Gemini female/Capricorn Male...

I met this Capricorn male a few weeks ago and we had lunch today--it was amazing! I find myself very attracted to him because he is exactly the opposite of everything that is Gemini about me but I like it. We vibed and he asked me out to dinner tomorrow night and I said yes of course. I'm wondering if anyone knows of any successful Gemini/Capricorn relationships; just curious. This man is quiet, and really thinks about what he's going to say unlike me. He is also so very sexy--omg so handsome! I do have to say I don't know how I'll get along with another earth sign--I just ended a relationship with a Virgo about 2 months ago. Anyway I'm looking forward to getting to know this man...wish me luck!

Capgirl75,

It took him 13 years to realize that? LOL! He must have found something exciting about you for that long. Glad you two are still friends!

I was married to a Gem man also. In the beginning the differences were exciting. In the long term, our differences drove us apart.

I dated a Gemini once. He was a a Marine. We had such fun together and I can actually say the relationship was good. But, maybe the combination of the Gem traits and USMC blood was a bit much after a while. We are still cool when we see each other and all but in the end his need for constand antics, unpredictability, and sometimes flakiness was just too much to deal with so we pretty much just walked away from it.

Capgirl, reading your post felt like re-living my marriage! Exactly the same way with us.

Listening to my mother(Aquarius) and her Gemini friend talk on the phone is always hilarious and confusing at the same time. I personally hate being interrupted when I talk, and their conversation is full of interruptions and topic changes. He flows with her, she flows with him and they just talk for hours about any and every single thing. They even read local news stories to eachother over the phone and laugh, discuss, dissect etc lol.

Posted by FoxGlove
Sometimes Caps aren't SO verbal, though. Example -- I'd love to hear "look, I'm going to be there for you -- I have your back. I'm not going anywhere." Where as I think a Cap would rather have that demonstrated over time, vs. hearing it said. Right or wrong?

I don't know that it's so much that the average Cap would prefer to receive demonstration over verbalisation in this particular scenario, but I do think the average Cap is much more likely to demonstrate such an emotion/sentiment than to verbalise it. We have a tendency to speak more through our actions than our mouths.

Agreed actions speak more so then words but maturity brings you to a bridge of connection in understanding that your mate needs more so you then comply.

Posted by cowpuncher
Of the four ex girlfriends I'm still very friendly with (friends only, not "still in my little black book friendly"), two are Geminis. I think we can get along well, and it probably could work out fine, it just didn't last in either of my two Cap Male+Gem Female relationships.

Both of the Gems I had relationships with were less chatty than geminis are normally portrayed as being as well.

You say you recently ended a relationship with a Virgo, maybe you should look at the rest of your chart and see what is giving you such a bug for earth sign men? There might be more going on in your chart that will make you more compatible (or less too) for an Earth sign guy than many other Geminis.

I have quite a bit of earth and water signs in my chart:

sun: gemini
ascendant: cancer
moon: libra
merc: taurus
venus: cancer
mars: taurus
jupiter: taurus
sat: pisces
uran: virgo
nep: scorpio
pluto: virgo
lilith: sag
asc node: cancer


I really am intrigued by this man so I hope it works out. I like it because he's very direct whenever I ask him anything. It didn't work out with Virgo because he was always evasive whenever I asked him something directly. I was so exhausted by the time he didn't get around to answering something I asked! I felt like a gerbil/mouse on a wheel and on a rollercoaster simultaneously with that one! I don't think that will be the case with Mr. Capricorn...

Stoicgoat,

"I don't know that it's so much that the average Cap would prefer to receive demonstration over verbalisation in this particular scenario, but I do think the average Cap is much more likely to demonstrate such an emotion/sentiment than to verbalise it. We have a tendency to speak more through our actions than our mouths."


I have to agree with what you said about actions speaking louder than words; I get that from my Cap. I love words but they mean absolutely nothing if you can't show me as well. Gemini's are known for being poetic geniuses with words, but I love showing my partner I mean what I say as well. I think Cap is like that; whereas Virgo wasn't. Not saying that Virgo's aren't like that--the one I was seeing just wasn't that way with me (he just wasn't that into me! lol). He got a year too long from me and I said goodbye. Cap is also very attentive without being smothering...hope that doesn't change!

Make sure he isn't your rebound guy.

"Seems like he has shown interest in you, that's a good start. For now, it's best to have an active life outside of him, and to invite him into yours, little by little. Show him what you have to offer, and think about how you want him in your life. Give him room to assess how he wants you in his life. Take it slow. See what you both have to offer each other. If you like what you see, and he's willing, then proceed from there. Right now, it seems like you??re in the review/preliminary phase before assessing anything serious.

You have earth in your chart but also key water placements. So beware that your emotions don't send your mind traveling too far past your reality (a potential Gemini Sun with Saturn in Pisces dilemma). In any event, best wishes."


