He gets close just to pull away

I've been dating this Capricorn guy for 8 months, I am really into him and when we are together he shows me that he's really into me. He's gotten closer to me in the past few months all his doing btw. No pressure from me. I'm letting him lead because I also want to take things slow and for them to progress naturally. But he gets close and then he pulls away. I'm not sure if it's something that I am doing that scares him. He's told me several times that I am worth it to him. We don't get in detail about what we are or what we are doing but I am sure he's the one. So I don't force it. Why does he take 8 steps forward just to take 5 steps back. Almost as though he's purposefully trying to push me away. He doesn't scare me but I also don't want to miss his hint of he is trying to tell me he's not interested. I'm a little confused. We both find it hard to soften around each other but when we do it's amazing. When he's vulnerable he comes to me. Which is amazing because I know that they tend to hide their vulnerability. I'm there for him and I don't push too much either. I'm just present which is sometimes the best when dealing with such a tough guy. I'm a tough girl I totally get it. Why does he do this?

Its probably okay. Like any other sign caps get moody too and need space. We like our alone time, we're natural loners.

As long as he doesn't do this for a prolonged period of time I wouldn't worry. And as long as you guys aren't constantly fighting. Gem Cap is a tough match but it can be done (my parents 30+ years!!)

Congrats on dating 8months. That's a solid amount of time, he must be pretty interested in you.

That's awesome! I'm not a fighter at all, been through a lot and I tend to think very logically for my sign trust I know. Too many Gemini family members and friends. He can be a bit mean but I know he's pushing my buttons and I don't let it get me upset. It takes a lot to upset me. I can tell very much when he's just puffing his chest up at me just as a defense mechanism. But damn... I'm just scared I may lose him. I've never felt this way before, this is new... And I've been married before. This feels right, and it's teaching me patience. Just don't want to be a fool ever. CapricornLaurie

I'm not passive at all, I call him on his shit but I still understand that we are different. He's not mean as if he's being disrespectful. When I do I back up and let him make the next move. And he does. We've been very close recently and it felt so fitting. He shows me that he trusts me now more than before. But then he pulls away and I'm like ok did I do something. Idk...

Well... I was married to a gem. Gems are a draw to caps. I liked the fun, the openess, the intelligence, the safety I felt. However, my gem was inconsistent and had no follow through which made me have reservations. So my advice is if you say you're gonna do something then you better well do it. That builds trust, which caps need.

You are doing a great job and continue to react the same way. He pulls away because he's very cautious. I think he really like you and that's a defense mechanism that capricorn men have, as soon as you're getting closer to his heart he wants to pull away. Thats to protect his own heart its nothing that you done to cause that he will probably continue to keep doing that.

With my cap man there was never a push & pull. Always consistent - told him I require that. End of story

@ Lust and Sungem22. That push pull thing can go on forever!!! Men in general push pull and Capricorns men are notorious for doing that. A lot of times when a Cap man get in with you real close and start that distant stuff it’s because he is very cautious but he also could be already in a committed relationship. Men who are already committed in another relationship can love you & want you so they get in real close to you because they don’t want to lose you. They make everything spark with you and you feel some attachment and they do also. When he feel you are getting in too close to his heart they will push you away. You are already in by that time but he won’t verbally express that right away. You can feel it and tell but won’t be certain because of the push pull. They will have you scratching your head with uncertainty. The more emotionally he gets involved the harder he will push you away. The push is because u are getting closer and he need to distance himself so he won’t hurt the female he’s already committed to. The closer he allow you to get the more vulnerable he become so if he’s vulnerable that will only affect his committed relationship and that can’t happen in most cases.

@ Lust and Sungem22. That push pull thing can go on forever!!! Men in general push pull and Capricorns men are notorious for doing that. A lot of times when a Cap man get in with you real close and start that distant stuff it’s because he is very cautious but he also could be already in a committed relationship. Men who are already committed in another relationship can love you & want you so they get in real close to you because they don’t want to lose you. They make everything spark with you and you feel some attachment and they do also. When he feel you are getting in too close to his heart they will push you away. You are already in by that time but he won’t verbally express that right away. You can feel it and tell but won’t be certain because of the push pull. They will have you scratching your head with uncertainty. The more emotionally he gets involved the harder he will push you away. The push is because u are getting closer and he need to distance himself so he won’t hurt the female he’s already committed to. The closer he allow you to get the more vulnerable he become so if he’s vulnerable that will only affect his committed relationship and that can’t happen in most cases.

Posted by AquaNextDoor
With my cap man there was never a push & pull. Always consistent - told him I require that. End of story

GREAT You might have a loyal Cap and you're his main squeeze. Is he a Dec or Jan?

Posted by faith $ golphin

Posted by AquaNextDoor
With my cap man there was never a push & pull. Always consistent - told him I require that. End of story

GREAT You might have a loyal Cap and you're his main squeeze. Is he a Dec or Jan?

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Dec 25 🙂

but I have a cap stellium myself..

Men in general don't push pull,men who are emotionally unavailable do that,men who like to keep the women unstable and unsure,they need women to feed their ego and fabricate their self esteem. They can't do these things with women who are emotionally stable.

That push and pull can only go forever if you aren't able to progress,awareness comes from self discovery and healing inner blocks. While you look for answers and sense in a man's tactics and behavior,you overlook your self growth. The need to be loved at all costs without getting to know yourself will get you stuck,you will use all the energy and resources to build on a foundation that that doesn't have the amount of stability in the first place,it will crash every time while you will keep on building castles of sand.
It will be enough to strengthen the man that you "love" while you'll be left empty each and every time,that emptiness will always be there,unless you find within yourself that "love" is what you always feel,if you get confused about a man's love it's because you don't know your inner power yet and haven't felt it yet. Love is not confusion,it's awareness.

Love this.

why this thread died? what happened @SunGem23 ?