Hey Cappies!!!

Question for all us crazy caps!!!...Waaaaaaasssssssssuuuuup—

LOL. Us gem's are pretty nuts ourselves. Maybe we make eachother crazy. 🙂 You can tell us about self control and how long it lasts. Or why it's such a secret that you like us and then you tell us later when we've had no signs of it at all. Why are you guys so scared of people? haha. I'm sure that you've just opened up another huge can of worms...you could get swarms of questioning. 🙂

Is it true that even if a capricorn is crazy about you they won't let you know right away? I mean how do you know if they do or not? Like in my situation it's funny...but he's my brother's friend and they live together, so we have to be discreet. Basically we're being sneaky right now.

Hello Miriam,but just a boring scorpio here,not a caps.But welcome to the boards.

Hey gemgem!! Ya, cappy's take ages to admit that they like someone...I mean not just like but really like!!!!...to the point of ...heaven forbid..should I say it?...'love!' It stems from the fact that cappies are basically scared of getting hurt and what would that do to our egos?! We are a very sensitive lot but portray ourselves (or at least attempt to) as able to withstand even the heaviest of blows!lol! If he's into you he'll make it known the second he feels that you're not as bothered as you were just two minutes ago (hint hint). Play it cool. One thing I can say about the cappy man is once you've got him...you're stuck and I don't know if that's a good thing! Basically, they're very possessive, but if that's a good thing in your books then go for it!!:-)

Yo Tiamat! You're not a boring scorpio to me! Thanks for the warm welcome! I'm already at home!!

Miriam...wow...that would explain alot. Thanks. He's being a butthead...and I probably should go to sleep so I don't think to much. 🙂

So should I pounce? I think I might since he's pounced me already...maybe I'm being too scared physically and he's not...and I might just go over to my brother's apartment and tell him I want him....I'm not sure. I just feel this amazing chemistry and even my friends told me that we have the same brain...it's like no one else exsists but he and I. Is that crazy? I can't tell.

Hey gemgem! About you pouncing...chill on that thought..honestly speaking, I don't know anything about you guys so just take this as a suggestion..it's ultimately upto you to decide what to do as you're the best judge of yourself and the situation...but speaking from the Capricorn head, I'll say that he'll make the move when he feels that it's right for the both of you. Capricorn guys (there are exceptions!) generally won't make the first move too obvious but they will hint!😉 That's when you know it's the right moment(for the both of you)!! Follow your sixth sense. As for what your friends say...they're looking at it from a different perspective...if you're happy so will they..they'll know more about him from what you say!...so ultimately it's you who's the all-in-all. Hope things turn out great for you!!:-)

Miriam~~

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Capricorn guys (there are exceptions!) generally won't
make the first move too obvious but they will hint!😉
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Would you happen to be able to suggest what some of their (the cappy man) "hints" might be? I'm sure the'll be subtle at least that's what I get from things I've read. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated........Besos

Yeah I'm wondering what the subtlties are too miriam. I mean he has talked about what he wants as far as marriage and all of that with me already. It's strange. He mentions it like out of the blue. And he stares at me intently to see what I'm going to say. What does that mean? I can't tell with this boy. He's so freaking adorable though it's hard for me to not pounce. hhahaha.

We havent' even started a relationship and he's already mentioning stuff like this. Is he feeling me out?

"DONT CHASE HIM GEMGEM" let him pounce you!! they like the chase.

Its weird and I know you dont want to hear about it but in the begining Brian and talked about marriage and how to keep it "ALIVE" what he wanted and what I wanted out of it! We talked about children, work, sex, we talked about travel anything and everything we touched base on. We agreed on everything, I think hes feeling you out.

They love deep conversation and they love it when you look in their eyes when your talking it shows your giving him your undivided attention!!

Could be we just use people we like no one. If we are a rock and Island we feel no pain. Its like Paul said I am a rock I am an island, and a rock feels no pain, so on so on so on.

Gemgem~~


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And he stares at me intently to see what I'm going to say. What does that mean?
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I got the same exact thing when I finally met my cappy. I felt like it was some sort of test to see if I could handle the intensity. Maybe I'm wrong. I just know he likes to test me alot over the phone so I figured in person that was what the staring meant.

