Cap Women and Money

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Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
How important is money to you?

Would you chose money over love?

Ever been with someone purely for money?

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?

^^^^^^

I knew a capricorn girl ...and she answered yes to all of these questions....

money is is important to capricorns ....there is no getting around that ....just like safety is important to crabs ...alot times they mean the same thing

money=safety?

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Posted by UndauntedSoul88
Very important. In fact, so important, that I worked tirelessly to accomplish my educational goals to enable me to give my family and myself the life I want for us.

No, I would not choose money over love.

I've my own money and don't need to be with someone purely for monetary gain. However, I won't date down the food chain. He needs to be my equal.

Never has the thought to steal money crossed my mind. Wrong sign. Capricorns will, however, put their personal lives on hold for years to make sure they earn enough money first. We like security. But we love earning it even more.
Yeah I figured caps like to work hard for their success, and the women though, might have some higher than average standards when it comes to $ $ $

That's nice you wouldn't choose money over love or steal. Good character!
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How important is money to you?

Would you chose money over love?

Ever been with someone purely for money?

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?

^^^^^^

I knew a capricorn girl ...and she answered yes to all of these questions....

money is is important to capricorns ....there is no getting around that ....just like safety is important to crabs ...alot times they mean the same thing

money=safety?

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Yeah i guess that makes sense
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How important is money to you?

Would you chose money over love?

Ever been with someone purely for money?

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?
1. Extremely important. I have needs.

2. I need more information

3. No. My aim is self sufficiency.

4. Yup.
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Lol #2

If the love of your life had $ in the beginning but lost it all would you leave or stand by them for the sake of love?
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Talking with one of my besties, Cap sun Cap Venus

"If a man doesn't have money, then he sure as hell won't have me"

"Good dick with zero dollars equals shit"

We see a hot guy...

"But what I really wanna know is does he have money?"

Idk 😆

It's hilarious and she's always dead ass serious. BTW she's answered yes to all those questions


With caps no money no hunny —
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Talking with one of my besties, Cap sun Cap Venus

"If a man doesn't have money, then he sure as hell won't have me"

"Good dick with zero dollars equals shit"

We see a hot guy...

"But what I really wanna know is does he have money?"

Idk 😆

It's hilarious and she's always dead ass serious. BTW she's answered yes to all those questions


With caps no money no hunny —
Lol I'm actually not picky in that regard. We can be poor together.
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Just stating facts I'm not poor nor rich but I love nice things and I do work hard for what I have same with the cap females I know with an exception of two. They told me straight up if you don't have money ? You're wasting your time and mines.
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Posted by Capri-sun
How important is money to you?

Very important

Would you chose money over love?

After elaborating on this question with shadowcat, it depends. Simple answer, no. I've been in the situation where my ex didn't work for 3 years, and I refuse to support a grown man who is fully capable of earning a living.



Ever been with someone purely for money?

No...well there was an old man that paid me to clean his apartment and keep him company when I was 16 if that counts.

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?

Would I? No. Have I in the past? Yes, in 1st grade I was a clepto and stole people's lunch money out of their desks.
What I do notice tho caps love hardworkers the more you work the better.
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How important is money to you?

Would you chose money over love?

Ever been with someone purely for money?

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?
1. Extremely important. I have needs.

2. I need more information. Actual love or infatuation? What kind of love(platonic, familial)

3. No. My aim is self sufficiency.

4. Yup.
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From whom did you steal the money?

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How important is money to you?

Very important

Would you chose money over love?

After elaborating on this question with shadowcat, it depends. Simple answer, no. I've been in the situation where my ex didn't work for 3 years, and I refuse to support a grown man who is fully capable of earning a living.



Ever been with someone purely for money?

No...well there was an old man that paid me to clean his apartment and keep him company when I was 16 if that counts.

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?

Would I? No. Have I in the past? Yes, in 1st grade I was a clepto and stole people's lunch money out of their desks.
What I do notice tho caps love hardworkers the more you work the better.

True. I work alot so it is nice when I find someone with a similar work ethic / passion.

My family has a running joke about how much we work...it's what I do best 😄

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Lol the cap I'm seeing asked what was up to after not seeing her for a good month in the past I said I've been hustling her eyes lit up lol
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How important is money to you?

Would you chose money over love?

Ever been with someone purely for money?

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?
1. Extremely important. I have needs.

2. I need more information. Actual love or infatuation? What kind of love(platonic, familial)

3. No. My aim is self sufficiency.

4. Yup.


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From whom did you steal the money?


