help any aquarius capricorn relationship

Long story short, I'm seeing an aqua,we dated when I was just getting bfs.12 or 13 yes ago.fastforward to now.

My relationship was at its end he was separated from his gf,and his cousin bought him by. We hung out,his cousin left us,so we got on the subject of how we ended Al those years ago; which was I left him alone and moved but we remain very good friends throughout the years. So my relation.ship ended,dude went to jail I was with,aqua man heard this,came by,and since then we hit it back off,he says he been wanted me back,thought of me throughout the years no matter who he was with, but when I came back around I was with my kids dad. His precious girl wasn't hearing a breakup,so she would cry everytime he bought up the combo,which lead us to have broken trust off his end. B/c he started going over her house and we were together.she started playing on my phone,I told her off , they ended completely,he apologized,but I still feel Like he maybe seeing her. He says he loves me and would never do that,but he has been leaving not informing me of what's going on. I do know he's independent,and love freedom,so I brush it off time to time, we both make music, so I really don't want this to come inbetween that or our friendship. He says he loves everything about me and I'm his soulmate and he hates it happened Like this but he jumped at the opportunity to get me back and he was with her going on four years... Any advice plz from what this would mean from an aqua of either gender ?

wow, another cappie and aqua hook up. then we have the longest marriages with them according to the stats. seems so odd.

anyway i can't help you here but I think there atleast two cap/aqua couples on the boards. maybe they will chime in.

I would just talk to him in a nonthreatening way. Just let him know how it makes you feel such as I'm feeling _______ (confused?/hurt?/disrepected?) because I don't understand your relationship with her. Please explain because I don't want to feel this way. (Or whatever way works for you). Don't make "you do this" or "you don't do this".

Be honest, don't get upset with his response. He should be able to give you an honest answer. Or he will consider it and think on it. Then watch for his actions. Pay hard attention to his actions not the words. That will tell you a lot.

But as for her playing on your phone? Do you mean she was texting you? calling you? Was she going through her own phone or his? And does he know about it? Please explain more about that. She is probably jealous and insecure about you. Do you know what her sign is?

Also, I think aquas like to remain friends with exes. That may be all it is on his part, but she might not want to be just friends with him. If this is the case, then let him know your suspiscions of her (never blame him for doing anything wrong - he will shut down from you). See what he says. He may think and reflect on it and come to realize it.

I'm not an aqua expert, but my bf is aqua and I dated two others in the past.

Good luck and keep us posted.

I hope I understood your situation correctly.

I dont have any idea about cap/aqua relationship but i'm one of the weird odd aquas that don't remain friends with their ex's. I just dont see the point. If it's over, it's time to move on. Why? Because common sense dictates that if you break up with your ex, that ex usually keeps a "Flame" over their heart over you. It's better if they move on and find another person to love. Why keep torturing the person/ex if their feelings are still there for you? Its awful.

Well,this girl called private for a few days,then she called from her friend s phone. She tested from pinger numbers,then back to calling private. He was actually with me when it happened,on the fourth time,I blew up,told him it wasn't fair that she could call me but I couldn't call her,he called off my home phone,but on the sly, as if he didn't give the number, but soon as I heard her I went off,she was Denying it was her at first,then we went into the situation,she was asking if I knew Bout her why did I mess with him, my respond was I knew not of her,but mind yall he could never get the breakup out cuz when he said they need to talk she would burst out crying, she's a pieces, but this is from what he said, and his cousin she was there when it happened, so she said its true the girl was crying and she asked her what's wrong. Now when she was on my home phone he had left with his no to go to a family function,so he called my cell,then I just put him on speaker so she , could hear that he didn't wanna be with her, so when he was on the phone he was saying I told you I was gone handle that with her, she was in my ear Like so ask him are we engaged when I asked he was Like Hell naw,idk where that came from she was asking other things to,but then she was saying how long they were together,I Just told her,since I am back around and single he came where he been wanting to be,and if I never moved in the beginning she would have never met him. But it was cause of me we split,back then I couldn't deal with being hurt, I would just leave.

Well, he just needs to man up and break it off with her. If he can't do that, I wouldn't be with him. That simple.

And I'd block her number from my cell.