Where is Miriam? We need some answers here - lol!

OJ~
Is this true? You just use and you like no one? Why is this... even when there is a person who wants to know you, care for you and understand you. Is it that you are scared to be hurt? (not just you but capricorn in general)I dont know OJ but its painful.

thank you
GEG

GEG ~ totally agree with you. I kind of retracted a couple of times this weekend when he put his arm around me in front of his friends. I probably shouldn't have done that, but I think it's my defense mechanism and me being a little scared. He's more forward with his actions on occasion and he may be seeing what I'll do.

Besos...I'll agree with you on that one. They do like to feel people out I've noticed and test us. I just don't know what he's looking for so I shut myself down sometimes. Maybe I should start being more forward around him.

Yeah I need some miriam advice on those signs and actions. hehe.

Yeah O.J. you sound like you've been a little burned. No good. You need cuddle time. 🙂

lets give OJ some ((((hugs))))! : )

Big Big hugs

Eww,I don't need to see that.haha

LOL. Hugs to you too tiamat.

Okay Miriam...so you said you didn't really know what was going on with me and my capricorn. I'll summarize it so you can play catch up. Basically he and I have both been out of our last serious relationships for like seven months or so. So we both like eachother, however we agreed that we didn't want to rush anything just yet. We think that because we've gotten out of serious relationships that it would be unhealthy to jump right in again. His main worry right now is that my brother is his really good friend and roommate. He also is having some family and financial difficulties right now, which I know Capricorns take pride in before all else. So the focus is less on me until we're alone together then watch out...he's all over me. He is the most honest person I think I've ever liked. He doesn't lie at all and tells me exactly what is on his mind. I love it. He's nothing like my ex in that sense. We have been physical already and we've had the discussion about that ruining everything. He said that he would still feel the same about me. He's so romantic when we're alone, we finish eachother's sentences, we have the same interests and practically the same brain. What I want to know is if it's normal in this situation for him to be talking about future stuff with me already...no guy I've ever been with has talked about that stuff with me especially before we even started anything. What do you think he's trying to do and why won't he just grow a vertabrae and do what he wants regardless of my brother? Any advice on this? Hope that caught you up.

Hiiii!!!! Hmmm....I see alot of bewildered minds on the board!!lol! Well, at the outset let me say that I'm no expert, so remember that these are my thoughts on what I've observed and think..

You say that he's given subtle hints and talked endlessly about your future, get's a tad philisophical in between? Well, that's a sure cappy trait alright...yes, he's feeling you out, so don't give in. See, capricorn's are by nature insecure about themselves no matter how strong and independent they portray themselves to be...basically, we can solve the most complex problem, untangle the knottiest of situations, or tell others the easiest and most prctical way of steering their life...but when it comes to our own life and how to handle it...complete and utter confusion...we're hopelessly lost!!(wahhhh. Your cappy man wants to know that he's loved by you, that he has your loyalty and that special something just for him!! If you ask me that's sometimes a bit much possessiveness. Thank God the Cappy woman and man are quite opposite in that respect(hee hee!). But, then again, that stems from the fact that he's soo into you and he wants reassurance that your just as much into him. Cappy's don't trust easily AT ALL, so once that's trust is given, you can be sure that he'll want reassurance that that won't be taken for granted. So if he's playing dumb inbetween, he's still wondering whether he can...ahould i say it?..."trust you".

Hope this clears a few things out? If not, don't hesitate to ask....remember, I'm good at figuring out everything else but me😉. Thank God I have an amazing guy to keep me in order!!😉Yee-haa!!

LOL. Thanks Miriam...your wisdome of the goat is helping me understand a lot about him. I just don't want to come on too strong so I'm letting him talk. I don't divulge too much info about myself...maybe because of my last relationship. I don't want to say anything to scare anyone. I keep it very simple. Sometimes though I feel like it would be a great ice breaker if I just went up to him at one of our get togethers and wrapped my arms around him and kissed him in front of everyone. Then maybe it would be more comfortable to do that more often with my brother around.