Highschool, lunchtime I was picky but didn't have money(that was common fkr me). Still I refused to eat things that i dislike. One of the bake sale attendants was counting money, she dropped a dollar, I grabbed it before she noticed. Then I paid for a cookie with the dollar I stole.
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Ohh... lol

I went straight to embezzlement in my head... or a heist!

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How important is money to you?

Very important

Would you chose money over love?

After elaborating on this question with shadowcat, it depends. Simple answer, no. I've been in the situation where my ex didn't work for 3 years, and I refuse to support a grown man who is fully capable of earning a living.



Ever been with someone purely for money?

No...well there was an old man that paid me to clean his apartment and keep him company when I was 16 if that counts.

Would you or have you in the past stolen money?

Would I? No. Have I in the past? Yes, in 1st grade I was a clepto and stole people's lunch money out of their desks.
What I do notice tho caps love hardworkers the more you work the better.

True. I work alot so it is nice when I find someone with a similar work ethic / passion.

My family has a running joke about how much we work...it's what I do best 😄

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When cappys are stressed they work even more lol
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Talking with one of my besties, Cap sun Cap Venus

"If a man doesn't have money, then he sure as hell won't have me"

"Good dick with zero dollars equals shit"

We see a hot guy...

"But what I really wanna know is does he have money?"

Idk 😆

It's hilarious and she's always dead ass serious. BTW she's answered yes to all those questions


With caps no money no hunny —
Lol I'm actually not picky in that regard. We can be poor together.
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You're different lol what are your other placements?
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Talking with one of my besties, Cap sun Cap Venus

"If a man doesn't have money, then he sure as hell won't have me"

"Good dick with zero dollars equals shit"

We see a hot guy...

"But what I really wanna know is does he have money?"

Idk 😆

It's hilarious and she's always dead ass serious. BTW she's answered yes to all those questions


With caps no money no hunny —
Lol I'm actually not picky in that regard. We can be poor together.
Just stating facts I'm not poor nor rich but I love nice things and I do work hard for what I have same with the cap females I know with an exception of two. They told me straight up if you don't have money ? You're wasting your time and mines.

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Haha yupp my friend has said this too

How do you respond when women say that kind of stuff?
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No. I wanna be on food stamps and teach my kids to leech off the system. ?

I hate when people bring this up. Who here is a buddhist monk?

I need money to support my family. It's my job to instill a good work ethic in my kids. I don't choose objects over people. I'm no more materialistic than any other sign. Possibly even less so.
🙂

Its fun to ask random questions and see how many fit the stereotype.

Libras are fake

Cancers are moody

Capricorns love money

Yeah everyone wants money! But people's opinions when it comes to relationships or love differ.
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Posted by lnana04
Heck no Im not stealing money and NO Im not choosing money over love.

Lets speak of all the Cap women we know with guys that have a lot of money, which I dont personally know any of these type of Cap women. Even if the guy had money, are they not still good guys?

I think even if a Cap is a gold digger, character wil come first.
Intresting

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Heck no Im not stealing money and NO Im not choosing money over love.

Lets speak of all the Cap women we know with guys that have a lot of money, which I dont personally know any of these type of Cap women. Even if the guy had money, are they not still good guys?

I think even if a Cap is a gold digger, character wil come first.
Intresting

🙂
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Think about it. Many Cap women, whether the guy is rich or poor, is with pretty good guys. I think that says it all

Many of us dont do jack@sses, whether you have $ 2 or $ 2billion.

When people say that all it takes is money I shake my head, because so many with money are horrible people, and it's made to seem like we'd date a horrible person and get mistreated just because of the amount of money he has, which is completely not true.

You have to be a good person above ALL.
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Posted by UndauntedSoul88
Some of these comments are funny. Some people carry a chip on their shoulder where Caps are concerned. I've said it many times here...self-imposed feelings of inadequacy can be a beast.

It's okay if you don't aspire to better or to be successful. To each their own, right?

From what I've seen, the people who call Caps money-hungry or materialistic tend to not have any capital of their own.


omg so true. lol



people always bitching about "other people's money" is hilarious. I'm like, what does it matter to you what they like?

maybe they are jealous that they love money? i don't get it.

money feeds you and your children, and you can buy beautiful things, good food, and be content, even if you're single. You will be happier if you're earthy.

I've seen people on youtube who live in small flats, small little one room apartments, with all the kitchen and bed in the same room, but they like it,

this is mostly in those cramped cities too. and they seem happy. if that's what they like, so what?

