Capricorn feeling resentment towards me?

He may be a little turned off. Instead of asking him directly, or just leaving, it reads as you tried to manipulate him into caving in to what you wanted by guilt.

I do think it was a bit much to actually miss the plane on purpose and sleep in the airport for a day, just to see if he'd offer you to stay. Thats something he'll ponder in his mind, wondering if he can deal with those tactics from you long term.

What you wanted to do, which was stay, had nothing to do with what he wanted to do obviously. Instead of taking the hint you tried to force it.

I wouldnt say he handled it the best either.
I know one thing though, if many of us have times/dates in mind we like to keep the plans.

OMG!!! Are you kidding??

Straight shooting here. I'm going to be bluntly honest with you on my impression of this. Hope you see it for what it is and not think I'm just being rude or trying to hurt your feelings.

First of all, the emotional outburst is a major turnoff. All the crying and stuff. I wouldn't want that. I don't know how to deal with it. Caps are extemely uncomfortable with all the emotional hooplah.

Then, he made an effort to get you to the plane on time. And you still missed it—?!!!!! Puh-lease! If you called me that you missed your plane after I made an effort to get you there on time, I would have been irritated as hell!!!! Why is your lack of emotional maturity and lack of strength, supposed to affect me and put me out of my way? I don't care who you are, I would have left you there too. It would have been different if your plane was canceled, but you did this on purpose because you "weren't in the right state of mind?" RED FLAG on your emotional well being, sanity and maturity.

Cap motto is: Suck it up and do what you need to do. You didn't do that.

If that happened to me, I wouldn't contact you anymore either. I'd write you off because your actions showed you're not the kind of person I'd want to be with. Too emotional. Too clingy. Lack of maturity. Lack of planning. Needy. Manipulative. Indirect.

I know I don't know you. You're probably a very nice person. I'm not judging you, but based on what you said here, that's what my gut instinct is telling me. I apologize if this sounds rude and insensitive.

Thanks for the advice guys.I'm an Aquarius with Venus in cap.the thing Is i know he didn't want me to stay longer,that's why i didn't ask.and i feel like if he stops talking to me because of this situation he never liked me or loved me in the first place.it's one stupid incident of miscommunication.so if he truly likes me he'll contact me.

I'm just scared that what we have is over😢 because everything has always been good.i can't stop thinking about him ,i can't sleep,eat ,its terrible 😢

I'm curious. You said you've been in this relationship for 9 months. Obviously, it's long distance. So, how many times have you actually had face to face time with each other?

I promise, I'm really not trying to give you a hard time. I'm just still thinking WTF?

You said this:
"the thing is i didn't miss my flight on purpose i wasn't in the state of mind to fly that day and i wasn't too emotional,i was just tearing up like a normal human being would if he/she would miss someone".

I still don't understand why you missed your plane. You were on time to make your plane. You said you didn't miss it on purpose, but I don't see how you missed it. I promise, he doesn't undertand it either.

Quit making him to look like the bad guy when this is all your own doing.

It's your fault you had to sleep in the airport not his. You said you would get a hotel, or spend time with friends. He did his duty and took you to the airport. An asshole would have called a cab to take you.

I honestly don't think it's salvageable.

Well, okay. Whether it's salvagable depends on how much time they've spent together and how much face to face contact they've had. It's a long way from Florida to Ohio, so its obviously long distance. My bets are that they haven't spent enough time together for him to be that invested. Plus she's got flying anxiety, and if they continue to see each other, she's going to have to fly again. Why I'm saying not salvageable.

On the other hand, if they have had lots of one on one time together. Or used to live in the same town, then perhaps he's invested enough to overlook all this.

I just have a feeling I'm right that they don't see each other much.

Girly, I honestly think you should move on. Of course I think you handled it poorly, but so did he. He is lukewarm about this whole thing, clearly. Thats not a good temp for you or him.

I personally think you should find someone more compatible.

I don't think he's scared. Not enough time together to invest like that. He may really like you, but doesn't seem like he's putting out much effort. (I.E. you having to go see him.)I think he's distancing himself because he doesn't want a real relationship and he didn't like the stunt you pulled. Sorry, but I feel I have to say it. I just don't see that he's that dedicated to you. And he's most likely not completely going to cut off contact because you're an option. You're not a threat to his social life and whoever he's seeing because you live so far away. You're easily explained to other girls as a nonthreat. I'm sorry, I'm really not cold hearted and I feel everything I'm saying sounds all cold and heartless. I'm just saying out loud the way I think. The realism viewpoint is a tough way to live. Probably why caps run through depressions and are viewed as a negative sign.

To FoxGlove:
As far investing in a LDR: I can only speak for myself. Depending on the conversation and quality of that conversation, I think over time a cap could have develop an emotional attachment to someone long distance. However, we are realist and long distance relationships just aren't feaseable. We may go see you, you come see us, but the reality of it is there is no way to take it serious. How can you? Unless, it is very, very frequent visits or a situation that puts him/her in town a lot. We plan for the future, so that has to be considered. A cap isn't likely to just up and move - we have roots, a career, family. Plus its too risky - LDR's are no way to tell if you're truely really compatible as you can tell if you spend every day together. Again, this is just one humble caps opinion and feelings on the matter. replace we with me because I can't speak for everyone.

