Hey Cappies!!! (Page 2)

I know AM Its nuts...Im nuts!! j/k

GEG ~ I think that your friend's advice is good. If you truely love him then you could definetey maintain a friendship, but you should do it gradually since there are still emotions involved. I'm doing the same. The next time we talk I plan on telling him exactly how I feel and offering a friendship so that emotions don't get involved anymore.

Greeneyed,

I think TIME is exactly what us men need. If nobody else says it, let me take this opportunity to say that I understand what you all are going through and I'm sorry that you're dealing with our confusing and exhausting ways. We're stubborn, slow to move, and definitely confusing.

Remember, let him designate a healthy pace for ya'lls "relationship" (if you can, in fact, call it that). There are times that we move rapidly and then, in the next instant, we slow down to a steady halt. Like a dance, just follow our lead. We like to control, lead, manage, and dominate, so allow us the room (without too much flack) to do so. Please, don't let us walk over you because that means it'll be hard to respect you. "Wifee" ain't a pushover (for lack of a better work) and neither should you be. Don't fight him, but keep your ground and self respect (we value that). He may try to convince you to do something outside your nature, don't budge if at all possible.

As long as he maintains a "Wifee" outlook for you, you're fine. Please, if you know what's good for you, don't fall in the "Friend" category. Why? You may never get out.

I hope that helps someone.

E~

thank you so much!! Do you think he thinks of me as "wifee material"? He has only been around my children twice and we were at a friends house and we were noway physcial hugs, kisses, ect. I do not want to confuse the kids. anyhoo he watched me very closely he aslo played with them (he loves kids)as far as the "friend" category...what if he said he wanted to be with me... but that he wanted to "postpone" the relationship until after the divorce? butttt... that everytime he sees me he cant keep his hands off me?

p.s. did you really need me to sum up my situation or were you joking!! let me know

thank you ~ geg

Geg...I'm certain that "wifey" has crossed his mind even if he hasn't admitted it. I think guys are always looking to see if you're that kind of material, but it doesn't mean that they're ready to commit. They still want to play. They just wish they could have you and still mess around at the same time. It's a typical guy thing to go through. They learn eventually that none of that matters of course. My best friend is a cap and she said that she will have the deepest feelings for someone and mess it up because she is afraid and goes out messing around on the town. Know what I mean? So have patience. 🙂 Listen to me...I'm so impatient. haha. Lots of love gorgeous.

there you are again AM~~ you make me laugh sooo freaking hard!!!!!

thank you Gem!!

AM~~

Just put it out there girlie..........don't bet around the bush just let em' have it....lmao!