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or those cute one room mobile campers, i'm fascinated with DIY tiny homes, they are so cute and i like how people build them. i think it's because they are so economical and save a lot of money and that's what i like about people who build them. Their thoughts are always economical.









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No. I wanna be on food stamps and teach my kids to leech off the system. ?

I hate when people bring this up. Who here is a buddhist monk?

I need money to support my family. It's my job to instill a good work ethic in my kids. I don't choose objects over people. I'm no more materialistic than any other sign. Possibly even less so.
🙂

Its fun to ask random questions and see how many fit the stereotype.

Libras are fake

Cancers are moody

Capricorns love money

Yeah everyone wants money! But people's opinions when it comes to relationships or love differ.
Afraid this is just another one of those stereotypes I don't feel I fit and I hope I'd be self aware enough to know the difference.

Put me in camp Jahl. We can be poor together. But also let me clarify.

I don't have to hitch my wagon to money, but I WILL NOT hitch my wagon to aimlessness. You took less money to follow a passion? Great. You come from money so you don't *have* to have a job, but you do volunteer work? Awesome. Just do something. Be responsible. Have a plan. Exert effort. Like someone else said, character over money.


I dunno, honestly I've been in phases in my life where I've just being doing something aimlessly.

Ironically, learning how to do nothing at times and be content with who I am made me instantly a better family man and more useful, supportive to my family.

I get what you're saying in principle. Inertia can be an unhealthy feeling physically and mentally. And I have a healthy 24/7 stream of income by anyone's standards before anyone says anything, although I'm pants at saving capital.

There's life outside of goals, productivity and self-improvement that can be very rewarding for anyone's character.

That's my Jean Baudrillard moment over for the day.

I like what lnana said about even a golddigger looks for a good character to spend her life with. Makes you think.
Hippy dippy me agrees with you. I'm secretly stalking wags thread about tiny houses and living off the grid. 😄

Almost 10yrs of marriage to a dreamy Pisces who I had to support financially, emotionally and every other way with little reciprocation disagrees.

Take money out of the equation and the character part still stands. A good partner finds a way to contribute.

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oh my god. lol irony!!! I was just posting about tiny homes hahaha. 😆
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Some of these comments are funny. Some people carry a chip on their shoulder where Caps are concerned. I've said it many times here...self-imposed feelings of inadequacy can be a beast.

It's okay if you don't aspire to better or to be successful. To each their own, right?

From what I've seen, the people who call Caps money-hungry or materialistic tend to not have any capital of their own.


omg so true. lol



people always bitching about "other people's money" is hilarious. I'm like, what does it matter to you what they like?

maybe they are jealous that they love money? i don't get it.

money feeds you and your children, and you can buy beautiful things, good food, and be content, even if you're single. You will be happier if you're earthy.

I've seen people on youtube who live in small flats, small little one room apartments, with all the kitchen and bed in the same room, but they like it,

this is mostly in those cramped cities too. and they seem happy. if that's what they like, so what?

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or those cute one room mobile campers, i'm fascinated with DIY tiny homes, they are so cute and i like how people build them. i think it's because they are so economical and save a lot of money and that's what i like about people who build them. Their thoughts are always economical.




Not to mention ecological. I like to make small footprints.
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yes i agree.

wags has a thread about living off the grid?? is there a forum here for that?

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Well, for what it's worth......i know a cap woman....used to bartend at the club where i was barman/manager...she worked two jobs at that time, never missed nothing, the money count was always correct and now she owns her own coffee place. It has good coffee but it's somewhat too far for me to go there regularly for a cup.

Admittedly, her parents helped her with the initial purchase of the venue....but still. If that wouldn't have been an option she'd rent the place.

If i was to name an outstanding feature of hers, it would be her Audi TT, bought at age 20 something, probably for her own money at that too as she isn't from a wealthy family (2nd gen daughter of immigrant blue collar workers). She is a bit of a man (not physically, but mentally), was always up for a highway race.

😄

As for the familiar stereotypes of women adhering to money....it's true for all signs imho. Such is life. That's why it is best to find someone who is your equal, make a prenup and not worry about "is she only using me for money".

Money is a guarantee of security and safety and it makes 99% of things better if you have it. There is no way around that. That is literally the bottom line and for all those who say money in unimportant, i laugh at them. On my way to the bank..... 😆

Some people just need more safety to feel safe, ergo.... mo' money.


