Caps - How are you when you don't get your way?

Just curious if this is a cap thing or an only child thing. Or a little of both.

If I don't get my way, or if things don't go they way I want them to, I tend to get a little perturbed internally. Not a good trait. So, trying to figure out the motivation behind this.

Im upset. I go silent, I switch completely "off." Im absolutely good for nothing at that point, and cant see past how "I" feel, or what "I" wanted to do.

Its really not a good trait at all, and getting a better handle of it will take ALOT of work.

I remember watching the Real World online years ago. A Cappy was on there, and she wanted to go somewhere, while another girl wanted to go somewhere else, so they voted and it went to the other girl. Of course the Cappy was sour and sabotaged the whole trip.

I wouldnt have done that but I wouldve either stayed home, or talked the producers into letting me go my own way....which wouldnt have happened lol.

Maybe its being Cardinal(thinking ahead) and focused on what we want. Of course a "very" little selfish, but thats just a tiny part of it lol.

Posted by piscesmoon
Well it is simple... You don't normally actually give up... You want to make a practical logical plan to make things workout the way you want. I bet you find yourself wondering why you don't get you way... This is because most other people are not as logical and sometimes... When a cap starts to confuse what is logically possible with emotions drive because it is something you want. You are not happy... and if it is someone getting in your way they will know and feel it... normally you will push and push... then you will regroup but not give up... you may even let time pass for months but if it is something you really want it will come back... You can be patience enough to not want to kill a subject all the way to come back to it later... Patience is cap like because it is logical... After all everything takes time... If someone does not compromise with you it could be bad... but you may take the compromise as being open to hearing what ever it is you want and you will get it eventually because someone gave in a little... Your rising sign give you a little fire... So this could be the energy I was talking about... I would say it is shows with your display picture... Your rising sign is normally what people see..

Wondering if you ooze sex even though as a Cap you have a conservative nature... again a cap can self justify anything normally to his or her self though...

I am wondering how did I do...?

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Pretty insightful and I think you've nailed it. My rising is scorp, so is my venus. That could have something to do with it too.

Posted by lnana04
Im upset. I go silent, I switch completely "off." Im absolutely good for nothing at that point, and cant see past how "I" feel, or what "I" wanted to do.

Its really not a good trait at all, and getting a better handle of it will take ALOT of work.

I remember watching the Real World online years ago. A Cappy was on there, and she wanted to go somewhere, while another girl wanted to go somewhere else, so they voted and it went to the other girl. Of course the Cappy was sour and sabotaged the whole trip.

I wouldnt have done that but I wouldve either stayed home, or talked the producers into letting me go my own way....which wouldnt have happened lol.

Maybe its being Cardinal(thinking ahead) and focused on what we want. Of course a "very" little selfish, but thats just a tiny part of it lol.

Yes! I would go along, but I don't know how much fun I'd be after I didn't get my way. Would try to be nice and get along, but when I'm not into it, I'm not fun anymore. Maybe it is a little selfish - that's how I feel. Then, I feel bad for being selfish, but I just can't help but be disappointed and well, a little selfish. Perhaps it is the little cardinal thing.

I don't like it. How do we fix it? We can tell ourself all day long what we're doing and how wrong it is to feel that way, but it doesn't solve the feeling.

lol ive grown so soft lately about my way...

there are some goals i am hell bent on.... HELL BENT. In those cases... my way is the only option.

and if things "dont go my way" in those situations... i dont think of it as such. i think of it as a short delay 😛

Posted by CreepyPants
lol ive grown so soft lately about my way...

there are some goals i am hell bent on.... HELL BENT. In those cases... my way is the only option.

and if things "dont go my way" in those situations... i dont think of it as such. i think of it as a short delay 😛

"A short delay" - I like that attitude. That's a good way to look at it!

Posted by truecap

Posted by lnana04
Im upset. I go silent, I switch completely "off." Im absolutely good for nothing at that point, and cant see past how "I" feel, or what "I" wanted to do.

Its really not a good trait at all, and getting a better handle of it will take ALOT of work.

I remember watching the Real World online years ago. A Cappy was on there, and she wanted to go somewhere, while another girl wanted to go somewhere else, so they voted and it went to the other girl. Of course the Cappy was sour and sabotaged the whole trip.

I wouldnt have done that but I wouldve either stayed home, or talked the producers into letting me go my own way....which wouldnt have happened lol.

Maybe its being Cardinal(thinking ahead) and focused on what we want. Of course a "very" little selfish, but thats just a tiny part of it lol.

Yes! I would go along, but I don't know how much fun I'd be after I didn't get my way. Would try to be nice and get along, but when I'm not into it, I'm not fun anymore. Maybe it is a little selfish - that's how I feel. Then, I feel bad for being selfish, but I just can't help but be disappointed and well, a little selfish. Perhaps it is the little cardinal thing.

I don't like it. How do we fix it? We can tell ourself all day long what we're doing and how wrong it is to feel that way, but it doesn't solve the feeling.

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Lol, yep, we know its wrong and Ill call someone(family) out on this behaviour in a heartbeat, but when "Im" feeling that way, the "right thing to do" goes out the window.

Really not sure on how to correct it. We are not the best actors or the best at pretending, as it all feels like a lie and I wont be lying to you or myself lol, so idk what to do in these situations.

Thoughts to consider. At least recognizing the behavior is 50% of the battle.

DOESN'T MATTER TO ME I JUST DO WHAT I WANT TO DO ANYWAY SO FUCK EM.

Posted by Sunrays
Just like CP, i have gotten so soft about my ways ....

I like to get my way. Sometimes I think that others either cannot lead or their way is not the shortest route. Other times i am just hard headed and want it my way regardless of anything else!

It is hard to deflect me. But lately i have willingly stepped aside and i am not minding it as much ( could be because there are other advantages to be had for that behaviour!! LOL shhhhhhh... my little secret ) 😛

do you feel like it is a phase that will pass— I totally agree with your last thought, Sun. I think my softness as of late has something to do with striking at the right moment. sort of like picking battles... sometimes i know i good bet just like i know other times when failure is eminent... at least for that moment.