saw him, it was because he initiated the talk. He said he wouldn't blame me if I got tired of having so little time with him. I said I appreciated his thoughts, but I'm optimistic.

I really don't know what's going on, but when I talk about some event a few months out he acts like I should assume he'll be the one attending it with me.

I care for him a lot. A LOT. Just don't know what to do. So confused..

He is a friend and nothing more. He doesnt owe you a Text because your not in a committed relationship but you are acting as if you are. This is why i do not involve myself with the above type of relationships. They are not no good. A lot can happen in 2 weeks.
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Very interesting perspective. Confusing to me that you're saying he's just a friend though. He's been spending his free time with me, multiple dates over a few months, several relationship talks and talked about me meeting his mother, being with him in the long term, etc. I didn't think it was possible we were just friends?

I agree he doesn't owe me anything, but he's always either initiated contact or been quick in responding when I contact him so it leads to some confusion, you know 😉

Thanks for your thoughts, always helps to hear other vantages!

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
wait im confused! lol i thought you guys were dating other people and casual dating but he is talking long term and meeting the mom? so your def more that friends!🙂 maybe its time for a chat with him 🙂 it's not right to have you waiting 2 weeks. just keep it real and honest and speak from your heart you can't go wrong there 🙂 Sounds like you really like him.

I do 😉 He's worth sorting through the confusion.

Many thanks, again!

@Langvad

13 Years

Posted by Chance11
we don't mirror ppl..they mirror us and then we get disappointed because they're so unoriginal 🙂

on a serious note, just do what you normally would as far as calling or texting..iniative is good in our eyes and who knows what he's thinking..we're slow sometimes when it comes to the opposite sex (it's part of our charm, trust me 😄)

SPOT ON!!

@truecap

14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by PuraLeo
I should say, I haven't seen him for 2 weeks. We communicated briefly almost a week ago because we were going to meet up but he had to cancel because of work.

I texted him a little hello a few days later, no response.

I texted another little hello yesterday and heard back today.

Mirror his actions. If it takes him 24 hours to respond to you, then you do the same. I think its rude when people don't respond within a reasonable amount of time. He needs a taste of his own medicine. Say "sorry, I just now saw your text".

@truecap

14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by PuraLeo
Oops.. I meant to post-

The way people explained it was, because of a Cap's sense of security and apprehension about rejection, he'll reflect your behavior back to you. If you seem hesitant, he will pull back. If you show you're seriously invested in him he'll reflect the same (if he feels that way).

Something about being cautious enough to gauge your feelings then reflect the same back to you so they're never in a position of vulnerability..?

This is true. Have you been slow responding to him in the past? If so, then disregard what I just posted.

@truecap

14 Years10,000+ Posts

Okay. You're dating other people but he's not. He's initiating the long term talks. = he is afraid to put it out there.

On the other hand, he didn't contact you for two weeks. Uhhh....could be he thinks you're not serious. Could be he's not serious about you.

I know what I say is double edged and can go either way.

Here's what I do when that happens:
If someone doesn't contact me for two weeks, I assume they aren't serious and go about my business and date other people. I'll be friendly when they contact me, but I don't put much weight into the relationship. If they are serious about you, they will find a way to contact you. Two weeks is too long, they're not really into you and you need to stop treating this as a serious relationship.

Just my two cents.

@Serginho

13 Years500+ Posts

Text RIGHT NOW.
If he texst at the moment then he's ready to get a response back for a 5 minutes. After that time I'm not sure. 🙂 Life is changing and there are a lot of chances for a "depression". 🙂

On the other side.
Text is nothing. Face to face, eyes to eyes, body to body, passion to passion is the only suffiicient to feel the love.

You cares A LOT. You're interesting, your researching our minds. That's melting us.

If you want to hurt or reject Capricorn, leave it without feedback. Just be quiet. After a short while he himself shut up forever for you.

The only thing I can help is to mention this article. It's not native but I hope I'll understand.

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*texts

* You'll understand
🙂

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Thanks, all! Very insightful. Trying to follow your input to the letter 😉

I texted him back last night a few hours after he had responded. Kept it light, told it him it was good to hear from him.

I'm scared to get hurt, so is he. But the more I read about Caps the more careful I feel I need to be with every move I make. Can't tell if he's just doing that as well..?

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Posted by truecap
Okay. You're dating other people but he's not. He's initiating the long term talks. = he is afraid to put it out there.

On the other hand, he didn't contact you for two weeks. Uhhh....could be he thinks you're not serious. Could be he's not serious about you.

