Caps Men...Another Pressing Question

I've seen this in several Cap males I know, so wondered what was behind it.

Why do you guys stay eternally single for so long and what is it that finally cracks you to get involved?

Well, I'm not a Cappie male, but I'm a Cap female. Relationships just seems like a lot of work, and I think once we get used to being alone then it becomes routine and sometimes a routine we prefer. I know personally, I'm too off/on for anything real.

My Cap grandmother(70yrs old) was married twice, before I was born, and she's been single 30yrs now. I've never seen her with or even near a man, and she's as content as can be.

Good answer...I tend to agree.

Thanks!

I've always felt that deep down, there is a natural lone wolf within each Cap man. Probably why from time to time, they disappear deep into the woods somewhere and then suddenly reappear out of nowhere. The infamous Capricorn male disappearing act.

Or he could be physically next to you but his mind is already so far away. They're already in the forest.

Posted by cowpuncher
It varies, but usually goes along one of the following themes:

A) He wants to build a lot of security financially before he's willing to find that lifetime, forever-after partner. This is your guy who spends his 20s and 30s working multiple jobs, going to school, working late every night, running a side business on weekends, and so forth. He may date some, but he's not going to settle down until he's ready, and he won't be ready until he feels like he has the means to afford it and keep himself and his partner safe and secure. Plus some of us just really like to work, if we are lucky enough to have a job we enjoy. Some of us really are workaholics, not all, but some.

B) As a young guy he met a girl, had a really deep connection with her, let her totally in, pinned all his hopes and plans on her... and then it blew up. Maybe this even happened 2 or 3 times throughout a decade or so, but once is all it really takes. When we finally commit and are in a relationship, many of us are totally, 100% all in. When that falls apart, for many years after it can be very difficult to let someone else in at all, let alone that far. If we feel at fault for the blowup, or feel like we made a big mistake in judgement trusting that former partner, we can be very hard on ourselves about it, for a very long time. This is often the case with the more shy Capricorn guys.

C) Some Caps spend their 20s and 30s chasing the gals, having fun, dating every one they can, and aren't as shy as man of their brethren. You won't tie that guy down until he hits an age where he feels like it's time to settle down and have a family.

D) Some do want to find the right lady, settle down, produce their 2.5 children and just have a happy home life. However, since family is so important to this kind, and he's VERY attached to his family, he isn't going to settle for just anybody. He's looking around for just the right fit - Not just for him, but for his parents, siblings, grandparents, whatever. You're not just marrying this type, you're marrying his entire family... which is NOT a bad thing if a strong, close-knit family is what you want in life. But if mamma-goat doesn't like you, fat frickin chance girlie.

Many are a combination of the above.

My therapist is always right, for me I'd grab ahold of E.