Hey gemgem...You're 'mysterious' approach must really be turning him on! Cappy's love a challenge!! With regards to you retrating when he put his arm around you...honestly, being as sensitive as he is...he would have gone over it a thousand times in his head as to why you did that. He'll be thinking it's something about him and analyzing that moment over and over again, although he may not say anything. He'll respect your space if you ask for it, but he should know that it's nothing to do with him. If you feel like it, tell him what you feel about him in an indirect manner...It'll drive him nuts😉

Besos, the hints are there in his eyes and actions...He'll watch you from a distance across the room(long to be with right beside you, but not take a step), notice if you're tired or hungry and offer(in the most casual way) to do something about it, not make any sudden advances (he'll be very respectful that way)..although he may be dying to just touch you or hold you. It's there in that smile(that taunting, flirtish smile) that he'll flash only at you and for your eyes only. The best way to know about how into you he is, is to get his behavior from his friends...If he's lost and quiet when he's with them...he's most likely lost thinking about you!😉

hehe...thanks miriam. Yeah...I'll have to test him a little. Maybe this weekend I will. Not sure. I usually give him like three to five days before I talk to him or see him again because I don't want to come on too strong and I know how caps love their space. So...this weekend will be a good time to flirt. I think I just want to be the one who stands out to him.

And it's funny, but that post you sent to besos sounds like my cap too and hers is a cancer. Funny...hmmm. Maybe it's that watery scorpio rising he has. I think I'm afraid of falling for him. We both admitted to being stand offish with eachother because we were afraid of liking eachother too much. I told him that I tend to do that as a defense mechanism and he said he was doing the same thing to me. Is that odd? I mean what are we doing to eachother? I may be falling already...this is not good.

Okay Miriam...why is it that when I'm around he answers text messages from others, but I text him last night flirting with him and saying, "I can't stop thinking about the other night. U r so sexy" and nothing back. Wouldn't he be like a little boy and text me back? Would he do that in front of me to make me jealous? Is that in a caps nature? I feel like I should ask him if he thinks of me as a sex toy now and I know that's my evil twin coming out to play mind games. What do you think I should do? Just come over and ignore him like I always do or show him more that I like him. My friend said that if you joke sexually he'll think that's all you want and might play with your mind too. AAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

Hugs UGH

oh come on OJ! You know you need a (((hug)))...i do!

hehe...awwwww...you seem like a cuddly person deep down OJ. Lots of hugs. I need cuddling today so bad. I might just use him for a good hug tonight and then leave. haha.

Is this wierd or what? This is my love horscope today and his.

Gemini
The current planetary configuration may indicate that you are finding it more and more difficult to communicate exactly how you feel to your latest lover. You dislike having to rock the boat at the best of times, but right now the information that you wish to convey may capsize it completely. It is best to approach the subject bit by bit, rather than jumping in at the deep end.

Capricorn
You may take more offense than usual at any casual remarks that your partner casts your way today. The astral energy indicates that you are feeling much more sensitive, so much so that you are determined to hide this fact behind a veneer of indifference. They will certainly be hurt by your behavior, so perhaps it may better to tell them what is happening.

well if thats yours then it has to be mine as well!! that is weird!! So maybe me calling is a bad idea!! lol j/k

thats crazy how they go together....

LOL. I know...it's really wierd. These boys are way to insecure. OOOOH GEG!!! What to do? My mom said to just walk right into my brother's tonight and make him feel loved by putting my arm around him. I think I'll try it. Maybe he likes a girl who is more bold.

He did mention one night how he liked how this other girl he was seeing just came up and started hitting on him. Do you think he wanted me to know that?

I dont know if I have been in hole all day of if this just posted but.............

LUTHER VANDROSS has passed away 😢 I am so sad! he was such a wonderful musician he will be missed!!!


o.k. sorry im still in shock!!

gemgem
im not sure... but just lay it on him even a small kiss!! that should break the ice!!
I used to greet Brian with a great big hug and a kiss whenever I saw him. He seemed to enjoy it I had no shame! GO for it girl!! Well i hope you have a nice evening and now ill have to check back in, in the morning to find out what happened!!

