Hey Sagigoat

I need to talk to you. I am in Cappygirl crises.

Cap girl crisis? Ugh oh .... 😢

Hey Cappysweetie could I get some input on a cap girl situation?

hmmmm...

Posted by eric11
Hey Cappysweetie could I get some input on a cap girl situation?

Well yeah but I need to know the situation first! Now out with it already lol


I thought Sagigoat would have signed on by now. Well, she said she was going to be busy ... and I totally understand that lol

Posted by Crazy4cappy
Poor Eric *hugs*

Thanks Crazy4cappy. I needed the hug. 🙂

So you think she wanted an actual relationship? I have asked a number of good sources and the general consences is that she might have felt rejected by me. I guess I am still at odds with what to believe because on the one hand I thought she wanted to be more than just friends but then on the other hand, she denied it. It doesn't make sense. Oh well, I guess I may never know.

One other thing I found out is she has been in only one serious relationship that lasted a long time. I think she does have rejection issues, and it clearly shows in this case.

Cappy girls are great, but they are sensitive creatures.

Sagigoat thanks for your inpute. I think i can move on now.

Have a good one and enjoy yourbreak from dxpnet.

"I guess I am still at odds with what to believe because on the one hand I thought she wanted to be more than just friends but then on the other hand, she denied it."

I can relate to your concers Eric and would like some female Cappy insights on that too.

"you want to move on now? hmm... guess after all you don't desire her bad enough."

That seems to be an usual cappy conclusion that I personally don't agree with, it could be true some times but in some cases it's really not. Moving on doesn't necessarily mean that you don't desire someone bad enough. It's just that when it gets to a relationship there is only so much one side can do to make it happen. It really takes two to tango. I think deep inside a cappy knows if that statement applies to the situation or not but seem to always be inclinded to release that as a conclusion.

"true but i have to say that there is a reason why many cappy women work well with older men. older men often have thicker skin and they can more readily be the bigger person."

I see, it make sense. What would you consider enough effort? What are the things that an older man does that a younger man don't do. Do you think a female Caps attitude is more receptive of older men or it's really something that older men do that youngers don't?

I see ... I don't want to take over the thread but thanks for insights SG. It's good to know glad that I ask.

"Well she asked me if that was this my way of rejecting her. I was confused and said we were just friends and I already told her I wanted to be her friend. Why would she think I was rejecting her?

She stopped talking to me and won't even aknowledge my calls. I do really like her and care about her but clearly I did something horribly wrong and she won't even tell me what that is."

hmmmm,

Well, she may have thought you two were in a relationship -- depending on how you presented yourself in the beginning.

I didn't read all the posts so I will ask this but I don't know if you asnwered it already. Did you say or indicate that all you wanted was friendship or did it seem as if you had actual interest in her more than platonic?

If I'm guessing the latter, than yes more than likely she thought you wanted more and when you came with the whole 'no, wait, I want friends' thing, that probably shocked her because she may have been given the wrong impression.

I'm a cappy girl 😄 -- saggie-cappy cusp but still part of me is cappy none-the-less. If I get the wrong impression, I usually become sheepish and avoid the guy all together. I will talk to him eventually but it has to be in like an odd situation where things light-hearted.

Also, I like to know what someone wants from me -- thats just the way I am with nearly everything. Either tell me what you want or I'm confused. I don't like guys that enjoy going 'around in circles' about relationship stuff. Either you want one or you don't. I will admit that toooo mush aggression scare the crap out of me but at the same time, I get bored with passiveness -- its like, if you have something to tell me, than just say it already.

I like guys who are strong but gentle as well. I like strength because I don't like being the one who has to carry you through every single crisis that comes along. I'm emotional enough, I need somesome to lean on too, not just all the leaning on me -- I tend to attract those kind of guys and I can't stand it!

As far as gentle goes, I want a guy I'm not afraid to hug lol If I can cuddle you then everything is cool 🙂

Posted by sagigoat
older men are usually more aggressive also. that works better for some cap women. there is this passiveness in some of us i think.

*nods*nods*nods*

Some people are just naturally aggressive and thats fine ... just don't scare me to death.

Posted by Rays Heart
"true but i have to say that there is a reason why many cappy women work well with older men. older men often have thicker skin and they can more readily be the bigger person."

I see, it make sense. What would you consider enough effort? What are the things that an older man does that a younger man don't do. Do you think a female Caps attitude is more receptive of older men or it's really something that older men do that youngers don't?

oh boy ... Ray, you asked another magic question 😉

I will only give you my experience -- I've dated guys who were both 7 years, 10 years and most recently 20 years older than me.

As a cap girl, I guess I look for someone who can really understand me. The experience over an older guy verses a younger guy is maybe their approach. Having more relationship experience, some older guys know what to say, how to act and what to do. That sort of preparation can be a real winner with cap women because we love a guy who is a REAL man per se. You know, not someone who shows it in their words but in their actions.

Awwe thanks Crazy4cappy. I hope things are going well with you and your Cappy guy.

Cappysweetie I think we both knew that we wanted more than just friendship. I was pretty direct about being wanting to be her BF.

Posted by eric11
Awwe thanks Crazy4cappy. I hope things are going well with you and your Cappy guy.

Cappysweetie I think we both knew that we wanted more than just friendship. I was pretty direct about being wanting to be her BF.

Oh! Maybe, I missed something then. If it was clear in the beginning that you two wanted more than friendship, than whats wrong now?

Posted by cappysweetie

Posted by eric11
Awwe thanks Crazy4cappy. I hope things are going well with you and your Cappy guy.

Cappysweetie I think we both knew that we wanted more than just friendship. I was pretty direct about being wanting to be her BF.

Oh! Maybe, I missed something then. If it was clear in the beginning that you two wanted more than friendship, than whats wrong now?

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The truth is I don't know. I did everything a guy can do to win this girls heart apart from getting wired. I have finally decided to move on. It is better for me to not dwell on what can't be. However thanks for your advise. I appreciated it much.

One day I will see a Raven fly again. 😉

That would definately make me smile. 🙂 Were you and Mr. Scorpio friends or more? BTW what did you dress up as? Just curious. 😛

I remember that one Sagi. the fun ghost trick. haa haa🙂

Nice picture!

Posted by Crazy4cappy
For some reason I was thinking it was going to be along the lines of Little Red Riding Hood haha..
I'm curious to know what Eric was thinking..? 😉 Was it along the lines of Catwoman or naughty nurse? haha
C'mon tell me because I know with the capricorn ladies for instance, they'd want a hot male stripper on their doorstep.

Lol. Man I must have been boring that day because I really wasn't thinking about anything. But now you got me thinking. For me it would be Cat woman.... Okay too much information. 😛

What about you crazy4cappy. What would you like your guy to dress up as?

I like catwoman too 😉