Do you fall in love easily Caps?

Hey there! I am a cappy myself but I seem to fall easily.. Is this normal with the other caps?

Same, after we've opened up and I've gotten a glimpse of who you really are and I actually like that, then yeah it's a quick fall from there.

If I don't trust you initially though, it's going to take a while; if it ever happens. I'm very picky about who I fall for (or should I say, my subconscious is)

Posted by capgirl75
Where is your Mars/Venus?
I have Mars in Sag and yes I seem to fall easily.

could be too, in part, your moon as well 🙂 yours cusping libra = relationships. So you enjoy relationships as well.
I read you had a Libra moon at the libra forum but you said the charts read differently. It happens all the time. But I believe cusps are very strong.

It takes zillion years to fall for someone but once I do...there is no hope.

Posted by SirB
I dont have experience with a Cap female myself but I do notice that cap females are more "mental" with love. I may be wrong, only on an assumption...my friend is a cap female and she seems really hard to please and guys try and try and she just deflects them like sunglasses lol...

please explain how you fall for a guy in the beginning stages... :-)

Im not always sure that I like, or rather trust effort. I want things to come more naturally, and when a guy is "trying" something about that can throw me off for some reason.
I guess it feels like he's thinking *Im doing this, to get that.* I dont know. Im different with people, I guess. I can be head over heels for someone but Im going to treat him, initially atleast, the same as I treat every guy, or person in general. When it gets to a point where a guy tries to show me that Im special to him, Im flattered, but not really moved. Thats not the way to get me, and probably why I prefer starting anything as friends...the most natural state without all of the pressure and awkwardness. If you are trying to impress me, Im not really seeing you. Only gllimpses of what you think needs to be said/done to win me over. I dive straight into friendzone with guys. I end up liking who is most comfortable in their skin.

Once I feel someone has the qualities I respect and need, yes, I can fall in love fast (maybe 3-4 months) but its very guarded. I won't mention it to anyone for a long time.

The cap hardness doesn't have to be hard. I think its viewed as self protection and fear. We have very big hearts, but it's hard for us to allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

Yes! And when we drop that shield and get burned, it's devastating!

I'm with an aqua and I think we are both afraid to tell each other how we feel. One of us is going to have to give for things to advance further. My friends say he's probably waiting on me, I say its the man who should go first. Soooo, what next? lol!

You know, though, once we let that shield down for someone who doesn't burn us. It is a beautiful, loyal friendship or relationship. I'm talking hide the body for someone type of loyal. But there are very, very few.

Posted by CapMusic
After letting my guard down and being crushed, my walls are miles high. Aliens couldnt get to me. Lol

That's why those friendships/relationships are rare my friend! Very few people get past them.

Posted by CapMusic
Tell me about it. It sucks majorly. Even my best friend doesnt REALLY know shit about me.

Mine doesnt either, which is kind of sad really. In all honesty, nobody REALLY knows. I have sides I havent even tapped into yet, so heck..I dont even know lol.

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Posted by CapMusic
Tell me about it. It sucks majorly. Even my best friend doesnt REALLY know shit about me.

Mine doesnt either, which is kind of sad really. In all honesty, nobody REALLY knows. I have sides I havent even tapped into yet, so heck..I dont even know lol.

ha. yep. But in actuality does anyone REALLY know anyone? I mean someone might think they know someone and then the person does something unexpected and the response is "wow i really didnt know them". I mean it can happen in couples married 20 years. I think the key is accepting someone for what you do and DO NOT know and realizing there are things you may never know.

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Nope. Yes, Id say that keeping parts of yourself to yourself is normal for most.

"I think the key is accepting someone for what you do and DO NOT know and realizing there are things you may never know."

Now this is interesting.

Posted by CapMusic
Tell me about it. It sucks majorly. Even my best friend doesnt REALLY know shit about me.

My BFF can read me like a book. She knows when I'm okay, when I'm not okay, when I'm hurt, when I'm bullshitting, when I'm dead serious brutally honest, when I'm angry, what I'm secretly thinking, etc -- other people can't usually read some of this in me. Even my ex husband didn't know me that well. Its a beautiful friendship!!!

Posted by truecap

Posted by CapMusic
Tell me about it. It sucks majorly. Even my best friend doesnt REALLY know shit about me.

My BFF can read me like a book. She knows when I'm okay, when I'm not okay, when I'm hurt, when I'm bullshitting, when I'm dead serious brutally honest, when I'm angry, what I'm secretly thinking, etc -- other people can't usually read some of this in me. Even my ex husband didn't know me that well. Its a beautiful friendship!!!