OOOOOOOH myyyyyyy goodness. I'm so tired. We had an awesome time last night. We danced a lot! hahaha. There was big drama though. My brother's new little flame caused all of this ruckus between he and I and he even started crying....WHAT? A cappy crying? I just hugged him and was there and told him how much I cared for him and that I didn't want to fight. He hugged me back and we slept next to eachother not doing anything sexual. I woke up this morning and kissed him goodbye. He's so adorable in the morning. His hair's all messed up and he did this little happy groaning noise. Then I called him and told him that I just wanted to let him know how much I cared about him and that I don't want what happened last night to happen again. He said, "I care about you so much. I really do. I just haven't been telling you and once my phone gets turned back on you can be sure that I will be calling you. I think we just need time and 100% ." In half asleep words I think that means 100% of us needs to be there, which we both are not right now. I love him...sigh.

thats great!!!!! 🙂 Im so glad that things went well! So did he go out with you? and what happend that caused a fight!! Im glad things are good for you!! I guess your patience paid off girl! yea!! well... keep us posted!!

Okay...I lied...he's got something mental going on upstairs and I don't know how to deal with it you guys...that drama that happened the other night turned into even more drama because he must've held onto something that I don't know about. We're supposed to talk tonight, but I don't know what's going to happen.

Wow, ya'll talked about a lot in here. I'd like to address a thing or two, if that's alright with you.

First, Miriam, you are so right on. Good show!

Second, I have done that very thing with regards to an intense stare. I'm dying with laughter that it moved you enough to actually bring it up for discussion. Ya'll are fuuuuunny!

Personally, when I look at a woman all intensely and whatnot, it's because I'm checking her out. I'll throw a smile or wink in there, but the sole purpose is to take notes for later perusal. I don't need to say anything at all, but get her talking about anything and I'm looking at the way her hair rests on her forehead, the way her lips part when she speaks, the movement of her hands as she tells a story, the jawline and where it ends, the shape of her eyes and eyebrows, the fingers and how soft they must be, her smile, and the way she wears her clothes. In short, I'm trying to figure her out. What is she REALLY thinking as she looks at me. Could she be the one? Would WE look good together? ...and then a whole nother list of questions pop up.

Third, let the Capricorn guy lead the way and pace. I like when a woman let's me know she likes me, but I like it when she does it quietly. Give me hints that it's ok to move, but let me handle it from there. It can be that over the shoulder look and smile (um, um, um....) or it can be an extra slow brush of the hands or other body parts. Whatever the case, let me know, but let me lead.

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Wow, ya'll talked about a lot in here. I'd like to address a
thing or two, if that's alright with you.
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Eniqmanupe, we are women on a mission to capture the heart of a cappy man so we need would love for you to address more than a thing or two!

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Personally, when I look at a woman all intensely and whatnot,
it's because I'm checking her out. I'll throw a smile or wink
in there, but the sole purpose is to take notes for later perusal.
I don't need to say anything at all, but get her talking about
anything and I'm looking at the way her hair rests on her forehead,
the way her lips part when she speaks, the movement of her hands
as she tells a story, the jawline and where it ends, the shape of
her eyes and eyebrows, the fingers and how soft they must be, her
smile, and the way she wears her clothes. In short, I'm trying to
figure her out.
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This is too weird. I got the whole intense thing AND along with the intense look came the questions, what color are your eyes [that was obvious], what color is the lipstick your wearing [I thought I was going hyperventilate when I turned to look at this man to answer that while he was staring at my lips], why are you moving your hands around so much you look nervous [well, hell yeah, I'm nervous your checking out my every single move and more], why do you have on a black shirt and black pants, wears your jewelry do you wear any? OMG, it was truly almost more than I could handle, then came the private question or two that made me turn red (so at that point all I could picture was I must have looked like a tomatoe squished into all black), why was my toenails painted red [your comments about the toes E have not gone unnoticed - God I hope he liked mine - lol!], oh! so you can wear sandles to work [was it ever gonna end the scrutiny], and then I had to get up and walk in front of this man and was just praying that he thought my a $ $ looked good [I guess I'll have to have patience on that one]! Everything you said must be just typical of you capps but I do love it! The man makes me feel challenged in every sense and that itself is a hugh turn-on!

