capriorns and contact/distance?

okay so some people say you have to reach out to a cap all the time cause they want to know if you're into them.Well i've been telling my cap i'm into him for the past 10 months and now he stops reaching out to me all of a sudden.And i'm in a confusion because I don't know what to do?Should i just quit initiating and wait for him?because when I do contact him he responds asap but with few words and doesn't continue a conversation it just stops after a few texts.But he hasn't reached out first for a month and i'm sick and tired of worrying about what to do.Should I just stop initiating and wait for him to come to me?

Chasing a Cap man is a major NO NO, his reaction is a normal Cap reaction, some Caps like the aspect of wielding a certain amount of control but that doesn't mean he'll want you just because you chase him through declarations of interest in him, he's found someone/something more interesting, if whatever it is that is distracting him becomes a chore he'll be back for more of that ego stroking, woman chasing praise you're doling out on the regular, he's bored with you.

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Posted by pillowhome
okay so some people say you have to reach out to a cap all the time cause they want to know if you're into them.Well i've been telling my cap i'm into him for the past 10 months and now he stops reaching out to me all of a sudden.And i'm in a confusion because I don't know what to do?Should i just quit initiating and wait for him?because when I do contact him he responds asap but with few words and doesn't continue a conversation it just stops after a few texts.But he hasn't reached out first for a month and i'm sick and tired of worrying about what to do.Should I just stop initiating and wait for him to come to me?

No, people say you have to constantly reassure a Cap cause they want to know if you are still into them. You only need to express your interest ONCE.

The two cases above are not the same thing.

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I've reassured him during the 10 months and he doesn't ever reassure me.So what do you mean?I should stop the intiating and reassuring for now?Cause i've done it too much 😢

I have the same situation as u. I did not confess. But like your capricorn man, my capricorn woman only reply and stop replying after a few text. So what can we do to get her attention!!! I'm a male capricorn though. If a girl pester me I also wouldn't want to respond at all unless is really someone I like too

Okay this is the dude that dreams of becoming a rapist, right?

Delete and block his number.

[ NOBODY else here should be giving her any tips to contact him; read her other thread, and you'll see why. ]

"I've reassured him during the 10 months and he doesn't ever reassure me.So what do you mean?I should stop the intiating and reassuring for now?Cause i've done it too much"

If you've reassured during the 10 months and he never reciprocated well that was your queue to exit the situation with him, you never stick around a guy that lack the ability to do the basics of reciprocation.

Also I don't know how many times during the 10 months you declared your interest in him, I don't how you said it to him and I don't know what kind of vibes set him off put typically a cap can smell desperation 10000 miles away and there mostly likely some desperation reeking in your energy space and a cap man will leave you cold for being weak that way.

This isn't the end though, something about how you behave has to change in order for things to pick up again, get rid of the "I NEED" and "WANT" him energy, that kind of energy says to a man he's way more important than than you and that's how NEGLECT from a man seeps in, he figures you are a nobody so he'll treat you that way and as he's treating you that way he'll also slowly start to lose interest. I mean who wants a woman that puts up with half ass treatment and/or neglect of the relationship? NOT A CAP MALE, that's beneath him.

Cap males can appreciate receiving adulation and adoration just like any other guy but how it's given has to be 100% sincere/genuine with absolutely zero ultimatum, meaning if you said those things and he FELT/SENSED you expected reciprocation from him then to him you weren't being sincere, you were looking for his approval, he'll leave you for that b/c it's not attractive behavior.

So I went back to read your old thread and his behavior towards you makes sense. You are telling a man that has low self esteem how you feel? Do you understand that people with low self esteem do not understand love, most people with low self esteem hate themselves and if they hate themselves then they hate everyone around them as well, you are not going to get love back, you are going to get hate b/c he's full of hate and discontent with his own life, thus the silent treatment all the other mean things he does to you will be his reaction/response to your love. Understand? Basically you picked a man that isn't secure, isn't happy with himself and expect him to love you, he has to love himself before he can love anyone around him.

He's a huge flirt, he's selfish, never cares about what's going on with you, talks to you on his time and yet you get no reciprocation. The question isn't about him, it's more like. What's wrong with you!!? Any woman that shows up for a relationship that is riddled with disrespect, selfishness and lacks empathy for you well WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU for showing up for that kind of relationship.

He's just doing what he's doing so yeah okay he's doing some really shitty things but it all comes back to you. Why are you consistently showing up for a guy that lacks the ability to love?

"He's selfish.Never cares about whats going on with me and talks to me on his time."

You picked him!! Why did you pick him? Don't answer that for me but answer it for yourself, BE HONEST, you're desperate....

Desperate women pay pay pay pay pay pay pay pay pay and wait wait wait wait wait for a return on her payoff.

You love him but you stick around for half ass treatment. So what do you think your behavior says to him when you say "I love you" and then allow him to mistreat and use you. You are saying to him he can't trust your love because the way you allow him to treat you says to him you don't LOVE YOURSELF and if you don't love yourself then you can't love him and that creates doubt and mistrust in him about you and this is why the behavior continues, he see you NEGLECTING YOURSELF BY ALLOWING HIM TO NEGLECT YOU and thus he know your so called love is a big lie b/c women who love themselves do not allow a man to neglect and use her.

"super stingy.Never paid for me and never offered.i always pay for him all the time.I dont want him to pay for me but he could at least offer and show that he cares."

You have no reason to pay for anything in regards to him. The only reason you would pay is b/c you don't feel you can do better and feel you huy his love, bribe love out of him, OF COURSE HE??S GOING TO TREAT YOU BAD, you??re behavior reeks of desperation, only desperate women, lonely women, needy women pay and pay and pay.


—Gets distant alot and disappears for weeks without contact.—

Disappearing is his way of lowering your expectations, he does not want to give you the idea he's going to consistently be in your life all the time, the best way to send that message to you is to disappear.

—Hes also a show off,always wants to be liked by everyone and wants to be friends with people that he can get things from whether it be status or financial gain.??

And you bought the pony show persona too and you're being used for buying his fake advertisement, pay pay paying for it, if you saw him using other people then why didn't it occur to you that he's going to use you too for financial gain.

—Like he pretends to be all charming so he could be liked by everyone and it makes me sick.SOmetimes i feel like he'd s narcassist and misogynst beause all his fantasys include abusing women.He tells me that he wishes he didnt know me so he could rape me and he wants to tie me up and hurt me/abuse me.Even though those are just fantasies i still thing they're red flags.Does this sound like a typical cap?!!!!!??

Throw Psychopath in the pot and there yah go??_.The fantasies are red flags. Leave this Cap alone, cut your losses .

Listen to TIKI 🙂 she's right and on the money.

"I don't think that doing the opposite of our nature is good for evolving the soul"

It sure isnt.

I dont think it takes a rocket science to unveil the nature of a Cap or realize what you are dealing with. Once you clearly see you are not dealing with a good one, which the Op does..to the point she's sickened by it...whats the reason for continuing on? I cant talk bad about the guy because he's hiding nothing from her. I actually applaud him for clearly showing he's an @ss...all day. Why folks get stuck on what to do next is beyond me.