Case of the ex...

My dear Capricorns, I am pretty sure I know what I should do but I guess I want to know if it is the right thing. I dated a Capricorn for 7 years, I broke up with him 2.5 years ago because I felt we were both stuck in a rut. We had spoken of travelling and all our dreams together but we never did any of it. We also started dating very young, I was 16 and he was 20. We have remained friends ever since, as though we are best friends and we still say I love you and he still calls me his soul mate. He moved to England not long after we broke up, I think it was his way of running away and dealing with his emotions. In my mind I wonder if I made the biggest mistake breaking up with him, but I remind myself that in reality it finally gave us both the balls to do what we always wanted to do. We both have now travelled and found our own feet. I visited him in England almost a year ago and This weekend just passed he came home and I saw him yesterday. He informed me he is now dating someone and that he loves her, but he's not in love with her. He said he will never love anyone the way he loves me. I got emotional, which I guess was hard for him to see because I never cry and then he got emotional and held my hand and kissed it.

I am happy for him if he is genuinely happy and from what I hear this girl is absolutely in love with him, and that's what he deserves. But it is hard for me as despite having dated other people in the last 2.5 years, I never invested myself in them. I guess because like he said about not feeling for her what he feels for me, I have never felt that for another either. In the 2.5 years I have only ever really, truly liked One other person, where I could see myself falling for them. But I distanced myself a lot because I knew my ex was returning home and I wanted to explore that, I needed the closure before moving on with another person. I certainly didn't want to drag anyone else into this messy situation. He is the only person I have ever looked at and wanted to marry and have children with (and I don't even want children, but I'd have them for him as I know he would make an amazing father).

He also told me that his girlfriend was so scared of him seeing me, so I guess he had been open and told her how he felt for me. He said she had been constantly calling him and dreading when he would finally see me. She didn't want him to see me but he told her too bad and that he would always make time for me and I will always be a part of his li

Continuing** I will always be a part of his life. I know it would be very hard for her and I feel for her. He dropped me home after we caught up and gave me a huge bear hug and kissed my neck. He lingered near my face and I wasn't sure if he wanted me to kiss him. As much as I wanted to, to confirm that all the feelings and emotions were still there for one another, I could never do that to his girlfriend, despite not knowing her.

I went inside and took some time to assess my thoughts and feelings and eventually just had to convince myself that sometimes this is just how the cookie crumbles. I can see he wants me to tell him I want him back, to make it clear but I'm not going to do that. He has decide what he wants and in reality he shouldn't have began dating her when knowing he was so close from returning home. He said he started dating her because he was under the impression that I was seeing someone else, but I know he also likes her too. I guess he told her he had seen me and told me about her, and from what I can only imagine was a spur of the moment, insecurity reaction, she went and posted something on facebook and tagged him in it, so it would appear in my news feed. Honestly I wasn't prepared to be dragged into some love triangle, and there was absolutely no need for her to post what she did. It was simply so she could make her presence known, which I guess I can understand but I am not about that immaturity.

I gave myself the night to think about it and on waking this morning, I felt I knew what I needed to do. I sent him a message saying that I will always love him and I am so thankful for the last 10 years of him being a part of my life, but he chose to be in a relationship with her and he now needs to respect that. He wrote a long message back saying that even whilst writing this it was making him upset but all he has ever wanted was for me to be happy. He said he hoped to see me again when he got back from visiting his mum up north but would respect it if I didn't want to see him. He told me that I am the only person that makes him sick inside when he knows I am upset or stop talking to him. He finished it by saying that I am the most beautiful girl he has ever met, inside and out and "I love you my best friend!! My soul mate xo".

It hurts so much to walk away, but I know It's what I have to do. I know he wants me to tell him what to do, but he needs to figure that out on his own. I guess I want to make sure I am doing the right t

Continuing** the right thing? Is he with her because he wants to be or because he is unsure if I want to be with him? If I walk away, leaving them in peace (despite him still wanting me to be a part of his life), will this be it? Will he settle because it is easy or will he fight for what he wants? I guess I just want to know if, In your opinion's, I am doing the right thing?

He is with her because she has earned his respect. He is in love with you because you have earned his heart.

He gave her a chance because he thought you moved on. Now, kicking himself in his face because you said otherwise.

Being real and responsible, he cannot simply end this relationship on what could be. You HAVE to tell him what your thinking and what you are feeling. He has to do the same. Super hard for both signs.

Posted by SureShotCap
He is with her because she has earned his respect. He is in love with you because you have earned his heart.

He gave her a chance because he thought you moved on. Now, kicking himself in his face because you said otherwise.

Being real and responsible, he cannot simply end this relationship on what could be. You HAVE to tell him what your thinking and what you are feeling. He has to do the same. Super hard for both signs.

Agree that you should tell him. Don't agree with the bold print. If you are real and responsible you are not in a relationship with one person while liking someone else - that's emotional cheating, imo. But I still think you should tell him as long as you know that the reasons for your break-up are sorted. Good luck! 🙂

Posted by SureShotCap
He is with her because she has earned his respect. He is in love with you because you have earned his heart.

He gave her a chance because he thought you moved on. Now, kicking himself in his face because you said otherwise.

Being real and responsible, he cannot simply end this relationship on what could be. You HAVE to tell him what your thinking and what you are feeling. He has to do the same. Super hard for both signs.

Speaking of X??s. I wish you did not look like an exact copy of an X of mine. HFS.

I personally don't think you should tell him anything. I know too many Cap males and none of them suckas are with who they supposedly wanted to be with and not because they couldn't get that person, but because deep down its easier to live in the misery of thought that your love life is miserable because you are not with x,y,z than it is to possibly still be miserable with that person.

Im not sure if that makes sense, but there are way too many Cap males with these "one that got away" stories. Truth is, he wouldn't know how to handle his life any other way than it currently is. The thought of you and what could have been is where he'd rather be, I think. I could be wrong, but I see it too often.

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Posted by SureShotCap
He is with her because she has earned his respect. He is in love with you because you have earned his heart.

He gave her a chance because he thought you moved on. Now, kicking himself in his face because you said otherwise.

Being real and responsible, he cannot simply end this relationship on what could be. You HAVE to tell him what your thinking and what you are feeling. He has to do the same. Super hard for both signs.

Speaking of X??s. I wish you did not look like an exact copy of an X of mine. HFS.

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