Maybe someone else will chime in.

Never stay with the first guy you had sex with and especially don't stay in a relationship just because he needs the support. All that will lead to is you sacrificing everything and feeling really, really bad yourself because the guy can't pay you back in some way. If he already has trouble recognising some emotional signs he will not know when and how to repay you when it gets better for him.

Chances are that by that time he will move on.

I've seen that too many times with female friends around me and it just keeps dragging on. Either you like the way it is working now and how he is or you move on. Don't stay in the hopes that it will change.

My advice; give him a special place in your hart and move on.

Its not fair😢 he's done much more wring than right and now he's making me look like the bad guy.

It's not about who is more wrong.
You came here asking for advice and we showed you a mirror. That already taught you quite a bit.
Nobody is blaming you, but he cannot respond to untold hopes and wishes.

He is making you feel good when he is not there but miserable when he is.
The big question is actually, if you did not feel that attached to him, would you accept that sort of behaviour from any other guy?

"Cap men can be cold, or maybe seemingly cold. They won't like you unless you can be cold too"

Sad to say but this is true. I am typically nice to my Cap Man, but when he gets distant I get distant right with him. And yes when he does things he knows he shouldnt have, I don't fuss I just get ice cold and that is punishment enough, because he hates it and it hurts his feelings big time. He tries to play if off with an I don't care attitude, but I see right through that.

I agree you have to be straight forward with cap men and tell them what cha need and want..

Kenyab: I think that you have lost yourself here a bit. Go back 9 months before you met him and pick up from there. Surely you have friends All Aqua's do. Find yourself girl. Go back to doing you whatever that was. Let him have some space let him miss you. Get into your life and do it well. If he loves you and still wants you in his life I promise there will be a void in his life and he will get back to you. Mean while live life..

Idk what to do.All I know is I feel sick to my stomach. 😢

Thanks for all the advice guys.I think I'm gonna contact him tonight and ask how he's doing?is that ok? :/

Quietstorm.so what should I do now?when I contact him he responds,but he hasn't initiated for the past week.should I continue initiating and contact him tonight?or let him be?I fear if I key him be,he'll think I'm not interested in him anymore 😢

Yeah....you were a bit immature in your approach but he's is a bit of a jerk. He could have been the better/bigger person. Perhaps that's a sign. He may be one of those guys/Cap men who...when it comes down to it would rather be right that supportive. Who wants that in a man? ... Just a thought.

kenya please move forward. He told you in the beginning he had commitment issues. You are seeing the actions of a commitement phobe(sp?). Honestly, he'll probably never care the way you want him too. Why torture yourself even more. Youve lost your virginity, money, confidence, time, a chance at a healthy relationship. You are loosing here, while he does what he wants, which is nothing....yet he's benifitting. This can make you upset at him, but there is that saying that when people tell/show you who they are, believe them. In so many ways he's said and shown that he's not capable.

I wish you luck in this

Posted by kenyabobbydo
Quietstorm I get what you mean.I didn't miss my flight or sleep at the airport cause I wanted to manipulate him or w.e.i did that cause I didn't get on the flight I was upset and sad that day and it was a late flight,I fear flying at night.i just thought it would of been nice if he offered to pick me up or show some care at least.thats what upsets me him not offering

I can't get past this. It's ridiculous you missed your flight. How did you get there? You didn't miss THAT flight did you?

Sorry.

Posted by kenyabobbydo
Thanks for the advice Libra,I've been chasing this whole relationship :-/because I read that caps are insecure and they won't go forward in the relationship if they're not sure about the other persons feelings towards them so I kept chasing and showing him that I'm interested and he used to say alot of of guys like you I'm jealous and i dont measure up to them and that's also the reason why i chase.i dont even know if he's afraid to lose me cause he never really chased

Kenya, you're a sweet, naive girl. Honey, don't chase. Reassurance and chasing are TWO separate things. For future reference, don't chase. Let the man come to you! If a man knows you want them and they don't have to work for it, then they will keep you on the back burner, an option, an in-between girl until they meet THE girl. A man wants what is earned. Him chasing you lets him earn you. Things we earn are much more appreciated and valued than things that are given. So even if a man has your heart, don't let him know it until he gives you his first. Don't contact a man first, don't e-mail, chat or initiate anything.

Keep some mystery. Let them wonder about what you're doing. You know how us women go crazy wondering what a man is up to? Well, they do as well, except we just don't know it.

What makes a person attractive is that they are confident and independent and have a busy life. So, get busy! Work. Find a hobby. Go out with friends. Take a class. See other people. Always have something going on. Then a man sees that, and thinks, wow! She's got it going on. She must be fabulous!

Reassurance is letting them know subtly that you'd be up for a date. You can do this with eye contact. Or a very, very subtle suggestion as in I heard that such and such movie is good. Have you seen it yet? Note: simple conversation, no expectations, no pressure, but leaves it up to him to pick it up and say no, would you like to go? See what I mean?

Chasing = not cool!

Find some threads Tiki has commented on. She's got excellent advice!