devastated Cap Girl

Hey there, i need advice.
I'm a cappy girl who's been with libra guy for say a year. We argued alot soo much i've lost count. I read how they operate with women. After losing my dad, He came into my life two years ago as this sweet, charming guy who i thought would never hurt me. so we had this distance relationship and times it got sooo frustrating. often times i'd ask him if he was comfortable and if he wanted to move on it'd be ok (knowing deep down it would hurt to lose him) and when he feels it he throws his anger at me. He stopped opening up to me and suddenly his female friends would be the one he runs to when he's down. It killed me so much that i told him i guess he'd never open up to me. He began to get cold and rough with me, i felt as if i meant nothing to him. he even told me that i was just a girl he messed with which caused a huge argument and i gave him piece of my mind . He flirted with every girl who ever talked to him. I've been through alot with this guy and everytime he comes back, he strikes harder telling me he'd never disrespect me again. long story cut short i found out that he really was cheating on me and it hurt me soo bad to know that you gave your all to this libra guy who all along had been cheating and lieing to u.
Checked his face book page and he's posting having a girl friend is ok till u fall inlove with her then he's posting you had a good girl and u cheated on her with another girl, you are an asshole. Will he come back? and if he does call should i answer? Will he change? Is he confused? Does he really regret what he did to me? Does he think about me and considers how that hurt me? is it worth another chance?
Usually they would say capricorns are too busy but i made time for him, i had my shoulders ready for him to cry on when ever he was troubled. Know i should not hate the girl he's cheated on me with but i'd push a tube down her throat if she ever approach me. I want to hate him, but i believe there's hope and maybe he did love me but the distance killed what could have been.
Help me out here guys, maybe your advice could bring some sort of healing to me and help me find myself.

Will he come back? and if he does call should i answer?

> He might, and if he does then you could answer if you want to (I wouldn't though).

Will he change? Is he confused? Does he really regret what he did to me?

> I don't think any of that matters because at the end of the day...he's still a cheater!

Does he think about me and considers how that hurt me?

> Maybe, but he should've thought about you feelings BEFORE cheating.

Is it worth another chance?

> Based on what you wrote? Nope. You argued a lot, he was mean to you, and then he cheated on you. I wouldn't risk going through any of that mess again. I'm sure there are other men out there that'll treat you much better. So you should drop this guy, take some time to heal, and then try to meet someone else.

I'm sorry he broke your heart. I know it hurts. If you got back with him do you really think you'd feel the same way about him after all this? And do you really think you'd ever trust him again? Those are the kind of questions you need to ask yourself.

Posted by LIBRA1234
Libra and cap = most likely than not cap will be heart broken and wonder wtf happened 😢. I am sorry u had to go thru that. Caps are usually determined and know what they want. If they dont want u, u will find out pretty soon. Libras on the other hand can lead u on for ages, not because they r mean or they want to hurt u, but more because they r confused about their emotions they have for u. I am not speaking for all the libs, but i know many that acted that way. Either way, u should ask yourself if u r willing to tolerate this kind of behavior on the long run. He sounds unreliable and u dont deserve that! Good luck

^^^ THIS ^^^ x 100

Cap girls can do so much better than this!! We are all about fidelity and honesty. Unfortunately, generally speaking the Libra male is just NOT A GOOD MATCH for us.

It hurts, but I agree with Metoo: It's time to move on.

Just think: Your perfect match (another Cap?) may be right around the corner!

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Bla bla bla it's to easy to tell someone to "move on" when you are not the one having to move on. Let the girl vent and comes to terms with her emotions if she needs to. She will move on when she is ready.

She's welcome to vent. No one here is preventing that. She asked us what she should do and she is receiving honest input based on what she's told us. She is also receiving love and encouragement. We understand she is hurting and that she is going through a tough time. Time will heal the wound and she'll move on when she's ready.

Oh, and we've all been there and we've all had to move on at some point. So don't act like we don't understand. And don't say that it's easy to say that. It's really not. Much easier to say what they want to hear. But, yes, moving on is difficult, but sometimes its the best option for your own health and happiness.

And sometimes, it is best to seek advice from an objective person from the outside looking in who can offer spoken (well, written, in this case) truth when we really know it deep in our hearts and just need to hear it from someone else.

