Does my cap man actually love me?

So we've had a roller coaster of a ride in the 8 months we have been together so far. He asked me to move in with him so I did. He says he loves me but I feel like he has a wandering eye. I feel like he likes someone. Can cap men only be interested in one person? I thought moving in would be a big deal.

Well, we can't really answer that since we don't know him.

Ask yourself this: How does he treat you? What do his actions tell you? Is he open? Does he do nice things for you? Does he treat you like he loves you? Is he respectful? Kind? Dependable? Honest? Listens when you talk? Spend time with you?

What does he do that leads you to think he likes someone else?

Who's idea was it to move in together?

You said you've had a roller coaster ride the last 8 months. Did you think moving in would change anything? Nah, it's like having a baby to improve a marriage (which doesn't work).

Honestly, I don't think he would allow you to live together if he liked someone else. That would lead to drama and caps don't do drama. He wouldn't set himself up for that kind of drama, unless you coerced him into living together.

What's your sign, by the way.

I'm an Aries. I know I might just be paranoid & I do get jealous fast. There was a cap girl trying to talk to him at one point sending him snapchats & I saw their text conversations. That stopped a while ago. I know he looks people up on Facebook (he did with her too) (ugh don't ask me how I know I can be psycho) but he said it's just to see what they're all doing. He was partying a lot & they'd see each other there. When I asked him about it he lied & said it never happened. I am sure he has strong feelings for me but I just get unsure sometimes.. Being an Arian I want to be the only woman in his life.
It was his idea moving in.
He can be aloof sometimes. Sometimes I'm alittle too much for him emotionally. I just tend to need some reassurance.
Now again this could just be my paranoia so excuse me for being like this!!
I just don't want him to leave me for someone else or like her eventually.

Aries can be pretty intense for a cap. I'm surrounded by them and their intensity is a little overwhelming. So maybe just try to be more trusting and patient. Caps are more internal with their emotions and feelings, while Aries are more external about it.

You can't hold him responsible for anything that happened before you two got together, so try to keep that in mind as well.

And STOP snooping! You're only making it worse and giving yourself more doubts.

^^^^ I understand completely I would not be cool with the snapchat you have no reason to apologize ......a womans intuition

The the girl that was trying to talk to him? Seems like he took care of business and put a stop to it. That's reassuring.

Caps may not give a lot of verbal reassurance, but their actions (like above) are reassuring.

Posted by herdeadheartx
I'm an Aries. I know I might just be paranoid & I do get jealous fast. There was a cap girl trying to talk to him at one point sending him snapchats & I saw their text conversations. That stopped a while ago. I know he looks people up on Facebook (he did with her too) (ugh don't ask me how I know I can be psycho) but he said it's just to see what they're all doing. He was partying a lot & they'd see each other there. When I asked him about it he lied & said it never happened. I am sure he has strong feelings for me but I just get unsure sometimes.. Being an Arian I want to be the only woman in his life.
It was his idea moving in.
He can be aloof sometimes. Sometimes I'm alittle too much for him emotionally. I just tend to need some reassurance.
Now again this could just be my paranoia so excuse me for being like this!!
I just don't want him to leave me for someone else or like her eventually.

You cant stop him if he wants someone else

Stop snooping and get cheated on?

Posted by KittenLaRouge
Stop snooping and get cheated on?

There is never, ever any valid reason to go snooping into someone's personal business. If he's not cheating, she will break his trust forever. If he is, then he'll get caught without her having to stoop to that.

He's already put a stop to one girl who was trying to talk to him. He can't help it if people approach him, but he can put a stop to it - he's done it once, he'll put a stop to it again.

Remember, OP, cap men like dignified, competent and confident women. If you suspect it, just point blank ask him. Don't be a sneak and don't lower yourself to snooping. It's tacky and undignified.

I totally and completely disagree lol plenty of girls that sneak looks at there mans phone and catch them cheating when the man swears up and down they arent. If you need to snoop do it, and find out the truth coz u dont want to be a dummy

No disrespect but truecaps from another generation I dont think she grasps the shit that goes down these days

Posted by truecap

Posted by KittenLaRouge
Stop snooping and get cheated on?

There is never, ever any valid reason to go snooping into someone's personal business. If he's not cheating, she will break his trust forever. If he is, then he'll get caught without her having to stoop to that.

He's already put a stop to one girl who was trying to talk to him. He can't help it if people approach him, but he can put a stop to it - he's done it once, he'll put a stop to it again.

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Totally and completely agree! The guy who snoops in my personal business is out on his ass. I need a partner I can trust, has integrity and who is not that insecure.

Well kitten which one of us has been in a three year committed relationship and which one of us has many during that time period?

Muff said

Nuff said.

Lol!

Posted by truecap
Nuff said.

Lol!

Well you guys dont live together right? And you re older and not intrigued by every shiny new object do you even do snapchat? 😉

Kitten, truecap is indeed ancient thus her yrs of experience trumps your narrow views on the matter!

truecap is right, snooping leads to trouble, it will feed the imagination, you will start to scrutinize every little thing and in the end you will either self-destruct or he will discover how little you trust and respect him. You will end up resenting eachother and your relationship will fail.

IMO, it takes too much energy to worry about such matters. You cant control what he does and cheaters eventually hang themselves...

I was snooping, just like what kitten was saying, was because I didn't want to be the fool in the relationship, I wanted to know the truth. But now I feel like I am that because it did cause a lot of problems between us & I see he is turned off saying I'm insecure. Idk If I could take it all back I would. Now I don't know how to get him to open up to me again like he used to. He still loves me but he doesn't act like he used to. Lildol, it has fed my imagination & im the one paying for it because it has caused me so much paranoia. I'm paranoid now about everything. Being an Arian with a Scorpio moon, I'm pretty intense with my emotions I have realized. I really love him and want things to get better.

Once again I disagree with everyone here. Plenty of cheating men have called girls insecure for checking on them. I came in one time and found my bf checking my phone. I wasnt mad because I have nothing to hide and in fact it made me feel loved because he cared. Id be much more concerned if he didnt care. I also know he had been hurt so I understand. The fact that your bf is treating u different is rudiculous. He should know you are.just protecting yourself and that you care what he does.

@herdeadheart in doing what you did you have compromised his trust in you. My bet is he is now going to be especially secretive which is going stir things up in your head even more. Don't let it! And try to keep yourself in check!

Us ancient folk do know a thing or two believe it or not - most of us have tripped over ourselves a time or two as well 😉

@kitten, snooping has nothing to do with caring and protecting oneself. It's an invasion of privacy and disrespectful!

You want to be trusted, you must give it! That being said, I'm not surprised your BF stooped to your level...

Lildol, you're right he is more secretive now. The final time I had snooped he started to delete his history after every use..which yes you're right again has gotten me even more paranoid. How do I stop the paranoia? As you know it's not something that can be stopped in a minute. I don't want it to destroy us any further!

No trust, no relationship. Its the beginning of the end.

Only thing you can do is admit it, explain it, show remorse. That might save your
relationship.