Did the cappy feel weird or is it my imagination?

So last night I had my real birthday party at my place, invited quite a few people, including my cap ex and obviously the new Sagittarius Im dating, as expected cappy was one of the first ones to arrive lol, she stayed for a couple of hours, though she had said from the beginning she wouldnt be staying the entire evening/night I thought maybe it wasnt a coincidence she chose to leave right when she knew the Sag was just coming in, so even though they crossed paths at the front door, I didnt get the chance to introduce them to each other. I just couldnt help but notice how Cap suddenly felt the urge to leave right when she overheard me on a phone convo with the Sag who was telling me she was on her way..

Any thoughts? (I mean, not that it matters as far as my friendship with cap ex, Im genuinely just curious..)

I hadnt looked at it from that perspective! I still care a lot about the cap friendship-wise so it would bother me a bit if she would get the impression I was trying to make her jealous or anything like that, by having her and the new Sag in the same space. Cap didnt even know I was dating this Sag so it came as a total surprise to her, she asked me quite a few questions about her, seemed genuinely curious!

I agree with Capgirl75.

With me, if its an uncomfortable situation I dont have to deal with, then Im not. Also, it just seems like it could have been awkward for the Cappy, for the Sag, and possibly even for you, so if she thought about that then it still would have been easier for her to remove herself. She probably wanted to see her before she left lol, and probably wanted to enjoy you for that bit of time.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
I hadnt looked at it from that perspective! I still care a lot about the cap friendship-wise so it would bother me a bit if she would get the impression I was trying to make her jealous or anything like that, by having her and the new Sag in the same space. Cap didnt even know I was dating this Sag so it came as a total surprise to her, she asked me quite a few questions about her, seemed genuinely curious!

Did she find out about the Sag at the party?

Posted by thxbutnothx
to be honest, if i have no romantic feeling whatsoever for an ex, i'd not avoid his new gf. i'd infact be glad to meet her or even ask to meet her (they usually turn my friendly offer down though for whatever reason lol)

I had another convo with cap ex yesterday and from what I understood she wouldnt have a problem meeting the new Sag, in fact she said "Im sure we'll meet each other pretty soon" so maybe she just needed a while to get used to the idea? Wouldnt surprise me considering thats the way I know her to deal with new situations/people.

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
I hadnt looked at it from that perspective! I still care a lot about the cap friendship-wise so it would bother me a bit if she would get the impression I was trying to make her jealous or anything like that, by having her and the new Sag in the same space. Cap didnt even know I was dating this Sag so it came as a total surprise to her, she asked me quite a few questions about her, seemed genuinely curious!

Did she find out about the Sag at the party?

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Yeah, I was talking to cap during the party quite a bit and told her there were still a bunch of people coming, since there were only like 4 people present at that time lol, so in between that convo I told her: "one of those is a new girl Im dating", she took it quite well, started smiling and stuff and asking me lots of questions about her..

Nice hair, you fckin hippy.😉

Posted by Pecheresse
She exited stage pretty smartley, I'd say totally cappy way. Just didn't want to start feeling dramatic so left altogether .Smart move. But she has to come to the conclusion you are happy without her now. Tough one.

Yeah, thats the impression I got too at first, though I had another convo with her yesterday and now Im not so sure lol

Posted by SkiesAfire
Nice hair, you fckin hippy.😉

LMAO thanks dude, no L'oreal though even though "Im worth it!"

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Posted by SkiesAfire
Nice hair, you fckin hippy.😉

LMAO thanks dude, no L'oreal though even though "Im worth it!"

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LOL

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Posted by Pecheresse
She exited stage pretty smartley, I'd say totally cappy way. Just didn't want to start feeling dramatic so left altogether .Smart move. But she has to come to the conclusion you are happy without her now. Tough one.

Yeah, thats the impression I got too at first, though I had another convo with her yesterday and now Im not so sure lol

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She's human. She'll have normal uncomfortable feelings about the situation like most, but if she cares about you, which it appears she does, she'll try to do the right thing by pushing for your happiness. Just be clear with yourself by asking what is it you really want her to feel. If its really comfort then it should all go smoothly. If she feels she's being provoked in any way to feel a certain way, and she cant handle it, she'd probably let you go as a friend before disturbing your relationship.

Regardless of what she may/may not feel, she's handling the situation well.

Shaks, cappy or not, you can never be just friends with this kind of deep & meaningful ex. Not letting exes go creates ghosts in your new relationships.

Cappy perhaps did not want to cramp your new girl's style by creating some sort of jealous dynamic dramarama weirdness. Some of us cappy ladies can be sympathetic to the feelings of other women.

Posted by Metoo
Oh boy. I am cap female and I am master at disguising my feelings in the situation. For one, I would have left too, I would have put on my happiest face when you told me about her, and I would have acted excited...actually I have done all of these things in this exact situation sorta...none of what I SAID nor projected was true. It hurt like hell, I wanted to say "be with ME" but I hid everything, kept my cool classy Cap demeanor, and cried privately. Eventually I made peace, accepted it and moved on. I dont know many ex's who want to meet the new gf or bf. I mean, that takes balls. I think I would always avoid it at all costs, whats the point?

Exactly. plus im not about to wear my heart on my sleeve and still get the same outcome/deal with the same reality, which is that they've moved on. best to put on a happy face, deal with whatever alone, and move on as well.

And the full moon in Aries surely brought some surprises..(Cap ex has an Aries moon, very fitting!)

She sent me a message out of the blue asking me if we were still friends (?) she said it is something that has been keeping her mind occupied for some time now. She started the message telling me how happy she was for me that I had found someone else and how my life had changed so much for the better. She said she would find it a shame if our friendship would end (I dont think I ever gave her reason to think that way anyway, pretty much the contrary!!) and also how that message might have come as a surprise to me, considering she doesnt express these kind of things that easily...