This process truly hurts. As far as self esteem goes there are times that i feel like blocking the entire world out. The pain i've been through one after the next paints a picture of a strong female young adult fighting to find happiness which i know comes through self effort. Who hasn't had times when depression hits? I've mastered some hurtful challenges but there are times when you get tired of facing pain alone, i ran to guys and there's a sense of encouragement i haven't felt in so long. could not even talk to my friends. Yes, he does not deserve my love when i was his he treated me too bad. Why regret it when in truth i know he doesn't know how to be a man and even if he's with his girl today where's the promise of him being with her and actually treating her good. Right now i feel anger, but hey, he seems confused. I'm smart graduating from college. I have my flaws but when i love i love with all my heart and give my outmost best. I know my guy is ready to sweep me off my feet even though i wish God would send him to me very soon. Good Girls deserve the best. yeah, we broke up thats because every special guy deserves a unique diamond. With my head held with pride, Beginning to find myself, and i appreciate all of your options, Muahh!!!!! but if i can get some more advice on how to forget about this guy and some tips on how to trust again i'd really appreciate it.

With love,
CQ19

Thanks guys but lets be clear, after reading your options and advises i don't intend to get back with this guy. I appreciate the honesty because now it shows me the truth from your point of views. Keep in mind that i'm only human and there's only so much sometimes humans can take. sometimes its good to seek advice. I know this guy is a scum bag and hey, you can't tell me there was never a time when u loved someone so much and they hurt u. I don't beg, not a desperate crazy romantic. I'm a fighter that's why i laughed out for advice and yes i needed to hear the harsh side to it and the comforting & encouraging side also. That's what i needed. I ended the relationship and before doubting myself about it, i needed voices to remind me that what i did was best and right to do. It has truly helped me a lot more than you all could even imagine. There's this other libra who tried to talk to me but yeah, lesson learned mi nah go der again! Uniquely created i deserve the best thanks for all your help. I am an assertive person its just for once i decided that i should have been a little less with this libro-zero. Guess Its never coming down cause lets be honest men are attracted to women who really don't give a dime about them or at least pretend not to and women who proves to them that they can live without them. Perfect! like he used to say we're like tom and jerry, yip honey, u forgot even the show didnt last. 😄

i meant to say launched not laugh

more libra and cap tales this season.....mmmmh! interesting!

Here's how ya get over him - get under someone else! hahaha! No, just kidding.

Think about it this way -
- you no longer have to deal with his hot and cold behavior. Whew! Relief!
- no one bossing you around or controlling you.
- no one leaving crumbs on the counter (cuz he won't clean up after himself)
- no more worrying by the phone.
- no more his hogging the remote control.
- freedom to do what you want.
- no longer having to answer to someone and explain yourself.
- you can talk to whomever you like.
- you get busy doing all the things YOU want to do without having to worry about someone else enjoying it.
- you no longer have to do what HE wants to do.
- you can go out and find a better guy (I did!)
- now you have the opportunity to connect with a soul mate.
- you don't have to watch any more action movies - you can see all the chick flicks you want!

and so on, and so on.

Happiness is all in perspective. Focus on the positive and eventually the negative will fade away. Yes, EVERY bad situation has a positive. Everytime a negative/sad thought pops in your head, replace it with two positive thougts. You will have to do this consciously and force yourself, but it will get easier and easier and after a while and negative thoughts will no longer pop in your head. Take it one day at a time.

Good advice Truecap!

Posted by lnana04
Good advice Truecap!

I love that thanks lots Truecap

msvenus, i mean right, its like its their season to break hearts

Posted by StillWater
You're so sweet. It breaks my heart every time cap women hurt because I know their love is real and most cap women are the strong and beautiful face to a broken fragile heart from challenges and painful relationships. All they really want is someone to show them how precious they really are and that all their good qualities are appreciated.

All us Cap deserve better than BS! Why? Because we offer the best a man can ask for and only desrve to be treated like a queen.


Damn, i'm venting but this girl's story touched my heart. (yes we have hearts 😛)

For sure, we caps do! I found a family i never thought i'd find

Posted by Stinger Baby
please dont be devastated anymore. you are too good of a woman to be taken down by a fool that did not deserve you anyway. use this as a lesson and to better guard yourself from ignorant undeserving ppl. your love is too precious to be wasted. the more you hold on to it and save it for that right person, the stronger and better it will be. you are a good person that wants to love genuinely and you will attract your good mate to you. don't be discouraged.

feel your feelings all the way through and dont let anyone tell you when you stop feeling. you will know when you've mourned enough and when you're ready to move on. i hate seeing my cap sisters down because i am strongly aware of all the good love and loyalty they hold inside. what comes around goes around. while you're finally happy and enjoying the love you deserve, he will be desolate and kicking himself over the woman that he lost and will never be able to get back due to his own stupidity. one day at a time, dear. 🙂

Thanks alot hun, It's amazing how encouraging your words are. Smiling because i found me again