Gemini Obsessed with me (cap) [Question]

Ok, so I have this friend who his a gemini who we'll call "lucy".
I've known lucy for about 6 years now and about 9 months ago she started to show "feelings" for me. She's definetly not ugly and she has a nice family. She's had a lot of boyfriends but not one for about a year because she wants me. So she finally asks ME out, but I said no, for these simple reasons: She's an emotional roller coaster(always has been), she has two personalities (typical gemini), and she always tries to get into these emotional coversations with me (at which point I either refuse to text back or I start sending one worded responses [we often communicate over text because I don't answer the phone unless its family and I try to avoid meeting up with her in person]). Still, over those circumstances, she refuses to let go of me. Just last night at 3:00 AM she texted me that she had written a poem. Great, just what I wanted...
I know she really likes me but I really don't want to get into a relationship with her. But nooooo, she just keeps trying to connect with me.

So any solutions to give me relief? How can I gently get her to realize that I'm just not that into her?

I know that sounds kind of selfish, but hey, that's a cap for ya.

gemtaur: "I bet he showed interest at one point and then withdrew for whatever reason"
I actually did show slight interest in her and she picked up on that and, as result, got all "OMG Nick you finally like me?" and I'm thinking "What did I just say?..." And she's probably still hanging on to those thoughts ya?
And yes, I suppose we might balance eachother out. I'm just really not that emotional. Typical cap for you though eh?

have you been upfront and told her you're in fact not interested? if not, you should and if you have already, i think you should just stop even answering her. answering alone gives her hope, i'm sure for a while of you ignoring she'll still pursue, but eventually she will stop. again, i kind of think being really upfront about it is the easiest and quickest ways of dealing with this type of situation. also, just because you showed initial interest doesn't mean she should be pursuing you this hard. its insane! men who do this are always, automatically considered crazy as should she! she doesn't know when to quit and that's just bad news.

Nick, I'm very much like you... let it all just go and hope it goes away! You don't want to hurt her and you don't want drama from rejecting her. We placate and hope for the best! In the mean time we continue to be tortured. To tell someone "no" is almost like selling your soul to the devil. You don't want to cut ties, but by the same token, you just don't want to go down that path. We wouldn't want rejection, and, in turn, we project. It's the sensitive side of a Cap others fail to see sometimes. We are all about the other person, we want to build them up, because it builds us up. By tearing them down, we see it as tearing ourselves down. There is nothing wrong with that.

I have no answers. But, if the roles were reversed, what would be the easiest for you to take as far as rejection? (I know, don't do rejection well!!) Just think about it...

TELL HER ALREADY. U have no right to string her along like that. Yeah? Yes, it feels good. Watching someone go on and on about how you make them feel, blahblahblah lol but c'mon, is that really what you wana stand for?? Tell her you are not interested. You actually do owe her that hey. The truth. Don't sugar coat it, cz she'll think you still care somehow. Tell her upfront, you're not into her. Do not try and be all nice, you're am amzing woman, BUT...nah ah. Start off with a 'im being completely honest cz i owe it to you...im nt into you.' And ur done 🙂 lol

lildol. im like that too...i like building people up. cheering them on. stuff like that. im a comforter too...im easy to talk too so im good with counseling others. but i guess i tend to get like a gem myself...being with a gemini moon and all. attachments. im a complex man i guess...sweetheart but a cold and detached nature sometimes.

Posted by HappyCappy
lildol. im like that too...i like building people up. cheering them on. stuff like that. im a comforter too...im easy to talk too so im good with counseling others. but i guess i tend to get like a gem myself...being with a gemini moon and all. attachments. im a complex man i guess...sweetheart but a cold and detached nature sometimes.

Yeah, the Gem moon really makes us too soft sometimes... and I try to be gentle, but when you just don't get it (so, I've been told) I'll rip you're heart out... e.g. "stabbed a knife in my heart, twisted it, ripped it out and showed it to me while was still beating" - yeah, been told that, but REALLY I'm a gentle soul 😄

I know EXACTLY how u feel. I have a gemini friend that is absolutely CRAZY about me. He drives me up the wall. One minute hes happy one minute hes said. I just dont answer the phone for him because I have the tendency to get dpressed by his moods. I just txt now. I dont even ask anymore how he is doing, because I just cant deal with it. If he mentions something that can turn into me having to babyfy him then I just change the subject or just stop talking. UGHHH!!!!! I still like him as a person tho. Been friends for 14 years. LMBO!!!

Just be honest and upfront with her, she might hurt for a little but will pick herself up and move right on, and she'll still respect you for being honest and not stringing her along.

I wonder why he should give this Gem girl a try if he's not attracted to her in that or am I misreading Nick...He's not interested and this chick seems a bit needy which only serves to turn him off even more. The more she wants him the less he values her worth as a romantic partner which equals to friendship feelings....Don't do it Nick LOL

typo...not attracted to her in that way