Make up or break up - to those who enjoy a good book lmao

I'm dating a Capricorn Man that's 30, I am a 21 year old Taurus. The age doesn't bother me because I am an old soul. First let me start by saying he has two daughters and I would never ask him to have to choose between me and the girls, I have a hatred toward people that are selfish enough to do that. BUT he hesitated to tell me about the second daughter, I knew about her because his sister and I are close and she pulled me to the side and told me. I wondered how long he was going to keep her from me, it was months until I finally told his sister, "yo, can you tell him to say something." So finally he told me, I told him I knew already and asked him why did he take so long to tell me? He said he was scared and didn't know how I would react, I simply assured him that that wasn't going to scare me away. Months roll by........ So keep in mind that he never tells me anything about when he goes to see her he almost shuts me out that part of his life, of course he says his mom picks her up and but somehow I found out he went to baby momma #2 house 2 weeks ago to go see her... Here is the thing, I DO NOT CARE IF HE GOES TO SEE HIS BABY, I DONT CARE!!!!!!!!!! that is his child and nothing should keep him away from her, BUT can I get a hey babe I'm going to see baby girl? No. Well I confront him, I ask him when was the last time you saw baby girl, he says last week end, then I asked him to be honest and ask again he says 3 days ago, I tell him I would like to know when he goes give me a heads up, I don't want him to lie, why lie if you have nothing to hide? Your baby is your baby and if I'm trying to accept them into my life like if they where mine you need to be open about these things please, he says okay and seems to understand where I'm coming from everything is okay. A week goes by, now it's Valentine's Day, and he's holding his phone all crooked like he's hiding something bruhhhhh, I get in my feelings and tell him.........".........maybe I need some time to myself" boy that shattered his world I explained that maybe I'm too young to be going through these this maybe I'm not ready, I explained that I'm scared of falling in to deep then being let down, I can't bare falling in love with a family and getting let down ..... I cry he cries and he grabs me and says he can't afford to lose me, and that I am the best thing that has ever happened to him.... He tells me he doesn't want anyone but me and he wouldn't even dream of hurting me, but how can I trust someone that omits things, and doesn't communicate... I know telling him this on Valentine's Day was the worst but he wanted me to tell him what was wrong!... Well shit I don't know what to do. We've been together 9 months these have been our only two conflicts... It's weird, we always get along, but can it be he's just hiding things from me?

Taurus can ask questions that's one thing for sure.be careful not to push him to tell you things when he's not ready to. I know it may make fee more in control of things when you know everything too early, however that may make him lie to you cause you are pushy.Relax, be patient there's life outside of the relationship. Have fun and all the answers will come to you.

Capricorn don't play games.They mean what they say.He will marry you one day if you loyal.just don't play around or leave him or make him feel insecure in some way. They hate challenges ,they would rather be with someone they can control.

Leave the daddy/daughter relationship between them. Just assume he sees her and don't ask questions. It's not interfering with his time with you and it shouldn't interfere with your relationship. Plus, you never know, maybe the baby momma has a lot of drama and he's trying to protect you from that. He may have had women in the past who got involved and it was more headache that he thinks it's worth. There's a reason he's not telling you, trust that when he trusts you more, he will open up and he will do this in his own sweet time.

That said, it does seem ridiculous that he doesn't tell you, like he's hiding something, but I'm sure he has his reasons. Perhaps instead of asking when and if he sees the daughter, you should ask for his reasons in not telling you or ask about the history of the relationship with the mom.

From a man's point of view, now, it's evolved into you getting upset that he sees her and he will avoid telling you because it upsets you. He may not understand that what you're upset about exactly is the hiding and he may view it as when he's asked and he admits, you get upset which would equate to him avoiding telling you to keep you from getting upset. Hope that makes sense.

Encourage him to see her.

I know, it's just hard not knowing what's going on. I told him that if what he tells me about his family upsets me then that just means I'm not the one for him. He agreed, I just love him and I would hate to get let down, I'm scared to love him to the fullest.

He would need to know that you support him and you're with him no matter what. That would make him feel safe in opening up. If both of you can't do that, then you're not right for each other.

Caps are traditional. U shouldnt ask questions. Be a good Taurus, as u are with a Cappy and he'll never leave u 😉 even is he does see other women

I'm amazed that u made a cap cry.

That's all I got to say.

Posted by underwaterthing
I'm amazed that u made a cap cry.

That's all I got to say.

That's Cap and Taurus.

This situation has a lot of drama and reading your post I am not certain you are emotionally able to deal with it. It's strange he was not straight up telling you he had two daughters yet told you he had one?

Be cautious with a man who hides such important facts about his life. I avoid such ppl.. too much drama, lies and secrets. Never judge a man by words like "I cant afford to lose u" judge by his actions. They can all talk.. only the sincere will show u

And another good advice - never ever pull others into your problems as a couple especially not his sister by telling her to talk with him. He might interpret it as a lack of maturity.

He seems to have heard my concerns and I can tell he's starting to be a bit more open with me, and yes he did cry the day I told him I might need some space... I myself was surprised.