Also,I told him how I felt,and he said he apologize for starting our relationship off based on a lie,but he seen a chance to get me back and they were on the rocks,also sorry for all the typos,im on a cellphone touchscreen. But we've been back n fourth cause I feel iffy Bout us,since it was based on a lie in the beginning,but since we were already really good friends before that I tried getting over it and I don't want it to come between our music and friendship cuz he was my first love also so y'all see it is way deeper than this but he's told me that I've always been on his mind and I don't know if this can be trusted cause he was with this other girl almost four years,but he says if it wasn't me it would have been somebody else cause he was gonna leave get alone anyways,what you guys think

That's it he says they ate over and she hadn't called me no more,but I just changed my number today and that happened on the twenty fifth, but I just don't know how to deal with this forreal . He's kinda upset I won't believe he's not messing with her, but idk what to really think or feel,because the same say this girl began calling,I had a dream about him and a girl I didn't know,and I legged my home in the dream and packed my things,then I told him about it,he was there then this girl began playing on my phone,so from that point on I seen a message came from God Bout this

That's it he says they ate over and she hadn't called me no more,but I just changed my number today and that happened on the twenty fifth, but I just don't know how to deal with this forreal . He's kinda upset I won't believe he's not messing with her, but idk what to really think or feel,because the same say this girl began calling,I had a dream about him and a girl I didn't know,and I legged my home in the dream and packed my things,then I told him about it,he was there then this girl began playing on my phone,so from that point on I seen a message came from God Bout this

Why would you want to be with someone you can't trust?

I'm just sayin here, and you can do what you want, but your post are hard to read and comprehend. It would be helpful to use correct punctuation so I can tell where a sentence begins and ends. It all flows along in one long sentence. Not criticizing you. I know you are on your cell phone, but so am I. You might get more responders that way, too. Thanks.

I'd say hold off until you can completely trust him. It seems you are having too many doubts, which means you already know what to do. Just take it slow and be friends again.

Ilana your right,but my feelinga won't cut off for him.
I was driving awhile ago,and decided that I will just cut off all communication with him, just Like when we were kids. I just can't get it off my mind Like that now. He and I write together, so we have songs we are gonna put out in a second. I know it will have a strain on our whole overall relationship. Its hard for me to just revert back,although I know that I need to just remain friends,give it space,and get back to our music. This whole situation is killing me. Soon it will cause us to have bad blood towards one another. Maybe he was just being a man,and it really is nothing to him. Idk. I just wanna get back to what's important. I apologize again for the typos,and punctuating. I will check my posts better from now on. Hope you guys understand em.

Posted by 24capgal18
Ilana your right,but my feelinga won't cut off for him.
I was driving awhile ago,and decided that I will just cut off all communication with him, just Like when we were kids. I just can't get it off my mind Like that now. He and I write together, so we have songs we are gonna put out in a second. I know it will have a strain on our whole overall relationship. Its hard for me to just revert back,although I know that I need to just remain friends,give it space,and get back to our music. This whole situation is killing me. Soon it will cause us to have bad blood towards one another. Maybe he was just being a man,and it really is nothing to him. Idk. I just wanna get back to what's important. I apologize again for the typos,and punctuating. I will check my posts better from now on. Hope you guys understand em.

Give it some time. His actions will show you a lot.

Thank you. That was much easier to understand!!

Thank you all for your advice. And metoo I Like how you worded what you said. I see his actions shows he really cares but then Like air he is on the move again,with all this detached Shit. After the incident with this girl he stayed around til my time of the month,but he had been around me last month. He said its because last month I wasn't actin Like this. I do have another music group but, aqua man wants me to leave them alone cause he says I will get out there without them . I can't tell if he has been back around this female or not, because he has been with me,so when he leaves its like then I think that way,even though he says that is over, and has apologized for how we started our relationship. Maybe you guys see that he doesn't know any better kmsl. I detach, but never to my mate,only friends and family,but when I need to sort thru my messes. I can relate on some levels,but, if he says he is in love with me,and he loves everything about me,can I believe it?