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E~~ do you think I could just be bold and ask him this - lol! I am so joking I would never do that but d@mm can't he let that steel wall down for a split second (yes, he has the steel wall going on just like you and it will slame shut in my face so quick - are you sure your not my cappy - lol)! OOOOHHHHHH......the agony of wondering if I could be the one..............

Oh and "E" for the record, I never knew what the word patience meant until I starting talking to this man...uuggghhh! 😉

Yeah I'll agree with E on this one. My cappy interest told me that he hates talking on the phone and would prefer talking face to face with someone. He likes facial expressions. He loves my eyes too. That's funny. E what about when they discuss things that they want in their future? What are they trying to get at? I mean we're not even together and he's talked about his future goals and all that with me. AAAAH!

And marriage...and it's just out of the blue. It's like he just says, "yeah I don't think I want to get married until "blank." Then one time my friend and I were discussing names and he said, "so is that what you're going to name your first daughter?" I thought that was the oddest question. And he was like staring right through me.

I asked him the other night when we fell asleep next to eachother...so if I never came around again what would you do? He said, "well...I'd probably mope around the apartment a lot and wonder where you are and what you're doing." When he says things like that it makes me feel like he really likes me, but he's being kind of a wimp about telling me what he wants from me. Does it make sense to you?

Yup! Wimp is the word gemgem!!:-)

Oh Miriam...sigh...he has no idea how he's just sucked my soul right out of my body. I'm so numb today...it's like if I tried to cry it won't come out. It just kind of flows and then I stop and then it comes again. Time is NOT on my side. (tired laugh) I'm so mentally exhausted from everything this weekend. I figure I'm going to not talk to him for a good week. Make him wonder about me like he said he would. Then when I go to see my brother I'll just do that specifically and GO SEE MY BROTHER. If he has the backbone to talk then I'll just tell him flat out how I feel and I won't let him touch me. I'm just not in the mood to be hurt and I'm nursing some fairly strange wounds today. This weekend was hell. He sounded really drained on the phone today too. If you're wondering what happened...I believe I posted it in Enigma's intro. Talk to you soon hon.

Gemgem~

Hey sweetie I just want to say that I'm sorry for all that you are going through with Mr. Cappie! I know exactly what you mean when you said that you feel he has sucked your soul right out of your body! I have felt that many times with Brian and it is very exhausting! (just read all my post's) I have been going through this since Jan. 8th. "EVERYTHING" that has been posted on this board rings a bell for me. The endless phone calls in the beginging, the long intimate talks, the pulling away, the long stares, the looking me up and down and watching me from across the room, the disappearing acts, the "girl/friends" lol. The unatached sex that Brian said he had with Jenna. The long hugs, the I love you in my ear. Its all very familiar to me!! lol
I would just say gemgem if you feel that he could be the one in your heart, body and soul! Then give it time, back off dont sleep with him let him see that you have more respect for yourself. That you will not just be a "girl-friend/f&*^ buddy" That there is more there than sexual attraction! I know you are a beautiful smart girl and you deserve a lot and you want it right now, but....like my Capricorn /Brain has said "good things come to those who waite" 😉



I was talking to my best friend and she told me that what I needed to do was maybe waite a month before I call Brian. When I do call just say I'm glad that I had you in my life. You hold a special place in my heart. I dont want to talk about the past I just want to move forward, If you ever need a friend or someone to talk to I am always here... She said to leave it like that! Then let the conversation go where it may. She also said that I could NEVER bring up the past EVER! (is that something I can do?)lol

I know all you girls and O~ will probably think that Im nuts but the bottom line is I love him. I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt and If I can...try to put all my emotions for him aside and have a real "freindship" maybe that would be a new begining. I know deep down even though he hurt me and made such a crappy decision that he is a good person! Hes young remember, maybe he too is "sewing his wild oats"? I dont know ladies and gents but I cant stand not hearing his voice or his laugh!

E~ what do you think about waiting the month and my situation?