Caps & attachment

one of my caps tells me he doesn't get attached to people, that he doesn't need that. it seems to be true. we're not dating anymore, although we're seeing each other sometimes. both when i was dating him & now, he likes to see me but doesn't seem to feel that he NEEDS to see me.

he has lots of friends & keeps up with them regularly, some of them for years.

is this lack of attachment a cap thing or unique to him?

I am attached to those I really really want to be around. If I really like someone then I want their company but I don't stress it and ask a lot for it. Though deep inside I do want their company a lot. If I'm not that interested then I can do without you and even if I'm around you I can get tired of you pretty quickly.

attachment, yes. after a long time and if it's someone we let in and really care about. this does not mean we want to spend every single second of our lives with said person. we enjoy our own company and don't require the constant physical presence of someone we're attached to.

I've gotten to know two Cappy men this year and had one ex come back.

My ex of 11yrs came back in April after 6yrs we hooked up he disappeared I was pissed.
He came back in July, well tried to and I had a life and wasn't available to him though I tried just my plans went on longer and his were cut short. We live in different towns and he was visiting mine. So, I conclude he can do without me but if he's in the area then he will try and see me. He's not often in the area and does not make an exception to visit. He claims if I asked he would, I don't believe it because after April I tried contacting him for a week and he was M.I.A.

Cappy I was romantically getting to know Jun-Aug mentally physically and emotionally. He liked my attention daily through phone and text. We didn't see each other as much as we talked and I felt he didn't feel attached just that he was a cool person who maybe thought I was cool. After I broke it off I was done with him and thought he would fall in line with that. After Aug whenever I seemed to be forgetting him (what it looked like to him) he'd text or call me. I was busy with my life so I wasn't trying to go back to the place where I was all in to him but he did the majority 90% of holding on through contact. Still I feel he can do without me he just chooses to keep in touch for the sake of keeping in touch.

Third Cappy (pulling teeth scenario) I was getting to know by phone and have never met. He initially was head over heels in love with me (red flag) and always called me, we talked for hours, several emails everyday. He couldn't stand to be without communication with me. I think he was saddened that I went to sleep at night. 🙂 I know for a fact that is how I want my husband to be about me. I'm question my insecurity too. But, I loved all of that attention, it was foreign to me especially with a Cap man. But, at the same time he was neglecting his girlfriend who he told me was his ex-gf. 😢

*rolls eyes*

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G ------------------> you ass back to the Scorpio board then 😉

Among all the signs in the Zodiac, Caps can be the most loyal to those that they care about.

Unfortunately, they are also the lone wolves of the zodiac.

They seem to want a lot ( and I mean, A LOT) of time by themselves to self-reflect. WHAT they think about when they are on their own is a mystery to most. Unfortunately, they are also good at keeping secrets.

This ce be the new 'Virgo & Capricorn Connection' thread 😄

I'm so sad that the real one was ruined by negative stuff 😢

*Sorry Shaka, thats why I had to pop your ass back to the Scorpio board hhehehehehehe*

I'll pop someone else 😉 Don't mess with me 🙂

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*steaming*

You know SB .... you and Shaka being the antagonists of the Virgo & Capricorn connection leads me to be the `Protagonist` ... Yes 🙂

So, did that give you goosebeeps— Well, if thats the case ... then goosebeep your ass back to the Scorpio board 😉


HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! See, I don't discriminate 🙂 I WANT POSITIVE STUFF 😄 There are enough threads about how Virgos and Capricorns are horrible for each other, so enough with the ffffbbbb 😛

So, last week was a bit negative so I want ALL nice things *glow*

So if I've popped too many on the booty today, I'm sorry, but I'll do again if you PUSH me 😛

Sorry peoples but someone had to put the whip to those butts, no one else did yet, so I know my saturn had to take over.

Now .... behave! Hehehehehe, you two are older then me yet I'm telling you what to do -- I find that funny 🙂

Now I will read Ms.A story 🙂 🙂 🙂

People dont understand me..I like caps why do I get spanked every time Im on here?

Because you spank me every chance you get *cries*

Its true 😢 You do, all the time .... *sniff*sniff*sniff*

Don't know if I have ever had radishes but I can't get Gone With The Wind's Scarlett O'Hara's reaction to it out of my mind. It's enough to make me not ever try it. However, the bread makes me curious.

