Help with a Leo man!!!

This isn't my first time on this site I used to be known as "capywife" if anyone remembers me. Well I've recently been dating this Leo man and there is a huge amount of passion between us. In the beginning we got along so well and we were immediatly attracted to each other. I've been dealing with some trust issues that derived from my x who turned out to be a con man and stole my identity (literally). I've been trying to trust this Leo because he of course didn't do those past things to me. Lately we've been dealing with some issues because I've caught him in three lies and he told me he lied in order to spare my feelings. He tells me that he is really focused on me and us one day having a relationship and even though we are not commited he says he's only sleeping with me and only focused on me. He doesn't like to be questioned and is aggressive when we speak about issues that he feel passionatly about. Me being a Capricorn I'm so stubbern and we clash because I dint like anyone telling me what to do and he doesn't either and a lot of the time it feels like no one wants to give in and let the other person lead. But even though we have these issues I am still very much drawn to him. After the lies he told I put my guard up and now I'm trying to protect my heart from him just in case he lies again. I don't know how to let go and relax. He tells me I have no reason to worry and that he is very loyal and will not hurt me and I want to believe that. He stays the night all the time and he trusts me watching his son (11months old) when he's at work. He says that he is really considering a future with me and that when he moves away he wants to take me and my kids with him if we are still together. He demands a lot of attention and sometimes when I talk with him he'll make the conversation about him. It seems like things always end up about him. My questions are: are Leo men really loyal and do they cheat a lot? How do I get him to listen to me when I speak without the conversation becoming about him? How much attention do Leo men need? Do they usually really mean what they say? I've never dated a Leo before so his personallity is very new to me. Do they really want a woman to cater to them and their needs? Do caps and leo get a long? I also have 3 kids and my sons are say for the summer and my daughter lives with my mom temporarily. But how do Leos generally take to other peoples children?

I meant to say my sons are away for the summer...

I personally have issues with Leo's (at least the men) - never had a relationship with one, because of what I saw as glaring incompatibility. Some of which you have probably seen given some of your questions and the fact you said he demands a lot of attention, which, in my experiences, they do. Personally, I find Leos to be emotionally needy (and they find me cold and rather detached emotionally), they are in frequent (if not constant) need of validation, cannot understand if you're interests lie elsewhere (thus the conversations all about him, how he feels, what he wants, blah, blah, blah), and they talk way too much - the Leos I know don't know when to just shut the hell up. Maybe it's the topic of conversation, if it's not themselves they're talking about it's "us" or what they want "us" to be. They bore me to death!

HOWEVER, I think you have other issues to contend with... he's tugging at your heartstrings and playing into your need for security and stability suggesting that he wants to take you and the kids with him when he relocates. You did not indicate what he lied about, but given that you mentioned it, it was of significance to you. When someone says that they lied to spare your feelings is, IMO, selfish. Also, I think the "trusting" you to watch his child is more out of necessity or convenience. Honesty goes beyond anything else, including being honest with yourself. I suspect this guy is not showing his true colors and has the wool pulled over your eyes.

Leo man will not provide you with the security you need...They can be very self focused, you have to steer the conversation back to you and if you don't he will assume your okay and just want to be his reflection/mirror lol but loyal, yes to certain extent but the men are hugely different from leo women, leo women tend to be more into their lovers and into themselves at the same time, they are givers but the men are selfish as in focused on themselves, the ones I know will cheat and lie but IMO leo's are one of the easiest to please and love but it takes a ton of patience and no he will not allow you to lead...Gotta lean back and let him do things the way he wants yet pick and choose your battles carefully or it will be a ton of clashing.

My thing is this...Is lying a deal breaker? Sounds like it is...Why not just dump the guy and move on to a man that doesn't lie, I know a leo that is a pathological liar, I mean just lie all day, I asked him why he lie so much and his response was b/c he can...Nuff said

If you have trust issues there is nothing you can do to make that go away outside of moving on...Maybe this guy isn't the one, yes there may be chemistry and attraction but if there is no trust then you have nothing with him....You either choose to accept him-lies and all or dump the guy...

The thing about catering to a leo is that you have to balance that with making sure he understands how important you are or he will walk all over you, wipe his feet on you like a doormat and if he's always talking about himself you have to say how you feel about that, he will growl and get upset but deep down he know he's being one-sided and selfish and will adjust that if he loves you.

My brother adopted his first child and went on to have other kids of his own with the same woman, they love kids, least the ones I know do and they treat them pretty much the same...can't speak for all leo's though

Swty...u and I both knw that when you put your guard up...chances are it'll never come down.Not with him anyways.
Leo? omg. no wayz. he's lied to you. something isn't right about this guy and you know it. Where there's smoke, there's fire. U need someone who is completely devoted to you. Who can have his entire focus on you for a while. This guy is gonna give you ten minutes and talk about himself. What are you doing with him?


Do you love him? I'm talking about true,pure love here. Not omg he's so sexy love. Y are you with this guy?i just really wanna knw cz it seems like okay there's a mutual attraction, but c'mon...you just had a bad experience with a conman...surely the nest time you're involved with someone, it should be the real thing right? If a guy knows he wants to be with you, he'll take you right there and then.
There will come a time when you want someone to care for u more than they care about themselves. I mean that's what love is, is it not?

No two people are same. He is not who has hurt u in past so he has nothing to do with it. As for leo men well cant deny they directly or indirectly are in love with themself but they are not mean and selfish. Who said they cant give you security? And Who said you cant lead them. One year with my leo and so much about him has changed in a good way and my way. I am more stubborn than him and he knows that i wont be in his life or wont be happy in his life if certain things are not the way i want.

