Are Cap guys apologize one day or never?

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Saginlove on Sunday, January 31, 2016 and has 13 replies.

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@Saginlove
10 Years

Posted by PlutoMars44
I received an apology from my cap ex the other day who was horrible to me towards the end of the relationship. I accepted it but I do not feel as if it was sincere I think he did it with an agenda in mind because he brought up seeing my Supervisor the one I put a good word in for him to awhile back. I think he just wanted to make sure that the way he treated me wouldn't affect him landing a job with the company I work for. I don't hold grudges or seek revenge. I accepted his apology and wished him well. I think he was expecting me to cry and mention how much I missed him. He is not worth the pain he caused me. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction.

Hm...i think it isnt very kind thing. Are you sure he wanted to saw your crying? Maybe it s just really hard to apply when he a mistake...or i dont know

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@scorply
10 Years

Caps don't like apologizing and really they don't have or need to. It doesn't undo what has already been done.Most times when anyone apologizes it's almost always self-serving. Best thing is to move forward and let future actions show the apology, words mean nothing.

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@Kimu
10 Years

But why is it so hard to apologize?

We do apologize wn we knw we r wrong n evn smtyms to see a smile on our dear one's face

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@scorply
10 Years

Posted by champranger
Posted by scorply
Caps don't like apologizing and really they don't have or need to. It doesn't undo what has already been done.Most times when anyone apologizes it's almost always self-serving. Best thing is to move forward and let future actions show the apology, words mean nothing.

What happens if you and the Cap aren't in the same area? What happens if you or the Cap can't physically see the action that shows the apology?

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Hate to counter with a question, but can't help it. What if the Cap is close by and does apologizes,but goes back to doing exactly what he/she apologized for?Then what? The fact of the matter is whatever it is that an apology provides is temporary.

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@Saginlove
10 Years

Well.....sometimes we apologize because we hurt somebody or cause pain in heart. But actually i think Caps arent sensitive enought for this type of action. So they dont know they make somebody to sad and they dont apologize of course.
But perhaps if they love somebody they more opened and it makes them sensitive enought.
Or i dont know...

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@scorply
10 Years

Posted by champranger
Like for example:

I am in Alberta and my Cap friend is in Ontario (very far apart in Canada). We're mostly communicating through an online app. Although him and I never really had much problems so far, but what if (IF that is) I make a mistake that I'm really sorry for? By your assumption, I would think I'm screwed because I have no way to physically be there to show him that.

The point I'm saying is that maybe instead of assuming that all apologies through words are meaningless (which to me, it seems that's what's you're doing), maybe it's better to consider the other person's characteristics and whether or not it's feasible to evaluate their corresponding actions?

Yes, that's my point of view unfortunately and it's probably not right, but it's saved me a whole lot more than it has hurt me.