Posted by cherishedlibraI've always known where his heart lies. I was into him at one point, but that's waned. It's a testing it seems, but what's the point. That's my issue. What would you stand to gain from asking that?
Hmmmm, guess he's venting the truth about where his heart is. And is asking if you can deal with that. Do you like him?
Maybe he's testing you.
I've had bad experiences with those men, friendship-wise.
Posted by truecapHell no and won't be. We were friends before I started having strong feelings, but they are gone. Just posted this because I'm really confused.
Do you really want to be second choice?
Posted by CruellaWhiteThis is why I'm here asking. Really feel it's about that and he won't admit that. Like if I'm still into him at least he has that. Well he'll never know either way. He seem to have gotten upset when I chose not to answer. Hit me next with you don't even know why I'm asking. When I asked then tell me why he said forget it doesn't matter since you have no answer smhPosted by Elle77I know you didn't ask but I think he just stands to gain the ego boost.Although he might not even admit that.Posted by cherishedlibraI've always known where his heart lies. I was into him at one point, but that's waned. It's a testing it seems, but what's the point. That's my issue. What would you stand to gain from asking that?
Hmmmm, guess he's venting the truth about where his heart is. And is asking if you can deal with that. Do you like him?
Maybe he's testing you.
I've had bad experiences with those men, friendship-wise.click to expand
Posted by Elle77Forget him, with ya sexy Gemini self. He wants some cuddy minus the commitment? Plenty fish in the sea. He's roasted. Gwan gyal ya to cute fi dat.Posted by cherishedlibraI've always known where his heart lies. I was into him at one point, but that's waned. It's a testing it seems, but what's the point. That's my issue. What would you stand to gain from asking that?
Hmmmm, guess he's venting the truth about where his heart is. And is asking if you can deal with that. Do you like him?
Maybe he's testing you.
I've had bad experiences with those men, friendship-wise.click to expand
Posted by CruellaWhiteI do feel it's demeaning to me period. It's what I been wondering too. Is this some sort of game to get back at me for not wanting him way back when he was interested. I have managed to side step any sexual innuendo or intimate talks for 2 months. I've purposely been keeping talks friendly.
It's really assholey to do that though....
You don't go I am in love with another girl...but do you still want me?
It's really demeaning to your feelings. He could just be playing with you.
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I think it's a you are 'just in case' scenario.
He really doesn't want anyone but her it sounds like you don't want anyone but him.
It's possible feelings can ...warm up between you. But I think you would always compare yourself to her ..or rather you will compare the feelings he has for her with the feelings he has for you.
Ask him why he asks you. I think he would say...' I don't know'
He maybe doesn't know himself. But his ego needs a boost.
Posted by GobshiteWell I still like him, but not crazy or hoping for anything with him anymore. He's got qualities I haven't seen in many men. I can count on one hand the amount of men I met with the level of good characteristics. His ambition, style, sense of humor, laid back demeanor, gentlemen behavior and a giving just like me. All I've had is men who've taken from me.
Maybe he doesn't feel that your feelings are 'gone'...
Posted by cherishedlibraLOL Thank you. Feel he wants the cuddy minus the commitment as well. Just terrible. Don't know when he turned into this guy guess all the rejection over the years has him jaded and tight. If I'm not interested anymore in more perhaps we can be FWB since we are both not involved.Posted by Elle77Forget him, with ya sexy Gemini self. He wants some cuddy minus the commitment? Plenty fish in the sea. He's roasted. Gwan gyal ya to cute fi dat.Posted by cherishedlibraI've always known where his heart lies. I was into him at one point, but that's waned. It's a testing it seems, but what's the point. That's my issue. What would you stand to gain from asking that?
Hmmmm, guess he's venting the truth about where his heart is. And is asking if you can deal with that. Do you like him?
Maybe he's testing you.
I've had bad experiences with those men, friendship-wise.click to expand
Posted by cherishedlibraNo, she exists for real. Hell there was a time he tried to get me to come hang out with them. It wasn't on my turf so declined. If I wanted to leave there would be no escape lol
I wonder if it's you he's talking about? Lol lol omg, so many mind games. Are you his bestie? Guuurrrrl!
Posted by CruellaWhiteI will be. Appreciate all the encouraging feedback from all of you.Posted by Elle77Only you know what you want and should do really. Just be firm with whatever that is.Posted by CruellaWhite
I think it's a you are 'just in case' scenario.
He really doesn't want anyone but her it sounds like you don't want anyone but him.
It's possible feelings can ...warm up between you. But I think you would always compare yourself to her ..or rather you will compare the feelings he has for her with the feelings he has for you.
Ask him why he asks you. I think he would say...' I don't know'
He maybe doesn't know himself. But his ego needs a boost.
