Have I Ruined it with my Capicorn Guy?!

I am a Sagittarius female and I recently lost my cool with my Capricorn Guy. We have been together officially for about 3 months now and this past Valentines Day put me completely on edge. Here's what happened: Valentines Day I called my Capi and said Happy Valentines Day. He was at work and I had the day off. He told me that he was going to come see me that day after work and that he would give me a call around 2 when he was all done. 2pm NO CALL. But I didn't panic I was patient and I figured he got held up at work. Then 3pm rolled around still nothing. Then 4pm NOT A WORD. I called around 4pm and received no answer. Then I logged onto Facebook and saw that he made a status update about his excitement about receiving his tax return money. Ok cool no problem there. But as I was reading the comments I noticed his comments were super flirty with one girl in particular. Then when I checked out her page I noticed that he left a comment on one of her recent pictures and it was beyond inappropriate for someone that supposed to have a GF and I just saw read. I lost it! My fire sign self just was so over it and I couldn't help myself. So I sent him a message in his inbox on Facebook saying: "I'm not your gf bcuz you sure don't treat me like it. Just bcuz i don't say anything doesn't mean I'm blind. I'm gonna get off this crazy train now!! I don't put up with this type of shit and I'm not going to start now. You can go play games with someone else. I don't play games. I have too much respect for myself. YOU said you wanted more. You asked that of me. I love you but i love myself much more. Go play games with someone who wants to play. I don't have time. Don't ask me for things you obviously DON'T want!!! GOODBYE!" So as you can see I was LIVID! So I haven't heard anything from him nothing. He didn't respond he hasn't called and I want to think he is thinking on what I said and I am giving him time to think on it. I would think that he wouldn't just let me walk away like that without any further detail, information or exclamation. Me being a Sagittarius it is not THAT hard for me to walk away but I miss him already and I am thinking I should at least explain where all the anger stemmed from before just washing my hands of this completely. Can I fix this? Or should I even bother? Need some advice.

Facebook strikes again!!! Another one bites the dust.

That's what I thought. Agreed. Thx

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Posted by blackcanary007
That's what I thought. Agreed. Thx

That a girl, you're taking it in stride. It's hard seeing stuff like that, especially on a day that is suppose to be celebrating your love/relationship/whatever. It's good to find this stuff out sooner than later.

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Yeah I have no choice but to take it in stride and be thankful that this happened 3 months in instead of 3 years in. I am a beautiful woman with a lot to offer and I can't get myself wrapped up in someone who doesn't want to respect me. It's not completely easy because like I said I do miss him but that feeling will pass. I can't harp on it forever.

Posted by CluelessCancer
lol you want to go apologize to him for him posting sexual things on another female's walls?

Damn what's wrong with us women these days. I also have this issue where you don't want to lose someone, so instead you lose you, lose your self respect, your hopes, your dreams

feck that.

I never said sexual. I said flirtatious. Plus, I wasn't going to apologize for HIS behavior. I was going to apologize for jumping out there before having a dialogue about what I read. Me being a Sag female I know I can be flirty with men even OVERLY so. I can't help it but I felt as though it may not have been fair to just go off so to speak without him getting a say so. But it doesn't matter because I am going to leave it as it is. It's for the best.

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lol you want to go apologize to him for him posting sexual things on another female's walls?

Damn what's wrong with us women these days. I also have this issue where you don't want to lose someone, so instead you lose you, lose your self respect, your hopes, your dreams

feck that.

I never said sexual. I said flirtatious. Plus, I wasn't going to apologize for HIS behavior. I was going to apologize for jumping out there before having a dialogue about what I read. Me being a Sag female I know I can be flirty with men even OVERLY so. I can't help it but I felt as though it may not have been fair to just go off so to speak without him getting a say so. But it doesn't matter because I am going to leave it as it is. It's for the best.

Oh well then if that's the case. Let him reach out to you. You need to establish boundaries though with him and yourself.

You can't be a hypocrite.

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You're right but I have NEVER flirted with someone on FB in his face where he could clearly see it. Flirting when you are out with friends I think is a harmless practice but he hasn't reached out to me yet and at this point I doubt he will. It has been 2 days after all. I don't think he wants me to reach out to him first. I wouldn't know what to say anyway. I'm just going to leave it

The sag women I know are super jealous and they will go through their guy's stuff to find any shred of inappropriate behaviour... And then fly off the handle. Meanwhile they're continuously flirting with others.

I wonder what it was he said?

Some men clam up on V day especially when they are not serious.

3 months in and the expectation that he should give you a gift and be faithful, not flirt most likely was just way too much pressure.

Some men have to adjust to the idea that they have to act and behave as if they are off limits to other females. The adjustment is easy for us women but for men it's a very big adjustment to make.

I actually agree that you should move on but maybe talk it out if you can to see what his side of it is about.

Maybe he's dumb and has no idea why you sent that message to his facebook box

And he's just letting you calm down, and thinks you'll come around when your better

Was it still early in the day when you sent the message? Perhaps he had something planned

that evening for the 2 of you

*shrugs*

If you're really missing him and or curious test the water and see what happens

Posted by aquapiscescusp
The sag women I know are super jealous and they will go through their guy's stuff to find any shred of inappropriate behaviour... And then fly off the handle. Meanwhile they're continuously flirting with others.