I know what I say is double edged and can go either way.

Here's what I do when that happens:
If someone doesn't contact me for two weeks, I assume they aren't serious and go about my business and date other people. I'll be friendly when they contact me, but I don't put much weight into the relationship. If they are serious about you, they will find a way to contact you. Two weeks is too long, they're not really into you and you need to stop treating this as a serious relationship.

Just my two cents.

Great advice. He's so hard to read sometimes!

I meant to say I haven't seen him for 2 weeks. We communicated briefly almost a week ago because we were going to meet up but he had to cancel because of work. Then I texted him a little hello a few days later, no response. I texted another little hello Saturday and heard back Sunday.

I feel like he's testing my loyalty. He said he foresees me needing more time with him than his work will allow, and that he wouldn't blame me if I wanted to see other people because of it, but he would want to keep me in his life in some form or fashion if that happened. I said that I want to at least give it a try, and that he's worth it. Haven't met up since then.

Do I need to suggest being exclusive? Seems like he's testing, no?

@truecap

14 Years10,000+ Posts

I misunderstood. I thought you meant he ignored you for two weeks.

You could approach the talk like this: "Someone asked me out, but I turned them down". You could add "I'm not really interested in meeting anyone new or seeing anyone else".

Then wait and see what he says and let him take the lead. It's a way to have "the talk" without actually having to approach it. It puts the focus on you without putting pressure on him and it leaves it open for him to discuss. You'll be able to tell what direction he wants to go in how he responds.

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@SkyeTitan

14 Years

Not sure if I mirror his actions (I probably do), but man my boyfriend does this shyt.
If I say I miss you, he says it right after (but never initiates it.)
If I say things like "thinking about you", a day later or such he says it to me lol.
If I playfully diss him, he'll find a way to subliminally, low-key diss me back.
If I make a zoned-out facial expression when talking about my past relationships, he makes that same zoned-out facial expression LOL!

At some point I just called him out about it like "why do you feel like you have to repeat everything I'm saying to you?
Lol I'm just speaking from the heart.
Don't feel like you HAVE to say it back to me, unless of course you mean it."
And he said something like he really means it lol.
To me it's funny-cute.

@PuraLeo

13 Years

Posted by truecap
I misunderstood. I thought you meant he ignored you for two weeks.

You could approach the talk like this: "Someone asked me out, but I turned them down". You could add "I'm not really interested in meeting anyone new or seeing anyone else".

Then wait and see what he says and let him take the lead. It's a way to have "the talk" without actually having to approach it. It puts the focus on you without putting pressure on him and it leaves it open for him to discuss. You'll be able to tell what direction he wants to go in how he responds.

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truecap: Mighty helpful. Looks like we'll be meeting up later this week. I'll give it a go, thanks so much!

Posted by SkyeTitan
Not sure if I mirror his actions (I probably do), but man my boyfriend does this shyt.
If I say I miss you, he says it right after (but never initiates it.)
If I say things like "thinking about you", a day later or such he says it to me lol.
If I playfully diss him, he'll find a way to subliminally, low-key diss me back.
If I make a zoned-out facial expression when talking about my past relationships, he makes that same zoned-out facial expression LOL!

At some point I just called him out about it like "why do you feel like you have to repeat everything I'm saying to you?
Lol I'm just speaking from the heart.
Don't feel like you HAVE to say it back to me, unless of course you mean it."
And he said something like he really means it lol.
To me it's funny-cute.

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SkyeTitan: Looks like you've got it down to a science! It seems funny-cute to an outsider as well 🙂

@truecap

14 Years10,000+ Posts

Usually with mirroring, people don't realize they do it. Like if you cross your legs, they cross theirs. If they put their hands in their pockets you put your hands in yours. Its a subconscious move of body language. Most of the time it means you are in tune with each other and take turns taking the lead.

I noticed a co-worker of mine that I take breaks with and I do that. I noticed and brought it up. We had a big laugh about it.

I don't think that's the kind or mirroring you were talking about, but I thought I'd toss it out there.

@tiki33

19 Years10,000+ Posts

I agree with xo, he's just a friend and behaving like a friend. Why you would put your heart out to some guy whose being random with you makes no sense and a recipe for heartache.

If you're dating other men who are actually not being random with you, showing up for you, taking real interest in you which includes spending time with you then that's who you focus on.

80% on the road leads little time for you. Talk is cheap, plus you've already shown him that he can be half ass with you and you'll still sit there so there really is no incentive to give more of himself when you've shown him you'll take less just to have a connection with him so he's going to do what he's doing...nothing.

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