Every post above is guided by the users real life experiance. None of us have met the same man. Dont be lead by other's experiance. As for lies yes they are wrong. Tell him very clearly that you cant stand them. I was about to leave the guy in my life for 2 small lies he told me. I made it very clear to him that i would rather be hurt knowing truth than be happy by lies. You make it clear ...lies cannot be hidden for long. You will know the truth eventually anyways.

Thank you guys so much. This was do helpful. Why am I with him? I care for him
and want to believe he's a great guy. I've made up my mind though to let him go as of last night.

Last night he went out at about 7 and said he was gunna get a drink with his cousin well I left with my girls at 10 to do the same and he calls me on
my way out and I tell him where I'm going then he gets upset saying he's already headed home. I let him know I'll be done in an hour and I'll come by. He is clearly upset but I hang up. After an hour I text him to tell him I'm coming and I go to his house. Well Mr. Lion is in the club. I left my party of people to make time for him and he's gone. No texts no call nothing. So I go back with my girls and he finally texts me. We go back and forth then around 2:30 I tell him I'm headed to his place. I get there he's no where to be found for an hour. Then he pulls up (yes I waited like a fool) and turns the blam on me. Doesn't take my anger seriously and says I should just be happy that he's here now. I'm like WTF— Really— Talk about self indulgance..... Well I leave and he's texting me now to talk but I'm done. I'm always changing my schedule and I'm always on his time. I'm usd to a man making me his somewhat priority or atleast making me feel special. Seems the only thing he wants is me going the extra mile for both of us. I'm always the blam and then he always says "Jo you always want things your way" but that's not true. It's just sometimes with some things my way is the right way and his is the sefish way. He refuses to see that. My argument is always his lack of common curtisy. When I'm talking he'll interrupt me and say things like "baby I'm thirsty can you get me some water" or "baby can you turn the air up" right in the middle of something I'm talking to him about that I need his undivided attention on. That's so rude!! He lacks the ability to make me feel charished and I need that.

Good Job Jo!! Stick to your guns... don't let him suck you back in!!!

PrincessCap how old is this guy? Seems like an maturity issue is part of your problem and you somewhere along the way you taught him it's okay to disrespect you and you will still stick it out. All I can say is don't settle, you can't change him, he has to want to do right by you on his own without you pointing out every flaw and nuisance, you can talk until your blue in the face about how he behaves towards you and he will treat that as if your nagging him to death and attempt to change the subject, like he does when he cuts you off in the middle of a conversation, it's just his way of saying shut up, change the subject already.

You either accept him how he is or leave him alone, I don't actually believe this is over but stand your ground on what you believe in and let the rest go (you can't control him but you can control how much of his crap you will accept.

I have to say that if your accommodating him that needs to stop, if you make plans stick with those plans, don't jump through hoops ANYMORE...Live your life and stop waiting around for him, your sending out the wrong messages, when you dump your friends to be with a man it sends that icky unattractive message that he's everything to you, he's the most important person in your whole entire life and that creates neglect, another message is that he is much more important than you, than your plans that you make with others and that you will wait for him no matter how wrong he is...So although he's being an annoying jerk, your also enabling that behavior...You have to have some boundaries and you have to tend to your own life no matter how annoyed upset he is over you not putting him first...He may be inconsiderate but your enabling doesn't help the issue either.

Princess

LEOs are loyal friends and loyal partners. They care for family and the relationship. Of course a LEO can cheat, but to my experience, only then if there is a very valid reason such as the wife cheats on him and his heart is broken... he will start looking elsewhere, but his family/children will be still his priority to be taken care off.


They usually blurb things out whatever passes through their minds. They will open up their heart and mind without the worry of getting hurt. LEO guy is more the sunny type. He will tell you that he knew right away if You are THE ONE!

About the LIES, it is hard to give you advice, because it depends on the type of lie. Everybody lies to some extend. Even if you are asked a question and you may prefer not to answer, that is a lie too, because it is misleading to the other person. How serious was the lie?

It may be convenient for him that he trusts you with his 11-months old. Although a LEO may be quick to announce his love and trust for you, they usually seem good judges in their choices. I dated 5 Leo men for various reasons. For me, there never was a great chemistry or attraction, but I was swept by their romantic side and how fast they can be into you. I can also tell from experience that a LEO is not a good lover if he is not into you. Let's say, one-night stands DO NOT work out well for them.

A LEO DOES require a lot of attention. I don't mind their attention because it makes me feel secure. There are times I ignore the LEO and gives me space... So it depends. Don't worry... he won't take your life over. He may be matcho deep down, but he is such softy in his heart that he will try to do more in return for you.

In MY experience, I have found the CAPRICORN man to be more demanding than a LEO. However, I have undeniably strong chemistry and closeness for a CAPRICORN man. Unfortunately, I am not as expressive as a LEO, so perhaps that is one point that can give me (a SCOPIO) security, but a LEO's expressiveness may also comes across as vague/untrusting to some signs.

About other people's children, you need to observe yourself with him, but I believe, he will be fair also to Your children. Just speaking from own experience.

If you feel chemistry for him and all is going well, you cannot know the future without giving your togetherness a chance.

Let me ask, what does YOUR intuition tell you? Is it fear of hurt you feel or is it some kind of suspicion/gut f

gut feeling that keeps you cautious in trusting him?

oh.. OK.. I just saw your post that things are over between you and LEO man.

gosh


I mean, having similarities with CAPPIES, we (Cap & Scorp) like to plan ahead and we are not the best spontaneous mix compared to fire signs (LEO,SAG, ARIES). I know through my daughter (she is Aries), although she can get upset with her Sagittarius bf changing his mind in the last second or instead of the promised 8pm, he may show up at midnight, but my daughter gets over that annoyance faster than I could ever handle.

Partially it is a compatibility issue besides irresponsible habits.

Best wishes...