I've done some pretty good research, and pre-nups are mainly /generally a female thing to do, especially if you're a rich,and or wealthy woman. Women in general are afraid of losing their money to men who might be predators.

for example Elizabeth Taylor's 9th husband, 20 years or 30 years younger? She got a pre-nup and he was fine with that. But he still received some money I think.

from Elizabeth Taylor's Wikipedia, on her last husband,

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Larry_Fortensky

When Taylor and Fortensky married in 1991 Fortensky was reported to have a prenuptial agreement where he would receive $ 1 million (with no additional support) if the marriage lasted five years. The couple split after five years in 1996 with Fortensky hiring New York divorce attorney Raoul Felder.[9][10]
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Talking with one of my besties, Cap sun Cap Venus

"If a man doesn't have money, then he sure as hell won't have me"

"Good dick with zero dollars equals shit"

We see a hot guy...

"But what I really wanna know is does he have money?"

Idk 😆

It's hilarious and she's always dead ass serious. BTW she's answered yes to all those questions


With caps no money no hunny —
Lol I'm actually not picky in that regard. We can be poor together.
Just stating facts I'm not poor nor rich but I love nice things and I do work hard for what I have same with the cap females I know with an exception of two. They told me straight up if you don't have money ? You're wasting your time and mines.


Haha yupp my friend has said this too

How do you respond when women say that kind of stuff?

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What makes you think I'll support you—? ?
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basically he would take care of her in her aging years, and be loyal to her, and he'll get a million.

and she still after her death, left him ALOT of money, just because he was there for her...

Following her March 2011 death, she left Fortensky $ 800,000 in her will. As of April 2011 he lives with his sister Donna in a rented two-bedroom bungalow in Menifee, California. He is unable to work following his accident, for which he takes medication. He is estranged from his sister, Linda, who sold information to the National Enquirer, and from his daughter, Julie, following a conflict over money.[1]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Larry_Fortensky
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Some of these comments are funny. Some people carry a chip on their shoulder where Caps are concerned. I've said it many times here...self-imposed feelings of inadequacy can be a beast.

It's okay if you don't aspire to better or to be successful. To each their own, right?

From what I've seen, the people who call Caps money-hungry or materialistic tend to not have any capital of their own.


omg so true. lol



people always bitching about "other people's money" is hilarious. I'm like, what does it matter to you what they like?

maybe they are jealous that they love money? i don't get it.

money feeds you and your children, and you can buy beautiful things, good food, and be content, even if you're single. You will be happier if you're earthy.

I've seen people on youtube who live in small flats, small little one room apartments, with all the kitchen and bed in the same room, but they like it,

this is mostly in those cramped cities too. and they seem happy. if that's what they like, so what?

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or those cute one room mobile campers, i'm fascinated with DIY tiny homes, they are so cute and i like how people build them. i think it's because they are so economical and save a lot of money and that's what i like about people who build them. Their thoughts are always economical.




Not to mention ecological. I like to make small footprints.
yes i agree.

wags has a thread about living off the grid?? is there a forum here for that?


Ha. In the movie section, no less.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/movies/-life-off-grid--7067958/
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thanks!!
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Heck no Im not stealing money and NO Im not choosing money over love.

Lets speak of all the Cap women we know with guys that have a lot of money, which I dont personally know any of these type of Cap women. Even if the guy had money, are they not still good guys?

I think even if a Cap is a gold digger, character wil come first.
Intresting

🙂

Think about it. Many Cap women, whether the guy is rich or poor, is with pretty good guys. I think that says it all

Many of us dont do jack@sses, whether you have $ 2 or $ 2billion.

When people say that all it takes is money I shake my head, because so many with money are horrible people, and it's made to seem like we'd date a horrible person and get mistreated just because of the amount of money he has, which is completely not true.

You have to be a good person above ALL.

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Well said. I totally agree with this
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Posted by aquanib
Well, for what it's worth......i know a cap woman....used to bartend at the club where i was barman/manager...she worked two jobs at that time, never missed nothing, the money count was always correct and now she owns her own coffee place. It has good coffee but it's somewhat too far for me to go there regularly for a cup.

Admittedly, her parents helped her with the initial purchase of the venue....but still. If that wouldn't have been an option she'd rent the place.

If i was to name an outstanding feature of hers, it would be her Audi TT, bought at age 20 something, probably for her own money at that too as she isn't from a wealthy family (2nd gen daughter of immigrant blue collar workers). She is a bit of a man (not physically, but mentally), was always up for a highway race.