well , guys I have a new issue with this aquarius.
I am really just gonna keep it to myself though, I wanna talk about it, but there will not be any understanding, i feel as though all I will get is a lot of comments saying how it is.
I am dealing with aa very complicated situation with him now though .
OK IM JUST GONNA TALK ABOUT IT
HE told me that he was just going thru a very difficult time during his relationship with the girl when he stating seeing me.
he says it is not like he doesn't care about me, some people just can't let a relationship go, and that his situation is very complicated, so he moved back in with her, and that we will just stick to the music.
NOW he also said his mom asked him where was his heart at, what is it saying, and he says it is me, but he has to go there to get that resolved and he is sorry that he involved me in it.
I asked all of these different questions, like why if you aren't in love with her and you claim you love me, and that you wanna marry me in a year or two. I also asked why does he claim he has been wanting me back for years to only get me and break my heart. He apologise and said why can't we just keep it at the music?
I responded by saying I hate you and I just wish you would die and I hung up the phone.
He called back and asked me why would i say that.
I hung up, I feel bad because I know that isn't how I feel but I wanted him to hurt as bad as I was then . I know you guys probable think I was too but please feel my pain.
This was the very first guy I was ever in a relationship, he really hurt me this second time we tryed a relationship and I dont understand this.

you are so right. That is exactly how i have been lookin at things (he did me a favor). I had questions like didn't he think I was good enough? why did he say I love every thing about you? how could he sit and look into my eyes and promise I will never do anything to harm your heart?
I really have been bedazzled(kmsl)
I also know I am not bad lookin, so when this happened I was like I guess he was in love and he just needed someone to love him how he wanted her to love him, and it was me, but he wanted that from her.
I also read your post about the 2 aqua men you had, and to me it is very similiar indeed.
There was a time here where dude told me that I have all the qualities of what he wants in a wife, and he is not worthy of me im too good for him. I looked at him like, are you serious, and why would you say that . I know that this sounds strange, but, I know he didn't go back to this girl for love. I really believe that he has been using this girl for her money, and he knows that we will not let that continue to go on . I really have this tugging feeling that he is coming back to me and I will have moved on by that time.
I really have been tryna get over it and I am soooo glad that you have shared your experience with me about how your situation turned out . I see that you are with another totally complete, different aqua, but what if you had of remained single and the 1st one came back to you ?Then when he came back you would have been taken him back, but, by him going back and forth it would have had serious damage on the relationship cause it would have been in the back of your head all the time . I see that in my situation, so I am not goin back to that unless I know for a fact, everything is definately clear with him . (if he did come back and I were single)
It does hurt like hell right now, and I have been drinkin the last two days, and I am not even a drinker like that. How did you deal with it when your aqua man left you to go back to his ex wife? knowing that they love to try to make a relationship work for the long term, I understand, but if your heart isn't in it then I see no point in saying. The only way that someone stays to make it work is got to be cause of love, but I told him I don't wanna do music with him, I hate him and I hope he dies, I called him back today to apologize but he wasn't there, so i guess if i ever get the chance to clear my chest by that I will.

oops i have a typo, i ment, no point in staying.

i totally feel you tere truecap. I feel the exact same way about him (not takin him seriously and NEVER will feel the same again) and stil value our friendship. Since i last posted, I have talked with him, but he is still really confused about his situation, and he told me he still wished for us to be together, but i turned him down. I have a few ex's that have been tryin to come back into the pic and he knows, so he constantly checks on me, he tells his cousin, whose my homegirl, to call or come by, but i always changed the subject off of him,, if its on that subject.She called this morning with him on the phone; why if he is with this other woman(you feel me). Now previous threads i talked about the virgo man i was with right, well now, he has been talkin to me, and says i have been playin hard to get and he missed me, so now lets take things slow. I told him that i really wasnt lookin for a relationship, but we can try to take it slow and see where it goes.. MR AQUA man, is definately not gonna like thatat all, so I am gonna bring it up the next time we do talk, and a few days ago i did apologize to him for wishin he'd die and sayin i hated him. Also, he knows the virgo man (and well). The virgo and the aqua man are both confusin, so i havent been takin either seriously. like all of yoou said just date different people, so I have been just on that and partyin .Now aqua man decides he wants to see if i will be ok with him havin both of us; I said HELL NAW, plus that is nasty, but at least you tried lol

Why bring up Virguy to Aquaguy? Aquaguy has made his situation clear. He has no claims on you. That frees you up to date who you want. If you tell him about Virguy, it will look like you are throwing that in his face or just being spiteful. And it looks like Aqua wants a girl on the side. Screw him!!! He made his choice! You don't owe him an explanation as to why you go out with Virgo, even if they do know each other.

Or find someone out of this loop all together!!!