I wonder what it was he said?

Yeah I probably would have reacted the same way. Flying off the handle.

Then I kick myself 😛 😢

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
The sag women I know are super jealous and they will go through their guy's stuff to find any shred of inappropriate behaviour... And then fly off the handle. Meanwhile they're continuously flirting with others.

I wonder what it was he said?

Yeah I probably would have reacted the same way. Flying off the handle.

Then I kick myself 😛 😢

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But do you go looking for it?

I actually think you over reacted. :/
You let frustration build up and then let it spill over into social media.


I was semi-seeing a Sag guy, he was frustrated with me because I was not responding to him like he thought I should. Well one day I found a very insulting and angry text message from him.
I thought he was nuts. And completely cut him out of my life.

This guy is a Cap, and your message is more than likely going to come off as nuts to him.
I have no doubt that the fb message is not the only time you showed such behavior.

You seem fiery tempered, Caps are not a good match for you.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
The sag women I know are super jealous and they will go through their guy's stuff to find any shred of inappropriate behaviour... And then fly off the handle. Meanwhile they're continuously flirting with others.

I wonder what it was he said?

Yeah I probably would have reacted the same way. Flying off the handle.

Then I kick myself 😛 😢

But do you go looking for it?

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Oh yeah, I'm very suspicious when it comes to boyfriends and other women and stuff. I'm a bit controlling as well.

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Posted by LunarMaiden
I actually think you over reacted. :/
You let frustration build up and then let it spill over into social media.


I was semi-seeing a Sag guy, he was frustrated with me because I was not responding to him like he thought I should. Well one day I found a very insulting and angry text message from him.
I thought he was nuts. And completely cut him out of my life.

This guy is a Cap, and your message is more than likely going to come off as nuts to him.
I have no doubt that the fb message is not the only time you showed such behavior.

You seem fiery tempered, Caps are not a good match for you.

Awww come on all that fIRE makes for some amazing sex....CAps and Cancers can't be this dull....

just admit it your heart was not into him, cause if i like a man, i'll respond, ill talk to him, ill be on his butt like toilet paper.

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You are right, I was not into him at all. LOL
I prefer very passionate, intense, and loving relationships.
He just wasn't my type. If he was, it would have been different.
I understood his frustration though.

But you can be passionate and fiery without the crazy.
The crazy usually comes in when unrequited love happens.
Some people just walk away from it, others explode.
I think that's what OP is dealing with, her feelings are not being reciprocated.

I think LunarMaiden nailed it

Posted by CluelessCancer
Speaking of intense-Mr. Man logged back on Dxp again.

I have missed him so...............

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Speaking of intense-Mr. Man logged back on Dxp again.

I have missed him so...............

🙂 He's an interesting person. I wish he lived in the states. I think you two would make an amazing couple.

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WHOA! Where did that come from?
Well there are times I do feel I could sop him up with a biscuit. 😛

Posted by blackcanary007
I am a Sagittarius female and I recently lost my cool with my Capricorn Guy. We have been together officially for about 3 months now and this past Valentines Day put me completely on edge. Here's what happened: Valentines Day I called my Capi and said Happy Valentines Day. He was at work and I had the day off. He told me that he was going to come see me that day after work and that he would give me a call around 2 when he was all done. 2pm NO CALL. But I didn't panic I was patient and I figured he got held up at work. Then 3pm rolled around still nothing. Then 4pm NOT A WORD. I called around 4pm and received no answer. Then I logged onto Facebook and saw that he made a status update about his excitement about receiving his tax return money. Ok cool no problem there. But as I was reading the comments I noticed his comments were super flirty with one girl in particular. Then when I checked out her page I noticed that he left a comment on one of her recent pictures and it was beyond inappropriate for someone that supposed to have a GF and I just saw read. I lost it! My fire sign self just was so over it and I couldn't help myself. So I sent him a message in his inbox on Facebook saying: "I'm not your gf bcuz you sure don't treat me like it. Just bcuz i don't say anything doesn't mean I'm blind. I'm gonna get off this crazy train now!! I don't put up with this type of shit and I'm not going to start now. You can go play games with someone else. I don't play games. I have too much respect for myself. YOU said you wanted more. You asked that of me. I love you but i love myself much more. Go play games with someone who wants to play. I don't have time. Don't ask me for things you obviously DON'T want!!! GOODBYE!" So as you can see I was LIVID! So I haven't heard anything from him nothing. He didn't respond he hasn't called and I want to think he is thinking on what I said and I am giving him time to think on it. I would think that he wouldn't just let me walk away like that without any further detail, information or exclamation. Me being a Sagittarius it is not THAT hard for me to walk away but I miss him already and I am thinking I should at least explain where all the anger stemmed from before just washing my hands of this completely. Can I fix this? Or should I even bother? Need some advice.

How long has it been since you sent the message? Does he know

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Does he know that you sent the message because you saw his comments about the girl?

I suggest that you don't contact him again. If he cares, he will definitely engage you. Good Luck!