😄

As for the familiar stereotypes of women adhering to money....it's true for all signs imho. Such is life. That's why it is best to find someone who is your equal, make a prenup and not worry about "is she only using me for money".

Money is a guarantee of security and safety and it makes 99% of things better if you have it. There is no way around that. That is literally the bottom line and for all those who say money in unimportant, i laugh at them. On my way to the bank..... 😆

Some people just need more safety to feel safe, ergo.... mo' money.


Those who say money isn't important have never had to go without. That's a privileged mentality. Money literally equals life.
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It doesn't even have to be done out of fear either. It can be done as an incentive for both people to stick together and not grow into a relationship that becomes a victim of its own success.


I don't think that works. When things start to really fall apart no lack of prenup in order for both to input their 100% would help. You're actually counting on relationship to continue in order to prove a point it wasn't about the money. At that point, it becomes about the money.




I'm saying a prenup doesn't have to be done out of fear. I am for prenups not against them. I think they can be structured from the outset with a view to protecting the relationship, not just protecting two people from each other. There's a kind of cynical vibe linked to prenups that ignores all the inclusive reasons for drawing one up.

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A prenup isn't about money. It's putting money in the dark and shining light on what is real between two humans.

Signing a prenup sounds sexy to me. It's a contract that basically gifts freedom! It allows two people to be as they are without fear that money could be a midden motivator.

It should release inhibition.



To not sign a prenup is more about the money than not signing it.



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It doesn't even have to be done out of fear either. It can be done as an incentive for both people to stick together and not grow into a relationship that becomes a victim of its own success.


I don't think that works. When things start to really fall apart no lack of prenup in order for both to input their 100% would help. You're actually counting on relationship to continue in order to prove a point it wasn't about the money. At that point, it becomes about the money.




I'm saying a prenup doesn't have to be done out of fear. I am for prenups not against them. I think they can be structured from the outset with a view to protecting the relationship, not just protecting two people from each other. There's a kind of cynical vibe linked to prenups that ignores all the inclusive reasons for drawing one up.


A prenup isn't about money. It's putting money in the dark and shining light on what is real between two humans.

Signing a prenup sounds sexy to me. It's a contract that basically gifts freedom! It allows two people to be as they are without fear that money could be a midden motivator.

It should release inhibition.



To not sign a prenup is more about the money than not signing it.




Thank you. You said it better. I don't know about the last part because it's more subjective than to be able to instantly talk about people's motivations for not signing one.

But everything else you said, I strongly agree. It's a scenario that pops up in game theory about human nature. I've forgotten what the specific game is called but it shows that two people can have conflicts of interests along the way.

A prenup is romantic to me. Liberates you both to build as much as success as you like together, without that success turning yours interests against one another.

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Liberation was the word I was looking for! It takes out the 'gamble' too though. But with all gambling comes power to win and that doesn't sound beneficial.

Please, Enlighten me if you remember the game name.
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Liberation was the word I was looking for! It takes out the 'gamble' too though. But with all gambling comes power to win and that doesn't sound beneficial.

Please, Enlighten me if you remember the game name.


Funnily enough I just looked it up and in game theory it is called, appropriately enough: a commitment problem.

I can't find a game right now with the right scenario that takes it step by step through all the possible moves. If I do I'll post it.

But the underlying lesson of the game is just to show in human nature that preference matters more than words. The game actually shows that present commitments can actually ddirectly change each player's future preferences so they are either unable to commit at present, or will inevitably find gain in breaking their commitment in the future.

For both players to avoid getting into this game in the first place they need to put something in place that always makes sure they gain from playing together (prenup). It frees them from future commitment problems.

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Like a twist on Juamjii. A commitment problem is a game we all play really. Sounds intriguing!

This would be a hit this Christmas with the family! Ha. ? If this were made into a board game like I now envision I'd be curious to what the game pieces would look like.

Male and female pieces color coated in blue and pink? Or maybe neon green and yellow for the rebels. Or perhaps they'd just look like Lego versions of different ethnicities and you have to play by the one you most related to.
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The reality is that money is the leading cause of stress in relationships. A fairytale will likely become bitter if i am unable to to maintain a certain level of comfort i am used to anyway so I had not coupled up with anyone who struggled with money. I however definitely do not value money over love. My idealism re love is very high and i would only commit when i have the ideal love i seek. A good work ethic and being passionate about what he does are part of the qualities that attract me so these are not in conflict with valuing love over money.

When i feel finanically secure, i really don't care whether it's 1M or 100M, as an example. in fact, i refer a simpler life together.