DEPRESSED CAPPY

Hi Guys

My cap girl which I've been with for a bit over a year now is depressed. It is not the first time she has become depressed but it is the worse depression she has gone into.

She has been like this for a few months though and you can easily see her depression. Our relationship is crumbling because of her attitude towards me which she first said it was because she didnt trust me (she caught me speaking to someone else months ago 6 months ago) and claims she cant move on from that but she is trying.

Now she just has all this attitude with me, winges about EVERYTHING, i cant do anything right by her, everything i do is wrong, everything i say is wrong. She tells me she loves & misses me all the time and cant wait for me to come home (from work) but when I get home she starts complaining and winging about things I have/haven't done etc. We always argue about the most simplest of things. She finds reasons to pick fights over stupid things. She has all these massive expectations of me. I work full time, she does not work and stays at home everyday with our dog we just bought, I come home, I go to the shops buy groceries for dinner every night, come home and cook I dont even sit and rest I start cooking straight away and on top she expects me to wash the dishes. Its a stupid argument over the dishes but I tell her if your here everyday why cant you wash them? If you stayed at home and I worked full time, Id have the house clean, the dishes washes and dinner on the table so when she got home everything was ready. But no, I get shit.

Anyway, she hasn't worked in about a year. All her friends have jobs she is the only one doing nothing with her life. I was fucking around with her for one year, both of us no job etc but then I got my sh*t together and got a job, im earning good money etc. She is still in the same spot. She treats me and talks to me like sh*t and im sick of her attitude when I do nothing to deserve getting treated like that. She rang me crying this morning saying she had a bad dream about us that we were arguing and it turned into a big fight and I told her I had enough and I didnt want to deal with any of it and left her and she killed our dog. Anyway she rang me crying and its really ODD because we have a weird connection that everytime I am thinking of her or going to ring/text/email her etc she somehow gets in contact with me and as her call came in, I was in the middle of writing her a long text as this morning before I left

for work because I moved over (while we were sleeping in bed) to push my dog off the bed and the blankets came off her a little bit and she yelled all angry "YOUR MAKING ME F*CKING COLD!!!!" and i was like im SICK and TIRED of your winging and she kept sleeping and I left for work in a crappy mood. So basically she was saying she needs time apart from me and is going to move back home for a few days etc. I told her that was fine and she needed to get her attitude in check because it was ruining us etc, we both started crying over the phone etc she said "i dont know how to say this to you but im unsure of how i feel for you anymore". I told her I knew she wasnt happy and I felt as though she was losing her love for me etc and that I knew she was depressed etc and she needed a job and I was here for her and I wanted to help her etc basically being supportive and letting her know I am by her side good or bad. She admitted that she was depressed and that she feels like she is stuck in a rut and doesnt know how to get out, she is ashamed of admitting her feelings and that she is depressed but she is to blame for her depression and all her issues and that she was just trying to put the blame on me for all of her issues and she realises if she continues to put the blame on me for her problems our relationship was going to end and she apologised and confirmed her love for me and said she doesnt want to take days apart from me, she wants to be near me, she needs to be and she wants to be etc. I kept showing her my support etc etc.

Basically after my thesis long rant, how to get a cap girl out of depression? I know she has to help herself but I want to help her also. I love her, i am still IN love with her and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. I just want to see her happy again.

Sun - Cap
Moon - Aries
Merc - Cap
Venus - Aqua
Mars - Sag

I am a Gemini

I thought you were an Aqua.

Well for starters, she needs a job. I think that would help her get it together. I'm sure you've probably been looking out for her, but yeah, working is what she needs to do.

If she doesn't know what she wants to do in terms of work/career, and have no real direction, then that's a whole issue in itself. If that's the case maybe a little time apart is needed so she can figure it all out.

I wish the two of you luck. I'm glad she decided to be honest with you and how she felt. Just reassure her every once in a while your there for her, and hopefully she'll get it together.

When you dont think posistive alone its hard to project posistive to the world. This is why if I have nothing posistive to say I shut the fuck up. Space is needed here as seemly you two seem content to stab each other if your close, keep stabbing and your relationship is dead. Space would help you clear your mind. Retreat and live to fight another day.