Thanks AEG for this advice. The thing is he said I wasn't showing my true self to him at dinner. He said he doesn't want to know a person this time and a new person the next time! I don't get it. I told him I have to warm up to people so he might not get the very open person that I truly am on the first date. I'm analysing him; listening to what he has to say, watching what he does, gauging his reaction(s) to what I say. I've gotten this before from a man who was an Aries. It's like these men want me to be touchy feely or something from the beginning. I don't do that! Not that I think anything is wrong with it or that I have a schedule of when these things should happen. For instance Capricorn wanted to hold hands--I did for a few minutes but stopped because I wasn't comfortable with it. I gave him a hug when we first saw each other but I have to say it was a reserved hug and he commented on it. I asked him what was it that he wanted me to do, drape myself all over him or something? I think so. That Aries I was talking about in the beginning mentioned the same thing and other things and it made me so uncomfortable that I ended things after a second date. Once I get to know a person I am very touchy-feely, like to cuddle, kiss, etc., but not right at the beginning! What I start thinking is, "is that all they want from me"? I am very attracted to Capricorn but I want to take things slow. If that's not his agenda then he needs to seek company from someone else! This man talks about not wasting time and going with the flow. Fine--just don't try to move too fast or try to push me into something I don't want or I'm out of there!

ahh the wordy Gem in me ran out of room! As I was saying Cap needs to slow his roll! I have a life outside of him but he wanted to see me for a third day in a row and I wasn't with that. That's too much for me--too much togetherness. He texted me the question of when I was going to show him the "real me" yesterday. I was at work and couldn't answer but I told him I would later. I haven't yet but I don't know what I will say to that. I tried to tell him I was being me but I would open up more as I got to know him better. I don't think he liked that answer. "sigh" I like him and want to see him again; I hope we get get over this little bump though.

Oh and Cap is not a rebound. Thanks everyone! All your comments have definitely been very helpful!

Not sure. I Dated a Gemini once. Gemini's are too flighty and flirty for my taste.

Thanks again AEG. I spoke with Capricorn earlier today and I have to say I'm even more impressed by him! Intelligence is like an aphrodisiac for us Gems! Well to me it is anyway. I didn't have a chance to talk to him about the "real me" comment, but I will the first chance I get. If I have something burning on my mind it has to come out. To me; it's not a show stopper for us unless he becomes pushier. Nothing worse than a pushy person IMHO. It's also very fruitless because I cannot be pushed into something I don't want to do--just won't happen. I like him but at this point it will be very easy for me to tell him to take a hike!

Life is good and I'm going to think positive that our chat will bear good results. Church in the morning so I will bid you all adieu for now... :-)

My Gem ex and I had a hard time communicating. Didn't manage time or money the same way. Different views on everything, although the intellectual debates were awesome - until he started feeling like I was trying to make him change his mind, which I would never do! We had different ways of showing and expressing love. He was flighty and couldn't plan ahead or stick to a decision - I was stubborn in mine and that created a lot of tension. I was also too straightforward and cold for him. Just a whole lot of differences. Way too many!

Had to ditch the Cappie--he was wayyyyyy to controlling and this Gem wasn't having that! I thought I liked that about him in the beginning; how he was so precise in what he expected from me. But soon I felt as if I was suffocating. I suppose I need a little grounding but he was trying to bury me in the ground I felt! OMG I feel so free not being under his penetrating stare. That didn't intimidate me as I knew he was carefully contemplating what he was going to say. But heck I grew impatient! I mean did he have to think long AND hard about everything? Sheeesh. I was warned...funny that the Cappie at my job is loads of fun. But then we aren't trying to be in a relationship either. And I do have to say he's anal about a few things as well...lol! I think if I'm going to deal with an earth sign male he will have to be another Virgo...omg! Did I just say that? LOL! *sigh*

LoL@ trying to bury you in the ground. Most Cappies are pretty cool when there's no feelings or titles involved lol.

Capricorn and Gemini. These signs are quincunx each other.

Just like squares, quincunxes are described as a "hard" aspect. This aspect tends to feel fine and it seems the energy flows easily, at least at the beginning. However, as time passes, it becomes clear that the energy is not really flowing nicely. It's stuck, not moving at all.

In relationships, a lot of adjustment is needed to get things moving. This is because the signs involved have completely different ways of doing things (Capricorn is earthy cardinal, Gemini is airy mutable). Unless adjustment is made, the relationship will become stale and stagnant. Eventually, both parties will want out of it.

I recently had a fling with a long time friend who's a Gemini. I had never even known she was interested until she told me that night. We've been friends for well over ten years, and we were drinking the other night a few weeks back, and she just popped the question. Came outta left field (they usually do) but what separates this experience from others is that there was actual communication. It wasn't just "hey, let's get busy and act like it never happened, fuck the friendship." I was actually able to express my feelings about the situation and my worry that it would destroy the friendship, as did she. She was actually the confident one, while I was all sorts of nervous lol. But yeah, everything went great, and let me tell you, the sex was AMAZING! Afterwards, we were still the same good friends if not closer. I've noticed she's acted a lil sweeter towards me, but then she always did. Makes me wonder if she had a crush way back when we were teenagers, cuz right before we got started, she was asking if I had ever felt this way about her in the past. She had a boyfriend who was my friend, so I said I didn't. Plus I kinda saw her as unattainable and kinda one of the guys even tho she's not a tomboy. When she calls, she's got that soft sweet voice on the phone, and I could've SWORN she told me she loved me one time on the phone. It was a quick one, so i wasn't sure if I had heard her correctly, I didn't want to embarrass her, so I didn't ask for her to repeat it. So, this experience has got me wondering, even though it's generalizing to a certain degree, are Gems n Caps like a unknown perfect match? She was actually the 2nd air sign I have slept with, and the sexiest. I never really took the time to try n understand Gems though. Short attention span in you air signs lol 😛

Posted by lnana04
LoL@ trying to bury you in the ground. Most Cappies are pretty cool when there's no feelings or titles involved lol.

This is too true. I can have all the NSA sex I want but shit changes at the drop of a hat as soon as relationship or the I love you's start coming into play. It's all serious business from there because our hearts become involved and we value our emotions more than anything else. And yes, despite popular belief, we do have emotions. I'd say similar to that of a Cancer. If you've ever met a cancer, then you prob understand why we keep ourselves bottled up all the time. Some Cancers are absolutely insane.