Yep, you made yourself look crazy. You sent a message all pissed off without telling him what you were pissed off about. He was sitting there going WTF! You just reacted based on limited information that you already decided was truth without even asking him about it. You just flew off the handle and made assumtions. Maybe they are friends who just banter like that for no reason and its a personal joke between them because thy're long time friends?? Not likely, but still possible and you didn't give him a chance to explain.

That said. Now.

He said he would call and he didn't. Capricorn is a sign of action and his action indicates he is not that into this relationship. Granted, work could have interfered and he didn't get a chance to call. Yet, anyway. Maybe he was about to (albeit late) when he got a crazy message from you and though F-it. — Or maybe he was just telling you what you wanted to hear, though he had no intention of following through—

All in all, there are red flags to be concerned about. But throwing a hissy fit based on assumptions shows your lack of judgement, questionable character, lack of trust and throws out concerns about your ability to handle controversy and opposition. Caps like people who can logically handle life's curve balls with class and dignity. Reacting on assumptions shows a lack in that ability.

He might be a jerk who doesn't deserve and opportunity to speack for himself, but in the future, perhaps think before you act. You will be surprised at how much less drama there will be.

If you want to patch things up, apologize to him for making the assumption without getting his side of the story and ask him if you can talk because you're calm now and ready to listen. (Doesn't mean he gets an out on his behavior, but it will give you a chance to talk with him).

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That's what I thought. Agreed. Thx

That a girl, you're taking it in stride. It's hard seeing stuff like that, especially on a day that is suppose to be celebrating your love/relationship/whatever. It's good to find this stuff out sooner than later.

Yeah I have no choice but to take it in stride and be thankful that this happened 3 months in instead of 3 years in. I am a beautiful woman with a lot to offer and I can't get myself wrapped up in someone who doesn't want to respect me. It's not completely easy because like I said I do miss him but that feeling will pass. I can't harp on it forever.

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3 months ONLY!!!? Uhmm...girl, that's not even enough time to establish whether you want to be exclusive with that person yet. I think you assumed more of this relationship that what it is. Of course, I don't know your history, but three months isn't enough time to really decide if you like someone, much less be exclusive.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
lol you want to go apologize to him for him posting sexual things on another female's walls?

Damn what's wrong with us women these days. I also have this issue where you don't want to lose someone, so instead you lose you, lose your self respect, your hopes, your dreams

feck that.

I never said sexual. I said flirtatious. Plus, I wasn't going to apologize for HIS behavior. I was going to apologize for jumping out there before having a dialogue about what I read. Me being a Sag female I know I can be flirty with men even OVERLY so. I can't help it but I felt as though it may not have been fair to just go off so to speak without him getting a say so. But it doesn't matter because I am going to leave it as it is. It's for the best.

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Ya think?

Posted by truecap
throwing a hissy fit based on assumptions shows your lack of judgement, questionable character, lack of trust and throws out concerns about your ability to handle controversy and opposition. Caps like people who can logically handle life's curve balls with class and dignity. Reacting on assumptions shows a lack in that ability.

I don't mean to say that you are or are not these things. Sorry, I didn't word it well. But if someone reacted like that with me, I would question whether these traits were or were not there. It would make me look at those areas to see if this were a one time thing or if this would be a continuous thing, thus taking even longer to decide if this was someone I could trust or even want to be with. Caps are slow deciding anyway, and these kinds of reactions would make it even slower.

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That's what I thought. Agreed. Thx

That a girl, you're taking it in stride. It's hard seeing stuff like that, especially on a day that is suppose to be celebrating your love/relationship/whatever. It's good to find this stuff out sooner than later.

Yeah I have no choice but to take it in stride and be thankful that this happened 3 months in instead of 3 years in. I am a beautiful woman with a lot to offer and I can't get myself wrapped up in someone who doesn't want to respect me. It's not completely easy because like I said I do miss him but that feeling will pass. I can't harp on it forever.

3 months ONLY!!!? Uhmm...girl, that's not even enough time to establish whether you want to be exclusive with that person yet. I think you assumed more of this relationship that what it is. Of course, I don't know your history, but three months isn't enough time to really decide if you like someone, much less be exclusive.

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Here is a little more background just so you can have a clearer picture. My Cap and I have known eachother for YEARS! This isn't someone I have recently meant and we have only known each other for 3 months. We have known each other for about 6 years. We have been dating just recently and have been official for 3 months after dating. I do agree with your previous statements that I flew off the handle and that is a personal flaw on my part. I take responsibility for that but we ARE an exclusive couple indeed.


UPDATE: He has contacted me and apologized we talked it over and I apologized as well for my quick reaction that was completely out of anger. For now we are still together and things are fine but I just have this gnarling feeling in the back of my mind and I honestly think that it isn't going to work out. I am giving it a chance for now and seeing how everything goes but for the time being I have stopped following him on all social media to avoid this problem in the future. Thanks to everyone that has responded. I do appreciate it.

Thanks

I didn't realize you had known him that long. That does make a difference.

Sounds like yall are working it out though and the situation does have a positive after effect. Give it some time. Good luck! Hope the best for you!