Wow it's like you know everything. It's what I thinking he was looking for an ego boost and I purposely I didn't answer. Well no one else of interest has come into play, but I don't really want him anymore. I want someone to feel about me and treat me the way he does her, but will never be him. I will never feel like it will be on the same level if things were to change between us. What's even more messed up he rather pine for someone and give up all hope because who he wants doesn't want him and is in a relationship smh
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Posted by CruellaWhiteI will be. Appreciate all the encouraging feedback from all of you.Posted by Elle77Only you know what you want and should do really. Just be firm with whatever that is.Posted by CruellaWhite
I think it's a you are 'just in case' scenario.
He really doesn't want anyone but her it sounds like you don't want anyone but him.
It's possible feelings can ...warm up between you. But I think you would always compare yourself to her ..or rather you will compare the feelings he has for her with the feelings he has for you.
Ask him why he asks you. I think he would say...' I don't know'
He maybe doesn't know himself. But his ego needs a boost.
Wow it's like you know everything. It's what I thinking he was looking for an ego boost and I purposely I didn't answer. Well no one else of interest has come into play, but I don't really want him anymore. I want someone to feel about me and treat me the way he does her, but will never be him. I will never feel like it will be on the same level if things were to change between us. What's even more messed up he rather pine for someone and give up all hope because who he wants doesn't want him and is in a relationship smh
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Posted by Elle77Be a good friend. He is hurt, and needs to feel and reminded he is still worthy.
Please help?!?! Was having a conversation with my Capricorn guy friend and he tells me he's been thinking a lot about his best friend that he's in love with and has given up completely on relationships because who he wants doesn't want him. How he's happy to have her as a friend because she truly has been there, believed in and challenged him. Why would he then ask me: You still think I'm the man you want or the "type" of man you want?
Posted by Elle77Did you tell him all of this? I feel like theres a reason why he feels there is leeway to ask if you were still interested, and its most likely because you have left that door open for him and havent told him youre over it. And if thats the case you leaving that door open means you still have feelings for him and are hoping he will realize he has feelings for you too. Which isnt impossible but I personally wouldnt bank on it.Posted by GobshiteWell I still like him, but not crazy or hoping for anything with him anymore. He's got qualities I haven't seen in many men. I can count on one hand the amount of men I met with the level of good characteristics. His ambition, style, sense of humor, laid back demeanor, gentlemen behavior and a giving just like me. All I've had is men who've taken from me.
Maybe he doesn't feel that your feelings are 'gone'...
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Posted by GreenteaThat would be all fine and dandy if she hadn't rejected him last August lolPosted by Elle77Be a good friend. He is hurt, and needs to feel and reminded he is still worthy.
Please help?!?! Was having a conversation with my Capricorn guy friend and he tells me he's been thinking a lot about his best friend that he's in love with and has given up completely on relationships because who he wants doesn't want him. How he's happy to have her as a friend because she truly has been there, believed in and challenged him. Why would he then ask me: You still think I'm the man you want or the "type" of man you want?
I can guarantee you this though, with this girl rejecting him, he will improve and become better than ever. Watch! That's how Caps roll.click to expand
Posted by PeanutbutterYou really are a Peanutbutter. Just the right amount of sweetness. Your response literally gave me life!Posted by Elle77Did you tell him all of this? I feel like theres a reason why he feels there is leeway to ask if you were still interested, and its most likely because you have left that door open for him and havent told him youre over it. And if thats the case you leaving that door open means you still have feelings for him and are hoping he will realize he has feelings for you too. Which isnt impossible but I personally wouldnt bank on it.Posted by GobshiteWell I still like him, but not crazy or hoping for anything with him anymore. He's got qualities I haven't seen in many men. I can count on one hand the amount of men I met with the level of good characteristics. His ambition, style, sense of humor, laid back demeanor, gentlemen behavior and a giving just like me. All I've had is men who've taken from me.
Maybe he doesn't feel that your feelings are 'gone'...
It would be healthier to tell him those feelings from you are gone so that he can shape up as a REAL platonic friend or as a mate. He will either get over the ex because he doesnt want to lose you OR things will remain the same in which case you can move on with your pretty self! No one knows better than a Cap that time is money.
You are a gorgeous Gemini, NOBODY puts Geminis in the corner lol! Let him know that, he needs to get off his high horse of believing he will have you as a back up plan, you only need to make someone see Jesus once girl. You are meant to be #1 not #2 Elle77. And if you can truly handle being fwb without getting too attached? You are a grown woman so by all means. But remember, the other chick will always be floating around in yalls heads for comparison and that is not healthy. I wouldnt let an emotionally unavailable man touch me with a 10ft pole. Nope.click to expand
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