Cappysweetie, do what you gotta do girly. I feel you, spank them bad boys. 😛

weeeee, cappy's hyper again😄
ANd, SB I like muli paranthas, yum...like methi ones better though

What in the blue hell! HAHAHAHAHA, how did you get over here before me> I just left you lol

Whatever, you just got bored and wanted to know what was going on over at the cap board 😄 hahahahaha!!! We are clow paced here, thats how we like it 😄 Nice and slow ...

ok cappiequeens,

let's reATTACH to the topic, hee hee.

okie dokie cap-pelinas...

another question for ya.

do caps get annoyed if you get attached to them? or do they just enjoy the attention & go on their merry way? or do they secretly love it but don't want you to know?

so if you don't get attached to them, does that mean you don't like them enough to get attached - or you like them but don't want the annoyance of attachment when you don't feel like interacting?

Well, for me -- I like to be with the person but I also like, want, need and ADORE my space. Freedom means the world to me and I must have it in order to be any good in a relationship.

However, theres a twist to this but it hard to explain. I'm not sure if this is just a "me" thing or a sign thing but I have trouble believing if a guy is truly honest about how he feels about me. So when all that attachment/ "I Love You" stuff comes up, I will make a break for it, no joke -- I'll take off in a heart beat ... why? That I can't explain really 🙂

Heres another twist, I adore displays of love and affection. You have no idea 😄 I love feeling loved but I just tend to shy away from it -- I do have times where I embrace it but then something still tells me to back off -- I guess its my choice whether or not I choose to listen to it.

this is awesome, thank you both for sharing cs & ctoun!

re: this

:Heres another twist, I adore displays of love and affection. You have no idea 😄 I love feeling loved but I just tend to shy away from it -- I do have times where I embrace it but then something still tells me to back off -- I guess its my choice whether or not I choose to listen to it.:

that makes perfect sense then. last night when i was getting in the car with my cap - with which i still have a pretty undefined relationship - but a bit of history over the last couple years - i sensed that he wanted to give me a hello kiss but he kinda pulled back. so i reached over & did it then, like we were dating. and he seemed to be ok with that.

overall, i feel like he likes the positive attention but he doesn't really acknowledge it or let it sink in. based on what you guys have said on the board, i just ignore that though & as long as his body language invites me in, i keep showing affection to him... but yes, i think he distrusts it.

Two of the Cappies I was seeing both had Venus in Aquarius which is suppose to be EXTREMELY space/freedom needing. Neither guy has ever acted like I was intruding but I do notice how they do tend to go MIA but it's often refreshing to me.

I think the Venus in Aquarius fits my schedule to let me have my life (work day/motherhood/social/business life). They seem to contact me when I usually am free to talk, at night or while driving or just chilling. Those two and I had a pace that wasn't intrusive as far as attaching and imposing. We were good to go.

Any Caps here have an Aqua Venus?

"do caps get annoyed if you get attached to them? or do they just enjoy the attention & go on their merry way? or do they secretly love it but don't want you to know?"

yes.

"so if you don't get attached to them, does that mean you don't like them enough to get attached - or you like them but don't want the annoyance of attachment when you don't feel like interacting?"

no.

"Heres another twist, I adore displays of love and affection. You have no idea 😄 I love feeling loved but I just tend to shy away from it -- I do have times where I embrace it but then something still tells me to back off -- I guess its my choice whether or not I choose to listen to it."

me too! but all that pulling away builds up and i let it all out in the bedroom behind closed doors. not into pda.

my ex is a cap we broke up because he was always "so busy" i loved this about him but he wasnt making an effort to make us work he would ignore text messages wouldnt answer the phone or call...so i dropped his ass!!! about 3 months later he was wanting to try to make it work this was 2006 it is now going into 2009 he is still beggin. so they are not going to sweat you but they are always thinking about it. he finally told me he gives up which he always says by the way) but he may be forreal this time but i am a taurus and once im over you its over you have to do alot of convincing to get me back and being that he doesnt want to "sweat" me he lost my attention so o well i love him alwasy have but he broke my trust and it was even with another women he was just a ass hole and we always argued so yeah they do get attatched but they dont show it that can be good and bad