Capricorn men and Persistance

OMG...I had a couple talks with my capricorn friend and I decided that maybe it would be best if we were just friends and that I actually thought it would be better if we just didnt talk anymore. Well he doesn't listen and then he goes on with a list on why we should still talk. Every time I say, no, I just don't think it will work, he comes back with something else. He has really been opening up lately. He told me that he trust me and really enjoys me, calling more, etc. But I REALLY REALLY like him. And he isn't actually coming right out and saying how he feels about me. He told me last night that he values our friendship alot....Friendship isnt the word I wanted to hear. He just is starting to CONFUSE the heck out of me and that is why I need a break, so I can catch myself.

Yeah. I guess I'm just more confused then ever.

But I REALLY REALLY like him. And he isn't actually coming right out and saying how he feels about me. He told me last night that he values our friendship alot....Friendship isnt the word I wanted to hear. He just is starting to CONFUSE the heck out of me and that is why I need a break, so I can catch myself.

What's confusing? He values your FRIENDSHIP, there is nothing confusing about that and if you truly wanted to cut ties then do it, why are you still lingering around hoping to hear something different?

He likes your friendship, he's opening up as a friend and he doesn't want to cut the friendship connection, it works for him but it doesn't work for you so unless you want to be stuck in the friendship box....

Well...to be honest TIKI, he has shown wayyy more interest in me then I have him.. I'm telling DXP that I like him alot....I dont express myself openley like that to him. And I can feel thathe likes me MORE then a friend. My problem is having the patience to wait until he is ready to admit it.

Why should you wait?

Why are women doing this wait BS!!!!!!!

Okay I'm done ranting...softy if you wanna wait then wait, if you feel he's going to at some point say your the one then wait but what a huge disappointment if he doesn't....your self esteem is going to plummet like the stock market

lol...im not waiting for him to say i'm the one. We just Recentley got more serious and yes I am waiting for him to open up Fully, but no I will not wait forever. I may get dissapointed, I may not. But my self esteem will be ok either way.

^^I've told him that I like him. But I just dont go overboard with it.

try not telling him anything about feelings, cap men gaurd there hearts fiercely, let him tell you how he feels, what he wants, it will make you feel cherished and sure about were you stand with him if he's the one opening up....patiencex10,000 and add more zeros as time goes on. Right now he feels friendship and so your waiting for him to feel love and be in love, good luck with that...I would suggest you fill your life up with wonder and love so you won't feel so loopy over his inaction to be anything other than friends and date other men for heavens sake, don't put your life on hold waiting for his approval.

I'm not waiting for him to feel love. I already know he feels more for me then just a friend. I have no doubt that he will express his feelings, I'm waiting for him to verbally say it, that is were I am having a problem being patient.I date other men.. My life doesnt revolve around him. But belive me I know when a man feels for me andhe does, and I sooooo want to tell him how I feel, but like you said Tiki. I have to wait for him to first.

"I'm not waiting for him to feel love. I already know he feels more for me then just a friend."

How do you know? Did he tell you or are you guessing?

Assumptions can be lethal, your judgement could be clouded because you like him way more as a lover than a friend...jus saying

^^^Yes he told me months ago......now his actions are showing me what he said months ago. He is opening up way more and I feel there is more coming....Believe me I know, I'm not assuming.

"OMG...I had a couple talks with my capricorn friend and I decided that maybe it would be best if we were just friends and that I actually thought it would be better if we just didnt talk anymore. Well he doesn't listen and then he goes on with a list on why we should still talk. Every time I say, no, I just don't think it will work, he comes back with something else. He has really been opening up lately. He told me that he trust me and really enjoys me, calling more, etc. But I REALLY REALLY like him. And he isn't actually coming right out and saying how he feels about me. He told me last night that he values our friendship alot....Friendship isnt the word I wanted to hear. He just is starting to CONFUSE the heck out of me and that is why I need a break, so I can catch myself."

None of that says you know...softy no offense but focus! You waver with this back and forth I don't wanna be friends behavior and we shouldn't talk anymore and then you stick around hoping for more and get anxious and upset because he's dragging his feet, stay gone and maybe he won't drag his feet.

You are sending mixed signals, plant your feet on the ground, get rid of the best we be friends talk and stop the NO talk when your not getting your way, just be secure, be confident and let it flow. Your fear is what is holding him back, you waver back and forth too much, just be still, be confident and stick to what you feel.

If you need time then tell him and then stick with that, go somewhere and get your heart and head right and then deal with it, if you wanna stay then stay and wait, if you stop allowing him to intrude then he won't do it but you have to make him see your serious or he will just continue to budge and bully his way in on his terms. There is nothing wrong with admitting you love a man and he can't love you back and walk away for awhile, if you stay around a man that isn't giving you what you need you will begin to feel desperate and needy and that is also a factor in a man dragging his feet.

Stick it out or leave it alone, choose one and stick with it.

^^ You are right about about everything you just said.

Posted by softy
OMG...I had a couple talks with my capricorn friend and I decided that maybe it would be best if we were just friends and that I actually thought it would be better if we just didnt talk anymore. Well he doesn't listen and then he goes on with a list on why we should still talk. Every time I say, no, I just don't think it will work, he comes back with something else. He has really been opening up lately. He told me that he trust me and really enjoys me, calling more, etc. But I REALLY REALLY like him. And he isn't actually coming right out and saying how he feels about me. He told me last night that he values our friendship alot....Friendship isnt the word I wanted to hear. He just is starting to CONFUSE the heck out of me and that is why I need a break, so I can catch myself.

Okay ladies this is the 21 cebtury, it is okay to tell a boy that you like him. Damn it would make our work alot easier.

Cap men are the worst when it comes to being valnurable. We don't tell the girls we like how we feel. I know it's uber retarded but we are a retarded lot. If the girl is not shy she will pick up on our shyness and help is out. If not than the relationship is doomed.

Softy your cap guy likes you more than a friend. the question is are you going to tell him how you feel or are you going to let him go?

Maybe you can some how get him to spill the beans. One trick is to take is out for supper and get us drunk. He he...

🙂

Tiki I dig your style . I think in Canada the women are more assertive with their feelings than their american sisters. It is not uncommon for Canadian girls to ask the guy out.

Maybe it is more traditional in the states. 🙂

Maybe you can some how get him to spill the beans. One trick is to take is out for supper and get us drunk. He he...lmao that's cute but a cap man will disappear real fast and in a hurry for a few weeks or even permanently after spilling his guts especially if he's not relationship ready

per my understanding and maybe someone else can elaborate a cap mans exterior is damn near impenetrable but once your in your in, I think softy just needs to get her emotional self situated so she can show her cap she's confident and emotionally balanced and she's sure of him so he can trust her before she can truly know what she needs to do for herself in this situation.

What does trust mean to a capricorn? I wonder what I did to earn it.

@eric 11...Thanks for the advice. He asked me if I liked him...and thats when I told him YES, I did.
Your right Tiki. I need to get my emotions in check and relax.

Thank you Lively (:

I think I will...