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Is this the Sag? This sounds beautiful but scary lol. I usually end up becoming a tad bit dependent on people like this.

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Posted by CapMusic
Tell me about it. It sucks majorly. Even my best friend doesnt REALLY know shit about me.

My BFF can read me like a book. She knows when I'm okay, when I'm not okay, when I'm hurt, when I'm bullshitting, when I'm dead serious brutally honest, when I'm angry, what I'm secretly thinking, etc -- other people can't usually read some of this in me. Even my ex husband didn't know me that well. Its a beautiful friendship!!!

Is this the Sag? This sounds beautiful but scary lol. I usually end up becoming a tad bit dependent on people like this.

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It is the Sag!

Crazy thing is Im so use to feeling a bit heavy I like it almost. When I think of a more positive, happier me I almost cringe lol.

Not saying Im a depressed, negative, debbie downer, but I find comfort in being a bit gloomy.

We usually are our own worst enemies but its both good and bad to know that.

My New Years Resolution last year was to be more honest with people about how I'm feeling. My Sag BFF told me close to the end of the year "no one but me knows what you're thinking. You should try to shake that unreadable image. It's a real turn off". I used to not say anything, then resentment would set in. So I started trying.

Some examples: Like using feeling words. Such as instead of saying "the sunset is beautiful," I say "the sunset feels magical". Also in the honesty of being asked "where do you want to eat" I actually think and give an answer. Another way is to say, "hey, that statement just pissed me off".

Anyway, I'm still learning to give more honest and feeling feedback, but I've noticed a turn for the better. People seem to respect me more and I'm having less fear of rejection. Hardest thing is teaching that cap mercury how to approach nicely and not bluntly.

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Posted by CapMusic
Tell me about it. It sucks majorly. Even my best friend doesnt REALLY know shit about me.

Mine doesnt either, which is kind of sad really. In all honesty, nobody REALLY knows. I have sides I havent even tapped into yet, so heck..I dont even know lol.

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BINGO!!!!!

Posted by SirB
Thanks. I am not there yet. I think for us Caps to fully evolve is to understand our opposite signs cancer traits and utilize them when needed. Meaning when the application calls for us to be "Cancers" we have to do it. Be more emotional when needed. Blend our heads with our hearts because Cancers usually think with their hearts. Were both Cardinal signs so we get stuff started. But we have two different modes of delivery. One(us) uses the head while the other uses the heart. If we can do it 50-50 or even 60-40 then the evolution process starts. I read that us Caps are the, "initiate" sign as well. We can be the worst of the best types of human beings on Earth.

...on a side note, my on and off relationship with my Aqua girl is becoming better. We talked for a while just now...and i was being 30% Cancer with her lol...a little more emotional than regular...i hope it works out. I really have strong feelings for her...her positiveness is addicting and I need it in my life. Her.

When Cancer is present inside Capricorn body....it is confusion at it's best. You don't know who is going to win in the end, head or the heart.

You will be fine with your Aqua. Take the lead in expressing, keep things interesting and give space. Aqua moon here.

Posted by SirB
Oh and it's also good to talk it out with your water sign friends. I think they are the only ones who can truely understand our hearts and minds. Scorpios are the best at it. They are, well, "us" without suits on lol...

I love this statement. Same with our suits of Armour.

My GF is a Cap and it took us dating and breaking up then getting back together for her to fall completely in love and completely let her walls down. For her it took about 4 months and some change.... but i do feel like we are a pretty good damn team. 😉

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My GF is a Cap and it took us dating and breaking up then getting back together for her to fall completely in love and completely let her walls down. For her it took about 4 months and some change.... but i do feel like we are a pretty good damn team. 😉

oh wow i had the most amazing experience with a scorp! i wasnt attracted physically at first but we became friends at work and we texted 500 messages a day all day for months and months. he was so deep so able to express himself like any other man. i was sed uced by his mind and not his body and it was magical. i mean we were in constant communication. he was very philosophical and sent long messages unlike the one and 2 words of most guys. i fell so in love with him he completely tore down my walls.

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We can leave life long impressions on people,sometimes good,sometimes bad. The evolved scorpios will leave a life long experience everytime. My GF if she's the one or not. Our connection is something we haven't experienced with anybody else in Years... all people under a certain zodiac are not always same tho..