Cap moon man. Extra distant when in love? How do..

...you feel about someone confessing their love for you? What makes you fall in love?

Are you thinking about telling him you love him? If so, how long have you been with him?

I have a cap moon. I'm female, though.

As far as someone confessing their love for me: If I love them, too, I'm ecstatic; if I don't love them, it makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes, though, if given time to think about it, I might develop more feelings after knowing they do.

What makes me fall in love? It just happens. If the chemistry and personality and values fit mine, it happens without having to think about it. Takes a while though.

Posted by truecap
Are you thinking about telling him you love him? If so, how long have you been with him?

I have a cap moon. I'm female, though.


As far as someone confessing their love for me: If I love them, too, I'm ecstatic; if I don't love them, it makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes, though, if given time to think about it, I might develop more feelings after knowing they do.

What makes me fall in love? It just happens. If the chemistry and personality and values fit mine, it happens without having to think about it. Takes a while though.

He has a Scorpio sun. We've been neighbors for a long time and I've been interested in him for a couple of yrs, but having a Scorpio rising I was waiting on him. He finally approached me about 3mos ago and then about a month ago we started seeing each other. He said he had been checking me out and that he liked the way I carry my self. But now he's distant. We have been intimate a few times, I guess you can say that things developed really fast after our first date.

Posted by littlemegabyte
I have a cap moon and I am female also. I told a cap sun that I loved him recently and it did not go over so well. I would not do it unless you are a THOUSAND percent sure that he feels the same way. I honestly think these men want to be the first to say it. In my own personal experience, it will not end well if he does not feel the same. Of course, I don't know your situation.

He has a Scorpio sun. We've been neighbors for a long time and I've been interested in him for a couple of yrs, but having a Scorpio rising I was waiting on him. He finally approached me about 3mos ago and then about a month ago we started seeing each other. He said he had been checking me out and that he liked the way I carry my self. But now he's distant. We have been intimate a few times, I guess you can say that things developed really fast after our first date.

Posted by MizzElle

Posted by truecap
Are you thinking about telling him you love him? If so, how long have you been with him?

I have a cap moon. I'm female, though.


As far as someone confessing their love for me: If I love them, too, I'm ecstatic; if I don't love them, it makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes, though, if given time to think about it, I might develop more feelings after knowing they do.

What makes me fall in love? It just happens. If the chemistry and personality and values fit mine, it happens without having to think about it. Takes a while though.

He has a Scorpio sun. We've been neighbors for a long time and I've been interested in him for a couple of yrs, but having a Scorpio rising I was waiting on him. He finally approached me about 3mos ago and then about a month ago we started seeing each other. He said he had been checking me out and that he liked the way I carry my self. But now he's distant. We have been intimate a few times, I guess you can say that things developed really fast after our first date.

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There are a couple of scenarios that could be it:
1. It's going too fast, perhaps? He needs space (we need space) and wants to sit back and analyze how he feels about you, whether he wants to continue or not.

2. Or after dating for a month, he may have decided you're not the one. You either feel it or you don't and if he doesn't that doesn't mean he's a bad guy. Can't force something, so no hard feelings.

3. He just wanted to date casually and senses you're developing feelings, so he back off.

Either way, DO NOT tell him you love him after only ONE month. It's way, way, way too soon. You don't even really know him yet and it will ring false on his ears. He'll question your judgement and whether you even know what love is.

Don't tell him for a minimal of six months and only if you have the title of girlfriend; I recommend after being together for a year.

Posted by MizzElle
...you feel about someone confessing their love for you? What makes you fall in love?

I have some experience with cap moon men.

They're workaholics so get used to that.

They're shy and scared of rejection so tell him you "like" him a lot. Or if you love him, go ahead and tell him. If he doesn't say the same back, don't sweat it. If he likes you he'll be a happy bunny inside and he'll start acting more loving towards you. You need to be a confident woman to pull this one off cos it's not easy to tell someone how you feel and not get the same back, but trust me, it works.

Be reliable and be consistent.

Have a plan for your future, don't be lazy and be supportive of his goals.

Yes they are distant so it's best if you're independent and have your own thing going on.

Don't be afraid to put him in his place if you send him a message and he takes forever to respond. But when you're putting him in his place, throw in a few loving words so he knows you don't hate him...you're just mad at him.

They're hard work, so....good luck

Very good analysis, Caia.

Just thought I'd throw this out there. I don't handle dramatics very well. If someone comes to me with some dramatic situation, I'm going to ask a lot of questions and logically break it down to the basics to find the root cause. I'll likely tell them they're over reacting. This comes across as cold and not caring and not being supportive, but I'm not jumping on the bandwagon just because someone is upset. I'm going to probably tell them to suck it up and deal with it, or give them a rational way to work it out. In my opinion, I am caring because I took the time to ask questions and get to the bottom of it and I'm supporting them because I'm helping them solve it. Yet, they think I'm not on their side just because I'm not as upset as they are. Drama is a waste of time.

Now, I have cap sun/moon/mercury so that response to it is likely a combination of all three placements. Not sure where the moon reaction is seperated from those three.

And as far as my own emotions - rarely will I let someone know what I'm feeling. Honestly, sometimes it's purposely controlled, sometimes, I just don't know how to show the emotion. Sometimes this is a good thing, sometimes it's a bad thing. For example, I can control the anger (good), but I'd like to be able to show excitement, too, which I can't (bad). Only those that know me very, very well can read me, or so I'm told.